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Can’t risk another chance a woman will change after giving her the ring. I still have ptsd from how quickly things changed after getting married
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 11:00 PM
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Just wait til you start dating, she’s going to flip her ish
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:32 PM
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The old bait n switch scheme, us men are too blinded by it until it’s too late
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 05:49 PM
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The thing is that women will dramatically change after they get married and she is at that age that she wants to settle down. so things might be on cloud 9 right now, but after you put a ring on her, her expectations will get higher and higher, I speak from experience and also many of the fellas on here. If you two are really invested in eloping I would get a prenup in case you get burned later. Edit; it’s funny how I wrote all this out without reading everyone’s comment after going through and …
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 05:47 PM
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Cut her lose op, she’s highly unstable and will go off the rails again. She already lost all respect for you by saying she’s in love with her “bf”. Seperated or not I would lose all respect for someone if they told me that
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:53 PM
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They can claim common law if you cohabitate for a certain length of time. The best ltr relationship is where your partner has their own house and rotate sleeping at each others house on the weekend. I’ve yet to find a woman that is ok with that probably never will lol
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 06:46 PM
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Do not get married again ffs
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 10:53 PM
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Kinda sad how Jesus comes last after all their screwups, he might forgive but he don’t forget remember that on your judgement day
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 03:02 AM
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Well good thing she’s not a single mom either, good lesson here is don’t try to play superhero and save any woman.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:25 AM
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10 months is nothing what could she be fighting for money wise in the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:23 AM
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Forgot about those yeah those are sleepers…been looking at the isf 410 hp from the factory. Not sure if I want to spend $30k on a 16 year old car
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 01:07 AM
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It’s a control thing, they think they can use our house like a storage locker. I was nice before the decree was signed but after that she’s a nobody, we don’t have kids so bye Felicia!
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 10:45 PM
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Mine texted me 3 months after the divorce to come get her stuff, I blocked her number and trashed and donated what I could of her stuff. Her belongings and furniture was just sitting there for over a year. Took me like a month just to get everything out of my house
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 09:13 PM
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Lexus isf?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 09:05 PM
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They’re out there I’m just not a sociable person to find them until then I’m content with being by myself
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 09:03 PM
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I’m gonna use this next time lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:41 AM
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You ask your girlfriends and make assumptions
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:40 AM
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I’m sure 90% of us here including myself have been blinded by that saying
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 08:05 PM
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I think he’s done for, that probably screwed up his thinking pretty bad I know I would.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 06:00 PM
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You can post whatever you want on here, that’s why it’s a men’s sub we’re here to support our bros no matter what
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 05:58 PM
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From my experience yes, they got thousands of dudes lined up…. And I highly doubt she deleted her profile probably put it on pause. Just ghost her and move on brother
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 05:56 PM
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That’s kinda sad man hope you’re at a better place
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 05:50 PM
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Freedom; priceless. But I traded in my suv for a 2 dr when we separated. we didn’t have kids, my dog is my only passenger princess now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 02:34 PM
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Ex is allergic to avocados, I ate nothing but avocados the first week she moved out. Avocado toast, guacamole, avocado salad, I literally put avocado on anything I could
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 10:03 PM
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The amount of onlyfan and promiscuous women being a born again Christian is alarming. No accountability they think they get a pass by using religion.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 02:13 PM
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Go to the courthouse and ask for a uncontested divorce form
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 08:42 PM
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At first I felt shame but now I happily tell ppl I’m divorced, they all have that same reaction oh I’m sorry to hear that, don’t be I’m happy as a clam
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 06:23 AM
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I was worried at the start of the year I will look like a divorced loser going alone to my cousins wedding this upcoming August . but at this point I really don’t give a crap if I have a date or not, I’m gonna get a fitted suit and enjoy my time date or no date.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 01:13 AM
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All debt accrued while married will be split 50/50. I would consult a lawyer first before telling your stbxw anything
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 03:31 AM
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Why do u think they cater commercials to women and those stupid Stanley cups that cost $40, they want the shiny things
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 01:28 PM
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Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 12:46 AM
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lol same but I luckily dropped her after 1 1/2 yrs tried to convince me to sell my house and move to another state to buy her “dream house” fuck that
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 12:44 AM
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I have 4k saved up vs living paycheck to paycheck when I was with the ex, I bought a gazebo and did a bunch of crap to the backyard( put in a mini putting course) just created mini projects to keep me busy so far no wife happy life. I haven’t even had sex with anyone after or during the divorce and I’m content with that. Just off in my own world no one can bother tell me what to do now
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 08:48 PM
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U can either ask him or keep wondering what if, put your big girl pants on and start asking questions if you want closure
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 02:31 PM
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None, but if u want to get their panties wet just start talking about traveling, it’s the in thing right now
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 02:29 PM
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Before marriage she would say something like wake me up if you want to go again after marriage it was you snore too loud maybe u should sleep on the couch
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 01:04 AM
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Op is done for , that 118 body count is engraved in his mind once he starts having sex with her, and if I found out that someone I been with has a body count over 100 I wouldn’t want to be with them either
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:42 PM
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Spend time with your mom and dad and your son, pick up a new hobby, do something that u wanted to do that u couldn’t when you were married. You devoted your time to her now it’s all about you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:37 PM
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Shes 39 and have no kids or never married that tells me that she is invested heavily in her career. Relationships with those women never last because they are alpha females and will want to compete with u. 118 body count is crazy she’s the female equivalent of Andrew Tate !!!
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:27 PM
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Only loyal thing in life is a man’s best friend; a dog
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 12:17 AM
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You never find out the true side of a woman until after the divorce,point being never get married
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 03:17 PM
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Yeah the last straw was her convincing me to sell my house that I owned prior to marriage and move to her home state and buy her “ dream house”. I said hell no real quick, her crocodile tears began flowing and so was the end of our marriage lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 06:33 PM
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Mine worked ft and never even helped with any bills
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 06:31 PM
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I lived by myself longer than I was married, I don’t need a woman to cook or clean or do laundry for me, hell my ex wife barely did any of that while we were married lol.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 02:46 PM
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Mine wasn’t hygiene but she left the place a pigsty, she would leave crap all over the stairs she says it’s a way to remind her to take it upstairs but she never does. It began to be a hazard just walking up or down the stairs
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 09:09 PM
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I’m waiting for the ai robots, piss me off ok I’ll just disconnect you for the night
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 07:19 PM
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I don’t even have kids and I don’t even want to entertain living with another woman again
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 05:12 PM
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I will still stand by my breed and I will always say it’s how you raised and trained them
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 08:23 PM
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Agree with u everything except “aggressive pitbull breed” there’s still misconception about pitbulls. That’s why there’s so many in the shelters, it’s all about how you raise them, I’ve raised mine when he was 6 months old and he’s 8 now the most loyal dog you will ever own.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 07:56 PM
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Bro just file already the marriage is done, she has pics of another dude on her phone she has no respect for you
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 12:21 AM
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Bullet for my valentine - your betrayal Morgan wallen - wasted on you Seether - no Jesus Christ The Weeknd - wasted times
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 08:08 PM
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Funny story, I hooked up with this chick that supposedly said she was possessed and got exorcised, she had a big gothic mirror in her bedroom anyways we did the deed and when I went home I poured holy water on my penor and took a cold shower.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 10:24 PM
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Nothing wrong with being alone, adopt a pet dogs are the most loyal thing you can have
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 10:22 PM
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You’re still pretty young, the power of the pussy is strong, you must try to resist young obi wan
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 08:04 PM
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https://discord.com/invite/jv6GWEwawh
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 11:36 PM
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It might hurt now but down the road you know that you made the right decision, good job on not simping, she is pulling the bait n switch scheme guaranteed, my ex did it to me!
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 08:08 PM
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This year I want to spend more time; traveling 90 % of profiles no matter what age range lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 08:04 PM
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What’s the difference between hrt and trt? Is it the same
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 03:50 PM
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Not dating or screwing anyone, if I see a hot chick I just say wow she’s hot and go on my day. I have plenty of money in savings, no stress about relationships not worried about anyone cheating or checking in with anyone. I have my dog and that’s all I need
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 08:33 PM
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Women act on emotions, she prob liked how the crack addict makes her feel at that time…just cut her loose and move on and there’s prob a 85% chance she will come crawling back that’s when you shut your new house door in her face and never look back.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 12:18 AM
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She wasn’t yours it’s just your turn
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 07:17 PM
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Mine still had her crap in my house when the divorce was finalized. She later sent me a text like 4 months later asking if she can come get her stuff. I blocked and deleted her number lol she had over 2 yrs to come get her crap…so I threw all that crap out and donated what I could
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 04:24 AM
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Focus on you and mind your own business, I create house or backyard projects to keep me busy
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 12:44 AM
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Everything in a marriage without the certificate
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 03:46 AM
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Here if you’re living together for 6 months u are automatically assumed common law
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 09:16 PM
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When she took off her wedding ring
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 03:24 PM
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I have my divorce decree framed I look at it everytime I start falling for a woman, just a daily reminder to not make the same mistake again
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 03:22 PM
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She probably spiraled into the feminist hole through social media and thinks she deserves better. I was blinded by the love bombing but if I known it wouldn’t last hell no
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 03:01 PM
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She walked all over u during the marriage and walked over you in the divorce. Time to put the foot down and lose her
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 02:57 PM
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I’m happy as a clam being divorced
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 12:00 AM
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Write her a letter saying your goodbyes then burn it afterwards
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 11:56 PM
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Probably just to check up on you, btw if u haven’t already I would delete her off fb
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 02:51 PM
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Didn’t tell my close family for 2 months, close friends prob a month, coworkers over a year. But after the divorce I finally felt relieved and had no guilt about telling someone I divorced. I was afraid of telling them why the marriage fell apart but no one really barraged me with any questions besides my family.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 12:54 PM
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Hear that, living paycheck to paycheck when I was married and actually having a actual chunk of money in my savings post divorce
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 06:27 PM
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Who cares, take a hot chick to dinner hopefully you run into your ex and see what she thinks
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 02:51 PM
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Mine kept her ex husband last name cause she said she didn’t want to deal with the hassle of going to the courts to have it changed. Well she can keep it cause I don’t want her tarnishing my last name anymore
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 03:00 PM
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It’s a control thing she knows she still has him under her finger tips, grey rock and only respond to things about your kids. Also might want to tell your mom if she loves you to cut off her relationship with your stbxw
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 09:07 PM
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I was supposed to go to a stand up Comedy show with this woman I met on an app, she never made an attempt to get to know me this is after the 3rd date…we had planned to go but the week leading up to it I just had it with relationships so I just gave my tickets to a buddy and his girl atleast it went to good use. That got me thinking does living with a woman really destroy your outlook on future relationships ?
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 09:01 PM
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Dude slow down and live life a little why waste your time with someone else again after what happened? Another reason not to get married again. Women always want something better, work on yourself be the best u can and never make the same mistake again
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 01:54 AM
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Better off than me, fell for a single mom love bomb me and did the bait and switch, move her and her kids in my house, paid all the bills but that ain’t enough either, finally had enough after 1 1/2 years never again.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 09:59 PM
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10k a month alimony for 10 yrs is crazy, I’m sure you’re making big bank but I would hire the best attorney in your state
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 04:57 PM
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Should be easy, everything gets divided in half , unless she wants a uncontested
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 02:30 PM
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My dogs name is bear so I’ll go with bear, he has never left my side through thick and thin
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 02:29 PM
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My insurance is looking at my framed divorce decree knowing I won’t make the same mistake again
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 02:27 PM
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lol this is true sad cause this is in my state also, sad to say it’s how it is in the us now. I just gave up dating in general, saves me more money and more to spend on my hobbies or house projects
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 02:01 PM
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So then break up with him, you’re not all high and mighty either he’s not even divorced yet maybe talk to him on how u feel that and you guys have been dating for almost half a year
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 08:45 PM
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It takes 2 to tango you chose to be with him it’s not like u guys are married, walk away anytime
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 08:44 PM
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Well I mean u did chose to be with him for over a year so u prob know his situation. Btw this sub is for men’s only so it will be highly one sided
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:37 PM
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Give him space, ask him if he needs anything, take him out on a date, do stuff with him that he likes to do,
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:35 PM
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Losing half or all of his shit including house pension 401k sanity etc….
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:30 PM
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Maybe he’s getting taken to the cleaners like most of us men in here, we’re always told to not show our emotions or feelings or toughen up, but there comes a breaking point
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:29 PM
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I always say all women are emotionally ill or crazy there’s just a different level for them
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:24 PM
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Are u guys seperated or divorced?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 11:40 PM
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I think this phrase explains it best “ she wasn’t yours it’s just your turn”
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 10:45 PM
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Hope you are on the same path brother it def gets better ! Glad I didn’t beg and cry when it was over or else I would’ve been a bigger loser lol
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 07:23 PM
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Not long only 1 1/2 years, she love bombed me and did the bait n switch scheme, I’m too blame too I was too blinded by “love” to see the real truth
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 07:21 PM
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Mine don’t contribute either and she has 2 kids I have none,
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 07:19 PM
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I married a single mom too lol but the divorce is finalized, I have the decree framed in my game room so if I decide to make a stupid decision again I can be reminded once more. I came out clean but I keep feeling embarrassed and a simp that I was stupid to take in a single mom. Never again
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 07:18 PM
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She wants to use you as an emotional tampon plain and simple, there’s no chance of reconciliation, only talk to her when it’s about the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:59 PM
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If she wants to get remarried again - RUN If she says she has found god - RUN If she says her ex was abusive - RUN If you already have that feeling that it’s not gonna work out then why stick it out? You need to ask what does she bring to the table probably not a lot being a full time single mom
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:54 PM
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They’re all garbage you’ll be competing with tons of dudes. You better have some quirky starting convo or you’ll be left on read. I get plenty of matches but nothing ever comes of it I’m thinking they’re on there for ego boost. I’d say tinder if u want a quickie and hinge if u want something more… I deleted them all better trying to meet women in public than that shit show
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 01:50 PM
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Your first mistake was letting her talk to your ex, she has no respect for you
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 12:37 PM
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I don’t really care, it’s done and over with she can cry to the next simp
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 09:26 PM
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Birds of a feather flock together, never good when her friends are also divorced. My ex worked with all single coworkers bragged about how much of a good thing we have, next thing u know we’re divorced and her coworkers are getting her a divorce cake lol shits wild
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 06:30 PM
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If Alex smith snapped his leg in 2 clean off and came back like he’s fine again so can u
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 08:56 PM
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I get that all the time
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 02:02 PM
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Remember it’s OLD,, these women are on a pedestal higher than the Statue of Liberty, I’d start off with drinks or coffee and go on from there
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 07:22 PM
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Do not send her anything, write it down on a piece of paper and burn it, just move on man 2 years is a short time, learn from your mistakes and never get married again
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 06:04 PM
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They never take accountability
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 12:15 PM
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Gonna buy me a hot tub this weekend, already bought 75 inch tv last week
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 09:38 PM
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True, my ex wife wanted me to sell my house that I purchased before we met and move to her hometown to buy her “ dream house”. Never helped me pay for any bills, slaved a way just so I can buy a house and she thinks she’s gonna come in and get a free house from me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 06:49 PM
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What’s with all these single moms not appreciating what their husbands gave for them, they’re all for the streets bottom of the barrell scum
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 06:34 PM
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Yeah learned my lesson no more super hero trying to save someone’s life it’s all about me now
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 02:20 PM
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I experience the sweet taste of freedom everyday that’s enough for me
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 12:16 AM
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For sure
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 10:39 PM
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She lives rent free in my head just kinda funny so I had to share
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 10:17 PM
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She lives rent free in my head just kinda wonder what she’s been saying about me
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 10:16 PM
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lol Classic
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 08:46 PM
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Oh I already know , I just find it funny how her coworker got her a cake
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 07:20 PM
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I don’t I didn’t know who she was until she asked me
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 07:20 PM
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I just turned 40 also no kids just me and the dog and I’m pretty well off and happier than other ppl on my age bracket why? Freedom to do whatever the hell I want
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 06:49 PM
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You are making 100k and you’re worried about paying 1200 in rent dude u will be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 02:39 AM
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Should be an easy split then
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 12:17 AM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 12:14 AM
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They might seem like high quality but they put themselves on a 10 foot pedestal
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 03:12 AM
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Bumble at least where I live is just like instagram except for dating, I swear women sign up just to flaunt their travel pictures and social media page
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 03:03 AM
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Forget about her, she has no respect for you she’s already has a dude lined up
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 02:13 PM
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Usually the guy that likes to starts crap is the one getting their ass kicked, remain cordial but if he tries to take a swing at u it’s fair game
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 06:51 PM
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It might get worse but there is always light at the end, you might suffer now but stay the course and you will come out much better living in peace, we’ve all been there brother, only way to avoid this is to never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 11:33 PM
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Sounds like u and your wife are codependent, don’t know how she stayed with u after the times u cheated on her, if I found out my ex had someone dude living with her in my house while I was gone she would be out the door so fast
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 12:40 AM
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I felt like that too man and my marriage was short, time will heal everything, you got this brother
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 10:28 PM
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3 months, no court date u get the decree in the mail
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 09:19 PM
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I read a study that said 50% of woman that are married have a back up husband plan; ranging from their exs, coworkers, ppl at the gym, simps.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 04:00 AM
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I usually ask at the end of the first date if they want to meet up again, then I’ll text the next day to set something up.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 10:51 PM
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Are those 2 kids her from previous marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 09:31 AM
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Maybe as a short term fling but a stay at home single mom with 3 kids…. Hell no and don’t get her preggo either
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:24 AM
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She’s never yours it’s just Your turn
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 07:24 PM
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Tell her it’s not you it’s me, I love you but I’m not in love with you, or you need some space to think about things…. In all seriousness just be a man and tell her because that’s all the excuses women give when they want a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:14 PM
8

