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Just keep following MRP plan and do what /u/TrainingTheBrain said and don't comment on it (otherwise she knows she is getting under your skin). On a side note: when a women cuts her hair really short or boyishly short when she normally wears it long = I'm in in-de-pen-dent woman and emotionally unavailable mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 06:57 PM
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yeah, that is probably the best way of putting it (a HVM is a confident and comfortable Alpha). its not dread insofar as you are trying to "show her" anything but rather its just a byproduct an Alpha male.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 12:42 PM
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MD = Sporadic Dread Level 8... it's like an oil change: reduces engine noise, combats rust and corrosion, makes the engine run cooler, reduces friction, improves engine performance, and extends engine life. it works. I have been toying with the idea of making a post on this subject for a few months since I rarely see it discussed. Maintenance Dread is a really good way of phrasing the practice as it is really an expansion of DL8 (i.e., something we should be doing but not from the 'let me show y…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 03:46 AM
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Dread Starting here is always good place: The 12 Levels of Dread. Maintenance Dread is the probably the same as Dread in that you should always be incorporating it into your life. I see your point, though. When you talk about Maintenance Dread, it seems like you are asking what little things you can do to add Dread with your wife. Again, you should always be incorporating things from /u/BluepillProfessor 's post. Read it. Note: You want just enough food (Dread) for the hamster to chew on without…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 09:13 PM
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+1 /u/marxistbacon Yep. We set the overall tone of the relationship. Water takes the shape of its container. We are the container. She is the water. If we are weak, grumpy, following, beta, no fun, etc... whoa, shitty relationship ahead. However, when we are strong, leading, Alpha, fun, exciting, playful, etc... whoa, fucking awesome relationship ahead. Simple shit. A few days ago, Lady Yoaked said this to me in the car: I love living life with you. Powerful statement.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 04:14 PM
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Fantastic post. I have drilled the following mantra into Lady Yoaked: Lovers first, H&W second, Parents third. For me, relationships/marriages are meant to be fun and sex is a requirement. Since MRP/TRP, owning my shit, leading, and embracing Alpha, the sex quantity, quality, and experimentation has shot through the roof. Women. Want. To. Fuck. A. Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 03:10 PM
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Now, I'm calling it out as being disrespectful and that she's not my mother. It's a good feeling to have the right frame to shut that shit down immediately. this is what led me to believe you were bothered by it. it reads like you confronted her about it. that is in her frame and being bothered by it. if i read that the wrong way, then i stand corrected. it is a nice feeling when the little things stop affecting you... it is hard to gauge the manner a paragraph reads over internet sometimes /rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 05:25 PM
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i remember reading that a few months back... its always nice to get a refresher read! great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 05:03 PM
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if you were more Alpha, this would not bother you. it bothers you because you still have too much beta insecurity. you are in her frame right now. i repeat: you are in her frame right now. if it were me, I'd respond with: YES I AM... now, where are my chocolate chip cookies... and milk don't forget the milk!!! (but then again, i don't have facebook) You must develop the mindset: I am the Alpha of the house and that our relationship is fucking awesome because of it. If that were your mindset, why…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 04:59 PM
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it does not matter. just follow the sidebar material and do what is suggested here. it could be that she feels body conscious since you are getting in shape but, then again, it does not matter. MRP is not a therapy psychoanalysis program for living. MRP is based on actions. i recall somewhere a post about a BSG (beta shit goblin) that is what is happening here. stop overthinking and focus on your mission. almost all women have body issues at some point or another. do not make a mountain out of a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 04:16 PM
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Some people say not to tell her when you are stressed. I disagree... unless you are unplugging. On the few (key word: few) occasions I tell her I'm stressed out (giving zero concrete details as to why), this is roughly what I say: I'm stressed out and really need a blowjob. Blowjob ensues. Stress relieved. As stated, it probably won't work if you are unplugging. For me, this is a type of "support" that helps me the best. YMMV. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 03:51 PM
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many women love to focus on anything negative for their hamster to chew on... negativity is food for that fucker. in your case, its the BJ's at the moment... she cannot see how awesome your relationship is becoming due to this. i relate. i have dealt with it. keep up the MRP principals and lead the way. BJ's are reserved for the Alpha of the house... betas aren't getting them because its a blow JOB. she has to want to do it. that said, here is what works for me: if i know if she is ovulating, i …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 04:48 PM
