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Red Pill Theoryyizolo/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 08:39 PM
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Field Reportyizolo/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 09:37 PM
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Rant/Ventingyizolo/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:32 PM
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Field Reportyizolo/r/TheRedPill09/08/15 06:16 PM
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Red Pill Theoryyizolo/r/TheRedPill23/11/15 04:17 PM
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Rant/Ventingyizolo/r/TheRedPill02/02/17 09:48 PM
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Blue Pill Exampleyizolo/r/TheRedPill23/07/15 07:46 PM
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Red Pill Exampleyizolo/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 07:47 PM
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Red Pill Theoryyizolo/r/TheRedPill20/06/15 07:57 PM
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Fitnessyizolo/r/TheRedPill03/11/16 05:56 PM
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Red Pill Theoryyizolo/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 07:27 PM
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Red Pill Theoryyizolo/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 01:03 PM
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Field Reportyizolo/r/TheRedPill07/04/16 08:56 PM
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yizolo/r/ThankTRP22/06/15 02:35 AM
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yizolo/r/askTRP16/06/15 01:12 PM
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yizolo/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:57 PM
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yizolo/r/askTRP20/06/15 05:14 AM
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yizolo/r/askTRP19/06/15 02:00 PM
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That's where I was going with this. Some estimates put the loss of Native Americans at 98%, meaning instead of dealing with the armies of hundreds of thousands like the Spanish conquistadors in Central America, the notion of "Manifest Destiny" stood against armies of no more than a few thousand at most.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/17 02:29 PM
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I agree with trans fats, and if you're having trouble with losing weight the rest is good advice. I've seen the WHO listings for carcinogens that list processed meat at the same level as many non-edibles like plutonium. I would like to know how they came to this conclusion. Is that metric made according to the number of people it effects? The severity on an individual's health? or some other factor(s)? The most convincing evidence I have seen is the similarities between our digestive systems and…
/r/TheRedPill18/08/17 12:42 PM
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It boils down to a poor relationship with failure. Whether it is from poor experiences in the past or none at all for some failing becomes synonymous with becoming a failure. That's why you see so many men asking for step-by-step instruction on how to be a better man. This is a false narrative cemented in many people's psyche. In reality the vast majority of major players in business, politics, technology, investing, athletics, etc. have suffered their share of would-be earth shattering failures…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/17 07:25 PM
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That's what I'd call a functional movement.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/17 09:02 PM
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"Are you gay?" Yes, I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 08:28 PM
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You sound like I did. I was scared to mess with barbells for the fear of hurting myself or looking stupid. In reality if you take it slow and learn proper form it can be really enjoyable and as safe as anything else you could be doing. Barbells are not scary, they are your friend. They will make you big and strong. You can choose to do bodyweight fitness instead. I won't tell you you're wrong to do so, but you'll keep a very lean look. If you want big traps, chest, legs, lats, etc. you need weig…
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 08:22 PM
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On the other side, personally I love lifting. The high I get from pulling a new PR is akin to sex. Really everything regarding fitness interests me whether it's leading strength coaches, triathletes, strongmen, crossfit games athletes, weightlifters, etc. My current routine has me in the gym twice a day 6 days/week. I look forward to my lunch break HIIT session every day. Before starting to lift around the time I found TRP I had no interest in any of it. I do get girls, but they are few and far …
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 08:14 PM
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Let's not get in too much of a fuss about this. These are just clickbait titles like magazine covers at the grocery store. We all know how disgusting Amy Schumer is and how much premium pussy DiCaprio gets on a daily basis.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/16 06:38 PM
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Been a long time since I last logged in: To answer your question, almost nil. I ran ~2 mi/day for a few months to shave off some fat, then stuck completely to lifting. Cardio isn't a bad thing, but bodyfat is determined entirely by your calories in/out. If you eat accordingly you can look good without it. Recently (past 2 mo) I have been getting into doing some HIIT work. They mostly consist of crossfit style workouts, and more than anything I have found a number of weak spots, bad mobility, and…
/r/TheRedPill22/12/16 04:42 PM
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I had a wife and a kid from the time I was 18 until I was 25. I went to college for engineering and worked a full time job. During that time I always made the "I don't have time" excuse. I had time, but I was a lazy fuck and didn't want to put in the effort that diet and exercise required. Now I'm divorced, see my kid on the weekends, work 60-70 hour weeks (travelling most of the time), play guitar, play sports, and see friends all very regularly. Still in the midst of all that I work out 5 time…
/r/askTRP12/08/16 07:43 PM
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Because working out and eating right are not mutually exclusive activities. Regardless of how much you weigh you should do both at the same time.
/r/askTRP26/07/16 01:29 PM
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Keep up all appearances while this is happening. This means continue to act exactly as you have been around your wife. Keep being beta with her, then pull the rug from under her when your lawyer tells you it's time.
/r/askTRP26/07/16 01:26 PM
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The evidence of infidelity is definitely worth having regardless. When I got divorced my lawyer told me straight up my ex would be getting no alimony from me. A lot of it depends on the judge which, if you file, your lawyer should be able to get you a good one.