I’ve yet to find a woman that will stay through thick and thin when shit hits the fan…better option is to never get married again
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:11 PM
3

File for a uncontested divorce
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:17 AM
11

My guess is she’s using you as a backup plan
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:14 AM
3

I’d say when the decree was finalized
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 03:02 PM
3

I’m glad I impacted someone on here, this sub has helped me out a lot and it’s all about giving back to the community. Enjoy your freedom brother
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 01:47 AM
4

lol that was me that did the give away, glad you’re doing better brother !
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 11:25 PM
1

Does she come from a rich family?
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:52 AM
2

Curt’s do t give a crap who pays for what, your equity gained gets split in half
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:46 AM
13

She’s putting on the waterworks for sympathy, women are conniving like that., she doesn’t feel damn sorry for what she did . You’ve helped her out enough she’s going to take advantage of you as mrfixit til the next simp comes around, you can be cordial but do not ever help her again!
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 09:29 PM
1

Yeah for 2 1/2 years she worked but never contributed anything to bills only stuff she paid for was groceries, wanted me to sell my house that I bought prior to marriage and moved to her home town to purchase “ her dream house “ good thing I told her no
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 07:43 PM
1

Same here man it’s a lose lose situation but I was only with my ex for 3 years before I realized it was a big mistake
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 06:24 PM
3

Same for step dads that can’t see their sk they raised when they break up with their spouse. It sucks but I don’t think she can do anything about it since they’re not biologically hers
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 03:11 PM
3

They do advertise it as divorced dads channel because I listen to it on my way to work lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:00 AM
2

Once you realize women go off by their emotions and how they feel it will all make sense to you
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:21 AM
9

Go to the gym and listen to this song on repeat bullet for my valentines- your betrayal. Get jacked and slay biatches
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:13 AM
1

Bitches be crazy
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 03:49 PM
10

I can forgive but I will never forget
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 02:49 PM
4

What’s causing u to finalized the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 12:28 AM
8

My ex didn’t even know there was a huge dent on her passenger side fender and door to the point where you can barely open the door
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 11:55 PM
2

Have u actually read what the acceptance letter includes? This is your monetary values we’re talking about here
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 12:02 AM
7

She is probably screwing someone that’s probably why she wanted a quick divorce, forget about her bro she has been planning this for a long time. There’s plenty of other women out there but best to just live a single life, the married life is not it now a days
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 08:48 PM
10

She put you in the friend zone bro
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 06:46 PM
24

Rise of feminism; women telling other women they don’t need a man to take care of them. Screw your kids just leave them at home and you can “travel the world” while taking pics to show off on social media , body positivity ; a woman can be 300lbs and other women will give praise to her for being “brave” and “beautiful “ thus inflating their egos even more m, every woman is a 10 in their eyes. Yes it’s a sad world we are living in my friend
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 02:42 AM
4

Did it spell out ragrets?
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 05:30 PM
6

She did it to get a rise out of u for the last time, I get it man if my ex took my dog I wouldn’t even know what to do. My ex used my house as her personal storage locker when I got the decree in the mail I threw all her crap out and donated what I could.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 03:36 AM
1

Sounds like a nut job get all your guns to someone else before you or your ex gets killed
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 01:13 AM
5

I bought me a 2k solid gold Cuban link chain lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 01:11 AM
1

Idk why u want to start dating that soon when I was going through my divorce I didn’t even want to be anywhere near a woman
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 08:08 PM
11

Every time I tell ppl I’m divorced they act like someone died and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 08:04 PM
1

Is your state a at fault state? That can be a factor also, but if I were you I would just use this time period to enjoy your peace and work on you, I.e hitting the gym or starting a new hobby
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 08:03 PM
4

I think someone said it was shut down, probably by a feminist karen
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 03:07 PM
4

One of the woman I dated was a reiki massage therapist, I’m sure men didn’t come to her to heal their “energy “
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 03:05 PM
8

Guaranteed all those women has a tik tok, ig, or YouTube channel about their spiritual bs
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 03:00 PM
2

True lol
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 09:37 PM
1

So what does your wife expect u to do to fix this situation ?
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 06:54 PM
6

Guess that’s the in thing right now, it’s like u have 4 kids how the hell are you leaving them for a week to go to some tropical island with your gfs and party it up
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 02:09 AM
3

Seperated for a year divorce finalized last dec still haven’t gotten laid dating casually
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 12:02 AM
2

The rationale male is a good one to read too
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 11:00 PM
5

She sounds controlling, and you sound like a pleaser, you need to put your foot down and set boundaries. Do not get her preggo sounds like she’s trying to trap you into the marriage by getting pregnant
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:54 PM
5

She’s baiting op for his reply and reaction so she can get the best of him one last time. Delete and block her number
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:11 PM
1

You can do better man, you are raising someone’s else kids for godsake. File for divorce get your own place and find someone who’s not a single mom all they see in you is either monetary or a father figure for their kids, trust me I’ve been through it
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:08 PM
17

Don’t even reply back
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:05 PM
19

Do not have sex with her again, do not contact her or reply back except about things relating to the divorce, do not check up on her or dudes she’s hooking up with
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:04 PM
2

Who cares if she wants to come back once she said it’s done it is done bye Felicia
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:23 AM
6

lol someone suggested only fans
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 10:18 AM
6

I learned that I didn’t set boundaries when I was married I was just a yes man and believed in that happy wife happy life ideology found out that didn’t pan out real quick
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 07:26 PM
8

Women have turned sex into “what have you done for me to get it” and it shouldn’t be like that. Some good books to read before u drop the news on her are; when I say no I feel guilty, the rationale male, and everyone favorite no more mr nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 07:20 PM
1

Good idea thank u
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 10:09 PM
6

Out of sight out of mind, luckily my ex blocked me through all forms of social media I grey rock her when I knew it was over, didn’t beg didn’t plead I just accepted it, but deep down I was hurting inside. the only communication I had was to talk about the divorce and that’s it. It just takes time but def not seeing or talking to her will make you move on quicker we do not have kids so it might be a different situation if you do
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 07:29 PM
15

So why did they get divorced in the first place?
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 03:25 AM
9

No clue don’t talk to her anymore but from the last time we spoke she lives in a really small apt. As for me I kept my house so it’s all good for me
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 10:02 PM
5

Not even trying to wife anyone up just want some poonani
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 10:58 AM
3

Good advice
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 02:39 AM
3

Got it
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 02:39 AM
4

Oh I hear ya bro if it wasn’t for sex I wouldn’t even be wasting my time and effort, I have my own personal opinions about sex workers or else I would’ve paid already
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 02:35 AM
4

God damn how old is she 21?
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 12:14 AM
1

lol thanks
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 12:10 AM
1

True true, just not sure how it is now adays since I haven’t dated in a while
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 11:21 PM
2

Probably when I told her I don’t need u anymore
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 02:31 PM
6

Do not get her preggo
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 12:42 PM
4

Relationship don’t last if the woman makes more money than their partner
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 03:09 AM
9

Women go off of feelings while men go off by facts. Plus we worked hard and put many sacrifices to build our empire
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/24 03:33 PM
1

That’s why I will never be in a ltr with a single mom again, although mine didn’t take me to the cleaners that much but she tried to make me sell my house and move out off state to her hometown , I’m guessing she plans to be a stay at home wife as well, thank god I told her no thus began the demise of our marriage
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 05:37 PM
12

Rollo Tomassi said it best “theres some good ones there’s some bad ones but there is no one”
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 01:40 AM
10

It’s crazy to think that your spouse automatically gets a share of equity gained on your house during the life of a marriage regardless if their name is on the deed or if they never help out on the mortgage even if u bought your house prior to marriage. That is one if the big factor I will never get married again
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 01:34 AM
10

She has a vagina she will be fine, worry about yourself first
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 10:16 PM
13

Claimed to be a good housewife
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 05:08 PM
1

Depends on how your ex is if the two of you agree on a parenting plan and split assets or whatever you guys have tied financially. With mine we don’t have kids and don’t share anything financially, we both signed the paper and 3 months later I got the dissolution decree in the mail, don’t have to go to court or deal with lawyers
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 03:40 AM
2

Why don’t u just go to the court house and get the paperwork if it’s uncontested
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 03:22 AM
10

I don’t doubt her divorced friend had a little part to do with her getting a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 03:21 AM
3

Not like the ex cooked so I try to make spaghetti, pulled pork, breakfast burritos, tacos, a nice steak n potatoes, mix it up here and there and DoorDash maybe once a week
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 02:23 AM
5

She will prob want the “surprise date” to surprise proposal in a year or 2. Good job on letting go and setting your boundaries but she sounds very young and immature still
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 10:22 PM
1

Working on yourself means bettering You not for someone else, once you achieve that they will come to you
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 06:29 PM
26

That’s because 95% of women checked out way before they end the relationship/marriage. Usually they are emotionally cheating or actually cheat on you before they end it I.e monkey branching
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 04:53 PM
6

Guaranteed she’s sleeping with one of her male texting buddies
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 12:18 AM
5

Mine used to say wake me up anytime if u want to go at it again before we got married, then after we got married it’s to nudge me from snoring
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 03:23 AM
8

She’s no longer your wife but an enemy get a lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 12:54 AM
5

With women’s rights and feminism on the rise I highly doubt it
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 09:21 PM
4

I’m dating now but every time I get the warm and fuzzies about some chick I just think about the bad times I endured during the divorce. Not knowing if she’s gonna take me to the cleaners or not, Worrying about how to break the news to family and friends, all the sacrifices I’ve made to give her a happy life and home, that’ll snap us out of it real quick
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 04:03 PM
8

I wouldn’t have even replied it’ll eat her up inside
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 07:19 PM
3

I was pretty yolked before I got married worked out 3 4 times a week, then after I got married I put in a lot of hours at work, worked on the yard and the house to make it a perfect home for her, rarely worked out plus having her not cook and getting McDonald’s as a meal I begin to lose a lot of muscle mass. I struggle just to go 3 times a week, it’s pretty disheartening seeing yourself skinny when you were jacked before.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 05:26 PM
1

No but I have considered renting my house out and using that money to live off of and travel to another country
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:42 PM
8

I say just do what makes you happy and screw whatever society thinks of you
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:36 PM
21

With 4 months you can get the marriage annulled and walk away clean, stop crying man up and start your life over you are still young, no matter how much crying or letter writing won’t get her back, she is prob sleeping with someone else
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 11:18 AM
7

I had to cut my best friend out of my life cause of this he was even my best man at my wedding. never picked up or answered my txt when I was at my lowest just wanted to get a beer and shoot the sh!t.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 02:00 PM
8

Trust me I know from first hand experience, never again
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 02:40 AM
4

I know but that can be a red flag I don’t even trust no woman that says that line less than a year into the relationship
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 12:51 AM
11

Just be glad you didn’t get married and have a kid that you are forever stuck with your ex until they’re 18 or maybe forever. Whatever you do don’t ever get with a single mom
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 12:50 AM
4

Don’t fall for the “ ily” line
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 12:43 AM
3

Who knows what she’s doing we shared no kids together so I stopped communicating when she moved out. I’m sure she’s telling her sob story to the next simp hoping to mooch off of him anyway possible
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 07:26 PM
4