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Last night was the first time in 6 years she has squirted a gusher with my dick in her Ass. legit LOL'd. that alone, will make you smile on the inside for weeks, if not months or years, haha!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 03:32 AM
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the problem is not her pj's but rather your attitude about them. MRP is about you, not her. lady yoaked wears sweat pants, a t-shirt, and socks on most nights. by your definition, that would be considered a boner deflator, but i still am grabbing that ass and trying to get her naked. if you are in bed already and she is getting ready, just tell her to hop in bed sans clothing so you can "snuggle" naked. to mix it up, every now and then i will just tell her what to wear.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 03:29 AM
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fantastic read and simply put!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 03:11 AM
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probably the best bet. also, i would recommend beginning the flirting at home. after you have a sufficient footing and she begins to enjoy it and realizes that you flirt all the time, then you can move it to the texting. this will help her realize you are just continuing your natural flirtiness over text as to avoid confusion/awkwardness. at home, start small... "your butt looks really good in those jeans... i like that outfit... you look hot today" complements are a great way to begin.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:57 AM
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Texting Note: YMMV but this is what I do, in a general way. I am in an awesome relationship and do not know if this would work if I were unplugging. If you are unplugging, just focus on lifting, increasing SMV, and becoming more of a leader/alpha since she may be repulsed by the things below if you are too beta. Trust me when I say this, if you are Alpha and she is ovulating, you can definitely text "I'm gonna destroy that yummy pussy later" to her... I have used similar lines but it is rarely t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:34 AM
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when she says "you are being bossy" or anything resembling that phrase, IT IS A SHIT TEST. PERIOD. use the sidebar to learn how to deal with shit tests. i'd venture to say that most resistance many encounter when they are unplugging is akin to one massive shit test after another. the tide is changing, that is why she is resisting. as you may have read, her shit testing means she is testing the alpha in you (in addition to flirting).
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 05:31 PM
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you only know what you know. if you aren't openly trying to start a world war then you are on ok footing. however, it seemed as if you are acting like a supreme cock just so you can have an ultimatum talk, which is beta as fuck. if you truly are applying the MRP principles as espoused in the side-bar then my hat is off to you. good luck either way!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 03:51 PM
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My take away from all this is that there are giant shit tests and battles of will coming soon. She is determined not to let me "bully" her or "control everything." I am more determined to change this dynamic once and for all, even if it means divorce. The main event is coming. Based on your actions and tone (from all posts), it seems as if you want the main event to happen, even wishing it to happen, so that you can "put your foot down" in some dramatic display of Beta. This approach is BB. Sorr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 03:00 PM
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Just be the man of the house and take over the grocery shopping (at least for the next few times). If she asks why, just tell her that you are looking over the finances and need to see how to accurately budget for food. Also, is your wife in shape or out of shape, how about kids? Are you in shape?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:38 PM
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My plan is to send a brief email outlining the imminent changes and give her time to process it before I get home tonight. This is the most BB thing I have heard in MRP in a while. I would not, in a million years, classify this as leading or being Alpha. MRP is not really about telling other people what to do, especially when new/unplugging. /rant
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:28 PM
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the reverse-gender version: http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/letting-my-husband-sleep-with-other-women-makes-me-a-better-mens-rights-activist/
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 08:26 PM
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Thanks for a good read! what if I told you you that you are different and she is only changing to fit that container you've created. this cannot be underscored enough... she is reacting to the person you present to her. if you are BB, then she reacts to BB. if you are AF, then she reacts to AF. everything, and i mean everything in MRP, is about YOU and not her. here is the kicker: her reaction originates at the sub-consciousness level (nature) and not by something she is knowingly/consciously do…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/15 03:24 PM
