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woundedsurfer/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:56 PM
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woundedsurfer/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 02:35 AM
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As a young 40s something, bald man, I feel this pain. My self esteem was super low after my ex cheated on me and subsequent divorce, but then something odd happened. I determined that I will not let this divorce define the rest of my life! I potentially have 40 more years on this earth and I was gonna make them count and I would make the conscience effort to be happy. I got on Hinge and Bumble and start getting matches. I realized women didn’t really mind that I was bald. So I said fuck it and s…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 05:07 PM
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I remember my first lay after getting divorced. It was so fucking exciting, like I was cheating or something. I never stepped out on my 17 year relationship with my ex, but got fucked in a car by an absolute babe the day my divorce got finalized. It was the best way to celebrate the ending of an era. We fucked a lot after that too. Like 7 times in one weekend. I got laid by this gal more in a month than the less 5 of my marriage. As my divorce coach always told me, divorce is the best gift you w…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 04:55 PM
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This ⬆️
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 11:46 PM
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My ex is still a beautiful woman, but all my attraction to her instantly dropped when I found out she was cheating. We’ve been divorced over 1.5 years, and separated 6 months prior to that, now I look at her and wonder how the hell I was even in a 17 year relationship with her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 11:37 PM
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Listen to “A Man’s Journey Through Divorce” Podcast Gain insights, perspective, and support from other men who’ve walked this path before you. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover Learn how to break free from people-pleasing patterns and rediscover your authentic masculinity. Give Up Alcohol for At Least 6 Months Clear your head. Feel your feelings. Avoid masking the pain. Let clarity lead your decisions. Start Journaling Every Night Dump the noise. Process emotions. Track progress. Yo…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 01:44 AM
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Most of the time, the initial proposed divorce plans are what end up getting agreed upon, even after months of fighting and lawyers fees. I’m thankful my marriage was dissolved without lawyers and in two mediation sessions. It could have been much worse. I was just mentally exhausted and wanted it to end. Good luck to you and your new life. Enjoy the new freedom that you had previously sacrificed for a bad marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 04:25 PM
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I agree. Even though things didn’t work out the way we intended, your ex is a women you once loved deeply. She will be a part of your life’s story forever. If it upsets you that much to see those photos, move them all into an album so you no longer see them. Social media on the other……I deactivated all my accounts and opened new fresh accounts and block her and all her family and friends. 😝
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 05:24 AM
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Stop, just stop! I know it hard, I get it, I did it too, but take my advice as a lesson learned. The more you chase her the more she will pull away. Just give her space and hope for the best, that’s all you can do. If she’s checked out from the marriage, with women, there’s usually no coming back. I wasted months begging and pleading for my stbxw to come back, go to therapy, seek counseling, etc., it did not help and it only prolonged my pain. If I were in your shoes, I would file and get this p…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 02:43 PM
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Ha ha. Right?! Forget the wars going on around the world, the starving children in third world countries, global warming that is destroying our world, naw……I’m gonna focus on fixing shitty marriage!
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 02:34 PM
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Dude, you will drive yourself crazy trying to figure how and where your marriage went wrong, because the reality is, it’s a lot of little things over time. Truth of the matter is, you both no longer serve each other’s needs and the needs of a marriage. It’s that simple, and it’s okay to admit that. In order for a marriage to succeed, you BOTH have to have the same aspirations and goals, without that, the marriage cannot last.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 02:32 PM
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You’re worrying over things that have not happened and may not ever happen. I get it, I was there too only 4 months ago, I too have two daughters, but today I go into mediation with my stbxw and I’m so excited! That’s right, excited! I see this as a gift, a gift of freedom to get out of a relationship that wasn’t serving me and my best interests. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been pulling myself out of the trenches for months now, but I’ve made HUGE progress. That same can happen for you. I promise t…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 02:13 PM
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So you would rather live a life of hell with her? Or are you just afraid of the unknown? Your daughters deserve a safe place with you, make it happen. You only live one life, why live it with someone like that?
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 02:02 PM
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Why the hell do so many women have spending problems. I just learned my stbx is $30k in cc debt, like wtf?? Not to mention, we just paid $13k towards a cc debt in like May last year. So essentially she’s gotten herself into $43k of cc debt in one year!! I have zero personal cc debt, zero. She makes $200k/yr and sill gets herself into insane debt. I can’t take it anymore. She’s killing me financially!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 03:30 PM
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Man, I could have written this post word for word. 41 years old, married 11 years, together 17 years with two young kids. We’re currently going through the divorce process, and it’s been rough on me mentally and physically. I have not been with another women since I was 23 years old. It’s seems scary and daunting to dip my feet in the dating pool. Idk. I’m currently living in my parent’s basement and my stbx has our house. So dating seems not possible and really embarrassing to tell anyone. I ha…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 03:04 PM