I need to find me one minus the coworker part too much risk
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 06:45 PM
9

Reason why they tell you to wait Atleast a year before dating is because you are so starved for attention you might make a stupid mistake like falling for a woman or getting her preggo
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 03:32 PM
1

If u have low t I would consider trt
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 07:47 PM
3

That’s why u need to get the ball rolling and you will Have to fork out more money in the end, her saying she wanted out means nothing until u get papers filed
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 07:44 PM
3

She’s not entitled to your 401k only after 5 years of marriage
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 07:42 PM
3

Ask yourself why you want to stay with her?
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 04:21 PM
1

Could happen don’t give any lurkers any ideas
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 11:35 PM
13

They all think they’re victim because they’re a woman
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 09:14 PM
1

I think you’ll get off clean any debt during the marriage regardless of the partner are shared , u can argue that paying off the medical debt voids the alimony
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 08:41 PM
10

Damn that’s cold blooded
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 08:35 PM
1

Pretty slim since it was a short marriage, does she have a credit card or any other bills?
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 08:33 PM
1

So you’re willing to abandon your kids over your selfishness, you made your part to bring them into the world. There’s some fathers on here that can’t even see their kids
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 05:00 PM
1

Could be that I made her pay for a Ubers drinks and we went mini golfing too lol. I paid for dinner and drinks so it’s only fair
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 03:31 AM
2

That’s probably like 75% of all women in the us
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 03:06 AM
4

Dating is a sh!t show, just started dating, been on a second date with this one woman who’s 10 years younger than me, had a good time kissed her at the end of the date then bam she ghosted me, I can understand the first date but second?
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 02:50 AM
1

They don’t call them man’s best friend for nothing
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 03:19 PM
1

True
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 07:49 PM
7

This! All her coworkers are single or in a bad relationship after she moved out she quit her job and then complains that her apt Is really small, yeah so u threw your life away because of what your coworkers say real smart
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 07:47 PM
2

They get off from it because they see that they are punishing you (men) from her past ex wrongdoings to her
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 04:04 PM
4

Sorry to say but she saw you as a yes man
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 04:03 PM
4

It’s a red flag when they talk about their ex all the time
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 04:00 PM
3

I’m not either plus seeing multiple women can get exhausting and expensive, I can’t multitask either
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 04:00 PM
2

Never trust a scorned woman
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 03:11 AM
2

God damn
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 10:01 PM
1

How long were you with her for?
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 07:56 PM
14

I didn’t lose anything and I still won’t get married again, crazy how a woman behavior changes after getting married no thanks
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 07:46 PM
1

Don’t mean you need to wife her up
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 07:45 PM
13

So why did u get married the second time around?
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 04:50 PM
2

You don’t even have to go to the gym there’s a bunch of home excersises on YouTube, point is to tire yourself out before bed so you don’t think about her
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 04:30 AM
2

Priceless my friend priceless
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 04:23 AM
1

Start a new hobby, decorate your pad, go to the gym
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 04:22 AM
3

6 months is still too early yes I was having dreams about my ex too but time will heal
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 04:12 AM
2

Honestly if it wasn’t for sex I wouldn’t even be dating
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 11:11 PM
3

Jesus lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 08:23 PM
9

Let’s just say I’m waiting for the realistic a.i sex robot to come out
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 04:14 PM
4

I framed mine when I got the decree in the mail put it right in my game room
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 12:32 AM
7

It’s all about control don’t respond to her about anything personal about you or her only your child
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 12:29 AM
7

They act based only on emotions alone that’s why there’s 80% of divorce rates among women. “If I feel like this it must be his fault, he made me like this, I can seek out another better partner”
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 10:40 PM
1

Trust me that hasn’t entered my mind at all
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 08:35 PM
5

I’m over my wife she does not entertain a single thought in my head
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 08:35 PM
3

Middle lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 05:41 PM
2

That’s what I’m doing also
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 05:36 AM
1

Thank you my bro
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 05:03 AM
8

Thanks, just got home, date went alright but I knew the chemistry wasn’t there right away so just call it off quick. I didn’t really go in thinking that I will find the one or even a potential partner. The plus thing is that I didn’t start thinking about or missing the ex, on to the next one!
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 04:59 AM
3

Yeah no way I’m forking out more than 30 bucks on a first date
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 09:34 PM
4

Power of social media, they just want to flex for the likes. That’s why most social media couples don’t work out
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 07:30 PM
6

My ex was like that too she said whenever she gets depressed she likes to rearrange the furniture/rooms. Once that got old she tried to convince me to sell the house that I bought and is in my name before I married her, move out of state to her hometown where the job market is crap and I don’t know anyone there. She found her, yes “her”not our dream home I thank god every day that I told her no.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 07:28 PM
5

Don’t know if it’s a win but I got 3 dates lined up this week, all just out for drinks no fancy dinner or nothing
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 07:23 PM
5

So is she paying for her portion of the trip or are u?
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 11:04 PM
5

You’re codependent
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 01:18 PM
1

Just wait til that 3 yr mark she will eventually want to move in and establish something more serious
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 01:16 PM
4

When she told you she wanted a divorce, she had already grieved the loss of the marriage and is ready to move on, she might be sleeping with someone else already. Women just don’t wake up one day and decide it’s over it happens over a span of time, they will give u little hints if they’re unhappy here and there and expect you to figure it out.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 03:18 AM
5

Single moms only seek out a partner to make their life better ( physically and monetary)
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 10:39 PM
2

My ex was a single mom before I stupidly wifed her up. She legit told me when we’re dating“ I only date hard workers and not lazy ppl “ gee I wonder why. Luckily for me I dumped her real quick before she could get anything from me
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 10:33 PM
3

Maybe try meetup they gave a lot of different groups u can join, I’ve never done it but was thinking of doing a 30 and 40 singles meet up event in the spring
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 10:24 PM
5

You didn’t see any red flags during the 7 yrs of dating her?
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 02:23 AM
0

U never know the backstory, does she cook, clean, have sex regularly, not nag about everything. us good men are simple that’s all it takes for us to be happy.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 03:18 PM
2

Did u adopt the dog or she did?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 10:39 PM
7

Is the other woman that tipped u off about your ex affair her friend? And good job not responding to her text or call I know it will eat her up more inside being ignored lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 09:51 PM
2

File and consult a lawyer now, you prob will have to pay her spousal support since she does not work but depends on the state. Cut her off and live life again she’s been using you all this time
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 05:14 PM
1

lol I got one of those too, seperated and apparently only works on the weekends, no thanks
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 05:09 PM
5

Regardless if it’s good or bad the woman will rarely stick it out if sh!t hits the fan, I.e. you happen to lose your job and can’t find a job for a period of time, get injured and can’t work, get cancer or have a life threatening disease
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 04:50 PM
11

Is this a joke? Break up with her and run, she sounds like a stalker psycho that will slash your tires and kill your pets.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 04:56 AM
3

I just had a grown woman in her mid 30s blocked and deleted me on an app, asked her what her intentions are, said dating with no intentions, “meet up to feel the vibes”, I said cool wanna meet up at a bar/arcade for drinks. Then she goes on a rant about; how are we supposed to get to know each other at a loud place, said that’s why she “don’t date men my age” then proceeded to block me. lol what did she expect? I fork out a bunch of money to a high end restaurant to wine and dine her gtfo.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 02:35 AM
7

I left a spare room with all of her stuff that she didn’t want whenever I feel down I go in there get pissed off that she left me all this crap, then one day I wasn’t mad anymore that’s when I started throwing all her crap out and began to heal
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 04:49 PM
7

Yeah same here but I’ve always been like that if they don’t show interest I’ll move on to the next
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 04:41 PM
15

She’s just trying to get a rise out of you
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 12:22 AM
13

I’m 1 1/2 years with no woman in my life let me just say I manage to save alot of money, crazy how much money they cost no much a wife
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 08:45 PM
-1

For real what kind of father is that
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 04:20 PM
5

Don’t give up man many of us felt the same way but you have to fight through it, we’re all here for you!
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 08:18 PM
6

I felt the same way but I could only handle 2 years of marriage with my ex and she works full time. Barely cook or clean, calls in almost every other week from work because of migraines, headaches, cramps, back pain. sex was non existent, I paid for all the bills she only has to foot the groc bill. Felt like I was paying her to have the prestigious tittle of being “married”.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 08:16 PM
1

Sad but true
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 04:57 PM
6

Please don’t tell me you funded all the trips for your supposed gf, she’s probably using you as well, cut off the gold diggers and focus on making money and what makes you happy
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 03:58 PM
2

Read the book by dr.glover no more mr nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 03:54 PM
1

This is like a dog waiting for table scraps for them to eat
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 03:46 PM
9

u were only married for 7 months you don’t owe her anything, do not give her any money for anything! put your foot down and be a man she already doesn’t respect you by sleeping with her ex only after 7 months of being married. She’s for the streeets
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 10:57 PM
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They dont want to see us happy simple as that
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 10:54 PM
3

Reading through this thread is kinda sad where us men even myself have to tippy toe to please or so called “wife”. I think it’s important more so than ever to set boundaries at the beginning of the relationship oh and yeah never ever get married !
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 01:01 AM
4

Do u have pets? Get a dog they don’t call it man’s best friend for nothing. I’ve been separated for a year 2 months out of divorce, I’ve had a couple of dates set up but I’ve flaked out on all of them. I just hate the process of dating and getting to know someone
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 12:58 AM
1

Ask your friends and family members to help you
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 12:27 AM
7

Mine was allergic to avocados, I ate guacamole, avocados smoothies, avocados on toast, whole avocados for a whole week when she moved out
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 10:55 PM
5

The good ol bait n switch scheme
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 03:13 PM
3

Chris rock
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:29 AM
9

I miss the poon tang
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 06:16 PM
3

Why the hell do u want to be friends with her after she kicked you out? You can get spousal support from her if you want to go that route, if not file for a uncontested divorce delete all contacts including social media and start your life over
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:19 AM
2

From the time u were married til divorced
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:09 AM
4

Whatever equity is gained on the house for the length of your marriage u are entitled to
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:01 AM
14

Just another day for me, went to the gym now going to cook me a nice steak and lobster dinner at home, it’s not like I got sex on vday when I was married anyways so I saved myself about $200
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 12:16 AM
7

Glad I don’t have to buy flowers, presents, cards, book a dinner date, chocolates, jewelry, I’m gonna stop buy a butcher shop after work today and buy me a nice porterhouse and grill it at home and share it with my dog in peace and quiet
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 03:49 PM
3

😂
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 10:34 PM
5

Do u know how many divorced men would love to be in this situation this is what dreams are made of. She dug her grave now she can go lay in it
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 09:29 PM
2

From what I’m reading you guys sound very young, especially her she sounds like a teenager. If you guys share no kids or finances I would go down to your city court and file for an uncontested divorce it’ll take 3 months and you don’t have to deal with lawyers since there’s nothing to fight over
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 01:45 PM
4

“Love to travel, must be willing to travel” I think I’ve seen this from 5 out of 10 profiles, yeah I love to travel to but do I have to pay for your plane ticket too?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 11:21 PM
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1k left no debts savings and a mortgage I say you’re doing pretty good than the average millennials. I would def wrap it up so there’s no chance of knocking her up. She’s still pretty young, does she have a decent job , does she live alone? Does she spend her money on stupid crap like gym clothes, and take out, Starbucks, etc
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 09:44 PM
3

I’ve had that feeling for the first 2 months of separation. It’ll get better man
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:31 PM
4

Men are most vulnerable after divorce because we crave that attention and love that our ex never gave us, just be cautious my friend
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:29 PM
5

Bro it’s her job to be nice and flirt with customers it’s called sales, she prob gets a commission for it too
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:25 PM
6

No where I don’t even make eye contact but I don’t go out that much besides work, gym, groc store, and I’m content with chillin in my house spending time with my dog
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:23 PM
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It’s the power of the pu$$y that’s why, but I will always remind myself how my ex wife slowly changed since I put that ring on her if I were ever to marry again.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:20 PM
13

No!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 10:22 PM
1

Damn that’s rough especially with your ex wife family but kudos to u for going for your kid
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 03:17 AM
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You have a lot to learn about female nature my friend
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 08:13 PM
13

This sub is a safe space for men to vent their feelings without being thrown in jail for false accusations
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:27 PM
0

Bro u are divorced why are u digging into her personal life? Delete all of her social media, if u share kids only talk about your kid nothing else. Out of sight out of mind
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 01:44 AM
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Didn’t read the part of about your wife making new friends with her new female coworker. 100% guaranteed Your wife blabbed about her home life to her friend and she convinced her there’s a new shiny life out there being single. Hate to say it but she’s prob going to be banging a lot of dudes, then a year or two later shes going to realize that she has hit the wall and will come crawling back. Whether she does or not does not matter to you, you need to focus on your kid now, it will suck for the …
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:48 PM
3

I already “financed” my ex wife no need to finance a gold digger
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:33 PM
11

U can trust them but never get married again, vet them at the beginning of relationship and watch out for any and all red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:26 PM
2

Sounds like what most women are about now a days, clout for likes on tik tok and ig. Kinda why I’m hesitant to date again, hell like 75% of women on dating profiles put down “travel “ “must be willing to travel” as an interest now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:20 PM
6

What was the breaking point?
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:12 PM
6

Watch out for gold diggers they’re not only in America
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:10 PM
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That’s what I told my ex, “ I don’t need you anymore” no sex, no cooked meals, no cleaning, no financial contribution , no kids. Bye Felicia
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:09 PM
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My ex wife calls in for everything headache, cramps, migraines, don’t want to work, meanwhile I’m over here working 6 days a blue collar worker slaved away for 8 hrs or more a day never called in a day even when I’m sick. I took care of all the bills all I ask is I go home to a clean house and home cooked meal, her idea of dinner is takeout or oven ready meals and ramen, I ate that shit in college why the hell am I eating it now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:17 PM
2

So do u want to get married and risk losing it all again?
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 08:18 PM
6

I’ll be 40 next month, I had 3 ltr that lasted over the span of 3 yrs during that time we never lived together, never shared any finances, everything was 50/50, had regular sex with protection. But after that 3 year mark they always wanted to marry I refused because I knew they weren’t right for me. I stupidly decided to marry my now ex wife because of societal and family pressure, what a stupid mistake that was. Now I’m on the path to find me that same relationship but I vow to never get marrie…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 07:43 PM
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If she did it once she will do it again, go through with the divorce and start your life over for your sanity!
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:14 PM
5