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first, and so you know, i think staying together is way better than separating. i am not an advocate for breaking up relationships... i wanted to set out a different viewpoint because there are negative repercussions for staying in an unhealthy relationship. second, you seem to be very RP except where it counts the most. right now, she controls the relationship and you are in her frame. you must take the lead again and bring the relationship back into your frame. she does not know how love-starv…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/15 09:42 PM
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I would leave her if I didn't think it would be terrible for the kids. oh, fuck no. you need to get this dumb ass idea out of your head. it's selfish as fuck to stay with someone in an unworkable situation, letting your children see a passionless, loveless, and resentment-filled relationship in plain sight. how is it good for the kids to live with and endure a dysfunctional relationship? do you want to severely destroy their emotional psyche by never experiencing loving parents? that said, don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/15 08:50 PM
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let me clarify: don't manufacture problems in your own head. if you have done the sidebar reading, then you already have an idea what shit tests look like. i think some people (and i am not pointing at you) in MRP get to a place where the relationship is really good, and rather than enjoying life, they go about these mindless circle-jerks trying to find a new problem to solve. that said, even when the relationship is good, we must still be self-aware (which you are). regardless, we must always f…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/15 07:05 PM
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don't manufacture problems. seems like shes down to earth! also, what /u/whinemoreplease said.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/15 06:35 PM
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The Panty-Dropping Effect (PDE) is entirely possible within MRP. However, the overt-PDE is more likely when she is ovulating and needs alpha dick or when she is relaxed and not tired (hotel, vacation, in the morning, etc.). In all other times, generally, it's more like subtle-PDE. In other words, she is willing to fuck but you need to pay attention to her signs since she isn't feeling the "urge to take a cock" like when she is ovulating. During subtle-PDE she may be ready, willing, and able (to …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 07:27 PM
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My wife's forward desire is usually her rubbing my chest, stomach, and crotch. It's typically slow going and she gets turned on most by me being aggressive. She is submissive and always has been. yep. same here... she likes the aggression. her most forward initiation is rubbing my dick or hopping right on top of me or yanking my boxers off. but it can also be as subtle as sexy clothing (ovulating) or snuggling her ass into my dick when we are spooning or even just sleeping naked. I think the tak…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 07:07 PM
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Two Simple Rules
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 06:52 PM
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the power dynamic is shifting and she senses it. stay the course and you will be fine. keeping quiet after you told her you felt "taken for granted" was the correct response. amused mastery isn't supposed to be "funny" for her... it just works and that is why we use it. she noticed and it bothers her because you are becoming less beta. again, you are on track. keep your mouth shut. lift. good luck! edit: the last part about "nice surprises" is just her trying to bring back the Beta Bux in you. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 05:55 PM
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classic hamster: can't have a mom bod without first introducing the dad bod into society.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 04:44 PM
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Gotcha! One game-changer you might want to employ is timing. The just-before-bedtime romp can be difficult from time-to-time, especially after a long day when her body is looking to fall asleep (you know the feeling you get when you just want to lay in bed and fall asleep cuz the bed is calling your name). IME, get flirty with her in the early evening to get her juices flowing... and then find a way to have a quickie in the moment. Where there is a will, there is a way! Also, how is your daytime…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/15 04:18 PM
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Let me clarify so that you can see what I see... from an outsiders perspective who has espoused MRP/TRP/etc. for a number of years now (note: I am not claiming nor will I ever claim to be an expert... as we all should remain teachable and open-minded). You are conducting a BP experiment. You are analyzing a non-issue. You have found a way to do the opposite of being OI and are instead focusing on "making" her want to have more sex than she already does (aka BP). Fuck her on consecutive days and …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 06:40 PM
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ITT: ungrateful dude has sex with wife every other day and he is still finding a way to make it negative... LOfuckingL. You are missing the point of MRP, dude. This is the male equivalent of attention-whoring.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 03:36 PM
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marching to the beat of your own drum is not the same as leading (i.e, captaining a solo kayak is not the same thing as captaining the ship). do you have kids (if so, age range)? if you do, does she feed them crap and feed you healthy food? are kids in shape or fat?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/15 01:10 AM
