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zurgenfloggin/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 02:25 PM
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I recently saw a friend who my wife and I knew 10 years ago. She was married to (now we learn) an abusive husband (I think emotionally not physically). I would have described her as just genetically unattractive. dour face that seems like it featured a permanent frown, needy expressions, just an energy vampire. Saw her again sunday, she had divorced, healed, and was happy and outgoing, smiling. I told her she seemed so much happier and she was. I will say, as a man, she was 10x more attractive b…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/25 02:17 PM
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Lofta
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 05:12 PM
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Hubby here. He needs a cpap. It’s impossible for you to sleep with that loud snoring and he will benefits a lot from it. It’s very common but he might resist. Start with just a test. You can order them from sites like lofts.com. The results be make it easier to convince him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 05:12 PM
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Life is sooooo much better when my wife doesn’t work. coming home to a happy wife is just awesome. A guy wants his family to be happy first and foremost. When I come home after slogging through work and everyone is miserable I wonder why I’m even working. Just my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 02:38 AM
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Dude. When you discover she cheated you leave.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/23 03:04 AM
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If you are having trouble with will power, have you considered something like mounjaro?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 12:45 PM
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As I husband, I went through being single and cooking for myself. I learned to like soggy noodles and burnt chicken as "good enough". I taught my kids that they didn't have to like food cooked for them, but they could never disrespect the chef. I asked them how'd they feel if they made me a crayon drawing and I acted like it wasn't good enough because it wasn't perfect. I don't know your hubby, but honestly guys are usually pretty flexible. If you made it for me I'll probably like it. ​ Easy win…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 01:03 AM
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Husband here -- get out of there and leave. You can't fix a guy who hits (chokes) women.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/21 12:42 AM
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So I'll caveat my response with the overarching belief that as parents you just need to be "good enough". "Perfect" parents end up with more dysfunctional kids. Gonna agree with the united front. When I (husband) go off the rails, my wife sometimes undermines me. It's best when she asks to take a time out and talks to me 1-to-1. I will say that I end up using the time-out more than her, it's more often I see her going off the rails. I can't extrapolate this to the general mom-dad or husband-wife…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 04:31 AM
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I think if you were to take what women feel connected and important in a relationship -- connecting through talking -- and applied the equivalent "duty sex" level-of-effort from your man, you'd get a good answer. If you walked in and ask him if you could have a deep talk so you could connect, and he rolled his eyes and said "if you must", contributed nothing to the conversation, and with every facial expression and body-language-cue made you feel like we was merely enduring the time, counting th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 11:32 PM
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I'll use the example of "puppies & alligators". If you walked into your house and you had a bunch of puppies -- which in this example represent fun, love, cuteness, etc -- and 1 or 2 alligators thrashing around, you wouldn't say to yourself "well I'll just focus on the puppies" or "a couple alligators isn't that bad if I have all these cute puppies". You would pretty much focus on getting rid of the alligators, knowing that you can't enjoy anything -- including puppies -- until they are out out …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 09:34 AM
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If you do not see anyone around that you are attracted to, then your options are: (1) change your location, (2) wait to see if someone shows up, (3) wait and see if your tastes change over time due to life experiences (4) get used to the idea you will just grow older alone. Maybe buy some cats. ​ Question: Where do men that fit these criteria hang out?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 01:40 AM
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Intimacy 2x month, doesn’t notice her, hints go unnoticed. Those might be things that could be fixed by her own self improvement — if indeed it is an attractiveness issue. Being rough might just be a symptom of not caring. Hard to tell.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 12:02 PM
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Yes, I am male. Since you indicated you do not want male perspective I'll curtail further advice.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 05:51 AM
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Yep, that's why I said "if it works for you" and "everyone is different". We are in violent agreement.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 01:45 AM
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If it works for you both then great. I (husband) make 400K/yr and my wife spends probably 1/10th of this. Everyone is different.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 01:34 AM
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Trying to gauge if there is anything she can do to remedy her situation. Might be the man has low T or has issues, but often these things are bidirectional. How attractive is she?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 01:26 AM
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Your husband earns 40k/yr and you spend $9,493/yr on your looks? There is a piece of the puzzle we are missing. You save your husbands entire salary...?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 01:24 AM
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How often do men flirt or hit on you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 01:05 AM
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Can you describe your stats? height/weight/etc? It seems he isn't attracted to you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 01:00 AM
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Seems like a lot of lifestyle inflation. How much do you (OP) save a year for retirement?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 12:57 AM
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The real question: Why do men want everything but to work on themselves and be an asset? Not all men. Don't get crushes on guys like this. ​
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 02:45 PM
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be physically attractive. don't be emotionally unattractive (mean, hostile, distant, needy, etc). yoga pants. ​
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 12:10 AM
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what are your stats?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 07:18 PM
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what are your stats?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 07:17 PM
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what are your stats? ​
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 07:17 PM
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Flip: “why, do you?”