U can build yourself up again you’re a man, never let a woman push u down
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:12 PM
1

She can use u as a co-signer on a loan
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:12 AM
7

Ahh the good ol bait and switch trick ive been There my friend
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:34 AM
11

Wouldn’t be surprised if she posts a TikTok crying on how it’s so hard to be a single mom
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 06:35 PM
1

Bro take it from me who married a single mom, all she sees in you is a $ sign. Her kids will always comes first, she is forever stuck with her baby daddy. I was slaving away 6 days a week and came home to a trashed house, trashed rooms, trashed life. My so call wife barely cooked sometimes I would go to bed hungry many nights cause I was too tired from working to make myself dinner. I paid all the bills, she only footed for groceries which she and her crotch goblins buy what they liked. Sex was …
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 05:40 PM
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Tell her she needs to “court” you if she wants u back again. That means home cooked dinner every night, steak and bj every Friday, open the car door for u when u go out. Clean the house, do laundry, crack a beer for u when u get home from work, 2 hrs of silence every night.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 03:48 PM
14

She found out the grass isn’t greener on the other side
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 03:43 PM
4

It takes 2 to tango don’t beat yourself up
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 11:29 PM
24

Highly recommend u read the book no more Mr nice guy, women don’t like a pleaser they want some sort of Drama in their life
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 07:44 PM
1

Highly recommend u read the book Mr nice guy, women don’t like a pleaser they want some sort of Drama in their life
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 07:44 PM
1

Highly recommend u read the book Mr nice guy, women don’t like a pleaser they want some sort of Drama in their life
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 07:44 PM
3

Stop focusing on getting women and do what you like to do and makes u happy
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 12:22 AM
5

So did she want u to propose to her or what?
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 12:06 AM
2

This, simple shit like going to the store or going out to eat, watching a movie or show
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 09:25 PM
3

If u like country Morgan wallen wasted on you Luke combs when it rains it pours Tyler Braden friends Harry Hudson no good for me Austin snell pray all the way home
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 08:01 PM
3

After the 3 year mark most women want to get married or move in. Not sure if I want neither of those
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:13 PM
2

I didn’t tell my coworkers and relatives until a year later
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 12:44 AM
2

Do not get married again, we all share your pain and are here for you brother
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 09:17 PM
2

Throw it back in her face , tell her you have a restraining order against her !
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 06:57 PM
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Another reason why not to get married, women’s emotions are so out of place you do one thing wrong and they keep it in the back of their head. It keeps building and building, they start thinking of leaving, mourning the relationship, and then all it takes is one dinner out with their girlfriends to give them the validation to walk away, “you’re doing the right thing, you’re a strong independent woman who don’t need no man, he’s bringing you down, file for divorce you can take half of his stuff a…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 06:54 PM
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I’m talking long term I’m sure there’s plenty that’s fine with doing that on a short term basis
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 06:48 PM
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It’s good to be alone and do things by yourself, that way you know you can survive on your own without relying on others. A partner is only there to support you
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 10:27 PM
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My goal in life after divorce is to find me a woman that is ok with having seperate places, having regular weekend sex without expecting no accidents, 50/50 on everything. Will i or won’t I we will find out but it’s not looking very good lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 03:30 PM
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I had to clean my house head to toe including a feces filled bathroom that her cat used as a litter box, cleaned out one of the sk room where u couldn’t even walk through. Just left whatever furniture, trash clothes they didn’t want for me to deal with. Never again!
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 03:24 PM
5

Free will, I don’t blame anyone but myself it’s a life lesson, you can learn from it or not
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:37 PM
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Let’s see barely had sex, barely cooked barely clean, didn’t contribute to finances, owed more on taxes, switched jobs almost every year because she didn’t like how she was being treated, so yes didn’t make my life any better being married
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 04:35 PM
3

She can claim that half of the equity gained during the marriage is hers but she can’t claim the house as hers outright
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:41 PM
4

U just said she abused u emotionally and financially, she is trash so what if u run into her, shes a stranger like that song says " just walk on by"
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:07 PM
5

Yes but with no kids u do not share anything with them like your kids that’s why I say don’t bother meeting up with them
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:36 PM
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Do u share kids with her? If not then I wouldn’t even meet up with her, it’ll crush her more not hearing from you or being ignored
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 03:53 PM
11

Poor dude
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 07:36 PM
1

I had matches but they’re not that great looking the ones that’s decent looking when ever I try setting up a meet up flaked out or took too long to respond. I just don’t have the patience for it
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:53 PM
5

Out of sight out of mind luckily my ex deleted and blocked all my social media from hers before I did
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:49 PM
1

God damn 2 months, what was her reason for wanting a divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:25 AM
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She’s definitely sleeping with someone else already but wants to keep u on the back burner in case her plan b fails. Do not sleep with her and def don’t get her preggo
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 12:55 AM
14

I bought myself a sex toy and watch jersey shore if I want the occasional drama
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 12:21 AM
8

Just don’t bro
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 10:06 PM
1

Too many red flags and me being naively in love with her, but thanks to this sub I’ve become smarter
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 09:51 PM
4

get some yves saint Laurent la nuit the old version
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 09:58 PM
6

I stopped celebrating my bd after I turned 21, why don’t u take your kids to a dinner and a movie ? Forget about her she’s dead to you
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 04:59 PM
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I gave hinge bumble and tinder a try for a month and I deleted all of them it’s a waste of time, tried arranging for a meet up and they’re all flakes, they’re just too many guys on there. So for now I’m content with spending time on my hobbies and my dog
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 04:56 PM
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I will leave this sub if they made a woman a mod
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 04:51 PM
5

Probably alimony and child support
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 09:07 AM
4

I don’t believe in those tests they’re geared towards what a woman wants anyways
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 11:35 PM
5

She’s not a good mom by putting your children lives in danger
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 10:53 PM
1

Snapchat
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 12:01 PM
4

You talking about the threesome opened a pandora box for her to bring up about her male coworker, I’m sure all that stuff happened long before she told you all of what they did. And sc is a cheating tool you can basically delete all text convo and pics sent, I never and will never have it and I find that if a woman over the age of 30 who have sc is a huge red flag.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 12:42 AM
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I had a amicable divorce only cost me 300 for filing fees we had no kids together and both walked away with nothing, I wouldn’t do it again. Ive yet to find someone that is cool with living separately and we rotate spending the weekend at each others houses, I pay for dinner one date she pays for dinner the next, have sex regularly each week without expecting a kid. I actually had 2 ltr like that we never cohabitated but after that 3rd year they pressure me into proposing but I never did. I fool…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 12:31 AM
0

You just have confidence issues don’t focus on your height show your best attributes
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 02:21 AM
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Bro u are successful chicks will look past the height part, just weed out the gold diggers and you will be fine my guy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 02:11 AM
2

My ex was on her 2nd marriage we didn’t even last 2 years, not gonna test out that theory out on my end
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 07:51 PM
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My divorce ended amicably she didn’t take nothing from me but I would never get back with her even if she asked me
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 07:49 PM
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I would say set boundaries, don’t let your wife run the house, happy wife happy life is a lie you need to put your foot down if you’re not happy with something rather than rolling with the punches
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 10:56 PM
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I never had a “roommate” that lived in my house and never paid me a dime for any bills or utilities. Some of the money I saved by just living by myself than with her are crazy. I haven’t paid an electric bill in 3 months since I got credit for how much electricity she consumed last year. My trash bill is like 10 bucks compared to $80, I don’t even need to set it out every week since I don’t consume that much trash. I keep looking at my bank statement and going is that right how the hell do I hav…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 07:53 PM
2

At that age friends are hard to come by
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 07:32 PM
3

What did she want from you couldn’t imagine it would be much for 2 years. My divorce got finalized last month only married for 2 years also it was a clean split we both walked away with nothing
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 08:52 PM
3

I can understand that you need to move on and not dwell on the past but some of these guys here have been with their spouse for over 10 years. Just imagine losing someone you cohabitate and are intimate with for 10 plus years and someone tells you to just “forget” about them, it takes time and therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 03:27 PM
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Yes, but then I remind myself why I filed and why she wasn’t good for me
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 08:00 PM
3

Come to bed and cuddle?? Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 01:16 AM
1

I’m pretty sure she will let u know if she has been served lol. Depending on how crazy she is it would probably be a good idea to let her know beforehand especially if you still live together
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 09:28 PM
6

You need to stop dating and work on yourself becoming a better dad
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 04:28 PM
1

Just to keep u in check playing mind games sounds like she already has. She’s just waiting for your response “why do I care? “ then she can be like “ well, I just thought you like to know since she gifted us that big gift from Xmas that time…”
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 04:27 PM
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Chicks who pushes religion are cringe, look at me I’m a born again virgin I’m better than you, I have a only fan and I go to church on Sundays don’t talk to me if you don’t love god!
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 01:03 AM
1

What if your test levels are normal I went to my doc a couple years back and got tested he said my levels are good but I want to get on trt. I’ll be 40 in 2 months, def noticed a lost of strength stamina and muscle mass
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 05:17 PM
1

Damn man that’s tough, no where to go but up from here
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 09:48 PM
1

Damn not sure how I would react to that
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 09:20 PM
6

Saw mine on tinder before divorce was finalized honestly didn’t think nothing of it , just blocked her and went on my day
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 07:18 PM
14

Use the grey rock method, act like nothing she does or says phases you, try to stay away from her as much as possible and start looking for divorce lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 04:05 PM
6

I had a “roommate” that paid no rent barely cleans, barely cooked, best decision in the marriage was made to evict her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 04:04 PM
2

Pawn it and use the money to make it rain for the strippas
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 07:13 PM
-1

Your state might find u at fault if u cheat even if u are seperated without divorce . But for me it was because of my integrity so i chose not to peruse anyone while going through the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 08:31 PM
-1

Many of us built an empire and a life with our spouses, that’s why it’s so hard to walk away. If you think it’s funny losing your sanity, peace, life savings, 401k, cars, house, jobs for it all then you can gtfo.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 04:12 PM
0

2 years
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:42 PM
5

I.e the love bombing from my ex, gave me everything I wanted before marriage, played a role of what a good housewife was supposed to be, then boom after marriage her true side came out
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:30 PM
5

Love bombing from our spouse, thinking it’s not going to happen to me, bait n switch scheme. Atleast that’s what happened to me
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:24 PM
2

Easy fix is never to cohabitate again, u guys have separate places , one can rotate spending the weekend at each other places
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 10:54 PM
3

Are you still married to her? Hopefully you guys have kids instead of her just staying at home living it up
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 10:52 PM
3

Does she make u fresh brewed coffee every morning ?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 09:26 PM
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Funny you posted this because I was watching Chris rocks stand up from a few years back, he says women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally but men are the only ones who are love for what they provide. Men can wife up a beautiful woman that works at Burger King but no dude is gonna find a 10 working at bk. It’s just woman’s nature to find a provider and safety net once you’ve lost that bye Felicia
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 05:09 PM
2

Is she living with you?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 05:03 PM
2

What was her reason for wanting the divorce ?im in colo also
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 10:07 PM
3

I wouldn’t leave your kids alone with her man she sounds highly unstable
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 09:57 PM
6

Sounds like my last marriage took a single mom in and she did the bait and switch.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 06:37 PM
6

That’s my point, if he wants a traditional woman he needs to live overseas permanently
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:19 PM
-5

Idk how old you are but honestly, I think u need to move overseas and find a traditional woman who sees you as a live partner and not a $ sign. Not saying there’s not any in the us but they are very slim pickings
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:06 PM
1

Damn u were doing her laundry too ?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 05:12 PM
11

He’s the sugar daddy without the sex, just another thing women uses to get what they want
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 05:10 PM
6

My ex wife invited a male coworker friend over for dinner because he wanted to sell us his stupid pyramid scheme. Proceeded to make a whole course meal sat next to him and joked with him during dinner, I was furious, imagine if the roles were reverse my wife would flip shit. And that was one of the straw that broke the camels back
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 04:05 PM
3

Im not looking for anything long term or getting married again, I haven’t had sex in almost 2 years just need to get laid
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 11:03 PM
8

Should told her just for that emotional outrage im buying a ps5!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 10:47 PM
5

Women are evil it’s all about the power of the pussay
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 10:42 PM
3

My divorce was finalized last month hoping to set up a date with this girl after new years, happy 2023 is over!
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 08:13 PM
3

Sounds like both of you are codependent
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 02:49 AM
4

She sounds like a feminist Karen
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 06:24 PM
9

Just think of it this way, if she was fit and hot and you were fat and disgusting she would’ve left a long time ago. You don’t have kids just cut it off and run.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 04:49 PM
3

I know what you are going through because I have been through it minus that we didn’t have any kids. Our marriage only lasted 1 1/2 years until I couldn’t handle it anymore. Same situation, although I have dated a lot of women, been in 2 ltr, somehow I manage to meet and get married to a single mom with 2 kids because I wanted a family. I paid all the bills she pays only for groceries. She gets long term Covid couldn’t work for 4 months sat her ass at home doing nothing while I slaved away broug…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 07:56 AM
1

The walker ex wife stranger
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:47 PM
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Careful about your gf being around her toxic coworkers, women crave drama and excitement and gets off of that crap. Wanna know how? My ex wife tells me stories about how all her coworkers had relationship issues deadbeats and how she was the only normal one that’s married to a “good guy” like me. Next thing u know a month later she wants a divorce and is planning on moving out.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:43 PM
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Do not contact
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 07:29 PM
11

She sees you as a doormat and knows u will take her back every time. Be a man and cut that biatch loose
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 02:42 PM
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You’re a good friend I wish I had someone like that I can rely on or cared about me, I recently befriended a so called best friend wouldn’t even pick up the phone or want to get a beer at my lowest point.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 11:21 PM
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All I can say is that women act with their emotions. They don’t care that you slaved to give her the perfect kids, house, life, future. They don’t care about their spouse feelings, they would gladly destroy their family just because how another man makes her “feel”. You didn’t do anything wrong, I think I speak for most guys in here when I say “ she’s not yours it’s just your turn”
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 12:32 AM
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We don’t have kids so it was a easy split, don’t care to see her family anyways, I’m sure her sis convinced her to file the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 08:59 PM
3

Nope! We don’t have kids together plus I’ve never been friends with any of my exes.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 08:16 PM
2

I wouldn’t say anything unless they ask you, I’ve had no communication with my exs family during and after the divorce and that’s fine with me
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 08:13 PM
2

Gotta think positively
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 01:51 AM
4