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Once you marry the blow jobs stop.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 02:04 AM
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A healthy body is a healthy mind. No one says you gotta look like an Adonis, but jumping on the treadmill and listening to a self-help podcast will improve your health and mind. Trust me. Don’t get healthy for a women or to meet a women, get healthy for yourself. First and foremost.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 06:32 PM
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Ask yourself, are you in love with her or the idea of her. Are you still in love with the “old” her she the relationship was solid. This is not the same women she once was. Stop putting her on a pedestal, she has major issues and completely disrespected you and the relationship. It’s time to recognize that and move on to a happier you. I recognize it’s hard, one day at a time. I’ve been listening to a podcast that has really helped me gain a new perspective. Message me if you’re interested.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 04:54 AM
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Dude!!! I’m feeling the same way. After 17 years together, I’m in no mood for another relationship, that being said, I’m down to Fuck’em all too!! 😆
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 11:39 PM
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I totally get it. Stay strong brother! You will find happiness, I know it. Remember no one person can be the foundation of your happiness, only a pillar, true happiness is what you make it. I’m not Buddhist, but I love this quote “Happiness is achieved when a person can perceive the true nature of reality, unmodified by the mental constructs we superimpose upon it.”
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 10:47 PM
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Well, if you saw her on a dating app, that means you’re on the same app as well? So if you’re allowed to move on and date, so should she. We need to remember that these women are not our property nor our problem. Block her and move on. I know it stings, trust me, but you’re both allowed to find happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:06 PM
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Best advice yet. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 08:53 PM
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Good advice.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 10:00 PM
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Trust me, I’m definitely not looking for anything exclusive. I was monogamous for 17 years! I’m ready to have fun and enjoy freedom.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:59 PM
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Thanks!!🙏🏻
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:58 PM
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lol. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:58 PM
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Oh, this info will not be shared with her. Besides, she’s the one that chose to leave me to pursue her “twin flame”. Whatever the f@ck that means.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:57 PM
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Idk. She’s too busy chasing her “Twin Flame” 😳
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:56 PM
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That’s a hell no dawg!! She has chosen to no longer be my partner, she’s doesn’t need to know shit about my life anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:55 PM
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Ouch bro!! I would normally agree, but she spends too much time and money of tarot card readers! 😆
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:54 PM
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Right!! I feel like I’m fucking up. I need to get my head right. I have not done anything with these ladies, I can just tell they’re trying to get more than just friendship.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:52 PM
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Truth! These are the things I seriously need to remember.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:51 PM
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If she hired someone to track me, that mofo would be bored as hell. I go to work, stay at home and spend time with my kids. That all. Ha ha.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:50 PM
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Thank you my man! I’m trying really hard to focus on my self, but damn these girls look good. Never thought women like that would give me even a second look. Idk. It’s been so long since someone flirted with me. Ha ha.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:49 PM
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I’m in a no-fault state.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:47 PM
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I agree, this makes sense. I do try not to worry what my ex is doing, but it’s hard. She’s done some extremely shady shit behind my back for years now, so my trust with her is shot. It just feels good to be wanted again after my own damn wife has wanted nothing to do with me for years. Idk. I’m not saying I’d be rushing into another relationship, because I was monogamous for 17 years and I don’t have the strength to do it again, but it’s enjoyable to learn about other women since I’ve been turne…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 09:47 PM
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Thank you for the reminder. My wife and I have been separated since September, but life has been pretty miserable for over a year now. She found her “twin flame” with a younger married man months ago after her “spiritual awakening”. My story is super strange indeed with lots of shitty secretive things happen behind me back. I deserve more respect than that. So after 17 years together and two kids later, it’s time to file and move on with my life. These past 6 months have been an emotional roller…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 04:02 PM
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YES!!! My wife and I made about the same amount of money, but my job required me being away 6 months a year. Upon having our second child, we decided I be the stay at home dad so she could progress in her career, plus I was super burned out at the time. This was the slow death of our relationship. She almost immediately started losing respect for me. I started a business but it never really took off like I wanted to. Fwd to 6 months ago, she wanted a separation. I found out she had an emotional …
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 05:18 AM
