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Pismo Beach and all the clams we can eat!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/08/22 01:24 AM
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Some random string of DNA has been spared that life.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/07/22 11:09 AM
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14 = 14 words. "We must secure the existence of our people and a future for white children." 88 = 8,8 = 8th letter of the alphabet HH "Heil Hitler"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/22 07:48 PM
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I feel like a white supremacists might really find her a catch
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/22 08:19 PM
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Just read what that means!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/22 08:18 PM
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I think about my current love interest. I need more real than fantasy. I've always had flashes of walking up castle stairs on my way to climax.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:22 AM
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I don't like the word. I cringe when women use it as an insult. It's cheap. It just keeps the negativity and arguments continuing. We're all better than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 03:38 PM
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Can I post a picture of an ex? It's really an example of when you love someone you just do. After he broke up with me, my friend said only 2 people in the world found him attractive, his ex wife and me. Now years later I see that he wasn't attractive, I just didn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 12:40 AM
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I left Bumble on when I went to Germany last year. I'm older (40sF) and was shocked by the quality of all the men swiping on me. I speak German, so I did answer a few back and had great conversations. On the trains, I looked around and really paid attention and realized that it's nothing like what I see in the US. Wish I could move to Germany.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:37 PM
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But men her age may not have stopped growing yet, so she might be passing up on someone who will be 6'3"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/04/22 03:27 PM
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Personally, I judge very attractive people and think they are vapid and would never be able to hold a conversation with me. It's probably wrong of me to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:56 AM
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This might happen more in the 25 and under crowd, but I find it's very rare after.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:54 AM
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Inflation is unstoppable
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/04/22 02:09 AM
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My last 3 years of my marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 09:26 PM
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I can agree with you that American women tend to behave in certain narcissistic ways (some say confident), but American men too. How about Americans in general. We are pretty isolated and fed our own propaganda about our nation's greatness, why wouldn't we be as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:37 PM
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I normally say no. My sister met her husband at work. It's been 22 years. But part of me wonders if they know the conundrum they are in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:58 PM
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Unless it's a tenure protected job
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:32 PM
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When I was young, I saw potential. My (now ex) husband and I supported each other through education, career changes, lay offs and moves. Now, single again, I'm looking for connection. I don't care if my partner makes next to nothing. I do very well and am happy to share. Of course, physical attraction/chemistry is a must, but honestly, what everyone considers a Chad, does not give me the tingles, my exes are just regular guys who take care of themselves with hygiene, grooming, some fitness etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:29 AM
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I'm fine with it. Sometimes I'm tired. I'll make it up to him in the morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:30 AM
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Ah yes I've seen that one here and there. Ty
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 12:56 PM
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What's the sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:37 AM
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If mediocre=missing a connection, I'd rather be alone than miss the chance of finding a connection with someone else. This is why the hypergamy labeled placed on women doesn't make sense for me. I'm not the person to just have someone to wait for something better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 12:19 AM
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NEVER! But he was after my kids were born/divorce. After I came to the realization that it's an awful practice. I do wish I stood up, researched more....
/r/MensRights27/02/22 09:43 PM
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He was not the best, but nothing to do with foreskin.
/r/MensRights27/02/22 06:38 PM
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I'm in my 40s, from NY. So height of the circumcision for health/hygiene era plus a large Jewish population. Edit: for perspective, I've only been intimate with 1 man who was not circumcised. And he was not American.
/r/MensRights27/02/22 06:11 PM
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If I had my boys today, I would not have allowed circumcision to happen at birth I don't know when it hit me. They are teenagers now.
/r/MensRights27/02/22 04:16 PM
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I regret allowing my kids' father to make the decision. I thought he knew best, since he had those parts.
/r/MensRights27/02/22 04:08 PM
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to a lot of women this is a man who will 100% cheat on them or string them along/pump and dump them I usually think this, but this guy's smile didn't give me that vibe. I do think it's probably height.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:37 PM
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I'm the type of person who wouldn't change my name, but I had no loyalty to my father and didn't think twice to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:35 PM
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I'm "old" now (48f) but I think I'm still an 8+ for my age. I don't get approached as much in public as when I was younger, but bc it's a different experience in these years. But when I was younger it was at 75+% of any outings. But I'm sure things are different 25 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 08:53 PM
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I know what you are saying in a long term best meaning, but the post partum experience is intense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:35 AM
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I don't think our society (especially the more conservative part of it) could morally handle what might come of it. I'd be mostly for it (as a woman). It would eventually lower the lying (which is shameful), but I worry about the high emotions immediately after birth. Both male and female.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:01 AM
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An ex told me about it, among a few other subs. He was very interested in gender debate. He also told me about r/FDS and r/whereareallthegoodmen we never told each other our reddit usernames, so we could be debating at any moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:44 AM
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Learn different perspectives, compassion, empathy. There's no wrong or right.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 12:25 AM
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I'm searching for a connection. I'd rather be single and available when that connection comes, rather than dating someone just to date someone/not be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:10 AM
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Whether I have a partner or not, I've never liked the day. I'll treat it like any Monday and go to the gym with my son.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 01:30 AM
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Men say it a decent amount of time too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/02/22 02:47 PM
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Yes, but just because I support a person's choice to use their body how they see fit, doesn't mean that I would do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 12:22 AM
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IDK Rubens women are large. I would say plus size in today's clothing. Minimum 14/16. ​ But you bring up an interesting point. There is a correlation between poverty and obesity. Of course there are many facets affecting that, but I wonder if one is a psychological one. Is there a study of BMI vs wealth?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 12:17 AM
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Yet in renaissance times, larger women were desired for being wealthy (could afford extra food)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 01:14 AM
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Lol. That's actually pretty funny. I'm happy to say I'm the same weight I was in HS and I was an All county runner, so I wasn't fat then. But I get it. There is something about making yourself feel better, by putting others down. It's not the way I roll, but I hope I helped your self esteem a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 04:17 PM
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I see your point. I'm just in a different place in life. I met my ex in 1999 before half of PPD peeps were born. I've evolved, learned, broadened myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:00 PM
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Now that I'm divorced, I prefer someone who doesn't want to get married
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:57 AM
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You might be right. My father was not reliable at holding a job. My mother always had a steady job. I married someone without a HS degree (I have graduate degree) and I earned more than him probably half of our marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:52 AM
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Is it just this young generation? I drove my HS sons to school after a car accident. We were all fine, but the car didn't look it (was drive-able). I'll never forget this little shitface teenage girl who saw my car and burst out laughing and pointing. Is Gen Z just embracing Schadenfreude?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 01:20 AM
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I like reading different perspectives. Whether I agree with them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 11:56 AM
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I definitely see the double standards For me, as a GenX, I fear making first move, because it's never worked. In my head, I think if he's not making first move, he's not interested. I know it's somewhat BS, but I'm not trained enough to figure out the nuances.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 11:43 AM
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The only way FDS or TRP work IMO is the thrill of the chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 10:54 AM
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Is a pump and dump man quality? Just bc it's pretty doesn't mean it's quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 11:48 PM
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The old quality vs quantity debate I half joke as I've met some lovely men OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:34 PM
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quality chicks aren't doing OLD Quality men aren't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:15 PM
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British boyfriend had me watch Inbetweeners. I had to double back all the times he called me fit. I just thought he meant I was such a great athlete!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/22 10:46 PM
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It reminds me of the pipe my 88 yo father used to smoke.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/22 10:42 PM
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Well hello Mr. Bot! Are you single? I like when a potential suitors challenges my brain.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/22 10:37 PM
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Whenever I'm looking for a potential mate to settle down with, I like to flip off potential suitors.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/22 10:35 PM
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No hw for me. You claim average bf is chubby. That is subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:11 PM
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Anything under 1# visceral fat is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:11 PM
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Depends which part? Overall I'm 24.1% according to my last scan. Like most women, my hips are higher, but I only have .62 # of visceral fat (around organs), so I feel that is a good indicator of how fit I am. Especially in my 40s Edit. I'm a 4 tall, sometimes a 2, sometimes a 6 (depending on brand). XS (only if tall size) or S. 5'7"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:55 AM
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I bet she's beautiful, inside and out. But you said 4 is chubby and she's an 8 and not chubby. Make up your mind man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:49 AM
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I get scanned every 6-12 months. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:39 AM
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I just looked up a conversion. Seems 38 is a US 8 Does your wife know you think she's chubby?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:38 AM
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Wait. That chart says 25-31%BF is average. Does average mean chubby?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:34 AM
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4 is not chubby when you're tall!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:29 AM
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Agreed. Seinfeld was more accurate of the time then Friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 07:18 AM
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It reminds me of Hitch. He advised men to lean in 90% of the way for a kiss and then stop. The last 10% is the woman's decision. But that's not verbal I have had a few first dates when the man has said "I really want to kiss you right now" But my therapist gave this advice to me to give my 16 yo son. At each new step of the process, he can use the phrases like "is this ok?". "do you like this? ". Etc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:41 AM
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Here's the thing. I'm fit, highly educated, well paid. I'm single because I don't want to be with just anyone. I want someone with whom I mentally connect. I'm comfortable being single because I understand that the mental connection I'm looking for is not common. I don't want to be in just any relationship and miss that connection. That's why hypergamy is so strange to me. I guess it's just not my style. But surround yourself with college educated people. 90% of my friend circle have degrees and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:30 PM
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The more I read this sub, the more I see that "pump and dump" essentially equals hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:32 PM
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Buddha would be proud, but that would lead to suffering
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:09 AM
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Growing up , we had a pedestal coffee table. No stubbing toes. Wonder who designed it? ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:23 AM