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Women need men to lead them... this is why they prefer alpha males over beta males. Most women will follow a leader (there are exceptions), and by now, you should know that leaders lead by example more so than by words. So, how does one go about leading her towards fitness? Start with the small stuff first. If she buys the groceries and its usually junk food, then you need to man the fuck up and start doing the shopping and cooking. Set the example of what a healthy lifestyle looks like. Once sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 08:22 PM
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take your kids to the gym (bike rides) from time to time. teach them that physical fitness is important to having a long, healthy life. eventually, your wife will decide (for herself) that she should follow suit and do what the family is doing (i.e, eating healthy and fitness). real men lead with actions, not words.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 03:40 PM
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GTFO. she is doing everything possible to avoid reality/adulthood. she is fucking you like a rabbit to keep you in check. once the fear subsides she will resume the fuck-fest with whomever she wants, all-the-while making you do the dishes and watch the kids 24/7. edit: my personal belief is that children are better off with divorced parents who go about co-parenting the children in a civilized manner rather than enduing and witnessing first-hand a shitty marriage, where real love, trust, compani…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 07:16 PM
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no. silent treatment is what women/pussies/children do. go about your business. be a good husband, be a good worker, be a good father. if you have to cook dinner, do it. if the kids need taking care of, do it. if wife asks you to do some silly task that she is capable of doing, don't do it (do some readings on shit tests). you must OWN your shit and DGAF about the sex. it will come in due time. focus on being a productive person. this will instill outcome independence (OI). if she starts a fight…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 04:52 PM
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first, your wife owns this marriage and you are just along for her ride... now that you understand that you can do something. your wife IS NOT fine with you sleeping with other women... she said that to ease her own guilt for not having sex with her husband. she said that fully knowing you will not do it because she thinks you are not a real man. if she saw you as a real man, those words wound not come out of her mouth unless she was joking or in a playful manner/tone. now that you know this, go…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 12:30 PM
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each state (in the USA) has different divorce laws and some states follow common-law marriage (living together for X years means you are married in the eyes of the state) as well as "community property" laws. the best thing to do is research the laws of the state in which you want to reside and then speak with an attorney. there are numerous things you can do (e.g., create a trust account, have separate bank accounts, have an off-shore account) but these should be discussed with a knowledgeable …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 05:48 PM
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this could be a great learning experience if you accept her for all her faults... i mean, she obviously has a high sex drive, right? with that said, how well do you know her sexual fantasies and darkest desires?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 04:46 PM
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Strong move making her tell her parents... much respect. A side note, most women won't leave, or otherwise fuck up, a relationship with someone they NEED. If she NEEDS to be with you and not merely 'wants' to be with you, then you probably still have the upper hand. She is gonna fuck you like a rabbit until the fear of you leaving her subsides. After that, different ballgame.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 04:38 PM
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I hope you all the best and you are a trooper because it sounds like she is an otherwise awesome chick except for her propensity to ride random dick... BUT, this must be acknowledged: I made it clear that the relationship was now mine, no longer ours and that if she has a problem with how it’s operating that she can leave. Actions are what counts the most in MRP/TRP. With that said, you can tell her the relationship is all yours BUT she already knows that she wields the power in the relationship…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 04:22 PM
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probably a legitimate concern, but... Also, for context. It's not like I do this all the time. Maybe 6 times a year. perhaps your timing is off. best to do this A) when she is ovulating, and B) when you are on vacation or in a hotel... the former is the most important, the latter will help her relax and could put her in a better mood. also, it helps if you have a higher SMV (aka lift) and she views you as Alpha. probably dead end if you are currently unplugging.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/15 05:52 PM
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This type ("Honestly, I am surprised you haven't cheated yet.") of comment, when said in passing/off-the-cuff (i.e., not a comfort test where she is really testing your beta), are the perfect opportunity to let her know why you would not cheat. Honey, why would I, you give amazing blowjobs, we have awesome sex, you let me play with that amazing booty of yours, you are fun to be around, and you make epic choc. chip cookies. BOOM. She knows. Hamster engaged.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 08:05 PM