My ex and I split right after new years last year it will suck not gonna lie but I’m def at a better place than before
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 01:26 AM
7

Who cares as long as you’re not gawking at women around you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 11:43 PM
1

Are u still in la or back in your hometown now? With a 16 yr career I’m sure you can build yourself up again, don’t give up hope!
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 03:58 PM
7

Fuk strip clubs not giving a woman free money again
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 02:32 AM
3

Just like a robber they all make moves in silence
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 12:14 PM
13

I had to find out the hard way too brother, all single moms are looking for is financial security and a father figure for their kids. You can date them and bang them but don’t move them in your house and def don’t impregnate or put a ring on them!
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:38 AM
2

Lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:33 AM
6

From what I’m trying to understand, you’re willing to take her back to please your faith? This woman who you called a wife committed adultery
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:27 AM
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She’s lost all respect for you, I would be sick to my stomach if my spouse told me that. I wouldn’t play fair hire a attorney and do what’s best for you and your kids not your stbxw
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 11:32 PM
1

I’m kinda in the same boat, I only have 100k left in the house, I own the house but it’s a 4 bedroom with finished basement it’s just too big for me and my dog. Once the housing market gets better I’m gonna sell the house and buy a smaller 2 or 3 br and use the equity to buy it outright
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 07:57 PM
2

Why don’t u tell her just to let u have the dog?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:12 AM
4

lol I feel you on the utilities bill, I’ve been running on 4 months of credit since my ex and her kids used so much electricity last year
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 01:16 AM
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Better understanding of women, happy wife happy life is a lie they’re always wanting more. Giving your wife everything and slaving away just to make her happy isn’t what a good marriage is. Setting boundaries and watching out for red flags
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 12:10 AM
1

In my state your spouse can’t even touch your 401k 8 years married and under
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 11:16 PM
2

I mean if she wants to spend her money on lawyer fees fighting for 2 years worth of marriage then she can go ahead
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 09:05 PM
2

If she doesn’t want anything from you I would suggest both of you go down to the city court and file it yourself. That way both of your signatures are on the form and she can’t retract anything later. I was lucky with my ex she even offered to pay half of the divorce filing fees. It took 91 days from start to finish
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 08:46 PM
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Try to talk her into a uncontested divorce if u guys don’t share any major debts, especially since it was a short marriage, both walk away with nothing. We didnt even have to go to court just got a finalized letter in the mail
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 08:30 PM
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It’s called karma
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 01:39 AM
3

So did mine , told me all her exes were abusive towards her, she’s prob telling some chump the same thing about me and the cycle continues lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 08:03 PM
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She sounds bat sh!t crazy call it a blessing and forget about her, she will come running back once she realizes the grass isn’t greener on the other side, do not take her back!
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 04:31 AM
1

Only if you can have a girl best friend see how that’ll work out with the spouse
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 08:09 PM
3

That’s what happened to me it was a short marriage but my ex could’ve claimed that the equity gained while she lived in my house was hers
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 09:36 PM
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File for a uncontested divorce where you and your spouse share no debts or finances together and neither of you seek spousal support. That’s what I did it took 91 days and I got a letter in the mail saying the court has dissolve the marriage didn’t even have to show up to court . That letter is now in a frame in my game room so in the near future if I want to make a stupid decision like getting married again I can just look at it and know how lucky I got off.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 09:28 PM
2

I’m officially divorced but I still visit it helps me heal
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 03:56 PM
4

Crock pot is good too u can make some pulled pork. McCormick is what I use, minute rice is rice in a box
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 07:57 AM
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Get an air fryer, toaster, maybe some cheap kitchen knives, spatula, spoons and forks, frying pan, pot to boil eggs or pasta that’s all you need. Basic kitchen stuff you need in your fridge, mayo, ketchup, mustard, hot sauce, peanut butter , jelly, eggs, butter Paper towels, Lysol spray for cleaning your kitchen countertop, dish soap, sponge to clean your silverware As far as spices, olive oil, garlic salt, salt, pepper, hot sauce if you like spicy, steak seasoning, chicken seasoning. Easy dishe…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 07:21 AM
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Sounds like you are letting your spouse lead the relationship maybe you feel like you are bored because you don’t have any control or are afraid to speak up on what you want. I highly suggest you read the book no more mr nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 02:21 AM
3

I know plenty of women that are on dating apps looking for a plus one for a wedding
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 02:10 AM
1

No mine says for ever ironically enough
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:44 AM
1

What about what are u looking for that’s the real question, cause most women are looking for long term
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:32 AM
2

I got a quote of $1500 to get it removed in 10 sessions on my hand screw that I’d rather pay for a cover up
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:25 AM
2

I love the Poonani just more careful and guarded now and know how women work and they are all the same no matter what they tell you
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 04:36 PM
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None really asked how I’m doing except my mom but hey that’s life as a man. Everyone expect you to not have feeling and to toughen up
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 04:01 PM
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It’s been a year since we seperated and my divorce got finalized this week. I wouldn’t say I feel depressed but I’m very jaded and being around couples that are lovey dovey just makes my blood boil
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 02:14 PM
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Well here’s an update I went to the family shindig, I think my parents told everyone because all of them were very quiet towards me just said hi that’s about it. Some acted standoffish around me but it’s whatever now I know who’s on my side and who’s not
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 02:12 PM
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lol I did I was the chump
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 04:46 PM
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Book has been claimed
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 11:11 PM
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She’s trying to bait you by getting a rise out of you through text, stop communicating with her and lawyer up
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 04:06 PM
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Sounds like a mess it’s like buying a car knowing it’s unreliable and taking a risk no thanks
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 10:00 PM
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As messed up at it sounds I dreamt of this but never had it happened just to slam the door on the her face and tell her no!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 09:14 PM
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Thanks and I will keep it short
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 08:12 PM
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Don’t talk back and demand chores or money either
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 03:03 PM
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Troll post
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:50 PM
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29 but she used sex and love bombing me to get the ring then it was all downhill after that lol they’re all the same bro
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 09:46 PM
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Damn she should be in her prime, but my ex when we were dating told me after having sex “wake me up if I want to go at it again” after we got married I was lucky to have sex 5 times out of the year
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 09:42 PM
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What made u guys want to get married after 8 years of being together ? And how old is she?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 06:25 PM
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Nah I won’t do that to her it’s my problem I’ll have to face it head on
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 06:23 PM
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I’ll prob just say we split and leave it at that my relatives are fairly nosy ppl
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 06:23 PM
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No they haven’t said anything to my relatives since I broke the news to them but I don’t want to do that to them anyways
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 05:35 AM
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She probably has the princess syndrome, and I don’t think any woman will ever be happy or content with anything. It just depends on how your mental state is, but definitely separating from her will help you heal. I suggest reading the book “no more mr.nice guy” on Amazon it’s a short book but it’s a must read for all men
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:15 AM
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I told her I didn’t need her anymore, my exact words lol, it wasn’t only just the mooching but I had a suspicion that she was seeing someone at work but I could never prove it. Kinda crazy that it all happened around this time last year. But I was like a zombie after she moved out for like 2 months until I snapped out of it
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:05 AM
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we stopped talking no text phone calls or verbal anything for a month. I was just done with her mooching off me, took her and her step kids in, I paid all the bills she only has to buy groceries and clean the house, barely cleaned and cook, I was slaving away 6 days a week, come home to a trashed house no food. Felt like I was paying her to be married to me
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:59 PM
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Def true
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:52 PM
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Atleast you’re going to tell her, my ex way of saying she wants out was from a tik tok vid her sis sent her it was a clip about how if you’re unhappy you should leave, I wish I would’ve saved that clip so I could laugh at it every time I think of her
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:51 PM
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Im already over her and the marriage, I guess that’s the issue it was a short marriage only 1 1/2 years. I’m more concerned that the relatives will judge me that it only lasted so short
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:45 PM
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I know how you feel because I experienced the same thing, seriously just reading this sub is therapy enough for me. When you tell her make sure you have a voice recorder in case she goes ape sh!t and make false accusations against you.its going to suck for a while but things will get better. Like the saying goes out of sight out of mind the sooner you don’t see her the quicker you heal
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:37 PM
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We’re all here for you man, the first month I was so lonely and depressed that at the gym I was just scanning the gym hoping someone would talk to me.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:32 PM
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I don’t trust any religious woman unless she’s a nun
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 04:53 PM
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I was pretty jacked before I got married, when I got married I was working 6 days a week, plus the so called wife didn’t really cooked her idea of dinner was either fast food or frozen dinners, rarely worked out cause I was tired from work I didn’t get fat but lost a lot of muscle mass been trying to pack on muscle been considering trt
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 03:37 AM
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Could be that she’s feeling jealous that you lost weight and going on dates and improved yourself also could be trying to get you for false rape allegations or another baby out of you. She’s just trying to play mind games but good job on staying the course
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 10:37 PM
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Hope it was on her face
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 08:25 PM
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If a woman says anything about abusive ex; run!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 04:55 PM
2

What is immature to you?
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 01:32 AM
1

The gym or bjj
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 10:31 PM
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When I saw my ex on tinder I didn’t even bat an eye, proceeded to block her profile and continued swiping
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 08:12 PM
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lol so true, mine would leave random crap on the stairs so that she would take it up later but never does, it’s literally a walking hazard and no more twenty thousands pillows, and candles around the house
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 03:58 AM
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Congrats bro, oh and about the part being upset when it doesn’t affect her; women dont want to see you happy so that’s a double plus for you!
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 03:36 AM
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Don’t have to worry about what to make for dinner or if I’m going to have scrounge for leftover food to eat for dinner cause the worthless wife don’t want to cook. Peace, bliss and quiet, don’t have to hear about her crappy coworkers or the bs that happens at her work. A better understanding of how women work. Saving money from unnecessary expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 03:33 AM
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Those are usually career driven business woman
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:18 AM
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Sorry to say but that’s the norm for American woman. And don’t think for once she “loves” you after being with you for 5 months. I’m thinking she has a fetish for black men. I think you are mentally scarred from what you seen on her phone and know that she’s not right for you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 08:10 PM
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I miss sending funny tik toks or memes, I miss watching”our Netflix shows”, I miss going out to eat. Otherwise I don’t miss anything else about my ex at all
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 06:56 PM
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How do you know if she is seeing someone during those 3 months? Maybe she wants to test the waters and it didn’t work out now she want to “make it work”
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 11:37 PM
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Why not give your kid the childhood you never had?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 10:22 PM
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My divorce went fairly well she even offered to pay half of the divorce filing fees, I just came out a smarter and more cautious individual. I just accepted that all women are the way that they are yeah im still going to get some poonani but never putting a ring on another woman again
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 08:12 PM
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This sub is good for men to face the cold hard facts, we speak the truth here and hope other men don’t make the same mistakes as us plain and simple
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 08:04 PM
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Become a male stripper
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 03:18 AM
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Take it from me my ex never paid me a dime for any bills barely cooked or clean, her idea of dinner was fast food or microwaveable dinner. I was eating that sh!t when I was in college, that got old real quick for me. Set your foot down now and end it she’s just using you do it now before you’re forking out 50k for her fantasy wedding.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 03:11 AM
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If she’s not talking to anyone there’s always some chump next in line to be her next sucker
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 03:07 AM
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Well if anyone moves in with me ever again they will pay half the rent
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 05:39 PM
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Well that was the thing also I didn’t set any boundaries in the marriage, my ex never helped me with the bills. All she had to do was keep the house clean and cooked and she barely did any of that either
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 05:10 PM
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No!!!
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 12:08 PM
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Hopefully he’s smart and not getting married the 3rd time. 3/4 of the men on here are content on being single and dedicating their time to their children, hobbies, and job.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 11:47 AM
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Prob the only 2 things I did right in the marriage filing for divorce and not selling the house.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 11:38 AM
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Why do you need to wait for her to move? And is she going to be splitting the rent when you guys move in together or is she going to continue mooching off you like she has been ?
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 01:35 AM
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I like you was convinced by my ex to sell my house that I bought before I married her and moved to her hometown and buy her dream house that she wanted. Luckily I told her no but that was the downfall of our marriage. It sucks but you need to come to terms that your wife is no more, she’s not really yours it’s just your turn. All you really need to focus on now is to be the best version of you and a best father figure for your kids
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 12:40 AM
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It’s a trap!
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 11:46 PM
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Yeah I hear you brother, reached out to my so called best friend couple times to see if we can get some drinks and shoot the sh!t and every time its “I’m busy or I’m working” so that friend is no more. Thank god my whole family supported me through the whole ordeal. This forum is actually like therapy to me and I’m not sure if I would’ve recover as quick without it. We’re all here for you man!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 10:04 PM
1

Wait maybe I’m reading it wrong but why would u fight for custody from your step kid? And after he lied about u hitting him in court ?
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 08:20 PM
2

https://discord.gg/tJYsHk5
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 11:33 PM
2

There’s a big discord group for divorce guys
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 09:44 PM
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Most stay at home wives are bored and will emotionally or physically cheat because they don’t get attention from their spouse. So youre going to move her in and have her just mooch off you ?? Without contributing to your finances? Screw that, that’s how my ex and I split I paid all the bills she worked ft and couldn’t barely clean or cook a home cooked meal. That is a red flag my friend she’s probably only seeing you as a monetary gain, also it would be wise not to get her preggo either!
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 09:38 PM
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These women get thousands of messages a day it’s a losing battle online dating for us guys. Probably would do better with meetup app
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 02:45 PM
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If they don’t have baggage they are at the age that they want to settle down and “get that bag “ after their fantasy runs dry after getting married
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 08:02 PM
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Never trust any woman that “has found god” she prob went through a hoe phase and now want to be “pure” again . I’m all for being religious but don’t shove it in my face every time
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 07:53 PM
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I’m kinda in the same boat as u but only married for 1 1/2 years. I got over her really quick prob because her and her kids mooched off me. I’m back in the dating game, but now smarter, wiser, stronger mentally, I might’ve taken the red pill also. The point is to learn from your mistakes and to never repeat it. Hang in there brother it will get better
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 04:03 PM
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Just delete her from all your social media why bother stalking her?
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 02:28 AM
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They always pull that crap after marriage, they love bomb the hell out of you then once they lock you down with the marriage then all hell breaks lose. You need to do this you need to do that, I want bigger better things, nothing is ever good enough. Getting married once is enough for me no thanks I’d rather be single
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 07:32 PM
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They don’t even ask about my situation, but I’m in the final leg of the divorce it hopefully should be finalize next month, I don’t even have my status as separated I put down single
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 05:16 PM
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How are u guys having success with online dating?im one month in and it’s crappy, I get plenty of matches but they are flaky, do u put down wanting a serious relationship or what?
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 04:49 PM
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I’m 1 month into dating apps and the most luck I’ve had is hinge, never went on any dates yet but got a lot of matches on hinge. Word of caution these women get tons of messages and you have to be the shining star which I don’t have the energy for especially after a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 02:35 AM
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None of your business, we are just roommates nothing more
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 08:54 PM
1