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The quality experience is better on sites you have to match before chatting. Make a female account on plenty of fish and come back to report.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:20 AM
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So you're talking about 1-1.5% of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:25 AM
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My oldest and youngest want university. My middle guy who knows, but I would support him through trade school if he has a plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:45 AM
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My wedding was around $40k if we include rings and honeymoon. And that was 2002. I don't regret it, even now that I'm divorced. My parents picked up ~1/2. They are not wealthy, but made good financial decisions which they passed in to me. Would I do it for my daughter? Ask me after I pay for 3 to go to university and then I'll reassess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:00 PM
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Do you mean AMT? I'll agree with you there. I am not the person AMT was designed for, but I got hit every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:53 PM
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The year before divorce was final I figured out my taxes married and married filing separate. I owed $4K more if filing separately.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:50 PM
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Not true. Married income is taxed at a different rate than single. It's really discrimination to the singles.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:46 PM
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Ex-husband was on my medical insurance almost our entire marriage. Plus the tax benefit is significant. Luckily I'm head of household now, so it's similar, but once my youngest ages out, it won't be worth it for me to work (as I get a nice pension without state taxes taken out) Not to mention I grew 3 humans in my body. I don't feel the same now, but I don't think I would have had children with him if we weren't married. Oh and he had awful credit before we married. So he had my good credit as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:46 PM
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I hate the term. I don't think I even know one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 02:06 AM
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As a woman, I am an emotional mess with rejection and internalize it. It's awful
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 10:59 PM
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I can't shake it off ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 10:58 PM
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I don't shake it off or hide it well! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 10:56 PM
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I work out for me. My primary goal is performance. That's an intrinsic reward for me But when I look good, I also feel good
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 01:11 PM
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Thank you. I needed that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 04:52 AM
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I suppose it's whatever is perceived.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 11:40 AM
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I think women wait as well. I did because I thought that men were less emotional, so I didn't want to be premature or overbearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 11:38 AM
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Yes. I tend to be an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 11:37 AM
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Don't hurt me no more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:56 PM
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Why difference urban vs rural?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:53 PM
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Ita with minimum 6 months
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:52 PM
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The exact number is just the number that represents the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:22 PM
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My experience doesn't really skew this way. I hope they don't feel the need to hide
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:21 PM
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I'm a complete coward. I fully admit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:20 PM
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I like that. You feel the connection right away
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:19 PM
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You don't realize when it happens. My ex-husband gained 80 pounds. I didn't "realize" it until he lost it and we looked back at pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 08:09 PM
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I'm so happy this is currently the top comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 07:53 PM
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I think the same can be said about men. But those who use it as a growth catalyst are the ones to grab. Probably low %, but I tend to be hopeful about humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 01:30 PM
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I get you. Timing sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 02:46 AM
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The hope is that someone comes out of a relationship around the same time as you. And while I do agree with you that single people maybe be single for a reason, I think some are picky and want to find their person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 12:51 AM
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I'll never forget when we lost our cat and my exH kicked a box and started crying. It was such a tender moment. Even though we are now divorced, I still look back at that as a positive part of his personality. **We found the cat, she crawled into a wall edit: I rarely cried for emotional reasons until I had kids. Whatever hormonal change I went through, it's uncontrollable. I well up daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 12:35 AM
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Just curious, do you live in a more rural area? I wonder if that is a correlation. I personally get "hot" often. Most of my friends are equally intelligent and attractive. But I live in NYC area.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 01:57 PM
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Like my time with my kids and friends too, but a quiet house, a cuppa tea and a book that's calling my name!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:34 PM
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I'm laughing, because I teach coding, have been investing in stock market since 12, and started out as a poli sci major. Who's stereotyping now?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:34 PM
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In my 20s I backpacked through Europe and studied in China and traveled the Silk Road. Not to mentioned earned my first graduate degree and solidified my career. Spent extended time in Spain, Germany and Mexico. Married, homeowner, moved to a new city 3000 m away. It's not war, but I hope I can instill that sense in my sons and daughter. But I see your point when people don't have that drive, it would be easy to fall into that traditional role of someone taking care of you. I tried the SAHM thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:32 PM
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I was trying to be brief. I definitely know him on a deeper level. He had cancer when he was young. We didn't leave his side for more than 5 min. I am that young man's biggest fan. Now he has his friends and does his thing, like I did when I was 16. I rarely hung out with my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:22 PM
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I'm so sorry you feel that way. I can see why you want to GYOW. Heartbreak is debilitating and agonizing. I don't wish it in anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:55 AM
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Thank you. I appreciate the sharing. It has widened my view.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:51 AM
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We are not not close. He's a shy introvert, so no long chats over coffee, but he comes to me if he needs something and will watch Thor Ragnarok with me on my birthday.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:21 AM
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Valid reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:22 AM
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I'm glad I'm not alone. I started to feel like I live in a bizarro world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:22 AM
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No, I'm upper and we'll educated. I did initiate my divorce (I suppose bc I could support myself easily), but there was no one to take his place.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:15 AM
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I am super social. I work with mostly women too. I just don't see it. Maybe one women I work with I could argue does something like this, but she's quite clear that she doesn't want relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:13 AM
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I really like my alone time as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:12 AM
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I know what it is, but honestly, I don't know and never have known any woman that had another man lined up before breaking up. I can see it sounds crazy to people who have experienced it, especially multiple times, but I truly have never witnessed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:11 AM
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I'm so sorry you went through that. Heartache can be so intense. I'd rather recover from hernia surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:09 AM
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most girls are very basic, boring and not very smart to be honest, all they have to offer is sex I laughed at this a little, because this is how I feel about most men. But the ones that aren't basic or boring and mentally stimulate me... Those are the needles I'm looking for in this crazy haystack.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:08 AM
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That's an interesting correlation. I have post graduate degrees, very comfortable, but divorced (I initiated, no relationship after) and never cheated. From this thread, I'm learning that I am an outlier, when I've gone so long thinking I was the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:03 AM
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Point taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 11:57 PM
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I can appreciate the stereotype, but there are all parts of the political spectrum represented, but runners are more likely to lean left. But there are definitely those that lean tight and are far right. I run with quite a few. Running is not bad for knees and joints (I've been running since 12, no injuries) but if you already have a knee issue, it can be a problem. But I understand it's not for everyone. It's just pretty easy way to meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 11:55 PM
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Thank you for sharing and giving me insight into your experience. I wish I could help you somehow connect with your love interest. I won't give advice because I usually do the wrong thing. I'm going to send positive vibes your way that you get a shot with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 11:51 PM
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This is a great summary of the answers I've been reading in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 09:45 PM
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As a woman, it's hard for me to confide to male friends about my love interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 09:43 PM
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Thank you. If I wait until 18, he'll be away at University and wouldn't even notice I'm gone. Do you think that's better?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 09:41 PM
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Do you run? I find running clubs to be a great social club for healthy people
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 09:40 PM
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I'm with you there, but I did it once and got out relatively unscathed. Not taking my chances again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 09:38 PM
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First, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you both had that time together. Second, while I don't agree with everything that you said, I really appreciate how you took the time out to calmly and rationally write that all out. I definitely did see things from your perspective and some I actually agree with. You seem like someone who can have a killer debate where you feel challenged and heard, yet learned something as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 09:37 PM
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My last heartbreak was so rough I can understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:09 PM
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I don't blame him. I understand it completely. I just feel bad that they are both miserable together. Where I do blame both is that they had another child to try to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:08 PM
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I hate hearing this. I feel really naive about it despite my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:07 PM
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I'm sorry about this, but happy about your transformation to healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:06 PM
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I guess it also gives me rose colored glasses about humanity. Not sure if that's bad or good
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:01 PM
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I don't know why people fight to keep their children away from their other parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 11:57 AM
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I'm so sorry! I wish I understood it could explain why she did that. But you still have that glimmer and that gives me hope. There are good people out there. The hurt can be so bad, but the highs make the risk worth it it. {{{Hugs}}}
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 10:36 AM
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I am understanding it more. In my head, I see it as partially Obi Wan Kanobi, part Aragorn
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 05:06 AM
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All these stories have definitely helped me see different perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 05:02 AM
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I am a woman. In my circle of friends throughout the years, I don't know of it happening. But I think it's partially socioeconomic and education level. Not that these women are immune to doing such thing, but it seems it happens less often.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 05:01 AM
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One of my great heartbreaks was friends catching feels. Unfortunately, he ceased being a friend when helped about getting a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 04:59 AM
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I'm beginning to see this pattern in the responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 04:55 AM
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Not having time is OK. I see you growing as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 04:52 AM
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I'm sorry she ended things that way. Unimaginable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 04:51 AM
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Someone I know is planning to become a hermit/MGTOW. I wonder if it's more social anxiety. I think he distrusts men & women equally
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:48 AM
2