/r/askTRP26/07/16 01:24 PM
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Let's put it this way. You want to fuck attractive women right? Why not the ugly fat chicks? I'm sure some have GREAT personalities. What if they have a successful career, would that change your mind? Some guys are naturally good looking, played sports and stayed in shape, grew up in an environment where they learned to do all the things they should without TRP. These are the guys those fat chicks are looking at and saying, "Why don't they want me? I shouldn't have to work out or change my beaut…
/r/askTRP18/07/16 06:31 PM
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The best answers you're going to get from this sub is to get in shape and be slutty. We like sluts. They're easy to handle, easy to fuck, and easy to leave when it's not beneficial anymore. That's all a quality guy is going to want from you. Sex. Anything else he gets is icing on the cake, but sex is the only thing he'll get from you that he has to get from a woman. This is not the place for you to ask questions. If you're a guy wanting to fuck attractive women and aren't going to whine about ha…
/r/askTRP18/07/16 06:21 PM
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You don't need specialized attention and advice yet. Everything you will need for a good long while is right this way------>>>>>> Lift and read.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 05:55 PM
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If there is one thing I've learned as an engineer it's that the devil is in the details. Read the book.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 02:53 PM
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Having sex with a travelling woman is like hunting a dodo bird.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/16 02:51 PM
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Playing volleyball last week and the ball was hit way out of bounds. It went close to the corner one of the girls was in. I told her to go get it. She said no. I smiled like a kid who had found a new toy and told her again to get the ball. She just dug her heels in more, and another guy went to get it for her. I said, "Look what you made him do." Later one of my plates who was there told me that girl was pissed at me. She said, "Not every girl is submissive like I am." The same girl acts like a …
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 02:32 PM
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When I see guys like this I want to help them. I want to explain the things they don't understand. Then I realize it's not going to work. They want to keep believing that this is the best they can do. They don't have to work hard. They just have to believe that it will all work out. It's not until they are broken that they can be rebuilt. It's the same with lifting. I'd rather tell guys I just got lucky with genetics and have a high metabolism than tell them I'm in the gym 6 days a week moving s…
/r/TheRedPill21/06/16 05:52 PM
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All I see is a few lazy fucks who would rather hamster their way out rather than do any actual work. "I will never look like that." That's becuase you don't have the mental or physical discipline necessary to achieve it.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 01:39 PM
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If there was a pill that would magically turn her 18 again she would gobble it up faster than any cock and go right back to doing more porn. "I want to work, but can't because of ______." Women making these excuses don't want to work. They want sympathy and a handout.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 06:03 PM
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One of the VPs up the chain where I worked at my first job said to me once, "I am often wrong, but I am never uncertain." Even if he was wrong and was called out on it he still delivered everything in a manner of unshakable confidence. One of the biggest benefits to this was weeding out the yes men, and figuring out who was actually going to give him useful information. That day I decided to adopt that policy. Hasn't failed me yet.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 07:08 PM
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I had heard that sleep cycles can be changed in a relatively short amount of time by changing the times at which you eat. The premise is similar to intermittent fasting in that you stop eating 16 hours before waking up and it will improve your quality of sleep and keep you from waking up in the middle of the night. Apparently the study on this was done by Harvard researcher Clifford Saper. I haven't tried it intentionally, but I usually don't ingest anything more than a protein shake after 1:00 …
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 12:15 PM
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And I had to pay additional taxes for the first time because I got divorced, but still pay child support. Seems like every time I turn around I'm getting financially bitten for not being married anymore.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 08:14 PM
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There was a great post on TRP about this by one of the mods. The Redpill is a toolbox, nothing more. It's centered around male sexual strategy, but extends to other personal and professional pursuits. It's a place where men can share theories and experiences to add to that toolbox. The great thing about tools is that you can use them for an abundance of tasks. You can renovate a house, fix a car, build a bridge, craft furniture, or make a sculpture with the right set of tools. TRP is that toolbo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 07:43 PM
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Last married girl I was with told her husband she was going the mall with a friend, and her friend covered for her.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 02:48 PM
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Just like if I was earning that much, it'd be half his. Anyone who has experienced any kind of marriage where the husband makes enough to support the family knows this is not how women would act in that situation. Rather it follows, "What's yours is ours and what's mine is mine."
/r/TheRedPill14/03/16 04:47 PM
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Anyone who tells you they have the secret to get into women's pants is trying to extort you. Having other shit going on that is more important than pussy goes a long way towards not giving a fuck about it. And when the outcome doesn't matter you're more likely to get it. On a side note, fuck bullet ants. Their bite hurts like you've been shot and that brilliant, white hot pain lasts all goddamn day. I'd rather step in a nest of ground hornets.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/16 07:14 PM
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The problem with marriage, as it exists in most larger countries, is that it presents a huge amount of power to the wife. This power shift makes it far more difficult to maintain the same respect enjoyed outside of a legally binding relationship. Divorce can cripple you financially. In itself it is expensive, not to mention loss of property, alimony, etc. Even prenups can and have been overturned in some cases. My personal experience was somewhat better. I was divorced shortly after graduating c…
/r/askTRP23/02/16 03:56 PM
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Or work harmoniously with other women.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/16 09:10 PM
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Don't argue with idiots Not that they're really idiots, they're just ignorant, blissfully so. Telling someone that the fantasy world they have been living in is a lie is not my job. Let them enjoy it while they can. When I was young I loved knives, still do. In fact it's one of my biggest money sucking hobbies. My father always told me to be careful, not to cut into yourself, keep your fingers out of the way, and of course I all but ignored him. I thought I'd never be dumb enough to hurt myself,…
/r/TheRedPill19/01/16 09:06 PM
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That's assuming women want the same things in men that men want in women.
/r/seduction13/01/16 01:05 AM
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Can't do it man. Early on I tried with a girl that was not that attractive (roughly 5/10), a little overweight, and I couldn't enjoy it. After a few minutes I just gave up. I wonder if this is what women feel like when they pity fuck their beta boyfriends.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 12:33 AM
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No, but she is a friend of friends. She still may come back with something (or someone else post vasectomy), and I would be sure to share my own disappointed pregnant girl story. To I will likely see her again, so I'd rather not make this a hard next. Going do some emotional maintenance so this doesn't come back to bite me.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 05:59 PM
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My aunt has threatened to leave my uncle a couple of times. His response has always been, "Fine, but you are not taking my children from me" and I believe he would spend every penny he has to keep his word on that. To this day they are still together.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 03:45 PM
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If it does rest assured it will end up on here.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:54 PM
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I'm currently inquiring whether my HSA will cover it.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:37 PM
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A TBP post featured my most recent contribution to TRP. I found out through a mention in one of the comments and figured I'd make a response. My comment was met with downvotes, shaming, and discounting my point without any actual argument. In short, they responded just like women. My experience with TRP was entirely different. Not everyone agreed with me. In fact the comments were 50/50 for and against, but at least there was an explanation. People shared their experiences and shed new light on …
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 02:21 AM
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I remember reading something like that once and have referred to AWALT as such ever since. Being a bit of a gun nut it really resonated with me. I don't expect every woman to exemplify these traits, but I am never surprised (and always prepared) when they do.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/15 09:52 PM
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It's amazing how little I say the words, "I'm sorry" now that I consider whether I'm actually regretful or just trying to patch things up.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/15 05:12 AM
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Literally the only difference between my behavior with my 7 year old daughter and women (besides the obvious) is that my daughter actually receives my unconditional love. The teasing, making games out of mundane activities, not taking whining and meaningless complaints seriously, making everyday things exciting and unusual, etc. is all the same.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/15 05:06 AM