She knows she has u by the balls and she gets off on it, forget her and grey rock
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 12:53 AM
2

She can still f@wk your credit because u guys are still legally married
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 03:38 PM
2

Not reading the book no more mr.nice guy, setting boundaries in the marriage. But my marriage was doomed in the beginning anyways so basically getting married lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 03:01 PM
2

Sounds like you’re not over her, why can’t u file and get it over with?
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 02:56 PM
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I’m fine with being alone , I work retail so I face hundreds of ppl a day, plus it brings back memories of the ex hosting thanksgiving at our place, I’d just rather spend it in peace and quiet
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 03:01 AM
2

So did u guys actually get divorced or still seperated?
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 02:59 AM
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In my experience I would say prob 75% of all women mostly white I’ve seen on dating apps have pictures of them traveling somewhere, they did all their partying/ slutty phase in their late 20s and early 30s now wanna settle down to some chump that they will take half their money away in 2 3 years time
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 05:40 PM
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The power of the pussay, I always told myself if it wasn’t for P I would live in a shed and wear nothing but jean overalls
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 08:13 PM
1

Reconnect with old friends or friends that u can confide in if u want to talk about your divorce
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 08:10 PM
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That’s what they all say and be prepared to get your heartbroken again then you’ll be back to step one, not saying u don’t need to date but take everything with caution
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 08:06 PM
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Don’t get her preggo either
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 08:04 PM
2

Sorry I misread that as love instead of live lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 01:38 AM
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Your wife does not love you, she does not respect you neither or else she wouldn’t have gotten pregnant by someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 12:17 AM
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Read the book no more mr.nice guy you think by doing something nice or contributing to the marriage will make your wife spread her legs for you every night but not so, read it it will be an eye opener
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 08:50 PM
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It’ll be 1 yr in Jan when things ended 9 months since she moved out, hopefully the divorce will be finalized next month. I just started getting on dating sites and are having doubts about going through the motions of getting to know someone again. It seems like a waste of time and I’m wondering if I should just give up and go to a massage parlor got a good time
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 12:57 AM
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Divorce is all filled with women you will get bashed and banned in a instant, this forum is designed for us men to ask questions and advice
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 12:40 AM
3

Sounds like she just wants an excuse to leave
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 12:30 AM
2

So she feels disrespected because u told her she should be doing more chores around the house?
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 12:22 AM
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Men go off by facts women go off by emotions, they can go from hot to cold just like that, just so like marriages one day they love you the next they’re taking half of your sh!t and don’t have a care in the world.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 03:18 AM
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They’re women don’t try to understand them
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 03:12 AM
1

Fishing
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 01:05 AM
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Your wife probably plotted this for a long time, she just used this as a excuse instead of “I’m bored, I’m not in love with u” like many others have
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 11:04 PM
2

Bro you should just move to Utah and become a Mormonite.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 07:25 PM
1

When it rains it pours - Luke combs
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 11:09 PM
4

To me separation is like being on a break when you’re dating, it’s like a free pass to test the waters. So when they say I want to separate I look at it is the marriage I’d officially over. Sleep with whoever u want but u and I are done
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 11:05 PM
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Start a new hobby, improve yourself
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 07:46 PM
7

Every women I’ve dated have told me they loved me including my ex wife only after 6 months. That’s how they get their claws on you
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 05:10 PM
10

Women like drama, good guy never wins at the end, better be a good guy and support your kids without being anyone knight and shining armor
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 11:30 PM
1

Guaranteed if you ask that to all of our ex wife the answer would be NO
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 11:43 AM
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As for me I got married late, in my late 30s, never had kids had a few ltr’s. Then all my siblings and relatives got married. Society and family expectations on getting married got to me. Settled for a single mom with 2 kids. Moved them all in my house and pretended to play house. She never paid me a dime for any bills, kids destroyed the house, only lasted 2 years but never again. I have nobody to blame but myself.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 07:39 PM
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Mine deleted me from all her social media even changed her last name on fb and marital status before she even moved out. It sucks but you gotta grey rock and move on,
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 05:06 PM
3

Only close friends and family knows about it, none of my relatives knows yet
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 10:56 PM
12

She’s got an annoying voice and she looks like she hasn’t slept for days
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 11:08 PM
1

I think all of us felt like that at first so you are not alone. But like the saying goes out of sight out of mind.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 03:06 PM
6

They probably have hit the wall and realize they have limited time to settle down with a chump that will cater to their needs
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 11:00 PM
6

My ex seems to think that also, frozen lasagna or pizza every week is not a home cooked meal
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 08:02 PM
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Bait and switch scheme, totally changed after we got married , barely cooked and cleaned, cooked maybe once a week, her idea of dinner is frozen dinner or pizza. Tried to convince me to sell the house I bought before I met her and moved out of state to buy another house to her liking. Good thing it only last 1 1/2 years before I saw thru the bs, never again
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:21 PM
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I still go back and read the very first thread I posted on here whenever I think about my ex, this forum has been a life saver not to me but for many others
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 06:48 PM
1

Where are u meeting these women at?
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 05:15 PM
17

Damn brother that is a lot to take, stay strong we are here for you !
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 11:36 PM
10

They have already grieved the loss for a long time already
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 10:39 PM
4

Do not beg, that is prob the worst turn off for women. There’s thousands of women out there obviously she’s not the one if she doesn’t want to try to work it out
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 05:47 PM
9

My cousin is getting married next august I’m not that close to him but only met his fiancé a couple times, but I’ll keep my mouth shut and put on a happy face for them
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 02:09 AM
5

Write her a letter and put everything u want off your chest, burn it and move on to be the best version of yourself you can be, that’s the only way
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:13 PM
6

She did the old bait and switch on me, acted like a good housewife while we were dating cooked cleaned regular sex. Some red flags I ignored, divorced single mom, has no relationship with her father. I was stupid I was in love and over looked all that. After we got married she slowly started getting lazy, barely cook and cleaned house was a mess never had sex. Never paid a dime for bills or rent
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 10:58 PM
1

My buddy might be moving in with me next summer so we will see
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 12:02 AM
2

Lol yeah never again she never helped out with a single bill besides groceries
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 12:01 AM
3

That’s true and it’s at 4.2, could’ve refinanced in 2020 when the interest rates were low but the ex wanted to sell the house and move out of state thank god I didn’t fall for that
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 12:01 AM
14

You go for women that are damaged and needs saving, trust me get the book it will open your eyes
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 11:56 AM
20

You need to read the book no more mr nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 11:30 AM
2

You are codependent
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 11:27 AM
10

Maybe it’s just me but I’ve become jaded and do not trust anyone I’ve been seperated from my ex for 9 months. I don’t want nothing to do with women
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 06:05 PM
15

Mine showed me a tik tok about how if you’re not happy u should leave, that was her way of her saying she wants a divorce, I wished I had saved that video so I could laugh at it every time I think of her
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 10:30 PM
2

Been separated for 10 months in the process of divorce haven’t dated or f’ed anyone just enjoying my single hood. I don’t even try to hit on girls, I work, go to the gym, and relax at home with my dog and work on my hobbies
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 10:43 PM
1

Other than sex I miss sharing a funny video or meme, going out to eat or doing an activity together but that’s about it
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 12:38 AM
2

They’re never happy and that’s what leads to most demise in filing for divorce, nothing is never enough for them, you can slave away and pay all the bills for them and they still won’t be happy, so bye bye Felicia
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 06:09 PM
3

I would’ve filed after your best friend passed Atleast do it got his honor
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 08:29 PM
2

90% of women’s profile says that
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 12:05 AM
5

It’s that bait and switch scheme that always gets us
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 07:22 PM
0

Waste of time, money and resources and I’m speaking from experience. I don’t care if the kid is under 1 or 2 years
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 11:07 PM
1

True but I’ll prob go and give him a wedding gift since he did go to mine
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 06:02 PM
1

Prob where I’m at but all hinge in my area is white basic biatches
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 05:50 PM
2

Very good advice, I was a yes man in all my previous relationships , but my perspective has changed since I read no more mr. Nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 05:48 PM
1

They have already plotted and grieved it a long time ago, probably gotten support from their friends they were doing the right thing and that they should be “ happy”. I truly believe women love conditionally, you served your purpose and it’s on to the next best thing. It’s funny how my ex ranted and rave about how she loved me on social media next thing she deleted and blocked me off of all her social media before the divorce was finalized
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 02:41 PM
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Asked myself the same question, my ex pretended to be a good housewife who cooks and cleans when we were dating, that diminished real quick once we got married, never again!
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 02:17 AM
2

No offense but it sounds like you’re not over her and still infatuated with her, forget about her and live your own life for your sanity
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 07:03 PM
4

My cousin is getting married next summer not even sure if I want to come to his wedding or share my views on marriage
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 06:59 PM
1

She needs to have a house of her own, upper middle class , no kids or grown adults. And agreement to a prenup before engagement and marriage
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 08:22 PM
1

Lol damn not sure if I can go a whole yr without talking
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 07:17 PM
2

I’m a introvert and I’m the exact opposite I can do without physical touch
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 09:35 PM
4

Women look for financial stability and shelter were just fooled by the power of the pussay
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 08:29 PM
5

The last thing u need to worry about is finding another woman. Get your alcohol situation fixed before you do anything else
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 10:06 PM
1

Do u find it weird to be dating while you’re married? Do u dispose of this info to your dates?
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 12:54 AM
2

Have u found another job?
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 06:16 PM
1

I’m the same just need a fwb
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 06:35 PM
2

Do u own the house? Share finances or cars? If not I’d go uncontested
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 05:13 PM
5

U know what they say “out of sight out of mind” you will definitely heal quicker not being around or seeing her
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 12:48 AM
2

Reading this forum is like therapy to me not sure if it’s a good or bad thing
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 09:55 PM
2

She actually likes me but she’s one of those women rights feminist blinded by the social media
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 06:21 PM
1

I saw my ex after 7 months of separation no text no calls no face to face interaction between that time nothing. I was nervous before hand but when I saw her it didn’t feel like anything, she just felt like a stranger. Granted afterwards memories of us popped up in my head but I accepted that it was over.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 07:03 PM
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Funny enough when we had the “talk”my ex showed me a tik tok video that her sister shared with her of someone made saying if a woman is unhappy in the marriage they should leave . I knew that there was no saving my marriage then and there.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 06:58 PM
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U noticed all the red flags so why bother getting married ? It’s a lose lose situation save yourself the headache and money
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 06:55 PM
5

They get encouragement from other women to leave and they’re doing the right thing.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 06:51 PM
3

My ex deleted me from all social media even before she moved out
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 09:41 PM
2

We don’t have kids so that’s why it’s been so long
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 12:11 AM
2

Getting married is easy you just sign some paper pay a fee less than 50 bucks have a witness and then bam it’s done. To get divorced you need to fill out a bunch of paperwork, file all your assets, pay a $400 filing fee, lawyers, custody, alimony, child support and the list goes on…. Why the hell would u want to go through all that?
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 10:36 PM
5

I just met up with the ex to discuss the divorce, we have been separated for 7 months first time seeing each other in that time. No tears were shed it was just two strangers again. Was I sad? Yes, it was like I died and all the memories when we first got married and things we shared flashed on by. but I needed to face reality, life goes on and I will be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 10:30 PM
2

Def not getting married again either!
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:49 PM
8

Only a year , she seriously fooled me into the perfect housewife mold that she’s made out to be little did I know…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:55 PM
13

She was out of work for 3 months, I bought all the groceries and cooked dinner after work not every day but a couple nights a week so I could have a home cooked meal. Funny enough the house was spotless before we got married then after she showed her true colors, good ol bait and switch maneuver
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:26 PM
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My ex used long term Covid symptoms as a way to let the house go, I’ll be working 6 days come home to a messy house, no dinner, might as well be single and that’s what I did.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:41 PM
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Just fine it sucked the first couple months but I’m enjoying the single life again, wake up go to work go to the gym go home and chill with my dog, rinse and repeat no drama to be had.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:38 PM
6

I was lucky to have a supportive family, I have a few close friends that supported me but none really checks up on me unless I text them to hang out
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 02:26 AM
1

I lived by myself for 12 years before I got married so it was easy coming home to a empty house again
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 08:00 PM
3

Stop being codependent
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 03:02 PM
2

The bachelor party that’s about it
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 01:54 AM
1

Do u have a labor force or place where they can find random jobs for you? Why not start at the bottom and work your way up again? There’s plenty of fast food and retail stores hiring. Hang in there brother you will survive, I think you are still caught up on your ex and sk, just realize your ex prob used you for monetary gain for her and her sk.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 01:47 AM
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It’s just me and the dog now and it’s been a blast, walk around the house in boxers, pee in the sink when I wake up in the middle of the night. Don’t have to tell or text the dog where I’m going. Drink milk and oj straight out the jug. Make whatever I want for dinner, order out or go anywhere to eat by my choice.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 09:29 PM
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Name some reasons why u want to get married again
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 10:39 PM
2

I’m not here to make anyone feel better I’m venting what I’m going through like some of the men in here, if you don’t like it move on it’s called the internet
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 03:15 AM
3

He’s triggered lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 02:45 AM
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Society teaches ppl that men are tough and words don’t hurt, we are supposed to face challenges head on and never ask for help. Being a man is tough because we can’t ask for help which makes us look as being weak.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 03:42 PM
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I don’t blame her for getting mad if that happened to me. Just own up to it apologize, be honest and get on with the divorce. Maybe you should work on yourself first before getting into anything serious
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 08:26 PM
3

Lol now yes, but at the time it sucked
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 01:04 AM
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Just the realization that one day we were all one happy family. Then the next im sitting in a empty house eating canned chili and drinking a Heineken while my dog lick my leg begging for some scraps.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 12:57 AM
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I truly believe women can’t love the same way men do. They love us for stuff that we provide them. Once that love or feeling is gone they have a spot in their brain that magically shuts it off and they have no emotions at all.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 02:05 PM
1

That was me, I never thought it was going to happen to me but American women are trash there might be 5% left that’s worthy of marrying. Until then I’m gonna enjoy single life maybe become a passport bro if i ever feel like getting married again
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:44 PM
1