You know what you want! That's a beautiful thing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:44 AM
2

Oh man. I'm sorry. Heartbreak is some of the worst hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:43 AM
1

That's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:11 AM
9

How many stories have you heard where the woman initiated the end of a relationship and within days is moved in with the next guy? This is what gets me about this sub. I don't know any women who do or have done this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:58 AM
3

Sometimes the onion ninjas are needed. It's cathartic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:53 AM
9

I'm mad for you. No matter what my ex did to me, he loves our kids and our kids love him. I could never do that to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:51 AM
24

I really appreciate this response.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:45 AM
3

I'm glad she took the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:18 AM
6

I'm sorry. That sounds awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:16 AM
2

I have a chance to study abroad for 4 months . My plan was to take 2/3 kids with me (11& 15), but leave 17 yo with dad. Of course if he wanted to go, I would take him. Do you think I should wait until he is 18? Do you think he'd feel abandoned?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:23 AM
2

I can see how that can have a profound effect on someone. I'm divorced and don't wish to remarry, but do want a LTR. But my divorce was very fair and amicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:18 AM
2

I'm sorry. Did she see you? As a mother I can't imagine this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:16 AM
2

Not MGTOW, but I am choosing to be single atm for a personal growth period. This is a beautiful thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:56 PM
1

I can understand this. My only experience of divorce was my neighbors' dad completely abandoned them. Not going to lie that it didn't affect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:51 PM
6

Well narwhals do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:45 PM
1

Yes, I see that, but I'm thinking about the men who have yet to get to that breaking point. I know I've read that men get very few compliments, I need to be more cognizant of doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:44 PM
6

Thank you for your honesty. Honestly, I'm working on the just being friendly life. No flirting or pursuing. It seems that puts people on different levels, but when friendly evolves, it makes the relationship better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:41 PM
3

If you did meet that unicorn, would you pursue her?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:37 PM
8

What a shame. I have a friend who is staying in a marriage because his wife has threatened taking the kids away. No amount of legalese dissipates his worry, so I suppose he's MGTOW in his head at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:36 PM
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That you for being candid and so honest. I'm sorry you had such experiences, but what you wrote here was very expressive and I appreciate that. I do like the idea to better oneself, but not to find a partner, but find some intrinsic value. I can do this after break ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:31 PM
2

I can understand feeling that way. Can you ever envision meeting someone without marriage or children as the end point?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:26 PM
2

I can only speak of people I know. I suppose I have one coworker who is 65 and widow who isn't searching, but I think if someone courted her she would.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:24 PM
1

Is there something society can do to prevent the feeling of banishment?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:22 PM
7

Oh man. I hate thinking about abusive moms. 😕
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:17 PM
7

I'm sure I'm biased, but I know so many good women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:16 PM
3

It's not in my library's Libby, I'll see if I can find a download somewhere. Reading the summary, it doesn't seem like my genre, but I'm willing to listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:16 PM
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So, in your POV, MGTOW only happens from hurt?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:06 PM
2

I can see this pov. I have never been cheated on (to my knowledge), but betrayal is awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:03 PM
1

I'm rooting for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 10:11 PM
2

This is a great point
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 09:49 PM
1

If you made you made it passed 13 years and still want to get married, you might be successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 09:47 PM
3

In my 20s my gym had a room like this and it was awesome. Then a man sued a Lucille Roberts and won and they had to get rid of that room.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:15 PM
1

Do you feel it is empowering, sad, don't really care? Yes, yes, yes. I guess it depends on situation and who it is But I have a 10 year old daughter and if I ever found out she did something like this I would be sad and shocked. I really try to push the importance of not putting much of herself online.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:13 AM
1

I always thought it was because I had a crush on Han Solo AND Darth Vader as a kid, so those two families creating a child! Perfection! I'm probably old enough to be his mother. I won't look up his age.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:51 AM
2

Looks really varied in men I have dated. Being healthy is one commonality, but my ex-husband did become obese during our marriage and I never really noticed until he lost it. He was still very active, so I guess that's the important part. I do like beards, but the man I just started seeing does not have any facial hair, so I guess it's not a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:40 AM
1

I tend to gravitate to them too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:34 AM
1

Yes! In my imagination when people talk about "Chads" I always think of them as dumb or obnoxious or both and I think, why would anyone want to be with a Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:28 AM
1

What is it about Adam Driver? 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:25 AM
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it is important to always understand the limitations of our knowledge 😍 <3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 04:02 PM
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It's always dangerous to oversimplify the female attraction calculus. I love this statement as I never feel like I fit into the female descriptions on this sub Maybe I'm just an outlier, along with my friends, who I don't see do these things either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:36 PM
5

Here's the answer. There is no answer. Some women want attractive, some hard bodies, some intelligence, some humor, some fun, some money, some adventurous, some homebody. This is one dimensional of course. We all know life if multidimensional. If you don't know yourself, it's hard to know what you want in a partner. But sometimes you think you know exactly what you want and someone comes along who breaks the notion of predetermined preferences. TRP advice on working on yourself is good for every…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:30 AM
2

Laughing as a librarian. I get a lot of fetish men on OLD. I didn't know it was such a fantasy. SNL library skit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:36 PM
5

Women, much like men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:27 PM
5