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Honey, you can do whatever you want in this world but I strongly, strongly, strongly disagree with your idea. You should know that "(state Newton's 3rd Law or something similar)" while walking out the door to go to the gym. A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything - Alexander Hamilton H-care has lots of women... my guess is that all of her co-workers on the CC? Perhaps she is jelly and wants a ride? IMO, working at a bar is her hamster rationale figuring a way to participate in the ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 07:46 PM
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Whenever Lady Y becomes concerned about her appearance (she is in great shape but she notices imperfections more) I basically do something like this: 1) give her encouragement, 2) tell her to send me a pic of what she eats for lunch everyday (sometimes I reciprocate pic), and 3) tell her to eat a salad (or a healthy alternative) 3 days that week - a goal. This showed support (Beta) and leadership (Alpha) by giving her directions. I did not care - or get upset - if she did not send the pic (OI). …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/15 03:27 AM
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this is what i believe the order of roles should MUST be in order to maximize the happiness, longevity, passion, sex, friendliness, fun... in marriage: 1) Lovers, 2) H&W, and 3) Parents. perhaps #2 and #3 could flip-flop but you can NEVER allow #1 to move from its place... otherwise you will have a roommate situation with a potential DB. i should add that i separate the "roles" because the difference resides in your mindset, which in turn, will be reflected through your behaviors.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 01:52 AM
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thanks, I appreciate the compliment. and yes, the golden ratio is indeed golden. it's shocking that such small changes in one's relationship can yield the most fruitful results. it's [MRP] really not about the big issues but rather correcting all the smaller issues that cumulatively create the BP man, and by extension, put the relationship squarely into her frame the shitter, imo.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 01:43 AM
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Agreed. My time is valuable. I "take it" (aka LISTEN) but I wont let it go on for too long. The innuendo and punching theme usually gets her off the complain train fairly quickly. Fortunate for me, Lady Y doesn't complain ad nauseum about work anymore. I only hear the intermittent complaints about specific things her boss did or about a co-worker, etc. If she is truly needing guidance and help (or comfort testing), that's a completely different scenario.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 02:06 PM
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Well, complaining or not, I flirt with her everyday (just like it was when we first started dating). She already knows I am a sexual person and I will not hide who I am.* That said, I am not really worried about being labeled obsessed. We both know her booty is on my mind. If you are "unplugging" then what I do may not work (yet) as she will probably be repulsed at sexual innuendo. I will say that there are times when I just smirk and say nothing like /u/whinemoreplease suggested above. If its a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 01:40 PM
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Agreed. Redirecting is key, and it seems that it is not talked about as much as one would think... considering all the 'captaining the ship' metaphors and such.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 05:19 AM
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This is true, and I did not touch upon that. Women certainly NEED to complain. We are their OAK. We are supposed to "take it" (to a certain extent). I suppose I was reflecting on her intermittent text complaints about something during the day (or a brief situational complaint about something later on) rather than a complain-DUMP at 5:46pm MTWThF. Now that I think about it, it (the complaining) is like a brain dump. She is trying to get all that nonsense out of her head that her hamster had been …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 05:09 AM
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Her complaining is her just venting to the one person she will likely vent to about her job. Most women do not like working. That said, if Lady Y is bitching at someone in particular, my go-to response is usually something like "what a bitch, you should punch her in the leg!" If its general complaining, I will tell her "don't wear panties to work the tomorrow, that will make it more fun (hehe)." If its about an older persons computer skills or lack thereof, I might say "yeah, all those boomers s…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 03:32 AM
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My fault, I should not have presumed that people would read what I wrote with how I was thinking. This is a good lesson since I mostly lurk and rarely post. I think it's helpful to remember that this is a life-long process. No quick-fix solutions here. It's the opposite. I have read many posts and I think some people think that they can get to a magical place where the relationship is really good and then can stop watering the lawn. In other words, MRP is an uphill journey with no real destinati…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 02:59 AM
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I think you, and others, are probably reading this through a BP lens (not a personal attack, I have seen you post a lot and know you make good points). I never said to work on the relationship but I can see how one could interpret what I wrote. I will make an edit to clarify.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 02:23 AM
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