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You think there are rules and that's part of your problem. This is something I have been steadily realizing. Instead of agonizing over alpha and beta behaviors I should just be doing what I want. The most important internalization is that in the event a plate falls or an LTR cheats and it ends I will be fine. There will always be more girls available. Even if that weren't true there are plenty of things to enjoy in life other than good pussy. I shouldn't be so attached that I can't add and subtr…
/r/askTRP07/12/15 07:49 PM
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This is in part from my own experience. Not quite as lavish a backdrop, but the general theme is the same.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/15 09:03 PM
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Reminds me of my situation post divorce. My ex (who was barely clearing 16k/year on her own) was taking all the government assistance she could scrape up. Then she came to me before child child support was determined and told me I "owed" her the money. Sure, you can walk out, take my daughter away, have her spend time with your new crutch (boyfriend) because my daughter likes him and he is "good for her", and now I owe you money for it? It was all I could do not to show up at her door, throw a w…
/r/TheRedPill19/10/15 03:30 PM
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You should still be in the noob gains at this point. This means you should be able to gain muscle while burning fat. Just eat higher protein meals and keep your calories to right about what you'd naturally burn in a day without excercise. This should lead to around a 300 cal deficit/day with lifting. You won't gain muscle as fast, but you should still be able to continually lift heavier through the next couple months. After that you'll need to make a choice to bulk, cut, or maintain. There's lot…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 09:28 PM
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I've been doing SL for about 6 months now and started cutting a couple of weeks ago (roughly a 3000-3500 cal deficit/week). Noob gains were great because I was getting stronger while losing weight, but recently I've noticed myself hitting plateaus on every lift except DL, and even that is getting harder. It really has been frustrating. I have switched to a maintain mentality with my lifts until I hit about 15% BF (around 18-19% right now). Then I'll start bulking again.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 09:17 PM
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I started my TRP journey in MRP. There are enough veteran members there that it's obvious there is a way to keep a good RP relationship in the context of marriage. That said, marriage is not a good idea, but an LTR is certainly feasible. You can have a good relationship with a woman, but for newbies to this sub it is going to take a long time to get there. Even then it should never be your purpose to have a relationship with a woman. Your focus should always be on what is going to make your life…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 03:44 PM
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After this month you won't even have to think about it. It will just be part of your routine, like eating, sleeping, and working. Setting goals makes it addictive. I remember starting out Stronglifts and I each time I couldn't wait to add that next 5lb. I was just itching for it.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/15 01:51 PM
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My friend, a little suspicious about the confidence in my assumptions quickly started to agree. A little off topic, but I wanted to touch on this. When stating an "unconventional" (or perhaps I should say unpopular) RP truth, especially to a woman, it bewilders them. I have been told on a few occations by the listening party that they understand what I am saying, but they can't get their heads around why I am so confident about it. It's as if I am telling them the sky is blue or fire is hot. On …
/r/TheRedPill29/09/15 01:31 PM
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In my opinion shaving your head bald is preferrable to balding. Balding is a condition, bald is a choice. I am lucky enough that genetically I won't lose my hair until I am pretty elderly, but when I do start balding noticeably I plan to go this route.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 01:59 PM
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Arrogance is far preferrable to low self-respect. People can forgive a man's arrogance, but not someone who does not respect themselves. Better to overshoot it than fall short of the mark on this one.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 01:56 PM
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I have had a 28 y/o plate for a little while now, and while I have a good time with her I know I have to be cautious because in her phase of life she is looking to pin down a good little BB. She may very well see that in you, so be careful. I'd keep her as a plate for now, especially if she is the only person you are seeing currently. Wait until you have options (3+ plates) before making a decision to upgrade to an LTR.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 01:52 PM
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You did well. Screw machines. The barbell is your new best friend. Hell, it's your woman, your favorite woman. She is more important than any other woman in your life. Learn to treat her well and she will treat you well.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 08:05 PM
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No, I'd rather not text at all.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 02:48 PM
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All men are betas. Attacking a man's manliness is like attacking a woman's uniqueness. People get bent out of shape about it because they know deep down it's true. Here you'll see reformed betas at best. Sure, there comes a point when you can't tell them from the real thing, but our culture stopped allowing men to be men decades ago. The best thing I did for myself was to leave this sub alone for a few months and focus on making myself better socially. You see it on r/asktrp all of the time. Peo…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/15 01:23 PM
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And overall -- try not to text other than setting up meets. Agreed. My humor comes across really badly over text without some kind of lol or face along with it, and I really hate emojis and the like. Agree and amplify doesn't work as well without the shit eating grin. Or worse, I'll say something serious and it will be taken as a joke. In person I can use facial expressions so that what I say is taken how it's meant. Texting is also time that I am expending on a girl without the benifit to me of…
/r/askTRP11/09/15 12:38 PM
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I have female friends within groups, but I have no close female friends. They are all held at a very long arm's length. The only girls I am any closer to are the ones I am fucking. I make a quick choice when meeting a new girl. I'll either decide to try and plate her or be friends with her (or completely ignore her). This, of course, is largely based on attractiveness, and once I have made that choice she cannot go from one to the other.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 12:10 PM
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Your skin color is a part of you. You can't change it. Come to terms with it, get over it, and quit allowing it to control you. You should already be trying to become more masculine, have better game, a better career, and all that other sidebar wisdom regardless of your skin color.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 09:08 PM
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Things can get really boring really fast in a cohabitation situation, and you can never not be on your guard as far as game goes. It's exhausting to say the least, unless you have total mastery over her shit tests. I would strongly suggest against it.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 08:59 PM
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Looks alone get you laid in your league. Game allows you to surpass it. You have to learn to project confidence in everything you do. Speak loudly, slowly, and clearly. Sit back, be relaxed, keep open body posture and smile. If you really are confident and don't care what people think of you this all becomes second nature.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 08:56 PM
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it's just too hard... Then you should just give up. Seriously, nobody here is going to feel sorry for you. Of course it's fucking hard. Being a man is hard.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:51 PM
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You have to get out and practice. I can't stress it enough. I actually took a couple months break from asking questions here simply to focus on my own development. I forced myself to talk to people, formed a group of friends, and made my way to a more dominant position among them (leading, making decisions for the group, etc.). It took time and patience and no small amount of trial and error. You can only learn so much from your computer screen. In order for the things here to really sink in you…
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:41 PM
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My advice is to forget about her. Keep reading, learning, building, and improving. You are not trying to get girls to do anything, especially at 17. Your focus should be on yourself. As you become more high value, as you improve socially, physically, professionally and personally you will become the kind of man women want to be with.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:34 PM
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If OP sticks to it he'll be crushing it in his 20s/30s. It's enough to bring a tear to your eye.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 06:59 PM
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With women I am not interested in fucking I like to mess with them. I'm honest about the dichotomy of what men and women want in each other. It attacks their sense of being unique (one of the most fragile parts of a woman's phyche) and makes their hamsters go balistic. What really gets them frustrated/aroused is when you are confident enough to stick to what you are saying despite a group of women telling you you're wrong. They're so used to guys backing down that they literally have no idea wha…
/r/askTRP09/09/15 06:46 PM
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This is what the text should look like within a few messages. She has already decided if she wants to see you. If she says yes or suggests a different time when she will be available then she is interested. If she gives an excuse with no other suggestions then you can stop wasting your time.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 06:35 PM
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"The fact you haven't given it to me yet makes me question your taste."