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After 11 years as “wifey” in my phone, I changed it to her legal name and took her contact thumb pic off.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 02:40 AM
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So true! No one sees personal growth when they’re sitting high on the hog. You gotta trench through the shit, walk through hell, see the absolute bottom, then and only then, can you truly grow. It’s really the only option and only direction to go.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 12:30 AM
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Ignorance is bliss sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 05:32 PM
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What? Are you writing my story or yours? 😆 It’s sad how similar all our stories are on the subreddit. Women are just cruel beasts. Like my dad always said, “if they didn’t have a vagina we probably never talk to them.” 😝
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 08:08 PM
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I think about this all the time. I’m 41, been separated from my wife for almost 3 months, and at this point divorce is very likely. I will be entering the dating field someday meeting nothing but women with baggage from previous relationships. Everyone at this age has fully packed bags, it’s just the reality. A 2nd marriage for me seems highly unlikely. No reason for it, I already have two children and don’t want more. I’ll spend the second half of my life bouncing around from relationship to re…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 04:37 PM
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Great advice, I like that. A vision board for the future. There’s a reason why the windshield of your car is so big and rear view mirror is so small, what’s ahead is more important than what’s behind. We cannot change the past, we cannot constantly reflect or question our action of the past, like “if I had just done this or just said that…” etc. We did what we did based on how we were feeling in those moments, the environment we were in and our reactions to the external forces. It’s really hard …
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 04:28 PM
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Yup, I drank more wine than I wanted, but you gotta give yourself a treat here and there.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 02:26 PM
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Sounds like you need to work on yourself first and foremost. Hit the gym, eat healthy, stop drinking, read some self-help books (No More Mr. Nice Guy is a great start), journal your feelings everyday, make your accountability mirror, reconnect with old friends, see a counselor, etc. This advice comes very personally, these are all things I’m currently doing/working on. I cannot be a good partner in my next relationship if I don’t shed all this baggage. I made plenty of mistakes with my 17 year r…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 02:20 PM
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That’s the spirit. It’s gloomy and gearing up to snow where I live. 😆 Enjoy that sun and smoked Turkey. 🤤
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 04:55 PM
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I’m in the exact same boat, matter of fact, I could have written this post word for word. You’re not alone. I’m just focusing on everything I’m thankful for, like having my kids today, good health and a family that loves and supports me. I wish more than anything my wife would wake up and realize the ripple effect she’s created throughout our family and extended family, BUT, I recognize she’s not in the right head space and I refuse to get back together until she works on her shit. There’s no wa…
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 04:11 PM
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This will be my first Thanksgiving without my wife and without going over to my in-laws. I’m thankful my parents will be hosting for me and I’ll split the time with my kids tomorrow. Could be worse. Remember what you’re thankful for my friends.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 04:59 AM
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She all the sudden totally got into astrology, tarot cards, crystals and clairvoyants. She told me back in July that she had a “spiritual awakening”, whatever the hell that means. Basically, her awakening doesn’t include me. She’s burning the whole family down to the ground for the “connection” that I’m pretty sure he wants nothing to do with. This guy is married with 5 kids, pretty sure he doesn’t want her destroying his marriage as well. I’m at a totally loss of words on how to deal with this.…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 07:40 PM
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Dude! Right? I had never heard this term in my life, now I’m seeing it around. I watched the first episode and it scared me, so I won’t watch the other ones. She’s definitely not in that group but she’s done some similar tactics that they promote. Like chasing this married guy, writing him letters, not caring about his wife and children, etc. I don’t get it at all!
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 06:59 PM
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Unfortunately, it’s an all too similar story on the subreddit. I’m sorry you’re going through this as well. Why are women so heartless? This midlife crisis shit is destroying families.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 02:58 AM
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I’m in the exact same boat and feel your same pain. I’ve been with my stbx 17 years (married 11) two kids as well, we’ve been separated two months now after I found out about about her emotional affair with a co-worker who is also married with 5 kids. She calls him her “twin flame” and told me she loves him and has a deep connection with him that she can’t control. I’m so f’in mad her selfish needs have destroyed our family unit and our future together. This definitely was not my plan nor what I…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 05:51 PM
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These are all things I realize and I’m working on. I appreciate the hearing the real truth though. It’s hard, we’ve been together for 17 years and have two children together. I will forever be tethered to her one way or another. I do wish I could just write her off and move on, but the kids make it hard.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 11:58 PM
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Sounds like you need to work on yourself and let her go. She’s moved on and so should you. Make yourself the best you can be for the next relationship (when you’re ready). Take the mistakes and lessons learned you made from this relationship and move forward to a healthier you. You’re young, you have a lot to live for, but you gotta get mentally healthy first. Find out what caused you to act this way. Search deep. Was it abandonment as a young child, abusive parents, lack of self confidence, etc…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 02:21 PM