True and thanks man this Reddit forum is a life saver, every engaged guy should visit this forum before they get married
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:40 PM
3

Sadly yes crazy what loves makes you do but I’m doing much better once I got her and her kids out of my house
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:36 PM
3

Atleast you’re not a idiot and married your so called wife and moved her 2 step kids in your house where she lived rent free for the entire time of your marriage, barely cooked and only contributed to groceries which are junk food which she and her kids ate
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 09:30 PM
5

Women only love you for what you provide
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 05:36 PM
6

My so called best friend for 15 plus years can’t even answer a phone call to see if he wants to have some brewski to shoot the sh!t with. Oh well guess it’s just me against the world
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 11:02 PM
8

I actually don’t mind it now, do whatever the hell I want on my own terms
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:05 PM
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Because they like to drop hints and expect you to figure it out on your own. Kinda like when you ask them ask them what’s wrong and they tell u it’s nothing
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 08:35 PM
1

Sounds like u have codependency issues u need to work on that first
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 08:33 PM
5

Ex said same thing her baby dad was abusive cheated on her and left her with the kids, same thing with her last ex he was a alcoholic and tried to rape her. God forbid what she’s telling ppl about me
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 06:37 PM
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She sees you as a door mat, she lost all respect for you when u took her back when she cheated on u. She knows she has you under control Hence why she hasn’t try to make a comeback at you. That’s why I urge you to read that book it’s a life changer
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 12:00 AM
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Please read no more mr.nice guy it will give you all the answers and change your way of thinking
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 10:14 PM
5

I was in love and that sh!t makes you do some stupid stuff, I’m not letting anyone move in my house in the foreseeable future
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 08:14 PM
6

Single moms are not worth it I wish I discovered this Reddit form way beforehand
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 08:06 PM
6

My final last words to her after she told me was “I never cheated on you I paid every bill in the house, I accepted your kids as my own and move all of you guys into my house “ she couldn’t really say anything besides “I’m going to my moms”. Ok bye Felicia lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 06:10 PM
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What the heck are you doing? You got divorced and still want to get back with her? She knows she still got a hook on you. Ignore and block her number if you don’t have kids together. You are officially divorce go and live your own life
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 08:13 PM
3

Mine left a 4 bedroom house finished basement landscaped backyard, didn’t even have to pay any bills. Now she’s living in a cramped 2br apt with her 2 kids and a cat lol
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 06:36 PM
6

It’s so hard for us to take it because that’s what we worked so hard for; our family. But we are men we will rebuild with time.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 12:54 AM
2

I’m open to dating but I’m not putting myself out there either if it happens it happens
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 10:21 PM
6

I have step kids and no txt from them but that’s alright I’m just gonna chill with my dog son like I do everyday
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 06:43 PM
1

How bad did it hurt vs getting a tattoo there?
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 10:12 PM
1

I have “4 always” on my hand prob going to do a big cross to cover it up
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:14 PM
1

Prob wanted some side action, getting her cake and eating it too. I think you can still get an annulment if it’s under 1 yr
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:13 PM
1

Why did u get married after 8 years together? Let me guess it was her idea
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:08 PM
5

And twilight
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:04 PM
2

Not broken, just more smarter and cautious now
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 08:55 PM
4

I would’ve start laughing hysterically if my ex asked me that
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 07:35 PM
3

How much did your ex get? This crap gets my blood boiling
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 07:25 PM
2

Being a woman, I was fine with paying all the bills but I expect her to clean and kept the house clean she wasn’t doing that either
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 05:38 PM
7

Don’t go in there it’s basically all women in there you won’t find any support
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:22 PM
2

I learned my lesson, I never had a partner paid me half for the bills never again! But I know I can always make it on my own
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:17 PM
3

I guess she ain’t living with me then lol
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 02:00 PM
9

Never getting married again, going through a divorce is prob the most lonely thing I’ve ever went through. I wouldn’t mind being in a ltr. If she wants to move in with me I’m going to draw up a contract where she need to contribute to half the bills and chores.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:39 PM
4

Get a dog, the only biatch that’s going to stay loyal to you until they die!
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 01:32 PM
4

Seems like she’s already checked out prob for months or years. It’s always the you didn’t do this or you didn’t do that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 10:09 PM
3

Let me guess she spent it on shopping spree?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 06:50 PM
5

It was a slow gradual death, after getting married; slowly stopped cleaning, didn’t cook as much her idea of cooking was ramen noodles or fast food, convinced me to sell the house in my name and move out of state to buy another house, I told her no. Invited one of her male coworker over to our house and made a fancy dinner for him because he wanted to sell his pyramid scheme crap, finally at our last conversation I asked her where her wedding ring was (she wasn’t wearing it) she gave me some bs …
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 06:48 PM
4

Probably did it to get a rise out of you, grey rock and go on with your life man
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 08:36 PM
5

Stop following your ex or snooping on her
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 08:37 PM
8

Work out til u exhausted yourself you won’t have time to think about the memories, go for walks, go for drives
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 08:33 PM
9

Love that analogy, women are always looking for something better they can’t be happy with anything ever
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:47 AM
1

Tell her you’re tired and have a headache but we can try again Tommorow night, seriously do it!!! Her brain will literally explode
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 04:01 PM
1

Only close friends or family members but mostly everything I want to vent I share it on here
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 07:55 PM
7

Damn man that’s rough to hear sorry you have to go through all that. Sounds like you have your head on straight, hopefully it will end all soon for you brother, stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 04:33 PM
3

She wasn’t meant to be if she’s not gonna stick with you through tough times, bye Felicia
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 04:22 PM
28

You live with your ex and her bf? Wtf am I reading here
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 04:20 PM
4

I made the same thread a couple weeks ago, maybe it’s part of the healing process cause I don’t dream about the ex anymore
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 04:02 PM
3

Moved her and the step kids into my house lived rent free even while we were dating, never contributed to the bills once we got married, only paid for groceries mostly junk food which her and her kids ate. Rarely cooked even though I work 6 days a week, some nights her idea of cooking is ramen noodles or McDonald’s. I haven’t ate ramen noodles since I was in college.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 08:02 PM
1

If you are a man of god, what does god day about divorce? What does god say about your wife committing adultery?
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 07:52 PM
1

I can’t believe what I’m reading here, wtf man
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 07:49 PM
7

Treat her like a stranger, act like she doesn’t even exist, it’s hard but she doesn’t give a rats a$$ about you, she already shown that by going out and prob getting pounded by other guys
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 07:18 PM
1

A lot of us including myself has and have gone through the exact same thing you are going through ,so know that you are not alone. Get out the marriage sooner the better for your sanity sake. Once women lock you down they become lazier and lazier and expect more and more out of you, it’s like nothing is ever good for them.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 10:41 PM
1

Get a dog, most loyal thing u can find on this planet that will stick with you till they die, sad to say but that is reality. I’m like you it just me and my dog in a 4 bedroom house finished basement and a huge backyard. I’m planning on selling my house and buying a smaller place straight cash
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 03:02 PM
8

Went from marge Simpson to Kim kardashian
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 08:09 AM
1

I know u are a woman, you know how I can tell? You can never be happy with anything, not even a simple thing as a man enjoying his peace and quiet. Go back to the divorce forum woman
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 01:14 AM
3

You are probably in the denial stage right now. once you move to the grievance stage you can move on after that. It will take time it just depends on the person but we have all been there brother,stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 10:46 PM
6

God damn that’s rough, biatches have no feelings
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 10:43 PM
8

Mine said she cried in the shower, at work, with her friends. I can already tell she was trying to make me feel bad
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 10:36 PM
7

It’s not like he talks lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 03:51 AM
11

She sounds unstable, would be wise to record yourself if u decide to break the news to her and u prob don’t want to be in the kitchen around any knifes when doing this
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 09:53 PM
2

True but u can give out creepy vibes if you’re not good looking
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:38 PM
2

All good points, don’t know if I have time or patience for those pics
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:36 PM
3

I’m 6ft and in shape I’m toned but not overly jacked I can def pull some bar flies for sure
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:34 PM
2

I’ll have to check it out I already read no more mr nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:34 PM
5

This Reddit forum has opened my eyes alot about the true nature of women and how they work I wish I had discovered this before I got married. I’m definitely going to be more cautious ad watch out for Red flags and when I start dating again
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:32 PM
2

I’m ok with being alone just need someone once in a while to share my hobbies with or just go out for dinner
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:30 PM
2

Are they even good looking ?
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 05:32 PM
4

Why couldn’t she get a job you guys don’t even have kids , what else does she do around the house besides laundry and dishes ?
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 09:09 PM
2

Never trust anything a woman say they act on emotions
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 07:55 PM
7

She sounds controlling sounds like she’s trying to get something or your house. My ex try to convince me to sell my house that’s in my name and use the equity to buy a house from another state
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 05:23 PM
2

It was a short marriage but I still live in my 4 bedroom house with me and my dog. Next woman that moves in my house I’m drawing up a contract
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:35 PM
1

Haven’t had that happen yet but she’s prob getting the side eye, I moved her and her step kids in my house where they proceeded to live rent free while we were together, treated her and her kids like princesses and yet that’s still not good enough. Have fun being a strong independent woman all the power to ya!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:33 PM
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You never know the real intentions of women these days I’m starting to feel like the only loyal ones we have that will stick with us until death are our pets
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 10:54 PM
2

I’m sure all of us in here can attest to that lol
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 07:09 PM
3

You just have to forget about your ex she’s no longer your wife. Focus on making your life and your daughter life better
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 03:29 PM
1

Save your exs tears to moisturize your face
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 10:13 PM
1

My ex left a note on my night stand she was moving out
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 08:17 PM
4

Love yourself that’s the most important thing
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 05:31 PM
5

Mine walked away after I moved her 2 kids in my house lived rent free the entire time, now she lives in a 2 br apt with her 2 kids lol women
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 07:09 PM
3

Morgan wallen wasted on you
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 02:37 AM
28

Going through a divorce is the most lonely feeling ever if you are a friend check on them often
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 10:38 PM
7

When we are in love with someone we tend to bypass all the major flaws from our loved ones, everyone in here can probably attest to that. Don’t put blame on yourself learn from it and be more cautious on your next relationship
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 01:12 AM
3

Maybe a change in scenery will get you out of the funk, keep your head up man
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 08:54 PM
1

Not as much as a saltwater tank and yes I agree they are therapeutic
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 08:48 PM
1

Nice those are pretty cool. My first tank was a fluval edge 6 gallon
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 08:44 PM
78

No woman is worth ending your life over!
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 08:43 PM
5

What state are u in? Maybe someone here or if you’re in Colorado I’d be down to drink some beers and talk the sh!t with you man. I think all of us have felt that loneliness I myself have from time to time. You just have to keep thinking about the bad part of your ex. My life turned upside down in a month also, one minute I was saying I love you before we went to bed the next she was moving out
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 08:37 PM
6

Adopt a pet or volunteer at a animal shelter. Pets are the only loyal ones to you til they die
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 03:16 PM
1

Is she a career woman? Does she exhibit alpha male tendencies?
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 02:20 AM
6

Have you talked to her about how you feel? The grass isn’t always greener on the other side
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 12:24 AM
2

I’m trying I still think of all the memories or if something funny happen I wish I could txt my ex and say what happened but it is what it is life goes on
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 12:23 AM
2

Work on bettering yourself brother
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 12:18 AM
1

Lol true or go on tik tok
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 12:16 AM
1

I wonder if our exs have dreams about us
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 11:17 PM
1

Have u dated anyone else or in a relationship so no e your divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 09:37 PM
2

I have a 125g and a 60g
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 09:30 PM
2

Damn
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 09:21 PM
1

Thanks I’m hanging in there it will get better that’s what I’m telling myself
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 08:26 PM
2

Jokes on her I struck first struck hard and showed no mercy!
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 06:37 PM
2

I got a cobra Kai poster and some beef jerky for Xmas
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 06:33 PM
2

It’s ok to be vulnerable, take some time to yourself to grieve whatever u find that relaxes you, hang in there man
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 06:30 PM
5

I spent 200 dollars on a nice purse for my moms Mother’s Day gift best 200 bucks I’ve spent as a single man for a woman
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 03:23 PM
3

Less ppl but same landscape as Colorado
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 10:45 PM
1

Start ignoring her act like she doesn’t even exist, go out of the way to not be at home when she’s there. she will start to get the point you are being her emotional tampon
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 07:11 PM
1

You won’t begin to heal unless you move out or stop seeing her or texting her don’t help her at all or remain friends it’s for the best and your sanity too
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 07:07 PM
3

Sounds like u are a ppl pleaser and a giver definitely read the book no more mr.nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 07:03 PM
4

I’m in Colorado but wouldn’t mind living in Utah prob the same scenery except more Mormons and no weed
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 06:41 PM
2

God damn
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 05:54 PM
10

For the love of god don’t ever get married again
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 12:43 PM
3

Tell her u want a prenup see how she responds then go on from there, guaranteed she’s not gonna be happy lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 04:34 PM
9

Stop blaming yourself and start bettering yourself don’t focus on women. Pick up new hobbies do what u want to do get your finances in order
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 10:00 PM
1

Same here brother
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 08:03 PM
2

If u share no assets together it should be easy
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 01:44 PM
16

Does she buy u gifts for fathers Day?
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 02:49 AM
3

Work on yourself first before you end up hurting another person
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 09:50 PM
1

Whoever said it’s petty to throw a party, what if it’s a party to show appreciation to your friends and family that stuck with you and are there for you during this tough period of time?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 06:54 PM
2

Do u have friends u can hang out with? It will take some time to heal, what helped me is by reading the post on this forum and sharing my pain and heartache, there’s thousands of us men that are in the same boat as you. Hang in there and it will get better man
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 12:03 AM
3

When we had our last major argument I noticed she wasn’t wearing her wedding ring I asked her why she wasn’t wearing it and she gave some bs excuse that she was bloated, that’s when I knew it was over and gave up hope
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 04:34 PM
2

Next time im letting a woman move in my house it’s going to be on a written contract
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 10:20 PM
2

When u feel numb or hate being around the other person when the other person has given up on it also
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 10:17 PM
2

Be prepared to put the foot down if u see any red flags
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 10:15 PM
5

They’re not your kids, they never were and they’ll most likely be loyal to their mother. 🤷🏻‍♂️ So true, I haven’t talked to my sk since their mom and them moved out. Didn’t even have a chance to say goodbye to them. Oh well , I gave them and their mom the best life they can have. even bought them their own bd and Xmas presents without being included from their mom. Took them to events and school outings when their mom was working. I tried to be the best step dad that I can be if their mom wants …
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 09:55 PM
1