/r/askTRP09/09/15 06:22 PM
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I just wouldn't respond. You don't need her, so it's fine if she doesn't want to see you again. Let that hamster get some exercise. I'm sure you can turn it around if you want, but to me it's too much effort to put into a girl.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 06:13 PM
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This is very true. There is a couple within my group of friends: The wife is very successful. The husband is really more of a jokester. He is also not terribly good looking, confident, or strong. He's basically an adult version of Bobby Hill. But they work. I have no idea why, but they have been together for about 20 years and still going on very well. The problem is that people take these situations as the rule rather than outliers. Just because there are a dozen guys that fit into a size 17 sh…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/15 03:25 PM
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I've been with women who are a bit below what I would normally go for. Not way below, but still less than what I was used to. Back in my beta days the girl I married was very attractive, or rather became very attractive while we were dating (dated since high school). I'd say roughly (HB9/10). Very petite, athletic, etc. I wouldn't go back to her even for just a fuck at this point, but I won't take away the fact she is good looking. It really caused me some trouble in the beginning after the divo…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/15 03:11 PM
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After I stopped apologizing for shit just to make people feel better and stopped really caring what other people (especially women) thought of me the responses to shit tests came naturally. Either that or they are met with silence. When starting out I literally ignored most shit tests. If I didn't have a good response I was silent. It's important to still project confidence in your look and in your stance when this happens. You cannot be shaken in the least.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 09:10 PM
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You're right. That is an important distinction between love and respect. Even when I upset that girl the other day I did not feel sorry for her. I knew she was trying to be manipulative, protect her pride and garner people to her. She just had no idea what she was up against.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 12:55 PM
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I find that I can respect them more as something completely different. Hypergamy, while being a bitch to come to terms with, is just as much a part of their nature as our own manliness. I cannot empathize with it, but I can respect it. Also, I agree with being able to love women more. Some of the most beautiful things are completely temporary. Letting go of the idea that a relationship should last forever has allowed me to relax and enjoy my time with women for what it is. I'm not concerned with…
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 11:58 AM
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Here are a few of my favorites: Gains: "It is a shame for a man to grow old and not know the strength and beauty of which his body is capable." -Socrates It is also a shame for a woman not to know it. Personal: "A human being man should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pit…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 07:08 PM
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My affairs will help our marriage. Jeesus that's a strong hamster. I can't help but think of myself when I read this guy's story. Women don't feel guilt. They can rationalize any behavior in their own minds. I'm sure I have no idea what all really went on in my marriage, but I am glad I'm not that person anymore.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/15 05:28 PM
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It's fire. You have to have fire in your stare, in your touch, and in your speech. You can't just do something and expect results. You have to mean it. When someone high value gives others real attention like that they light up like fucking Christmas.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 07:26 PM
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If you have to resort to physical violence, be it with a man or woman that doesn't mean defending your life you've lost frame. You do what you want to better your life. Career, hobbies, goals, fitness, etc. are your priority. Women are meant to be a side effect, not the cause. Don't cheat on an LTR. It's tentamount to lying, and your integrity/reputation is worth more than a fuck.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 01:04 PM
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I also live with my folks. Married for 7 years and had to move back in to afford lawyer fees (divorce). Luckily I will be out in a few months, but for now I just hang out downtown on the weekends and go back to the girl's place. My parent's house is pretty far away, so it's easy to make that an excuse to not go back to my place. Whether I meet up with a plate, another girl or just some friends I make sure that going out was worth my time.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 02:32 PM
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The reason so many guys are insecure about this is because women use 6' as the benchmark for an attractive guy. I am 5'10" and while I wouldn't mind those last couple of inches it really doesn't bother me. A good physique and an IDGAF attitude will make up for it in spades.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 02:18 PM
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Fuck being lean and toned for the time being. Eat big (hit those macros) and lift big. Lift as heavy as you can go with good form (5x5 is a fantastic way to do this). You want to focus on adding muscle. You can always cut later to make yourself more defined, but if you're being labeled as "cute" you need more muscle mass.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 02:14 PM
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I'm glad it won't happen again. The fallout once you realize she doesn't feel the same way anymore isn't worth that rush in the beginning. Women's do love, but it's fickle. Hypergamy is a bitch if you aren't on your best game all the time, and even then there will always be someone better. I still like the game. It's enjoyable and enlightening when you know what the hell you're doing. And it is still exciting being with a girl you like. It's a good feeling, I just know better than to trust it.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 02:04 PM
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It's called the red pill for a reason. There really is no way back the way you came. You can't plug back in. If you try to go back to a BP existence you will simply get stuck in the anger phase once you can no longer deny what TRP teaches.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 01:52 PM
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HIIT. 30 second all out sprint, 2 minute walk. Repeat. There has been a lot of reasearch done on this kind of cardio training and I have found it to be better suited for me (and less boring) than simply running at a steady pace for a few miles. It would seem that HIIT is better than traditional cardio, but you should try both and see what works best for your body.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 01:46 PM
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I've met tons of girls through hiking, camping, volleyball, climbing, etc. These girls tend to be better because they actually get off their asses and do things. I love to be outside, and if she loves it too it's all the more fun to spend time with her.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/15 09:21 PM
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Shoes make or break your look. Women especially will notice this. There is a real stereotype for shoes to be a woman's thing, but men need to realize the importance of the right footwear. You can have a great thing going on with your clothes, but if you're wearing an old pair of sneakers it's going to ruin it. Get some quality dress shoes, loafers, whatever is your deal.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/15 09:05 PM
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It's really not that hard to just fucking talk to people. Say hi, ask them how's it going, something simple. If they are interested they'll talk. Put pressure on them to contribute to the conversation during an awkward silence. Look at them as if you expect them to say something, take a drink, stretch, let them know you are comfortable. And if it falls flat say it was nice meeting them and move on. I just had a great conversation last night with this Spanish girl about her home in Barcelona. I l…
/r/TheRedPill12/08/15 08:33 PM
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Haven't been to this sub in a while, but you could use this: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3dalxv/dont_talk_to_me_like_a_bitch/?ref=search_posts We all came from shitty BP existences. We were there, and we worked/are working to change that. I'm going to tell you the same thing me and most everyone else here had to learn. The same thing you will see parroted throughout this network: Read the Sidebar Learn. Lurk the main site. Get angry. Lift weights. Nobody here is going to hold yo…
/r/becomeaman11/08/15 08:04 PM
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I have said this from the time I first read the sidebar material of TRP: Women are simply a side effect of being a great man. Focus on yourself. Improve professionally, socially, physically and mentally and women will naturally be drawn to you. The more I improve, the more I practice, the more this becomes true.