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I just finished No More Mr. Nice Guy. Such an eye opening book. I’d recommend it to anyone who is having relationship issues. Just wish I would’ve read it a few years ago, maybe it would’ve saved my marriage. Idk.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 02:03 PM
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Prenuptial…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 01:56 AM
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Just finished that book. Been separated from my STBXW for two months, I wish I would’ve read that book years ago, it might have changed the outcome of my marriage. Idk.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 07:28 PM
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This is how I currently feel. Every time I try to work on myself and create distance, she pulls me back in. We had our 11 year Anniversary a couple weeks ago, we agreed to a dinner together, she wrote me a beautiful card saying she wanted to work on this. Not even 4 days later I found out she texted her emotional affair partner to come to her room at midnight during a work conference. Who the fuck does that? She claims they didn’t do anything. 🙄 My head is a circus of emotions and I wish I were …
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 07:25 PM
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That doesn’t matter. I dated my STBXW for 6 years before we got married, I thought I knew her inside and out. Fast forward 11 years and two kids later and I found out she had an emotional affair with a coworker behind my back and apparently “loves” him. It’s sad that the woman can control the narrative of the relationship and no matter how much we (the man) want this to workout, when they decide they’re done, it’s over. There’s no coming back.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 07:20 PM
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For those that constantly question or regret something they did in their relationship or feel something they did may has caused the split. please watch this. https://youtu.be/Sc18E8coV8s?si=ok9LQN-gfwtkNlpW
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 07:16 PM
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Preach brother! I was making the same as my STBXW but my job required me to be gone 6+ months a year, so when my second child was born, WE decided it was best for me to be the stay at home parent. Well, fast forward almost 5 years, I was finally looking to enter the workforce again and my STBXW tells me she wants a separation and I find out she’s in love with a younger coworker who is also married with children. Like WTF? I sacrificed my career to raise the kids while you pursue yours and this i…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 12:44 PM
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At least pay credit to Henry David Thoreau when throwing his quotes around online.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:12 AM
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This makes me so sad to read because I see so many parallels between your story and my own. Why are women these days so cruel and heartless?
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:02 AM
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Right?! Actions have consequences. My wife had an emotional affair with a coworker for months behind my back. He is married as well. They went on dinners together, lunches even business trips. I don’t necessarily come right out and say that to people, but all my close friends and family know. She got mad at me one time because she found out I told my friends and their wives told her. I was like, tough shit, this was your decision and now you’re living with the consequences. That includes people …
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 01:00 PM
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Right!! I’m am not a controlling nor jealous husband, I always endorsed her girl nights, I’ve supported her girl trips to Vegas, NYC and Napa. I gave up my career to be a SAHD while she built her empire and I did most of the cooking, cleaning, laundry and ALL the yard work. Like what more can I fucking do for you?? If you think there’s a guy better than me out there, than have at it, but it’s our kids who will suffer. So thank you for breaking up our home. 😳
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 06:01 AM
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17 years together w/ twos kids under eight. Almost the same exact story with my wife and I. We’ve been separated for almost 45 days now with no end in sights. When women have a midlife crisis, they burn it all to the ground to find themselves. They convince themselves this is the only way to find happiness. It’s the craziest thing.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 10:43 PM
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I’ve had an unhealthy relationship with porn since I was 12, I’m 41 now. I’ve since come to terms with how it’s basically destroyed all my relationships including my marriage. If you don’t have a problem with it, that’s great. Either way it does change your brain and how you perceive intimacy with your partner. It can be extremely destructive. This is all part of my self help and self reflection journey I’m working on.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 02:42 PM
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One day at a time brother. One day at a time. Find distractions, go to the gym, read some self help improvement books, listen to podcasts, pickup that guitar you stopped playing years ago and for god ‘s sake STOP DRINKING AND WATCHING PORN! I hand write reminders, affirmations and constructive criticism notes and post them on my mirror. I read them daily while getting ready in the morning. If I I don’t see that daily, I spin out of control. I’m using this time to really self reflect because I ta…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 02:20 PM
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This is a good one for guys like me that are separated from their wife. My buddy send this to me. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJBDzLaa1eE
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:14 AM
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They’re not just cheating on their husband, they’re cheating on their children as well. They prioritized they’re selfish needs over a loving family unit. It’s really the most disgraceful and destructive thing anyone can do to a marriage. I have two girls and I’ve always told myself I would NEVER cheat on my three women (wife and two daughters) but sadly women do not see it this way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 04:24 PM