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:55 PM
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Keep lifting but cut fat until 10% to 12%. use the Navy body fat method instead of the hand held thing. Focus on your waist measurement -- over 40 inches is high risk, below 37 inches is much lower risk medically. Know that your strength/muscle gains will be curtailed while you do this, but you won't lose muscle (not nearly as much) if you keep lifting. When you get frustrated that your muscles aren't getting bigger and your strength isn't going up tell your self not to get fat next time. I went…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:19 AM
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Yoga pants. Seriously.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/18 05:40 PM
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For me all of the improvement tracked indirectly — as you define it. The more I improved myself (lost fat, weight lifting #s went up, got proactive about responsibilities I had let myself get lazy about) the more she responded. Key moment was when improving myself became the goal and not improving her behavior. Let her worry about her. For me this has been the real magic of mrp— improve yourself. Don’t make it a huge covert contract.
/r/askMRP18/09/18 05:01 PM
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39, 190# 21%BF / wife 38 OHP 75, BP 115, Row 115, SQ 115, DL 205 -all 5x5 Not sure where you started from, but these stats are more likely your problem. I went from 28% to 14% BF. At 20% I noticed a remarkable improvement in my body, but in reality had gone from a fat dude with a food baby and a meat beard to a normal guy. At about 15% you look great and you'll find you are getting noticed. ​ Your strength numbers (assuming these are # and not Kg) are not very strong. ​ I've foudn lifting and di…
/r/askMRP09/09/18 03:39 PM
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Yes it means he's into you, but you probably already know that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 03:54 AM
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I'd agree with this. I've never met a girl who was into working on cars and construction that seemed feminine or attractive. Wasn't because they were into those things. But the vibe they put off in general is "just one of the guys". I know women who aren't into cars or construction and put off the "just one of the guys" vibe as well. So while I'd say the hobby doesn't really matter, I would say there is a STRONG correlation to being unattractive to men. If you could maintain your feminine ways i…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 11:58 AM
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yep. Enthusiasm is 99% of the battle.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 06:09 PM
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Wanted to add, losing body fat is really about a calorie deficit. Eat 200g of protein, 20-40g of fiber, and some other fats and carbs but keep your calories to 1600-2000 and you'll drop the fat. You can lift and get stronger while you do this but it will go slower and you'll stall quicker. Not a big problem with the goals you stated.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 05:54 PM
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I kinda prefer starting strength to stronglifts, but they are similar. SS is 3x5 rather than 5x5. You will need to go down to 3x5 in SL after a few weeks anyway, so they become about the same. Get your bench and press up and you'll see what you are looking for. You already have a great base with DL and squat.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 04:41 PM
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awkward is ok. Enthusiasm is good and covers a multitude of sins. Skittish is bad.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 03:04 AM
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An adult male should weigh about 200 lbs.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 05:01 AM
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"there are no bad teams, only bad leaders." Listen, I grew my career through the ranks and ended up on top in my late 30's managing 40 and 50-somethings. The first few years I just worked hard and eventually everyone just turned to me because they respected my work ethic. Not always -- many times they would question or insult me. I handled these sometimes well and sometimes badly. As I got promoted, I realized that leadership was much more about how you carried yourself and much less about title…
/r/askMRP16/01/18 05:28 AM
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Dude, I simply don't bring it up talking to her. I've not given 2 seconds of thought to what I'd do if she found my posts. Stop worrying about what she's doing and start worrying about yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/18 08:09 PM
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if you walk into a room and it needs to be cleaned, clean it. Get over it. It will takes like 5 or 10 minutes. Don't let it be your shit laying around if the subject comes up "this place looks like shit". Dude, don't masturbate. If you want sex, initiate. If she says no, don't be butthurt, just move on. If things are not working out (including sex amongst other things) then break it off. Bad news gets harder with time. It never gets easier. Don't bitch about her wearing your clothes or eating yo…
/r/askMRP06/01/18 08:20 AM