/r/becomeaman11/08/15 07:34 PM
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In the midst of my divorce my ex-wife started dating someone else. All I told him was that if he hurt my daughter in any way I would hunt him and spend an unnecessary amount of time with him somewhere no one could hear him scream. The guy is 6'6", stands a head taller than me, and is a hopeless captain save-a-ho emotional tampon (my ex is going to destroy him). I could see the fear in his eyes.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/15 02:16 AM
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Ha! I'm 25, so pretty much in the same boat as you were a decade ago.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/15 01:50 AM
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I stick to a 400-500 a day deficiency and focus on HIIT to burn the fat. I don't like it because my gains aren't as good, but it's a necessary sacrifice to have that godlike shirtless physique.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 07:46 PM
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Yeah, I had to lose quite a bit before I was comfortable with that. Just wore a tank for a while. Now most of the guys either don't look as good as I do or wear shirts. There is one guy in particular that I have become friends with who is pretty cut. I am bigger, just not as defined. It keeps me motivated during cutting.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 07:37 PM
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Sports mostly. Volleyball, kickball, capture the flag, hiking, camping, etc. We also do cookouts and some weekend trips. What really makes it great is the level of involvement our group organizer has. He puts together a lot of events and is good about getting input from the group.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 07:01 PM
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Good point. Another one of my rules is not to live with a woman you don't intend to marry, so I'm covered there.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 04:18 PM
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In the first month after finding TRP I thought to myself, "Maybe I'll get married when I am around 35 or so. That way I have plenty of time to build myself and figure out how to work a RP relationship." Now I think, "I am never getting married." Zero benifits over LTRs and a whole load of legal and financial bullshit. Best we never forget that AWALT.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 01:28 PM
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That's pretty much what I was dealing with s few months ago here. All my friends moved away during/after college. I started from scratch and my social circle has grown exponentially since then. In fact I traveled to Denver this past weekend and meet a ton of people through crashing a corporate party in the hotel next to mine and hitting a club I happened to pass by one night.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 12:25 PM
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Meetups. I was in college for engineering, lived off campus, and didn't really make any friends while I was there. After college I joined a couple of Meetups that did a lot of events and met tons of new people. I live in a city of about 200k, so the downtown area is small enough that I almost always can run into someone I know on a Friday/Saturday night.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 03:27 AM
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The key here is not what you tease her about or even what you say. Usually mine come situationally. I'll make comments on how I don't like something she is wearing or if I think her opinion on something is stupid. Sometimes I will tease her about where she comes from or what her job is. These are things that would come across badly over text, but the way I hold myself as I say it makes all the difference. First off, touch her. Teasing is a great opportunity to open up physical contact with a tou…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 03:15 PM
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Day 2: slept 8 hours from 11pm to 7am.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/15 02:50 PM
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I will take part in this challenge. Last night was 8.5 hours. Hammock camping from 11pm to 7:30am.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/15 11:18 PM
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I started to incorporate some video games back in after 4 months without them. Now I find that they are only enjoyable for about an hour. After that I have to get up and do something else. It used to be an escape, but now my life is better and I don't want to escape it. I don't do TV anymore, but I do watch movies from time to time. Netflix was especially cancerous for me. I could spend an entire day doing nothing but binge watching a whole season.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/15 06:09 PM
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Agreed. Did you know the Bible calls men to love their wives as Christ loved the church, but does not give the same charge to women? Instead it tells them to submit to their husbands. It shows an understanding of the difference in the love of a man and the love of a woman. It also lays a framework for a happy, successful LTR. The man must be strong, consistent, unbreakable, and have an unconditional love for his wife. He is the rock in the storm. Even if she wavers he will not. This is the kind …
/r/TheRedPill24/07/15 12:29 PM
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Rule 1 of TRP: Don't talk about TRP. Rule 2 of TRP: Don't fucking talk about TRP.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 07:22 PM
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I have read a lot of MRP. They seem to know what they are doing. I have absolutely no intention of getting married now, but I wanted to promise myself that I would practice TRP for at least a decade before the thought seriously crossed my mind. It may be very likely that I will still not want that then.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/15 05:32 AM
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Thanks for the comment. I had sat on this post for a while. I wanted to get all of the important information in. As for the last part I get what you mean about not using any excuse to miss workouts. I had hurt my elbows from bending my wrists during barbell rows (Golfer's elbow I think). I was really worried for a while that it would take a long time to heal. Luckily it was mild and healed in about week of stretching properly and not doing any back or arm exercises. Just months ago I would have …
/r/TheRedPill02/07/15 02:21 AM
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My monk mode will last for 3 months (the time it takes for my divorce to go through). I do plan to socialize once or twice a week. I am part of a group that does volleyball weekly among other activities. This is something I did not do while married, so I will not stay absolutely secluded in monk mode. However I will not pursue any kind of relationship with a woman during those months. The last thing I want to do is sink myself into the same situation again. The big thing for me is the detachment…
/r/TheRedPill02/07/15 02:12 AM
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I had debated the flair for a while. You are probably right about that. Actually I found MRP first. I read Married Man Sex Life Primer and started dread game, but I believe it was too late to make a difference. Either that or I made too many mistakes during.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 09:54 PM
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I always considered myself an introvert until, post TRP, I started spending more time out with people. Now I genuinely love being around others. I still like my alone time, as I would say do most people. I just had no idea how extroverted I could be until I flung myself into a group of people and started being more outgoing.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 07:28 PM
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You asked? Rookie mistake. You tell her when and where to meet you. If she refuses without a counter offer you stop contact and next. Act as if nothing is different in public with her. Give her no special attention. In this case she isn't interested. Just forget her and find someone else.
/r/askTRP30/06/15 02:19 PM
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Happened with my ex-wife. I've also recently gotten,"I am going through a messy breakup" LMR from a girl. Her boyfriend doesn't know they are broken up yet. They always branch swing. Just about the only time you are going to see a good looking girl who is actually single is if they were never in a relationship or they got dumped.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/15 01:58 PM
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Women are a gun. Always treat them as if they were loaded. AWALT, even if you don't think this one is.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/15 01:54 PM
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If I had found the pill 10 years ago I would have rejected it, and I likely wouldn't have come back. I am glad that I found it when I was broken down and in the midst of a divorce. I was ready for the changes that the pill would bring.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/15 01:50 PM
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http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2p7zk7/tinder_game/ Picture with abs (you MUST be in the top 20% looks-wise or you are invisible), subtly imply you want to have sex in your profile, and practice amused mastery in messages while getting her phone #. It's a lot easier to get her to agree to a date outside of tinder. All this said, consider Tinder a plan B. Without the ability to approach/talk to girls in real life you are only shooting yourself in the foot using online dating services.