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Am I reading about my wife? 😆 Seriously though, my wife and I have been separated for over a month now because I found out she was doing similar things behind my back. She told me in August that she met her “Twin Flame” and she’s had a “spiritual awakening”. She now no longer sees our relationship the same and she mourned our marriage a year ago. She’s been seeing psychics, tarot card readers and clairvoyants behind my back since April. I also found some very hurtful “readings” videos on her iPh…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 04:14 PM
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Separate. I know a lot of people on this subreddit are not a fan of separation before divorce, but it sounds toxic and both of you could benefit from getting away and clearing some of that anger and resentment. Staying together in this situation only allows those feelings to build and fester, which in turn, can promote a brutal divorce. Cooler heads prevail. Anger, hurt feelings, resentment, etc. are very to harmful to the soul. I’ve been separated from my wife for over a month and it’s allowed …
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 02:54 PM
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Make you kids and their safety your priority no matter what! You’ll figure out how to care for them, maybe hire an au pair, it would be about the same price as you child support. Get your kids in a safe loving environment. They don’t deserve to deal with this dead beat. Be the rock they need. Let your ex spin out of control, it’s not your problem anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 12:15 PM
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You’re describing my relationship with my wife to a T. Am I in love with her? Or I am love with the idea of her and the life we built? One thing is for sure, no one person can be the foundation of your happiness, they can only be a pillar. True happiness comes from within. Acceptance of ones self.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 03:15 PM
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This is the way!
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 01:18 PM
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My wife and I separated a month ago, I moved out to my parents house. We have two kids. I worry this will affect me in the future. Was that a big mistake? It was just getting miserable at the home and I found out she had an emotional affair, so I bounced. We split time with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 04:19 AM
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Preach!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 03:44 PM
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Midlife crisis? Idk. A man’s midlife crisis involves buying a motorcycle or sport car, but with women they feel the need to burn everything they work for down to the ground, breakup the family unit and go on some journey to relive their youth they feel kids robbed from them. It’s very narcissistic like behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 11:51 AM
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My wife got super into the physic world and crystals and shit, e.g. tarot cards, palm readers, clairvoyants, etc. She went down the rabbit hole of snake oil salesmen and actually believes this shit. The tarot card reader told her we’re no longer compatible and it’s time for her to seek a deeper connection with someone else. WTF? How can one compete against that shit when they’re fully invested? It’s very cultish.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 05:57 PM
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This is what happens when women don’t own up to their mistakes and take actions to become a better person. I believe it’s called entitlement? From what I’ve read on this subreddit, most of the men on here are dedicated to making their lives better post divorce. Eat better, workout, save money, be a good father, seek mental help, become a superstar in their career, etc., but what I can tell with women post divorce, they just spend more money and go out slutting trying to seek the attention of shi…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 05:52 PM
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I’m currently separated from my wife (17 years together 11 married w/ two young kids), she woke up on morning and told me she had a “spiritual awakening” that doesn’t include me. I did not see it coming, I was in shock (still am), I asked her how she could just so easily walk away from all we’ve built together? Her answer, I mourned the death of this marriage a year ago. A YEAR AGO….?? 😳 Like wtf? Turns out she was also having an emotional affair with another married man from her work. So the tr…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 08:02 PM
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🍑 💨 👃
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 07:57 PM
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If you haven’t already, get off all social media! At least for awhile. Seeing pics of your ex, especially if she’s with another man, or just having fun definitely hurts. Even if you’re not following her but you see her in mutual friend pics can strike up emotional pain. I deleted Facebook over 8 years ago and deactivated my Instagram after my wife and I separated. It was tough for about two weeks, then I realized how much better my life is without that social competitive garbage. Also, I love di…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 02:08 PM
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This is traceable and illegal. Report her immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 04:55 PM
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Yes, I’ve been doing the 100 push-up and crunches per day challenge for about a month now. I have missed a few days here and there due to busy schedules, but all in all, I feel really good and I’m seeing positive mind and body changes. If also cut out drinking (for the most part). A health body = healthy mind.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 02:35 PM
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That definitely helps.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 11:36 PM
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Second marriage divorce rates are over 60% in the US. Moral of the story, DON’T REMARRY!
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 10:04 PM
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Sell it and recoup some cost. Think of is this way, most of the time the ex-wife keeps the ring, so you’re already ahead in that regard.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 09:09 PM
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I’m pretty damn sure I will never marry again. It’s just seems destined to fail, especially since own marriage is currently burning to the ground after a 17 year relationship and two kids. She couldn’t give two shits about destroying everything and slandering me in the meantime.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 05:04 PM
3