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I've been at this for about a year. Right now, if I walk into a room and it needs to be cleaned, I clean it. There are rules my wife has made about which teenager was supposed to have cleaned what. I listen -- and often remember these rules. I (sometimes) charge the kids a nominal fee if I cleaned it when they should have, but I employ a fatherly grace when I see fit. Sometimes I walk into the kitchen (I work at home when I'm not traveling to client meetings) and I see it needs to be cleaned. I …
/r/askMRP06/01/18 08:09 AM
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Walp. I've sold a company and "made it". I've been a COO of a fortune 100 company. I'll say these are the_books.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 07:57 AM
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Listen, sometimes you figure out you chose poorly. I’d tell her clearly (perhaps you have), “I’m not ok with your behavior and if you are honest I think it’s because you are not happy. Perhaps we should just call it and split. You can find another guy. There are plenty of women for me. Listen, I’d like to make this work, but I have too much respect for myself to continue hearing the bullshit you keep saying. You’ve burned through my patience now. If you want to make this work then I’m in. If I h…
/r/askMRP29/12/17 03:14 AM
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Don't overthink it. She probably just got tired and changed her mind after you two talked about cozy time.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 05:27 PM
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In my opinion "holding frame" is much more relevant to men. Men have become conditioned to defer to women too much. Obviously some deferment is needed in healthy relationships. When men are coming to marriedredpill or TRP, however, they are usually "broken" and need a reset. Often -- almost always -- they have incremented themselves over a lifetime into seeing the world purely through the woman's eyes. Everyone has experienced situations where they go into a conversation with an opinion or a poi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 08:24 PM
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I don't think anyone generally appreciates unsolicited advice from anyone else. Speaking as a man, I do not.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 10:02 PM
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Drop your defensiveness. Withholding sex to manipulate your wife’s behavior is just a bad idea, just as we have articulated here. If you would step out of your skin for even a moment and consider your circumstance from an objective point of view perhaps some of the logic we have posted here will make sense. If you don’t want to have sex with her because you are not attracted to her then that is a legit reason. Withholding sex — even though you want it — is a bad idea.
/r/askMRP24/11/17 07:08 PM
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Honestly, I can't tell if you are trolling or not. Being straight with you, this is 50/50 likely to be a troll post. Set aside the glaring and painfully obvious problem that women usually often go far longer than men happily without sex -- ie you are getting into a dehydration contest with a camel. The more egregious problem with this is that it is passive aggressive and manipulative. Be above board, straight forward, and direct about what you want and expect. Be willing to take her input and co…
/r/askMRP24/11/17 05:48 PM
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BPP has a better take on it than me. I tell you the story of not blowing your ammo from my huge portfolio of mistakes. My son is 15 and I have a great relationship with him now. When he was 3 one night he didn't want to eat his chicken. It was one square centimeter of chicken. I started a food war, and told him he couldn' t have his cookie if he didn't eat it soon. We all ate our cookies in front of him while he cried. Then I told him we would split his cookie and eat it if he didn't eat the chi…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 04:47 PM
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Seems from here that you are being moody, almost passive aggressive. Do you feel that way? Address issues like this once and move on. Don't drag it out making her feel like "she's still in the dog house". A long time ago I learned a good parenting principle: Don't blow your big ammo on small infractions. If you bring the hammer down and ground your kid for a 3 months, take his phone away for forgetting to take out the trash, what are you going to do when he runs away and gets stoned? "(interrupt…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 04:13 PM
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speaking as a man. love, compassion, respect, companionship. Many, perhaps most men get fulfillment out of having a family as well and want to chose a woman who they believe will be a good mother.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 02:16 AM
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Let me ask you a question. Do YOU think she SHOULD know what you were talking about? It doesn't sound like it. In which case, defend your boundary. You are not responsible for her feelings or attitude when she is crossing a boundary that should be in place. She is responsible for them. If you don't like being around her when she is freaking out, go somewhere else. Go back and read the sidebar again.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:15 PM