/r/askTRP29/06/15 01:10 PM
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It's a shit test. You didn't escalate, she started shit testing you, you failed by arguing. She might still be interested, but you are going to need to do better at knocking down those shit tests and staying in your own frame. Freeze her out. No contact. If she shows interest with you then try to escalate, but not until then.
/r/askTRP29/06/15 11:24 AM
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I love morning workouts. They make me feel pumped and ready for the day. That said my job has me up at 5am to get to work on time, so I had to switch to evenings. There isn't too much change, just takes me a little longer to get my head in the game in the morning.
/r/askTRP29/06/15 01:56 AM
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The sidebar material there is gold for LTRs. Make sure to start with Athol Kay, Married Man Sex Life Primer. It explains just about everything you need to build, maintain, and repair an RP marriage.
/r/askTRP29/06/15 01:48 AM
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Yes. I thought I loved her, or rather I thought she loved me. I didn't realize at the time what that really meant. We had a kid together. And I thought it would last forever. I was a typical conditioned beta. I did all the "right" things. Even now she says, "You're a great guy. Any girl would be lucky to have you." I feel like vomiting every time I hear that. It's better now. It is only recently that I have begun to open my eyes. I have started exhibiting more alpha behavior. Now I get remarks a…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 11:47 PM
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Got married right before college. Biggest mistake I ever made. On the bright side my ex-wife had to use my lawyer since she is essentially broke, meaning the only thing I have to pay her is child support for our daughter. Absolutely no alimony.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 10:20 PM
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100% agree. The first thing a guy should do after finding TRP (other than going to the gym) should be to promise himself not to outright lie to people. By agreeing with her request (lie or not) OP entered her frame. He should have rather denied her exclusivity. I'm sure she knows where the door is.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 03:27 AM
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I was married through college. Then 6 months after graduating my wife wanted a divorce. What the fuck was I doing with my life? One of my biggest regrets is not staying single.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 03:18 AM
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This is the last thing I expected to read. You had something good going and it got struck down by disease. It's hard to say whether or not you should stay. I can understand your feeling of guilt for wanting to leave. I think the one thing you should ask yourself is who do you want to be? Do you want to be the man who left his LTR when she was sick or the man who spent the remainder of his LTRs life miserable from taking care of her? Neither choice seems good I know, but which one can you live wi…
/r/askTRP26/06/15 03:34 PM
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In colleges everywhere, Women have a sense of entitlement that is unjustified. They do not have any financial responsibility at this point (their parents pay for everything), and therefore they do not value traits such as hard work or self improvement. All they want at this point is a escapade with the most attractive man possible. I thought that second paragraph could use a little edit. You're making excuses for why you can't pull women now. If you don't cut that shit out you will continue to d…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 02:27 PM
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Read this if you haven't already. http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3b2wbb/antislut_defense_isnt_about_not_wanting_to_be_a/
/r/askTRP26/06/15 01:29 PM
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This is why 1) You don't ask women for advice 2) You don't ask personal trainers for advice unless they look like you want to look, and understand that is what you want.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 01:22 PM
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Pornography used to be an issue for me as well. It was something I did for the better part of a decade (before finding TRP). I read a post on this site that read, "Porn is a fantasy meant for teenagers, it has no place in a man's life." That day I decided to quit. For some reason having it worded like that changed the way I viewed it. I am still able to use my phone/computer and not have the temptation to look at it. It's been months now and I feel free. Not only that, I feel charged when talkin…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 01:15 PM
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In the months before I found TRP I began learning about PUA. It was interesting, even exciting because it seemed like it would work, but always felt lacking. Sure I could fuck women, but where do I go from there? After finding TRP I saw quickly what it was missing. I began to see many things I needed to change about myself. I learned how valuable my time was and how to better spend it. TRP is a lot more difficult than PUA. It takes longer to learn, internalize, and implement the concepts. It is …
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 01:03 PM
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The hamster is something everyone has in their brain. Basically it is the act of spinning things that happened in your mind. You start thinking of what she might have been thinking or why she did what she did. With time and practice you can silence this. Develop an attitude of not giving a fuck(IDGAF). Abundance means you don't have to be with this particular girl. If you screw things up or she does something that you should not put up with you know there are plenty of others available to you. T…
/r/askTRP26/06/15 12:42 PM
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Quit hamstring over this girl. Practice abundance and find another. She gave you a last minute resistance (LMR). You failed by playing into it. If you had shot it down you would have been in. Just do some sidebar reading and read some field reports and you'll do better with the next one.
/r/askTRP26/06/15 09:17 AM
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My lawyer said I have a shot at custody, but it would take 18 months and probably a 30k investment from me. The situation isn't bad enough to call for that. I don't believe that my daughter will be in any danger other than confusion over her mother's new relationship, so we'll be able to figure something out outside of court.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 09:12 AM
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Too far gone. She was ready for divorce before I was able to make any real changes. There was someone else, but hey, all women are like that(AWALT). The reason I say, "If you want to" is because by the end of the MAP you may not want to be married to your wife anymore. Honestly, I may have ended up there myself regardless of what my wife did. My life is already better than it was. I am going out more, talking to girls, practicing what I have learned, and bettering myself in many ways. I was read…
/r/askTRP25/06/15 03:18 PM
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This situation sounds surprisingly like mine. My ex-wife and I are younger, but same concept. I found TRP too late to make anything of my relationship, but you can if you want to. To parrot what other people are saying: Lift weights. This is going to be a cornerstone of any changes you make. I recommend the marriedredpill. These guys know how to build and maintain an RP marriage. Read the material both on TRP and MRP. I'd suggest No More Mr. Nice Guy and Married Man Sex Life Primer to begin. Sta…
/r/askTRP25/06/15 02:37 PM
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It will pass. I was in a 10 year long oneitis fueled relationship with my admittedly very attractive wife. My turning point was when I started calling her my ex. It was in a comment on here roughly 2 months after finding TRP. I remember that day I absolutely did not care who she was with or what she was doing, where previously I had not been able to get it out of my head. I don't think it was the terminology itself, but rather the thought that I was no longer hers. I had no responsibility to her…
/r/askTRP25/06/15 02:11 PM
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I looked at a budget and I will be saving more money paying child support after my divorce than I would supplicating my wife in marriage as I have been doing for the past 7 years. I will pay no alimony due to infedelity (as per my lawyer's assurance) and I will have my daughter on weekends, which due to my job is all I see her most of the time now.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 06:42 PM
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Read Married Man Sex Life Primer and Mindful Attraction Plan by Athol Kay. These explain an RP LTR much better than I can, and will be more useful to you than a comment.