This was a thing in the 90s!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 10:33 AM
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Except that's not your typical plus size female model. I will agree that there isn't the male equivalent to the super plus female model. But that's more about consumer buying. Women more likely want to see themselves in clothes, men are more likely to just buy off the rack.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 09:00 PM
5

Ha! Both are
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 08:53 PM
1

I know that most claim monogamy was just a social/economic system, but there are many studies that maintain that monogamy is an evolved trait in primates and humans to prevent infanticide. As a man, if you want your DNA to live on, you need to protect your woman and baby from other males who will kill your baby and impregnate your woman. Of course, not everyone has this trait. In modern times, it's not as important, so it may evolve away.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 07:29 PM
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I'm a woman and I only know of 2 OF. One I met at a bar and she was with her bf who adored her and doted on her. They were both comfortable with how she made a living. Second I knew for years from a fitness club. We all saw the transition. She seems comfortable with it all and traded in her old Suburu for a suped out BMW, so who am I to say a word? It seems men still fall over her. And she's in her 40s with 2 kids with a decent career as a journalist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 07:05 PM
2

I look for intelligence or more important the ability to hold a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 04:39 PM
1

Yes yours. You said few people get it. I was shocked I qualified for it with my salary
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 02:58 PM
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I make a great salary and qualified for alimony, bc of the income difference. I turned it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 12:32 PM
2

I fully believe this for myself. When I broke up with someone, my friend comforted me by saying only 2 people in the world found him attractive, you and his mother. I do see what she means, but I look at his pictures and I'm still attracted. Would I have if it weren't for his personality/how he made me feel? Idk. I have to think that's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 03:50 PM
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I work in an affluent school district. There are PLENTY of stay at home dads. In fact, one SAHD became best friends with a retired professional athlete as they were always waiting picking up their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 06:15 PM
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I see your point, but please note, I didn't say "most men." I said "man." The 1/10 you speak of. In reality, what I said was tongue in cheek, although dick in cheek is probably more exciting right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:24 AM
4

I think the bigger irony is the man who wants a virgin and then is upset that she is boring in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:41 AM
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I'm older, so maybe I'm just more realistic that everyone has had different life experiences than I have, so it doesn't matter. It probably did when I was younger, but that was more about my own sexual insecurities
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:47 PM
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I had an amicable divorce. He's the father of my children and neither of us want the other hurt or hurting. I wouldn't question a prenup. But that's me. But I also don't want to get married again. But ask me when my youngest is not a dependent anymore and I'm not head of household anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 09:04 PM
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I don't regret my marriage, even now that I'm divorced. The Tex benefits are really huge. But really we both had nothing when we married and built it together. We split everything 50/50, kept our own retirement accounts, I turned down maintenance/alimony, etc. I know some don't believe it. Now that I have assets and kids, I don't have the desire to get married. If I were, it would be with a prenup. But I really don't see the need.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 12:00 PM
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I love this post. Sometimes I read the titles on PPD and can't even bring myself to read the comments. Next time I get an award, I'm coming back to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 01:42 AM
1

No, because when they are not dismissive is the only time I get butterflies.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 11:30 PM
1

I think I asked ex-husband. Idk why. Now that I'm divorced, I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:21 PM
2

Just reading other responses, it definitely seems like an age/experience thing. Older PP don't had, younger ones seem to care more. I think I may have cared more when I was in my 20s. Could it be for vetting a husband/father or immaturity?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 11:45 AM
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For reference, I'm Gen X and most of my friends (then and now) didn't start that early. I'd say 16-18 was norm. My ex-husband was 14 though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 11:31 AM
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Are you younger? 20s I feel like as you get older no one cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 11:26 AM
1

I don't think I have ever dated (including ex-husband) someone out of my league. Maybe I'm an outlier, but average men with brains will always give me the tingles; Chads with no brains will never. Education and career has always been pretty equal too (except I was WAY more educated than ex-husband, but didn't mean he didn't have brains. )
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 06:38 PM
1

Why am I amused that she got into the shower to take the bathroom mirror selfie? I don't think I've ever seen that with men.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/12/21 02:04 PM
2

I lived for setting people up when I was married. Heck even now I would set a 20-something up if I knew someone to set them up with
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 01:17 PM
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Your older female coworkers are your gold. Especially if they are married. They live to set people up. You just have to broadcast the idea you are willing somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:44 AM
2

I can appreciate the visual appearance of a "smoking hot man" but if he's objectifying people, is arrogant, just looking for sex, he loses attractiveness to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:45 PM
2

Good thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:54 PM
2

I think it's ok. I can see the manipulation argument, but it's not malicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:39 PM
1

True, but odds are better with old than new
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:14 AM
1

Perspective and marrying someone who will divorce fairly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:33 AM
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I actually just found out, in my state, if a man remarries and doesn't have a will, new wife only gets 1/3. Kids get 2/3. Found out bc my ex is getting serious with someone and he's too lazy to protect his kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:52 AM
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Doesn't have to be lifetime. A few months into a relationship, I would nurse my partner if sick. I did that for my xH as well, even though it wasn't lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:48 AM
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New pussy doesn't care when your sick or worse .
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:58 AM
3

The guy who thinks I'm hot. Hands down. As long as I'm attracted to him a bit I can imagine he would be obsessed with my body which would make a much better night. I'm not attracted to people who think I, or anyone, are beneath them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:49 AM
1

It's a nice thought. But humans have needs and relationship material isn't always available.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 10:39 AM
3

Back in the day? Not sure how old you are. I'm 47, none of my friends got married before 25. 18-22 we were all in school still. We would have thought anyone getting married then was too young.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:00 AM
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As long as they are not currently sleeping with anyone at the moment, I don't even want to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:30 PM
2

My dad cried when our family dog died and I remember being touched My xH cried on occasion and most, I was touched. Our dog died, our son was diagnosed with cancer, his brother passed away. We were moments from divorce when his brother died and I still held my xH in that moment. Where I didn't appreciate his crying was when he got caught in his lies which ultimately led to our divorce. It could have been authentic tears, but I had no sympathy for him in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 09:12 PM
1

I married bad sex. But there are so many jokes and sitcoms out there saying that married people don't have or have bad sex and thought it was normal. Now I realize that it's an important component of a relationship. Recently I reminiscd about a different ex to a friend. She said, Stop it, the sex wasn't great, you don't want to be stuck in that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:34 AM
2

I think you have a different type of person on this sub. Put the same question on FDS or TRP for more shallow answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:37 PM
3

I agree with this. Music is a great connection
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:33 PM
1

The younger men... Not the women ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:32 AM
1

a man focused on his goals, and sees the fruits of his efforts which spurs him to keep going. That's kind of hot right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:29 AM
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Just FYI. I'm 11 years younger than you and was told not to comment on here. Old people skew data. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:26 AM
2

I like to think of myself as pretty smart, but when I match wits with someone, I definitely find it intimidating at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 08:26 PM
2

I do it all the time. The latest, I went on a date and figure out he was a father in my school. Professionally, I told him I couldn't move forward. We both said we would set each other up. Only I did for him. Years ago , when I was married, xh's friend came out and asked me if I had any friends to set up. My childhood friend had just broken up. Funny they were both there when I met xH and at our wedding, but never talked. They are now married for 13 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 06:38 AM
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I don't mind answering the question when asked. I mind that if someone asks, they don't believe my answer. I'm honest to a fault. Someone had the nerve to say my number must be double bc women only count boyfriends in their number, so my number must be double. The sad part is half my number is boyfriends/husband, so he was right there. He just didn't believe my total. I don't ask, because I know men my age have had sex and it doesn't bother me when, or how many times with how many women. As long…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 09:50 PM
2

I don't know about you, but I always choose my friends based on boob size.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/09/21 04:34 AM
3

This was a great explanation. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:46 PM
2

I babysat my friend's kids for their date night. They were struggling and now years later are pretty strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:54 PM
2