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Most of the time I opt out if it's starfish. I don't do it to affect her, or try to predict or read her reaction to it. I just don't want to if that's all there is. I do the "ok, let's pass tonight", and I get up and do something else. Here's the thing: don' t key off of her -- how will she take this? Am I doing this right? etc. The whole idea is to take charge of what you want.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:25 AM
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I don't mind it as long as it's not a limiting schedule. Treat it as a minimal floor of frequency.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 02:00 AM
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The more I lift and diet and take ownership of my life, the more everything else falls into place which results in attractiveness and... brown-chicken-brown-cowwwww
/r/askMRP28/07/17 01:58 AM
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You won't be able to cut down to once-in-a-blue-moon. You have to quit. You won't be able to have a good or even workable marriage while you are hooked. Fix yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 06:02 PM
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Keep in mind all your posts here are discoverable.
/r/askMRP11/04/17 02:28 PM
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Yep, there is a silver lining here. Financially we have a lot in savings and I make a lot. She feels secure, but unimpressed with me missing these bills. It's my physical attractiveness that I must be missing still. I do get more enthusiasm from her than I used to , but it's hit-or-miss. I obviously have to get more on-top-of-my-shit. The credit score thing is not excusable.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 09:01 PM
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For clarity, I am getting the marks removed and fixing the credit this week for these very reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 09:11 AM
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This one is going to be a puke-fest. I figure it's better to be honest and take any beatings I am due. This forum has helped me both when it's been inspiring and when it's been a kick-in-the-ass. I have had a string of good weeks until this last week. Now it seems like everything is falling apart. Stepping back, I am realizing that I'm not taking responsibility for things I've been ignoring...ignoring so long I've gotten numb to them. My path is turning out to be 2-3 steps forward, 1-2 steps bac…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 04:53 AM
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LOL, no one is diagnosing or prescribing formally here. Just sharing information -- imperfect as it always is. Don't be so narrow as to think doctors are the only ones who should be giving inaccurate advice. If you go to enough doctors over a long enough time, you see a vast array of conflicting advice. I've seen even a single doctor wildly change his opinion on treatments in very short timeframes. What never seems to change is the strident conviction that they are correct. That never seems to c…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 09:22 PM
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seek ye... /r/redpillwives /r/redpillwomen
/r/askMRP03/04/17 01:48 PM
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I agree. You have the right to not answer a question if you don't want to. You don't owe anyone an explanation. READ THAT BOOK IMMEDIATELY IF NOT SOONER.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 08:49 PM
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I remember the day we had our son's birthday party. I think he was turning 8 or there-abouts. It was during the star wars rebirth. We worked up this whole jedi thing. We sent invites to his friends that was a letter from yoda, asking them to join the rebellion, to show up at our address with a light saber ready to training. We had set up all kinds of games in the back yard. Meanwhile I dressed up like darth vader. When the kids came back into the house I was there. I then said in my most darth v…
/r/askMRP21/03/17 04:10 AM
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Sex: I have stated that we have a "schedule" of sorts that revolves around the kids (16,14,4) being out of the house or at least the older 2 being gone and the 4 year old watching a cartoon. I have targeted this "scheduled" nature as something to improve on. I have gotten about a half dozen comments from the wife about my muscle gains from lifting. I decided to start initiating every day. If I get turned down, I'll be cool with it. So far, about a week into it, she has not turned me down. 2 of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 03:44 AM
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This is not ok. Is he getting all the sex he wants from you? Guys can be weak. You say you are "redpilled", but a lot of guys will -- and I am not excusing this -- "read" the availability "mood" of their wife and try to figure out if he should initiate or not. I will say that when my wife has indicated she is "almost always" available, even interested in sex, it does wonders. I don't struggle with porn, but my eye will catch a random image or pop-up. It's hard wired. Not excusing it, but trying …
/r/RedPillWives21/03/17 03:13 AM
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When they are riled up, remember to initiate soon afterwards. DNGAF when they get mad. Shrug, perhaps smirk, and fog (WISNIFG). Stop explaining yourself. Stop arguing. Stop justifying what you said. You have the right to think whatever you want about people. You have the right to not justify your thoughts or actions. You have the right to change your mind (about saying you'd talk about it).
