My STBXW and I took our rings off near the beginning of November, it was a mutual decision l. We’ve been together 17 years and have two kids. I’ve fully come to terms with the fact that she has moved on and does not want to attempt to salvage our marriage. I plan on filling very soon, like within weeks, just trying to get my shit in order.

As soon as I took my ring off I’ve had women approach me, like in a very direct ways. One is a young women that works with me (not directly, in a different department) and one was a 28 yr old hottie who gave me her number at a bar. I was faithful monagamous with my stbx the entire time of our relationship, so it feels really weird (but also very flattering) to have younger women find me attractive (I’m 41). It’s definitely a confidence booster as my wife would rarely touch me for years. BUT, is this a slippery slope? It still feels wrong because we’re not officially divorced. We’ve been physically separated since September but mentally she’s been separated from me for years.

Why do I still feel so guilty about this? I know my stbx would not hesitate one second on something like this. I wasn’t planning on dating for at least one year, just being a good dad and healing myself, but it’s hard to control yourself when two very attractive women and pretty much throwing themselves at you and you haven’t had sexually encounters in months.

Advice fellas, I need advice??!!