You assumed he divorced me. I should have said there could have been financial ramifications.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:35 PM
1

Ha! I asked for the divorce. There was a betrayal (not infidelity, but had legal and financial ramifications) that led to a complete lack of trust for me and I couldn't get it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:28 PM
2

I have 2 masters and a post grad certificate. I married a high school drop out. We were making around the same amount of money when we met. When we had kids he took a pay cut to be able to work from home with them and I made more for 10 or so years. Of course now that he is making twice as me, we got divorced...lol I made more than my first post-divorce BF (HS grad) - and he broke up with me!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:57 PM
1

Men also have options. I've been 2nd choice in past. I felt better about my MGTOW ex, than ex that dumped me for another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 01:13 AM
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I had someone tell me that they were doing MGTOW. It's so much better than being dumped for another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 07:13 AM
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I will admit that I have an advantage, but connection is connection. The men I feel connection to are not the 20%, but have options too. 2/3 of my post-divorce relationships ended bc the man had options. I'm above average looks, have a great career, am smart, and am not as crazy as most of my friends, but men have options too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:40 PM
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So how did this happen if at the end of the day people just want love? Let go and embrace the rollercoaster ride.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:01 AM
3

Right? The guy who told me about this sub thinks this way too. I feel bad. Almost like people pickle themselves. Even the hurt that comes with heartbreak is worth it. It's part of the beauty and wonder of being human.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:35 PM
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As a woman, I don't want people just following me and my dangled carrots. I want to connect with a man intellectually and physically. It doesn't matter where on the bell curve he is, if I don't connect, I don't want to string him along just to have a man. I'm single, attractive, and have a great salary, could I get a boyfriend? Yes. Do I want any man as my boyfriend? No. Shouldn't that be a good thing? Edit: spelling
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:42 PM
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Even 15 or so years ago, a guy who spent tons of time on his hair, skincare, choosing snazzy outfits, etc. was seen as sort of gay (it's pretty much where the idea of 'metrosexual' came from). I think you are forgetting about glam rock in 70s, new wave and hair bands in the 80s Duran Duran is often linked to the start of metro sexuality. New York Mag John Taylor mentions it in his memoir as well
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 03:10 AM
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I was out to dinner with friends this weekend. After, two of us stayed at the bar for a drink. It turned into a club at 10 and I found myself much older than most of the crowd and did a lot of people watching and I was reminded a lot of my 20s. I really was brought back. I don't think people looked more or less attractive or put together than from my day. It's funny this comes up because I made the connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 03:01 AM
1

Women blame other woman; men blame cheating wife
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:49 PM
1

study
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:48 PM
1

My first thought is that I would be scared to be friends with her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/08/21 02:38 PM
1

Males are NOT hypergamous. Males are polygamous. Not sure if this is the article I read, but the theory days the opposite of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:45 AM
5

Really humans should be cautious of taking advice from anyone on the interwebs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:47 PM
1

At the very least you need to do something. Counseling, date nights, blocking out time in calendar. If she's not willing you have a serious decision to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 03:24 PM
1

Sorry, I meant why isn't her body type idolized anymore. I feel like emaciated is idolized.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/08/21 03:19 PM
2

Thank you for pointing her out. Went to look at pictures of her as I couldn't imagine I look similar. But she's not the emaciated stick of today. It's exactly what I look like in a bikini. She was so idolized, what happened to change that?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/08/21 02:45 PM
3

*nervously went to calculate... .71.. whew
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/08/21 01:24 PM
1

Is there a no pill sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 01:09 PM
1

This seems common in affairs with reconciliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 11:35 AM
3

I agree more with what most people are saying. Humans blame other humans. When men have an affair, the other WOMAN is blamed, which I think is the most fucked up blame around.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 05:27 PM
1

I think he's cute, but eating in pictures isn't always attractive.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/08/21 08:35 AM
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If she were a man, some would say, go and make yourself better. Lose weight, work out etc. The fact is, that's hard and not sure it's the advice she wants.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/08/21 08:29 AM
1

No, neither. She's also taller than him in some heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 04:05 PM
2

I have no idea if my height was to blame. Mostly because men usually aren't as crass as women and verbalize why they are rejecting. But I now wonder if it has stopped someone from approaching me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 12:58 AM
0

a lot of those angry replies come from a place of bitterness and envy. Not bitterness, despair
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 07:32 PM
8

Finally a voice of reason on PPD! Although I was told that "old" people should only read PPD and not comment because the men of 90s don't know anything because they didn't have the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 11:10 AM
1

? I didn't downvote. Sorry that others didn't like what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 09:28 AM
2

My friend met her SO on match August 2020. Seems like they are the real thing. They are talking moving OOS, etc. 40+ crowd though. Not sure if that makes a difference. ETA, he is 5'6, fit, nice looking, blue collar.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 11:38 PM
1

I said HIPAA bc your buddy mentioned the one guy the women claimed to get it from. I get it. Women are whores, STDs are increasing, you are right and I am infinitely wrong. I'm bowing out because it's just not really that important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 10:17 PM
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I can see it's a big issue, but VD has been around for 1000s of years. Kudos to them if they can do it. As for releasing information, seems like a HIPAA violation. That's why I question accuracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:06 PM
1

Or been married for 20 years. Duly noted though
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:04 PM
2

That's too bad. Good knowledge as I have teenagers and need to make sure they understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:09 PM
1

Yes, sorry, I'm just getting back into the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:08 PM
3

My coworker always says "you're the artist." It really has become my mantra in all things. Don't let people tell you how to express yourself or live your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 06:05 PM
1

Pap smears are annual. I'm older, so new/multiple partners don't apply. I do hope people do test before new partners or more likely use condoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:58 PM
1

Goal to rid VD on a college campus!? Ha! How do you know they are female positives? 6% positive testing seems small.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:13 PM
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There is no correlation between increase in testing and that women are getting more STDs. I have yet to go to GYN in almost 2 years. I will of course have STD screening, yet I 99.99% do not have any. Many women have not gone to GYN, bc while annual is ideal, it is not necessary, so there are more going since things are opening up
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:08 PM
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Could it just be women are catching up on their GYN visits after Covid? STDs are routinely tested annually if you are sexually active. Increase in testing does not mean increase in cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:50 PM
2

I personally don't want to go to dinner on a first date if I have not physically met the person. Dinner can be a long time!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:16 PM
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Not bitterness, despair
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/08/21 11:50 AM
2

I see it from that perspective. I was looking at the single being the house for sale waiting for someone to buy it up. I hate that question. Why are you single? Why has no one snatched you up? It's not that simple or maybe I'm too complex for my own good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:35 AM
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You missed my point. I'm talking about someone who wants a LTR, but will wait. They don't settle, not because they want to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:27 AM
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Some "good" people don't want a relationship just to have a relationship. It's not like someone selling a house is going to turn down offers, but people will absolutely turn down people for various reasons, like them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:03 AM
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Yes... Tenfold. In my 30s I really could take or leave sex. At one point I thought I might be asexual. Now I feel like I think about it daily if not hourly sometimes. 47f. I have no signs of pre or perimenopause. I want to say it started ~43
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:11 PM
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Yeah, mine was unchanged at 34. Just wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:48 PM
1

I think it also depends on where a person is in their process when surveyed. I was happier when I got married. I was content for a long time. Then I was happier when I got divorced. Working in getting to the content part in single and then the cycle can continue?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 01:45 PM
1

I feel like women do this for different reasons. Just to have a boyfriend. In HS that's fine, but after that life's too short.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:18 PM
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Similarities and differences between the two aside, I always feel bad for these groups. They prejudge a person based on their gender identity. Instead, just open your heart and see good in people. It's a better ride than being angry. Does only seeing good set you up for being hurt? Absolutely, but it's the rollercoaster of life, you can't appreciate how high it goes, if you don't know how low it goes. I'm just old and don't want to play games in Life Part Deux.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 05:56 PM
1