Well fuckin said!! I’m currently separated from my wife (married 11 together 17 two kids together) and I am wholeheartedly a broken man. I’m literally getting through day minute by minute. The night times are the hardest for me. I haven’t slept a full night in months. There’s no way in hell I would ever be able to function in a relationship without getting back to the basics and learning to love myself again.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 09:24 PM
10

I feel the same. My wife and I recently separated after 17 years together and two kids, I’m 41 right now and all I want to do is focus on healing myself and being the best Dad possible for my kids. Fuck girls all together. My wife has burnt everything down to the ground because of a mid-life crisis and a ”spiritual awakening” that no longer involves me. I just can’t deal with women right now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 05:17 PM
14

She cheated, she broke her vows, she violated the sanctity of all things marriage - zero?? J/k, we all could wish, right?
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 01:04 PM
20

I’m looking to be in the same boat soon. I resigned from a successful career sailing merchant ships to be a stay at home dad while I supported my wife’s career. I was a full time stay at home dad with my two kids, then I started a handyman side hustle just to make a little cash here and there. My wife’s careers has flourished and she’s now making around 200k/year, BUT we recently separated because I found out she was having an emotional affair with a co-worker (she claims it was never physical 🙄…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 04:13 AM
1

As of right now, my wife and I are just separated living in different places, so that was the conversation we had with my kids. We basically said Daddy and Mommy are working through some things with our relationship and we need time apart, but we reassured them that it’s not their fault and we still love them very much. We explained how the new living situation and co-parenting thing will work for their little lives. There’s a lot in between obviously, but that was the gist of it. Like I said, w…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 11:09 AM
1

I just told my kids (4 and 8) two weeks ago. Worst conversation I’ve ever had, hands down. My 4 yr old didn’t really get it but I literally watch my 8yr old’s heart shatter. Her face keeps me up at night. Best advice, don’t lie, don’t hide, just be truthful. They’re gonna figure it out eventually anyways, so just rip it off like a bandaid and be done with it. Still, just absolutely horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 01:53 AM
2

If she desires to have kids of her own, let her go to find that. This will never leave her head. Don’t hold her back or she’ll just get resentful and the relationship won’t last anyways. Set her free my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 01:25 PM
11

T
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 12:59 PM
13

“I’m stuck because I gotta babysit this weekend” What?? If it’s your child it’s just called parenting and there’s a lot of men on here that would give their right nut to have the chance to be with their kids on the weekend. Focus on being a good dad first. Sorry for the tough love.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 04:58 AM
5

I’m in the same boat.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 11:38 PM
2

I feel your pain all too well. It’s a whole f@cked situation.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 11:22 PM
1

I think about the Eddie Murphy bit about marrying an African Women every time I think an international wife would be easier. As soon as the come to America, it’s over!! 😆 https://youtu.be/ts4sEBb2K3s?si=dhvHSdeb4FxMJG-A
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 07:25 PM
1

This sounds gawd awful, tbh. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 07:12 PM
2

Me neither, but hey, we’re still alive!! DM me if you wanna chat. I’m an emotional wreck but at least I have company. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 12:28 AM
4

I know your feelings all too well, unfortunately. My wife and I just separated one week ago, we have two kids as well. I’m 41 back living in my parent’s basement like a fucking teenager. Sleeping is out the window, and yes, my stomach literally hurts all day. I’ve lost weight and feel like shit. My mind constantly thinks about this shitty situation, ALL DAY! I’m a fucking circus of emotions. I just cried like a baby in front of my 4 year old because she asked why I wasn’t in our home anymore. “B…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 12:21 AM
16

This hit home, especially lesson 4! My wife of 11 years (been together 17 years) wants a separation. I’m not stupid, I know what’s next. I’ve been trying my damn hardest to heal the marriage and be super kind and caring, but I feel it’s futile. We have two kids together and I really want to make it work and have a family life but I’m realizing pressuring her and/or guilting her to stay will not work. This will lead to an undesirable outcome in the near future. I really appreciate this sub and th…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 11:17 PM
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