Same here, I guess we are ppl pleaser, read no more mr nice guy if you haven’t it explains it all. Now I’m more mindful of who I get with
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 07:27 PM
4

It’s the rise of feminism and the thought that women can survive by them self with no man. Kinda ironic how they have to take everything from us to survive in the real world
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 09:38 PM
3

Women are conniving, they know the system will give everything to them. They play the perfect housewife or wife material until you marry them then the true version of themselves come out
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 01:46 PM
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During my marriage I got sex like 3 times the whole year. Meanwhile I’m slaving away 6 days a week at my job to come home to a messy house and no home cooked meal didn’t even get a packed lunch either. A year without dating is nothing lol I can use the peacefulness with just me and my dog, worse case if I get extra horny I’d hit up the bar or tinder
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 06:21 PM
2

Reconnect with old buddies maybe they have a hobby that u can pick up, I’ve started going fishing and golfing with some of my friends. Also when you start missing your ex just start thinking of all the bad crap she done to you
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 09:11 PM
2

You’re probably just mentally exhausted
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 09:31 PM
22

File for bankruptcy and start off on a clean slate. Find another job and work your way back up! We are men we are meant to rebuild and conquer. You can do it we all believe in you brother !!
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 03:43 PM
6

She prob has it in her plans all along to move then spew the d word later when you’re all nice and settled.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 12:14 PM
6

Ex tried convincing me to sell my house that’s in my name that I’ve owned for 10 yrs and use the cash from it to buy a cheaper place out of state. I thank god everyday I didn’t listen to her
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 10:58 PM
5

Hopefully your soon to be ex is level headed because if you have kids or shared properties it can get ugly
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 04:15 PM
8

I got married late at 37 now getting a divorce at 39, I thought I was smart weeding out the bad ones. apparently not,don’t fall for the trap man, it’s better just to be in a ltr or dating and never getting married
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 03:50 PM
1

Maybe u clean it up because u don’t want to cause an argument between u and her
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 04:33 PM
4

That’s what the book is about
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 09:16 AM
6

Go on Amazon and buy a book called no more mr nice guy it’s a eye opener trust me read it and change your life
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 03:10 AM
5

Only fans they get horny when they see all that money coming in
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 03:41 PM
6

Why so quick? Atleast enjoy your freedom
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 11:10 PM
3

All women not just Asians that’s why 80% of divorces are initiated by women
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:04 PM
3

That sounds familiar, I paid all the bills yet I was so overworked and tired from working 6 days a week I had to hear it from my coworker that I look like death, Yet my own so called wife never mentioned anything about how I looked. Some nights I don’t even eat dinner I just eat scraps of what I can find in the fridge because she’s “too tired” to cook. I can count on one hand how many times she’s packed my lunch since we’ve been married. Once they lock you down with the ball and chain it’s like …
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:26 PM
5

There’s thousands of men here that are in the same shoes as you and so was I, you just need to find some kind of closure to move on. For me , it was her using me for monetary reasons only. Whenever I feel down I just think of all the bad things she’s done to me. You will find someone else just work on making the best possible you
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:07 PM
5

Men are only loved for what they provide, you provided her with everything. Once she gets that ring on her finger she’s going to expect more out of you; a big engagement ring, ahouse, kids, a bigger car, etc… women are never satisfied with what they have. Her spouting about feminism is a big red flag get out while you can! If she wants to talk about equality and equal pay she can help out with half of the bills and half of what she wants!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 04:20 PM
1

Honestly who cares? She’s your ex wife why does it matter? you should be focusing on making the best of yourself and your kids if you have any.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 07:15 PM
2

We’ve all been there, the first month I felt like a zombie but I felt better when she moved out and I started letting everyone know what happened. Just take it one day at a time
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 02:43 AM
1

It’ll get better once you guys are separated and not living together
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 02:35 AM
1

Do u have close friends u can hang out with or talk to? Start a new hobby, don’t stay cooped up in the house with your soon to be spouse it’ll make it worse
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 02:23 AM
2

Does she have kids is she a career woman?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 12:27 PM
7

Men all over the world have rebuilt their life don’t let a biatch ruin or lose your life over it
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 12:36 AM
17

No woman is worth killing yourself over
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 09:05 PM
8

My ex wasn’t that mean. but she made no effort in helping me with the bills. I was working 6 days and came home to a messy house and not even home cooked meal some nights I went hungry, ppl who haven’t seen me in a while said I looked healthier, guess I just needed to get rid of the garbage that was weighing me down
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 06:55 PM
3

After I got married my ex packed my lunch like 5 times in a span of a year that’s with me working 6 days a week, she was cooking and cleaning just fine before we got married lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 11:07 PM
5

You clearly not over her work on that first but I wouldn’t even worry about dating now just work on you
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 01:42 AM
3

My mom never liked my ex she didn’t say anything when I got married but she was supportive and relieved for me when I filed for divorce
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 07:06 PM
1

That’s because Women want to be chased and wine and dine it’s like a game to them
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 03:20 PM
3

That’s why shes my ex wife never contributed to any bills in the house barely cooked or clean while I slaved at work for 6 days a week so I told her I don’t need her anymore
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 07:17 PM
5

Rise of feminism, women are equal as men, women empowerment
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 04:37 PM
2

Same but we have no kids but I’m sure my dog don’t mind the extra attention
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 05:06 PM
5

Focus on your kids and getting yourself better
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 04:56 PM
1

I don’t get how people can be so in love with someone when they meant to hurt you. There’s plenty of other women out there she’s trash if she wants to destroy you you need to accept that then you can move on
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 08:18 PM
1

I’m not doing it to be petty, I’m celebrating and thanking those who were supportive and helped of me during the process.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 10:34 PM
1

Yeah I’m going to file this week thank you brother
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 02:04 AM
1

I’m going thru the same thing except she has 2 kids from previous marriage. We share nothing in our name and my house is under my name and my state is not a 50/50 state
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 10:00 PM
1

So u guys didn’t have to pay each other any money?
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 09:56 PM
38

Chris rock also said women and children are the only people that are loved unconditionally while men are only loved for what they provide
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 03:48 PM
3

Unless they were rich and bought a place out of their own money and invited me to stay I might think about it
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 06:45 PM
1

Myself like you and many others married someone that portrayed a good housewife but after marriage they turned into lazy slobs while we’re out here struggling to provide for our family while they do nothing. It’s good you realized it and are wanting to get out just know that you’re not alone. And the part about u paying her child support and all her debts is enough just to leave alone, she’s using you there is no love….
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 03:44 PM
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Just tell them you’re getting rid of some junk
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 02:06 AM
1

Lucky for me she moved out already
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 11:05 PM
4

Bro don’t do it just break the engagement off and devote your time money and attention to your son, speaking from experience
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 11:29 AM
2

I’m going through the same thing I wish you luck my bro. I’m kinda scared but hopeful it will be over soon
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 04:17 PM
11

You should text her a selfie holding a beer sitting on the recliner
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 04:15 PM
1

I don’t think u fully accepted that she’s gone yet once you do you can move on but it’s only up to you no one else
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 03:15 AM
3

I was married to a single mom with 2 kids she took advantage that I had a house and a good paying job. She never contributed any money towards any bills. Her kids destroyed my house, portrayed a good housewife while we were dating and then got lazier and lazier after we got married, never again!
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 03:47 PM
1

What’s the difference between divorce and annulment?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 01:15 AM
6

Probably the most lowest point in my life I was basically a zombie. I also learned who was really my true friends and found out how my family members supported me
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 06:44 PM
2

Join meetup it’s for ppl with the same interest or hobbies as you, not a bad way to make friends
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 06:42 PM
2

U have to be married for 14 yrs in my state to get any part of your spouses 401k
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 01:25 AM
2

That’s a big red flag she sounds like a trifling biatch that likes drama
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:21 PM
2

Reminds me of that scene in cheech and Chong
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:53 AM
23

U are probably just more aware of women’s bs and are smarter now, this buds for you
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:52 AM
9

She’s 36 it’s not like she’s in her 20s she’s a grown woman why can’t she live by herself ,and what’s with their dad living with another woman have to do with anything. Something sounds sketchy here
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:15 AM
11

She makes a decent living to be having roommates
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:53 AM
1

True just don’t get married lol it’s a lose lose situation for all men
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 01:29 AM
17

She’s a lawyer and she lives with her sis?
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 10:02 PM
2

Get a prenup bro
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 08:58 PM
2

Same situation here , she faked the good housewife role before we got married. After she stayed up late playing video games, stopped cleaning, barely had sex, lazy all the time, barely cooks. Her and her kids lived in my house for 3 years didn’t receive a dime contributing to any sort of bills. Only paid for “groceries “ if u want to call it that which consists of junk food her and her kids ate.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 10:25 PM
11

Every relationship I’ve been in the ex will go meet up with her gfs for drinks or whatever then the next day all hell breaks loose. It’s like they can’t make a decision on their own without having some type of validation that they’re doing the right thing
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 10:16 PM
9

1800 273 8500 call them up when you’re having those feelings
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 05:21 PM
2

Glad to hear keep ya head up!
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 12:35 AM
3

Thank u that’s what I needed to hear and I have not heard one single negative comment towards me since I joined here, we’re all together for the same cause
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 11:39 PM
7

Why would u risk it losing it all again?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 11:38 PM
1

I’ve worked out 3 4 days a week before I met my ex. I’ve withered away to skin and bones
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 07:07 PM
1

I don’t think I will date for a while maybe find myself a cougar or sugar momma or a fwb lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 05:39 PM
1

She’s keeping u on the back burner in case her new fling fails don’t go back to her there’s plenty of other women out there but I wouldn’t get into a ltr right away
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 05:30 PM
4

My ex would get fast food 2 3 days out of the week, no veggies if she ever cooks that’s pretty rare. Spoil the crap out of her kids and wonder why they don’t listen and continue to do it again and again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 03:32 PM
6

I think social media ruined alot of women
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 07:59 PM
5

I myself have no kids of my own . I stupidly taken her and her kids in my house where they lived rent free for the entire time we were together not a single cent was paid to me for bills of any kind. I even bought food for dinner 2 or 3 nights while my so called wife was too lazy to cook. I was lucky to have 2 nights out of the week with a home cooked meal. Stopped having sex cause she had long term Covid that was her excuse anyways. Her and the kids constantly ran the dishwasher and washer and …
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 06:10 PM
4

You’re a man we are built to rebuild and survive
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 06:05 PM
17

They always gotta ruin and leave their mark on everything and after they’re done having fun they leave.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 06:01 PM
2

That my friend is called closure
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 07:58 PM
4

Get a older dog that way it’s not all hyper or overwhelm you unless you plan on taking it on a jog or walk everyday . Older dogs are more chill and more likely to be trained they just want to lay down and sleep or just sunbath
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 12:59 AM
2

They are very meticulous creatures they don’t throw u away until they find someone else new. Also they can’t think for themselves usually it’s a group of their friends that egg them on and bash on you when they get together. She probably had a fling going on way beforehand
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 06:27 PM
1

Have u talked to a therapist? Work on yourself find a hobby, seriously the gym is a good starting place. Can you find a better paying job, change careers? There’s lots of trade jobs offering on the job training. Use all that crap your ex did to you as motivation
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 06:20 PM
13

I’m not 50 but start doing stuff you missed out on when u were married, start a new hobby. Work on projects u put on the back burner. Join a gym or start working out more
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 03:41 AM
1

She said her baby dad who she was married to abandoned her and her kids never paid the bills cheated on her, she lost all her possessions cause he let the storage unit go to collections. How she kinda did the same to me is mind boggling after I took her and her kids in I still can’t wrap that thought on how someone can be that evil
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 07:18 PM
1

I want to know how they can just freeload off someone that they claim they loved and never contribute to anything in the relationship
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 07:07 PM
1

Good for you
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 07:06 PM
2

I think she has daddy issues because her dad disowned her because she got pregnant at a young age, her ex left her and didn’t want to do nothing with her kids. She has a ex boss that she looks up to and follows him from job to job wherever he goes. I do not suspect her or cheating on me during the marriage though
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 01:12 PM
5

Lol wow and women say I’m not like every girl out there lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 01:08 PM
5

Don’t get her preggo and for the love of god do not marry her
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 06:08 AM
3

I know I’m a idiot and the thanks I get is that she’s mooching off of me
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 05:40 AM
4

Not at the beginning like I said she gradually changed after we got married. We had frequent sex made sure the house was cleaned cooked a lot more,I think she used the long term Covid as a excuse to let everything go. Her kids and her use the laundry and dishwasher like everyday, I had to replace the water heater and washer and dryer from the excess wear and tear. I kinda put up with it but it felt like I was paying her to be married to her, I just kinda shut myself off to her snd the kids. The …
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 05:28 AM
8

All of my ltr they all hit me with the I love you a month or two in the relationship
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 04:42 AM
7

I will never ever get married again once was enough
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 04:02 AM
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Oh I forgot , she tried to convince me to sell the house we’re living in and buy another one out of state which was a lot cheaper and bigger it was sitting on 2 acre lot, and somehow her mom is going to be moving in with us and helping with the outside garden, lol yeah and what’s in it for me? Thank god I didn’t listen to her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 02:02 AM
8

Oh I am
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 01:08 AM
10

They’re using paper money to dry their fake tears no need for support
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 10:15 PM
2

Btw I have no kids of my own just my dog so I’m not that tied down financially
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 09:23 PM
4

I just want someone to share my hobbies with it doesn’t matter if she has to be into it , it’s a plus that if we have something in common. Hang out go see a movie watch a show cook dinner go on a trip have sex. If they have kids cool but don’t expect me to be a father to them or help take care of them. Don’t give me that lame bs line that your kids come first yes no sh!t but if I’m important for you you need to make time for me! Don’t say the “ily”line to tie me down I will say it when I’m ready…
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 07:54 PM
2

Thank u I just bought it on amazon
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 01:57 AM
1

I will give it a read thanks
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 01:56 AM
1

Sorry to hear man how do u even cope with all that?
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 01:56 AM
1

I know, this is a nightmare I just want to end I’m just wondering why I get the shitty end of the stick when I treat someone so good and I get nothing back in return?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 11:46 PM
1

Like I said I wanted a family and she saw me as a financial stability yes I was stupid for marrying her if I had a second chance I would’ve never married her
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 11:28 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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