Yes, but sometimes people say it after being hurt. Not that it makes it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 02:18 PM
1

Yes, but sometimes people say it after being hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 02:17 PM
1

Yes, but sometimes people say it after being hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 02:17 PM
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Isn't it also people not seeing the mirror image of themselves? I read once that humans only see their reverse reflection of themselves, so when they see the non reversed image in a photo it looks strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 08:28 PM
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OLD killed my empathy. After awhile you just throw your hands up and start doing what everyone else does. It took a while to break that and refind my empathy. Honestly, scared to go back on OLD as I don't want to lose my essence again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 04:59 AM
1

I literally got a phone call from XH last week that he got into an accident and he didn't know what his insurance was.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:10 PM
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Yes! Why do we (humans) always want to put labels on ourselves. We can be a mix and sometimes this or sometimes that. Passionate about one thing, but not another. I always feel sad reading this sub. Just embrace life and our fellows humans and enjoy the rollercoaster ride. The highs are thrilling, the lows are gut wrenching, but it levels off and you are usually smiling or shaking your head, WTF just happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:35 PM
3

There was a Seinfeld episode on this
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:12 AM
-1

I was shocked when they said I qualified.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 04:19 PM
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I don't think this is true. I make a really great salary and qualified for maintenance. I turned it down, bc it was a ridiculous notion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 04:02 PM
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I'm with you! Among my friends I am not a minority in this either!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 02:28 PM
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I do see some slight FDS advice on there, but it's better than listening to a 20 something give love advice. I'm not in the same place as them. Not everyone who is single is bitter and dried up. When you're 20 connections are easier to make. More people are single and less life experiences let's you gain those experiences together. When you've gone down a path for 20 years, you do need to look around and figure out where you are before you figure out the next path.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:16 AM
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Humans... Can't live with them, can't live without them. stop giving women on social media free attention. The number of guys on a girl's social media page telling her "oh you're so beautiful" "I would marry you" "I wish you were my gf" is so sad. It achieves nothing. Women will exploit this free attention as much as men give it to them. It is up to men to stop giving this attention away. I wish everyone would stop this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:48 PM
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I know. I have 21 BMI currently and hated that I was 27 at one point. So it's my own mental anguish. I think couples gain weight together and then don't divorce because they know there aren't many options. Even at my weight, I feel most single women are similar to my size. Or maybe because I hang out too much with the running community.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 06:22 PM
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No leniency for when you grow an entire human inside you? I immediately took off all but 5-10 pounds with my first 2. The third took longer. Want to know why? My oldest was diagnosed with cancer when my 3rd was 5 weeks old and I did not make myself a priority for obvious reasons. I don't say this to make you feel bad, but you don't know what is going on in other's lives. I'm a runner and when I started to get back to racing after my son was in remission there was a lot of talk about how much I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 06:11 PM
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I think I look better than her and I'm 47.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/21 05:45 PM
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I am so sorry. I have Jenny friends and I know I need to keep them at a distance. Reading subs like this and one man who turned me into this sub really made me see it clearer. The Jennies of the world has made it harder for the ones who don't know how to play games. The men who want to play, don't like the nonchallenge and the ones who don't want games assume you are playing. Jenny's have made it shitty for everyone. I would go, and tell everyone else to go, my/their own way, but humans need tou…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre04/07/21 05:42 PM
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Do I look like I'm in my 20s at 47? No, but we've all aged. I wouldn't be looking at a 40-something yo man with the same longing at 20 as I do now. But now I don't long for the 20 somethings either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 09:18 PM
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That was my first thought. I'm 5'7 F and I think 5'10 is tall
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 11:33 PM
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I think that all leads to connection. Similar life experiences. Do not want to get married again... But not opposed to a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:23 PM
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Yes, not predatory, but music, films, books, pop culture are too different. Wealth doesn't matter to me. I have my own and not looking to remarry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:43 PM
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20s yes. 40s not much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:13 PM
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I find big age differences is tough making connections. Also, I would never feel safe. A man once told me that men in their 40s will always want a younger woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:05 PM
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Too old for younger men! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:20 PM
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Not for a long time. At my age, most men are married/attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:04 PM
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Yes, I suppose it's by choice. I feel strange looking men in the eye. I do OLD occasionally, but just don't feel connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:04 PM
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Hardly, actually extremely fit. I'm just not flirty. Eyes go to the women men on here complain about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:06 PM
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You think it's worse? I feel like I am unnoticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:42 AM
1

Not a lifestyle I want to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:33 AM
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I'm an active runner in a club. I'm a faster woman, so I tend to run with men. There are men around, but majority woman. I dated one runner and will never again. It's very incestuous (all groups I know) and you see the person all the time after breakup. Not fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:15 AM
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Ugh, the last one is why I'm single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:11 AM
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I don't flirt anymore. I feel like it's never reciprocated and I feel like a fool being rejected. No wonder I'm single.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:05 AM
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Other times I hear from a 3rd party after the fact that a girl was throwing signs at me and I totally missed them. That is when I go what girl? When? How? I'm a woman and this is me. I'm so oblivious to a fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:01 AM
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Where do you live? You can have separate money and still file joint in US for tax benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:04 PM
1

real queens have nobility. Historically, those have been the worst.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/06/21 11:55 AM
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3 years after deciding to separate/divorce. It was a crazy, long, drawn out, albeit amicable, situation. It's probably why I fell for the wrong person after. Hindsight
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:28 AM
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I guess just the culmination of stories of how thoughtless humans are being to each other. I'm coming off a break up so a little emotional in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:23 AM
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Interested in a relationship but looking for a deeper connection than "first basically acceptable guy who seems open to it." This right here. Is it really crazy that I'm looking for a connection? Could I get a* boyfriend? Yes, but I want to be with someone who challenges my mind and makes me think. I'm not the kind of person that can be with someone just to be with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:56 PM
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This thread makes me sad
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:37 PM
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As opposed to cohabitation or LTR (because those should have the love, companionship, yada yada yada .. as well) Tax benefits. The year before my divorce, when separated, I had taxes calculated married jointly and married separately. Holy cajones, separate was THOUSANDS more. Head of household helps this problem, but if you don't have kids, the tax benefit is huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:41 AM
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It's just been my observation, but it's the not as attractive men who tend to be more crude from the get go. But I honestly think they cast a large net and see what they catch. Not as you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:04 AM
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Absolutely not. I'm in my 40s and physical traits have mattered way less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 09:20 PM
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That's the right answer, but some people have very specific times, which makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:48 AM
1

How long is waiting?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:23 AM
7

I call the spot on a man right by the shoulder and chest the nook. It's a perfect pillow.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:41 AM
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I love cuddling with men. Plus I'm very jealous how well men can compartmentalize. It's a skill I want to learn desperately, but seems impossible for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:05 AM
2

