It is working..

SgtSilverBack · 2017-07-27T19:43:58+00:00

You feel better because you have a path for yourself. You aren't sitting there waiting on an external force to move you where it wants, instead you are taking control of your life and that gives you a sense of purpose.

While you've been getting some gains in several areas, don't get complacent and think that you have MADE IT.

There will come a time in the next couple.months where you will get some bumps in the road. If you get complacent she will ram that strapon down your throat and you'll regress through your anger phase.

So congrats on the NEWB gains and get back to work on OYS and creating a new path for yourself.

"The only easy day was yesterday"

Red-Curious · 2017-07-27T18:42:34+00:00

my sex drive is up the roof

I think this is an under-appreciated aspect of RPing. Many men in DB marriages consciously repress their sexuality. They know they want sex, but they forget what it's like to have the hard urge - especially with the physical, emotional, an intellectual strength to act on that urge to gratification. They have changed the urge for sex to resentment about sex.

RPing takes that conscious repression and says, "Stop being an idiot - it's okay to feel that urge and let your strength take over sometimes" - just not in a rapey kind of way. As a result, regardless of whether the woman is actually responding to the changes in the man, he's going to get more sex and more satisfying sex simply because he's going for it, when in days past he would have sat in a corner and stewed about it instead. I don't know what % of RP success is attributable to this factor, but it's more than 0, thus worth being reminded every now and then.

zurgenfloggin · 2017-07-28T01:58:43+00:00

The more I lift and diet and take ownership of my life, the more everything else falls into place which results in attractiveness and...

brown-chicken-brown-cowwwww

angels_fan · 2017-07-27T19:27:43+00:00

While it's great that your wife is coming around, she's only a metric of your value. If you're doing this for her, you've already lost. You need to have the mindset that you hate the old you and all this improvement is to make YOU a high value man. She's welcome to come along for the ride.

What goals have YOU accomplished in your never ending quest to become a high value man?

I like the one of you telling her what to do instead of asking her. That's some low hanging fruit, but an incredibly important first step in leading your household.

CrippleSlap · 2017-07-27T18:55:49+00:00

When did you start lifting? i'm only 7 weeks in

roadblock82 · 2017-07-28T13:28:30+00:00

I'm about 3 months in. I had a period fairly early on when things seemed to be great. No shit tests for a while, but eventually they started up again. Some of it seems to depend on what sort of day she's having but the tests are still there. I just keep lifting, reading and working on myself and it seems to be working well. Sex life is almost where I want it; there's still a few things she's reluctant to do but for the most part she will do anything I want now.

Keep your head down, keep lifting and absorbing the sidebar material.

DeplorableRay · 2017-07-27T19:17:37+00:00

Not getting shit-tested is not something to brag about. Two weeks in your work out's, hey? You haven't even began dread yet. Shit tests, and passing them, means your getting somewhere.

Don't be amazed by what she does, or what you can make her do.

Be amazed at/when you make progress on being a better you.

Title	It is working..
Author	AquitasVeritas
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	July 27, 2017 5:44 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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