/r/askTRP24/06/15 02:14 PM
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Women would rather share a high quality man than be saddled to a faithful loser. u/abdada made a comment a while ago about plating LTRs. These women were met during weekend mornings to weed out the party girls. This, in my opinion, is brilliant.
/r/askTRP24/06/15 02:10 PM
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I have found that with getting 7-8 hours of sleep consistently I wake up before my alarm goes off. At this point it only acts as a safety net, not a means of waking me up in the morning. I wish I got started as early as you are. However I am glad to have found TRP in my mid 20s. That way I have plenty of time to improve and grow before getting to a SMV peak age.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 01:28 PM
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Eating junk makes you feel good in the moment. Eating well and lifting makes you feel good all the time. For me it's that simple. Kate Moss once said,"Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels." What she meant was that nothing tastes as good as high SMV feels.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 01:17 PM
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I am in the process of figuring out a divorce. I have learned from my lawyer that due to my wife's infedelity (she has a boyfriend that she has exposed our child to and we are still legally married) I can take full custody of our daughter. The judges where I live would absolutely hate the situation my wife has put us in. This is something that I have a hard time not telling her, but my lawyer has strongly advised me against it. It would also be a long, expensive legal battle. She is convinced th…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 12:50 PM
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True, but so could not seeing her mother. I think that this will work out best for my wife and I. I won't be happy never seeing my daughter, but as bad as it sounds I won't be happy having to take care of her all of the time. I need time for myself and that would be impossible if I had full custody. I will make sure to include in any agreement that I sign that my ex will not have men over to the apartment while my daughter is there, and she will not live with anyone else unless they are married.…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 07:15 PM
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This is terrible. I am going through a divorce and found from my lawyer that I have a real shot at getting full custody of my child should I want to go that route. This, of course, would result in a lengthy and expensive court battle. My wife has not only gotten a boyfriend and stayed at his house overnight. She has had my daughter around him regularly. She is basically playing house with this guy. In my area the judges would go into a tailspin over this. Due to the situation I definitely won't …
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 11:37 AM
1

I always thought of myself as more introverted. I do well by myself and don't see myself falling into some kind of loneliness induced depression from spending long periods of time by myself. Since finding TRP I have been learning to be better socially and I have found something interesting about myself. I am energized by having conversations with people. I have, in recent months, taken every possible opportunity to be around people. At first it felt strange and forced, but as my confidence and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/15 06:10 PM
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I think you answered your own question. Having an LTR this early in life is going to hinder your growth. It happened to me. I was 25 and had no more experience with women than when I was in high school. Luckily I have experience dealing with the shit from the guys I work with. This made dealing with women much easier. In order to make an LTR work in the long run you must have excellent game. I'm talking top notch. If you are there, great, but coming from a guy who was married for 7 years straigh…
/r/askTRP22/06/15 01:55 PM
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My favorite way to set myself apart from the betas lately is play fighting. If I overhear a girl saying something nominal I genuinely don't agree with I will make a big deal about it, saying how wrong she is or how she has no taste (giving her a playful smirk all the while). A good example is if she doesn't like a food or drink that I really like. I treat her like she is crazy or defective for not liking it. They always engage and the betas always agree with her, but she isn't focused on them, s…
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 12:38 PM
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Lifting is amazing. Started up again 3 months ago. Now it's habitual. I don't even consider the possibility of not moving iron regularly. It's just something I do.
/r/ThankTRP22/06/15 11:41 AM
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Split up accounts. In the process of splitting assets. No contact other than for my daughter or divorce proceedings.
/r/ThankTRP22/06/15 03:30 AM
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Staying with a woman regardless of her behavior is as BP as it gets. Read the sidebar before commenting.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 01:58 AM
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Ok, first thing: I do not consider lifting free time. It's like work. You have to do it, no excuses, no substitutions. But that's just semantics. As for your question my recommendation is read, play an instrument, take a dance class, go out with friends, play league sports, etc. You will be shocked how quickly your schedule fills.
/r/askTRP21/06/15 05:05 PM
1

Commandments of Poon - Be irrationally confident.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/15 12:43 AM
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If she didn't say no in some way it's not a rejection.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/15 12:38 AM
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It's only creepy when she's not into it. Read: It's only creepy if you have low SMV.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/15 12:37 AM
1

TRP helped me realize that I did not want to be married to my wife. I've got a close friend who is a natural alpha and his response was,"Good, she was a twat."
/r/TheRedPill21/06/15 12:31 AM
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I like to frame dates like this. Then I get there a little early to buy my own drink. This works in two ways. First, it sets up the fact that this is not something special I am doing for her. Second, I pay for my own before she gets there, which means she will be paying for hers.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/15 12:26 AM
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It's truly unfortunate that there are so many beta males in our project engineering division. A lot of guys who have been divorced multiple times. Surely they know on some level that they are doing something wrong. I don't get a lot of banter at the office. Luckily I am on the road and in the plants most of the time.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/15 10:59 PM
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This was what I was thinking. She was keeping it semi-open so she wouldn't lose attention from me, but doesn't need to surrender anything herself. I played it better than would have been expected all things considered. I've dropped a good bit of extra weight the past 3 months and have been seriously lifting for 2. Just started 5x5. We'll see if I can do better following a few months of monk mode.
/r/askTRP20/06/15 05:09 PM
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1.) Possibly, but there wasn't anyone else in the lot to see. 2.) That could definitely be it. I made it pretty clear after the fact that I wasn't going to be an orbiter. She seems like the kind of girl who is used to that kind of attention. 3.)Like sickfiguresk said she could have taken waiting until we were in the car as hesitation. When I made a move there was no hesitation.
/r/askTRP20/06/15 05:44 AM
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Hell, for my first real target in 10 years I'll take it. Thanks for the advice. In retrospect I probably could and should have tried to close yesterday, but I hesitated. If I'm going to swing for a HB8 this early on I need a way to break the LMR.