/r/askMRP20/03/17 08:53 PM
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When you go shopping with them, race them around the isle a little. Deny you are racing. I went shipping with my 16 year old daughter, I kept darting away from her which made her giggle. Just make the normal-everyday-event fun. When the kids picks something up to throw into the cart, move the cart away. When they move to get close to the cart, start trying to get it away from them. Deny you are doing it while smiling. etc. You get it. Tease them about crushes they have at school. Offer to "set t…
/r/askMRP20/03/17 08:46 PM
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Lifting solved most of everything for me. Still a bit to fix, but lifting drags frame with it, and attraction, and lots of alpha mindset.
/r/askMRP19/03/17 03:23 AM
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Man, this is a good post. I have read that book twice and have somehow downplayed this one point, probably because it hits home too much. Next time I read she is "not in the mood" I am going to initiate. She says no, so what. Jeesh this sub has helped me so many ways.
/r/askMRP19/03/17 02:37 AM
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Fitness 8/10 Still best category for me. I tweaked my lower back this week at the bottom of a squat. I'm learning it's not as big of a deal as I have always thought. Keep working it -- like walking on a sprained ankle. XL t-shirts that used to fit loose now are tight (some too tight) in the shoulders. Mirror test improving. Wife's comments on muscles increasing. I keep saying this, but I am find much (perhaps all) of the sidebar stuff falls naturally into place as my lifting and diet continue. F…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 06:03 PM
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My advice is to eat it. Running a business sometimes there are expenses...like who pays for postage when I send a paper contract next day air. I just pay and I don't bill the client, it's not worth it. Everything works better when I just eat the expense. Some things that help me eat (forgive) others: In this case, and usually, they didn't mean you harm. They believed it was the best thing given their best estimation of reality. Make peace with the fact that everyone, including your parents and a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 11:52 PM
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We have a very similar situation. With kids schedules and what not there are only a few windows where we are free from dealing with the kids, alone together, and not exhausted. I have been aiming to get out of the schedule as it feels non-alpha having read this sub, but I am not sure. Sometimes we are enthusiastic and sometimes less so. It seems she is always willing if obvious obstacles are not present (a present child, one of us is sick, etc). As my lifting has progressed I get enthusiasm more…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/17 04:21 PM
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LOL. Ya it's crazy expensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 10:37 PM
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First OYS Post. Fitness 8/10 Best category for me. Started TRT 6 weeks ago and I have been doing Starting Strength. Lifts are all going up, waist shrinking slowly but scale weight going up. Navy calc says 18% body fat, down from 25% in November. I can tell big difference in the mirror, wife is just now commenting. I don't think I get a lot of looks from strangers, though. Been eating very clean, low carb, cheat day on the weekend, no alcohol during the week. Broke the no alcohol rule a few times…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 04:20 PM
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"I expect my wife not to flirt with other men like that".
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 06:24 AM
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Two points: "tell (her) to not ever do that again" is where you started going wrong. Tell her what you expect or what you will (will not) accept. "...I'll fist her" is where you got stupid.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 06:22 AM
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OK, from what you describe, his behavior doesn't seem alpha. It seems toddler.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 04:13 PM
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Male here. I have always felt that the measure of a true leader is in how much he can handle. The true test of a boat is how it does in the roughest of waters. Blowing up at the smallest thing indicates weakness...a boat that can only sail in perfectly calm water. Now I say this, but the devil is always in the details. Someone can get hyper-sensitive around an issue after repetition. Like Chinese Water Torture. So ask yourself if you have contributed to his current state.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 03:44 PM
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