Using the nook as a pillow!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 09:55 AM
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I married my best friend. Sounds ideal right? But I wasn't passionate about him. We met at 25, married at 28. Lack of passion was one thing, but being best friends made more happy times than not. After 12 years, I found out about a betrayal. It wasn't infidelity, but it had possible legal and financial implications for the entire family. I tried for 3 years to get over it, but trickle truth makes it hard when he keep discovering lies and cover ups. I'm happy to say that we are amicable. He would…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 11:15 PM
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Change is part of maturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 06:09 PM
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Maybe this is the female equivalent of post nut syndrome?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 06:07 PM
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I always take that answer as it's hypocritical of the woman. If a woman is average 5'4", than the average man 5'9" is 5 inches taller than her. That's a lot!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 06:03 PM
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My advice depends on your age. 20s - take it slow, enjoy the build up and the ride. Anything older... A little waiting is ok, but not as long as 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:58 PM
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Unfortunately this is why. I would totally compliment a man on their muscles if I was sure it would be taken as platonic. But woman talking about men's muscles is a flirting technique, so it's not outrageous for a man to think I was flirting. When I go to the gym, I try not to even make eye contact. I'm so good that one neighbor asked another if I didn't like him because I don't acknowledge him at the gym, when honestly I intentionally try not to notice anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 10:41 PM
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OMG... Too many to list. Unfortunately. I can only hope I am a better person in any future relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 10:15 PM
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If a human makes a mistake, that human should take responsibility. I think both genders do it, women moreso. I know my XH let me get away with things that he probably shouldn't have. (I'm not talking anything big, like cheating, just stupid things like immediately blaming him or having a tantrum). I let him off too, but I made out better. But now back in the dating world, I'm relearning human interactions and reflecting on it. My hope is that with reflection and responsibility, comes forgiveness…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:06 PM
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Fool me once, shame on you /s
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:02 PM
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I'm older (47f), but fit, so maybe I'll skew results, but dad bod all the way. I like touching a slightly flabby belly. As long as the person isn't BMI obese, I appreciate all the bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 04:51 PM
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This is why the written profile IS really important. I have definitely clicked with people who had a great written profile when I wasn't wowed by their pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:54 AM
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I think more than half the women posted fit the problem. Single mothers looking for a man to support them and their children. I'm shocked at how many are pregnant and posting on dating sites. Or stay at home moms. IDK, if I were unemployed, I think I might not yell that fact out?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:06 PM
1

Another reason. I'm really just looking for an equal. Mental and physical
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:42 PM
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It might be a generalization and stereotype but I just feel like they're conceited. Personality means a lot more to me than looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 12:15 PM
2

Do Chads make up the top 20%? I always thought they were like top 1-2%. But I'm not part of that group of women. When I look at those rating charts, I always think 4-5s are cute. Fwiw, I'd rather a 4 than a 10
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 12:19 PM
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A beautiful response. I'm not fully with you, but you have my respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:12 PM
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I'm a fit woman and while I don't mind overweight (BMI overweight), obese/morbidly obese doesn't do it for me.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/05/21 03:08 PM
9

The caffeine withdrawal headache is no joke.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/05/21 03:04 PM
3

I love this comment.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/05/21 02:53 PM
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My kids thought my marriage was perfect. We just did a good job of covering up. It's what you do for your kids.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/05/21 02:52 PM
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For me, self-confidence grew.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:46 PM
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You do whatever you want. To me, now and 20+ years ago when I was there, 18 year olds are not ready to adult in today's society. I was a baby at 18. My friends were too. Are there outliers? Absolutely, but why set them up for a harder life. Do some 18 yo have no choice? Yes, but having teenagers myself right now, I'm not pushing them out of the nest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:51 AM
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For me, at 23, even though I was educated and halfway through a masters, I was a complete idiot. 25 is the new 18... And I this was true 22 years ago too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 03:14 AM
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I made more than my ex for a long time because he had the chance to work from home and spend time with the kids. We recognized that that was something you can't buy. He definitely did 55% of house maintenance and childrearing. We were the same age, but met at 25. Someone 5+ years younger could not have worked for me But now I don't like going more than 5 years older or younger. I feel like you need a certain amount of common pop culture references/experiences. I don't need my partner to make a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:59 AM
1

Yes. This is totally a fear I have as well
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:50 AM
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Ha! Somehow I don't think she's talking about Mr. Miyagi, but I think he would take a Good Guy award.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 10:17 AM
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As a woman, I like coffee in case it's not a connection. You can get out pretty quick. If it goes well, you get a second cup or grab dinner somewhere.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 04:10 AM
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And then complain about dead bedroom because she has no experience to know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 08:05 PM
2

Heart broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:15 AM
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The simple version is that during a break up period I created an OLD account and went on a few meaningless dates to try to make myself feel better I thought the breakup was permanent, but he just needed cooling down time. I didn't get it at the time, but I was using men to make me feel better. I thought I was just getting back on the proverbial horse, but it looked like I was monkey-branching. I completely see it now, but don't know how to make up for it. He doesn't trust me. I'm devastated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 09:52 AM
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I'm 47f and I'm just learning this. Wish I learned it 8 months ago. Because if my stupidity, I lost the perfect-for-me guy. The problem is now I don't want to date anyone, because I know what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:13 PM
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I've been called an outlier before, but I have 2 masters degrees. When I met my ex-H, I made more than him. He never graduated HS. While there are general trends, don't be so quick to miss someone who really might be a unicorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 12:16 AM
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Well that's depressing as a 47f
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 12:11 AM
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I don't really mind the where as long as there is substance in the topic. Commenting on my looks can be awkward and leads to little conversation. Asking how to pick produce, gym routine, book selection will lead to me getting excited by the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 10:30 AM
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but every time, this
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 10:15 PM
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He won't meet. And yes, I know how that sounds. It's such a crazy story.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:00 PM
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There is absolutely no fear about getting pregnant. It's liberating to have sex for literally the sole purpose of enjoyment. Maybe it was my age as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:13 PM
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My tubes are tied. Sex is an incredibly different experience for me now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 08:04 PM
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You know, I always assumed it was much higher. Seems like it is even lower than 35%. Not statistically outliers, however certainly minority. I suppose those upset with these general trends can look at the correlation between not thinking in these terms and people with bachelor degrees or higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 07:52 PM
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We all make observations from our point of view. To me, being educated is the norm and these observations are outliers. That's why I commented. If I lived in Germany, the trend is speaking German, but it doesn't mean everyone in the world (or even in Germany) speaks German, just in my world. My point is there are places in society where these gender behaviors are not general trends. If people are frustrated by these trends, there are places to find a different mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 06:02 PM
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What I'm saying is what many of people in this sub see as general trends, I don't see at all. It's not a general trend in my world. That's the debate. We don't all live in your world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:40 AM
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So many generalized comments in this sub are so off viewing from my world. Maybe because I'm highly educated, as are most the people in my world, but I don't know anyone who fit the generalizations that people make in this sub. The people around me might joke about wanting Staceys and Chads, but we are much deeper than that. If Stacey or Chad can't hold a conversation, participate in a debate, don't know basic high school level information about the world, they are not going to cut it; even if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:01 AM
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Omg .. this is horribly so true! The names I've been called for not telling random men on the internet that they have a beautiful cock are plentiful. And I'm 47. It's not just the young ones!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:24 AM
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Sure the same year... 2010. Ha! I kid. I always appreciate recent pictures. You can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 12:15 PM
1

Thank you for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:59 AM
1

Maybe Agent Smith was right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:36 AM
1

Tell us the 3 stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:24 AM
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Yes, I've noticed this and I feel bad that they feel they need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:24 AM
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Oh did I forget that? That's so wrong!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:21 AM
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I almost give some guys with old pictures a pass because they just don't take pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:19 AM
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I think this was supposed to be a reply to someone and I hit the wrong spot!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:25 PM
1

I completely agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:23 PM
1

And maybe they were a good match. Oh, I'm feeling bad for them now!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:21 PM
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We still do them. I'm not talking catfishing. That hurts someone. But I think about all the time I waste on the internet and I still don't do anything about it .. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:20 PM
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I get a little mascara and lipstick, but I don't know why people make themselves look so different. Authenticity is a big part of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:18 PM
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I'm sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:16 PM
1

I don't know why I play candy crush, but every night in bed I play my 5 rounds... Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:15 PM
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I will say, my first OLD profile, I checked Do not want children, but guess I missed the have kids. I'm glad someone asked me about it. I have no reason to hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:13 PM
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Work it!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:10 PM
1

I got a sales call. I can't even remember for what. I asked the guy, Do you know my name? With so much confidence, he said, "You're name is Mary.". It's not, but I appreciated the moxy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:09 PM
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Very interesting experiment. I don't doubt you got a lot in the beginning. It does dwindle though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:07 PM
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I went to college before photoshop. A girl in my sorority took a sharpie to a picture to make her waist look smaller. I felt bad when someone called her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:06 PM
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And then if they do, how do you explain it to move on?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:04 PM
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I had someone recognize me IRL. I also met a date who turned out to be the father of a student 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:03 PM
1