/r/askTRP20/06/15 05:36 AM
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You have all summer. Read the sidebar. Read the sidebar. Read the sidebar. Then read it one more time for good measure. You can start implementing some things conversationally with total strangers. Engage in some banter. You will get better at it with time an practice. The most important thing is developing an IDGAF attitude.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 07:16 PM
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People on TRP seem to range from 16 to 50+, and I have learned one thing. Age is meaningless. You can be more of a man at 23 than a guy in his 40s who has just found TRP and is trying to break himself of a lifetime of BP ideology. It's about experience. It's about frame. It's about confidence. These things must be cultivated and grown over time. For this reason there is no point in asking TRP users their age.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 05:52 PM
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Check out meetup. I'm part of a 20s/30s group that I have had success with recently. Made an asktrp post about it here: http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/3aej7y/pretty_good_night_and_question_for_today/ There are always new members joining. Lots of plate material, and it's easy to talk about what activity you are doing that day.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 05:42 PM
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I want to talk to more people. I have almost no anxiety about having a back and forth with friends, family, co-workers, or complete strangers. Today at lunch a few of the other engineers were talking about some guys on the line who liked to make fun of people, but couldn't handle having it thrown back at them. My first instinct was "Agree and amplify." No one else thought to do anything but get offended or try to give it right back. Thanks TRP.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 05:27 PM
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Good advice. I was honestly surprised at myself. Just months ago I would have NEVER thought of myself as someone who had game. Reading plenty of field reports on TRP as well as the sidebar material has made a big difference in my interactions with women. It's motivating me to keep moving forward, not only for the experience I had last night, but for my own betterment as well. I can't say I ever doubted TRP, but this has added a real, tangible validity to it in my life. Maybe after this I will ha…
/r/askTRP19/06/15 05:18 PM
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I like the idea of telling her what I am going to do and leaving it up to her whether or not she will join me. That way it comes across that I am not making a special trip just for her. "I'm going to get a drink tomorrow at so-&-so, you should join me" "OK" "Good, meet me there at (time)" Then I arrive a little early and grab a drink. If I finish up before she arrives I leave without seeing her and go silent. Of course there are certain caveats, such as her saying she can't make it/has a boyfrie…
/r/askTRP19/06/15 03:23 PM
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I second this. I went a couple weeks semi monk mode. I cut out electronic devices. Of course I had my phone on, but I didn't use the internet except for TRP, no tv, phone apps, etc. I used to think I had no time in my schedule. Now I realize I was simply filling that time with useless activities. Recently I have found time for spending time with my daughter, socializing, playing guitar, reading, meditating, etc. It's amazing how much more time you have when you cut out useless things.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 02:31 PM
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Awesome, thanks. I enjoyed myself and I like being that guy. I was definitely just overthinking things in the moment.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 02:18 PM
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I think it is a good idea to reschedule. It shows you have more important things than her going on. Tell her to meet you some other time and see what happens.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 08:48 PM
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Nah. She'll end up marrying a BB while getting her "fun" on the side, then divorce rape him for all she can get out of it.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 07:53 PM
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Women don't love men. It's impossible. They can love their children, but not their husbands/boyfriends. They say they do because they feel it in that moment. That can and will change, especially if you are overtly beta. It's your own fault for expecting more.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 06:04 PM
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Check out marriedredpill. Those guys have a good idea of how to work a RP marriage. That being said every one of them realizes that their wife could leave them at any time, and they are fine with that. It's part of Stoicism: Do not have anything you aren't prepared to lose.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 05:48 PM
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This is exactly what I am going to do. Monk mode for 3 months (while the divorce gets processed). No tv, no internet (except for TRP and necessity) eat 100% clean, focus on my job, daughter, lifting, reading, etc. Forget about my ex-wife. I'm going to start calling it for what it is. She brought home child custody agreement papers. She is playing house with another guy. She is my ex, plain and simple. It's funny, thinking about it that way I feel less pain about it. In fact, I made 2 cold approa…
/r/askTRP17/06/15 05:12 PM
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If she wants to communicate a problem calmly and rationally then you can listen to her. If you do not see it her way tell her so. If she gets emotional you refuse to engage in any way. Just shut up. If it gets bad leave and go radio silent for a while.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 11:58 AM
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I'll be sure to make another post after the divorce is final and I have been in monk mode during that time.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 12:37 AM
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I don't even have words for how perfect this is.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 05:58 PM
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Pretty good, but not as good as Beef Goblin.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 05:57 PM
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Thanks. I only wished I would have found this sub earlier. Either in my marriage or before it. Luckily I am still young enough to spin plates for a long time before I get old enough to be comfortable with another LTR. I'm glad to hear from someone who has been through the same thing. You're right about the ghost of your wife. I have a tendancy to see her for who she was rather than who she is. When I clear my head and think about it more objectively she is much less appealing. It's when I am aro…
/r/askTRP16/06/15 04:41 PM
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Drinking is one thing I have promised myself I'd not do. Not until I am in a better place. Not drinking has also helped my physical transformation. I've also joined some meetup groups that play sports and hang out together. It's nice to be around people who don't know me. I can act more alpha and they have no idea that it is out of my typical character.
/r/askTRP16/06/15 03:45 PM
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Like I said. A decade of oneitis for one person leaves you pretty messed up. Killing that part of me is going to be harder than I thought. I just have to be strong enough not to succumb to it for now. I've got two great, long time friends who support my RP transformation. Spending time with them helps.
/r/askTRP16/06/15 03:41 PM
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I think it is good to try to win over the group. This can be intimidating to do if you've never done it before. Just prepare some interesting material to keep the focus on you for a few minutes. Ask them for their opinion on something, tell an interesting story, etc. If a strange guy approaches a single girl in a group the group normally gets defensive and try to take her back from you. If the group likes you they will be much less resistant to you talking alone with their friend.
/r/seduction08/05/15 01:23 PM
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Another great reason we have the 3 second rule. It doesn't give you time to generate any preconcieved notions of what someone is like based on their looks.
/r/seduction08/05/15 01:16 PM
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*1. Single out the one you are interested in by NOT paying as much attention to her as the rest. This likely will make her more eager to talk to you. Adress the whole group but act like you are more interested in talking to the other girls. Do this for about 5-8 minutes. Any good PUA is going to have at least this much material to keep a group focused on them. Then make an excuse to talk to the one you have been leaving out. At that point you can play it exactly like you would any other one-on-o…
/r/seduction07/05/15 05:14 PM
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From what I have experienced/seen the only relationships that work in the very long term are the ones where both couples can work through some serious shit. Every long term relationship is going to be hard, very hard at times, and infidelity/abuse notwithstanding you and your partner have to be willing to work through any kind of problems you have. You will lose interest. Your partner will lose interest. This usually happens for the first time around 4-7 years, and unless both people can stick w…
/r/seduction07/05/15 01:16 PM
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There could be a whole different sub dedicated to going from seduction to a deeper, more meaningful relationship. To me seduction starts from the approach through dating for a few months. When she is comfortable enough to start sharing deeper things with me I take it as a cue to do so myself. That's how I am able to get from one to the other.
/r/seduction06/05/15 05:34 PM
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