Do you get a lot of opportunities? I have couples contact me, but it's not something that I'm interested in, but I do wonder if they find their third.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:02 PM
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Lots of things are a silly waste of time that people still do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:00 PM
2

That's technically research.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 11:00 PM
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I always made sure to have a full length photo. I thought that those filters would be annoying for men (specifically men, bc I don't think I have ever seen a man use those filters, at least on OLD), but maybe if they use them, it's a sign that they don't look like their pictures. But can you ask for a regular picture without looking shallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:59 PM
1

I think this happened to me. Someone told me they saw me on a dating site I know I deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:54 PM
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On the show, I've seen exes, people who are seeking revenge, and gender identity reasons. And a lot of people just not confident in themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:53 PM
1

I had that happen. I was a bit annoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:50 PM
1

Dying hair doesn't count... 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:50 PM
1

I have gotten a lot of deep exhales when people meet me. I'm surprised looking like your pictures is not the norm!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:46 PM
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So like George Glass? https://tenor.com/w8rd.gif
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:45 PM
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These are all generalizations. It's no way to live life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 11:01 PM
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Suitable does not have to mean looks finance etc. Suitable to me means a mental counterpart. Maybe it's just who I bring into my circle, but my friends do not practice hypergamy; not do I.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 08:07 PM
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Sure some age harder than others. This is easy to say when you're young. I don't expect 20-30 yos to hit on me (47f). But it doesn't mean that I've hit a wall. Because I know I'm above average in my age range. I'm also rational and calm, which gives bonus points. However, the majority of people in this age are married or in committed relationships. The pool is much smaller. When you are in your 20s, the majority of people are not in marriages/relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 07:16 PM
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Taking care of yourself is important. But I feel like these subs are all about extremes. You are either a Chad or an incel. You are a Thot or a beast. 99.99% of us aren't any of them; we are somewhere on the broad spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 07:11 PM
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Everybody wants a suitable match. Are there women who practice hypergamy? Absolutely. Are there mean who want trophy wives? Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 07:08 PM
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Women are competing too! Especially as you go up in age. The ratio of women to men grows.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 10:56 AM
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At the end of my marriage, I just thought I was asexual. I often think how nice it was being oblivious. But since then, I love the intense feelings of being very sexual. Yes, the hurt sucks, but that feeling is just as intense as the love feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 10:52 AM
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I'm average. In my 20s any time I was out. Many times in public. Now in my 40s it's non existent, but I think that's because the dating pool for my age is much smaller as people are married or assume you are. Although, in the fall, I went to happy hour with a coworker. Nonevetful evening. The next morning, someone messaged me on a dating app that they saw me. Idk, it was a little strange that they didn't make the human connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 10:43 AM
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Your hierarchy makes sense in relation to the fall from the top. When a man falls out of the top position, he goes down 3 positions. When a woman falls from top, it's only a loss of one. I feel like I see more bitterness from men on here and maybe this is the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 10:31 AM
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In my 20s, I really cannot remember, but my sister dated and married my brother-in-law who started in his teens. So she didn't mind. My first post-divorce love shaved his head. I was shocked when I learned he had a full head of hair. He just liked the full shaved look. I guess I did too!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 10:23 PM
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Both are extremes. Most people fall into the grey area.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 09:40 PM
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At 47, I've realized that when I overanalyze, I'm usually wrong. I enjoy reading the thoughts and analysis of others on here, but yes, I think it sometimes takes the joy out of living.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 10:19 AM
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Yes. I wear very little in gym bc I get hot and sweaty. I'm very cognizant not to make eye contact with anyone so it's not confused. I'm sure if I wore a baggy T-shirt and leggings I could make eye contact without worry.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 09:35 PM
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I was very lucky in my divorce, we split everything 50/50. Which made sense because we had nothing when we started. I don't want to risk my pension. I suppose I could do a prenup or wait until retirement, but besides tax breaks, I don't see the need. If I hadn't been married before, I'm sure I would want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:48 AM
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ITA with you. Just pointing out the outliers... Me!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 11:22 PM
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Most are, especially 30s. But I think for me (47f) I have no desire to remarry, but would love a LTR to the end. Like Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 09:49 PM
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Yes, I'm only assuming he is lying about something because he refuses to meet me. That is a big catfish sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 07:20 PM
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1st it was he traveled so needed to quarantine. 2nd was this huge backstory he was worried how I would react 3rd he got covid. Long haul of course 4th, 5th, 6th 7th got mad at something innocent I said or made up that I had an OLD account and I was a liar 8th straight up stood me up 9th said he saw me flirting with a man when he walked into restaurant. Completely not the case The gaslighting kept me in for a bit, because I started to believe that I was bad. This last one was 1000% false, so I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 05:05 PM
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I allowed myself to get catfished. I would never have allowed some of the crap if not in a pandemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 01:28 AM
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I think couples gain weight together as well. My ex gained a lot while I was pregnant with my first. We both enjoyed the pregnancy cravings. I never noticed his weight until he lost it and looked back at pictures. Now I think he looks too skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 01:24 AM
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It would be just the tip of what you get with me as a gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 12:44 AM
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That's the whole point of my post! I've had a part in causing the resolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 12:26 AM
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If we were a couple, some days might be hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 12:02 AM
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I'm glad someone got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 11:48 PM
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I suppose it's all about communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 11:38 PM
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I use the word responsible in the same way a man would be responsible in helping with foreplay. It's all part of the fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 11:37 PM
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Not sure how old you are, but this is not ignorance, but experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 11:23 PM
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This is a great reply, but both FDS & MGTOW try to convert. If you don't want to date, don't date. No need to advertise it to the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 09:20 PM
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There is no grey area sometimes. Example: I go to the gym and really mind my own business. I don't make eye contact. I do what I do and leave. My friend told me that her neighbor has said he doesn't think I like (general like) him because I don't acknowledge him at the gym. Another friend goes to same gym and smiles at people. Then she is put in the awkward position of being asked her number.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 09:10 PM
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Too subjective. An ex broke my heart and one of my friends "consoled" me by telling me I was the only person in the world who found him attractive. I still view him as cute even though he was a dick to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 09:01 PM
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Idk, if a guy can't get hard, I do feel responsible. I take responsibility to fix that situation. Usually it means that it's been overused, so I guess that's my fault too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 08:56 PM
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I did chuckle at the wife keeping the Audi.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/04/21 03:26 PM
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Ha! I always thought the duck face was to make your face look slimmer or less wrinkley or something.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/04/21 08:39 PM
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I can see that symbolism, but I see people doing it with family/children in picture. Maybe they don't realize! Ha!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/04/21 08:35 PM
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Why do people do this? I've seen men do it too, but mostly women.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/04/21 02:21 PM
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I'm a fit woman. While it's nice to look at fit male bodies, it's not what I'm attracted to. There's nothing like rubbing your hands on a slightly convex naked belly. Idk. It's does something for me. Not unhealthy weight. But YKWIM
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 12:39 PM
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It's. My friends call themselves queens and I try to ignore it. But I also didn't like the princess term as a kid. When I took my daughter to Disney, I wanted to die the first day everyone called her princess. I put her in Minnie mouse ears and that seemed to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 12:48 PM
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I cringed at that!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/04/21 01:50 AM
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Who's going to these weddings? Maybe I'd go to #2... Maybe. After that, definitely a no.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 01:43 AM
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Eharmony seems the place for CCC recipes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/21 09:23 PM
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It really does seem like women do this. As a woman, I was reading her "list" and thinking why isn't she saying these are her qualities. It would be a great profile then.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/21 09:20 PM
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OR is the author trying to get the average to above average women to have higher standards, so more men will consider the below average women?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/21 08:30 PM
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This was so sad.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/03/21 10:46 AM
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