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Because NAWALT, that's why. There actually are some women that have principles, a sense of duty, and work ethic which effectively make your wife more of a man than you are. She realized she decided to marry you and despite her regret she's trying to make the best off it. But yet you are still focusing on her. Get off your ass and start being a better YOU. focus on being better, learn something to get a better job, hell just apply to other jobs and ask for more. Show yourself you can do better an…
/r/askMRP05/08/22 02:28 AM
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I thought about the reason but didn't make a plan I thought about why but didn't make a plan I thought about money but didn't make a plan Most of your responses are to comments are regurgitating your view of what they said. Yeah I get you need to understand what they said, but when are you going to tell everyone what you are going to DO.
/r/askMRP05/08/22 02:23 AM
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My post to u/weaternhagen works whether it is with a kid or a wife (HINT: same thing). With a 5 month old or a 5 year old you don't have to say "don't be an asshole in public". You can just say "unacceptable" and take them to the car and sit them there while you; read Reddit, or sidebar. They will learn that poor behavior results in repercussions. And you don't control them, only state what you allow in your life.
/r/askMRP03/11/18 01:06 AM
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Damn, red. 225.......slacker. Fuck, I need whiskey and deadlifts.
/r/askMRP03/11/18 12:45 AM
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I read that as establish boundaries for acceptable behavior and enforce the crossing of said boundaries. But hey, if OP can't enforce boundaries with one, he can't enforce them with anyone.
/r/askMRP03/11/18 12:43 AM
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That's the fumes from his car being on fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/18 10:33 PM
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He means something along the lines of you have the ability to get what you want from other women, she has the opportunity to stop that from happening by being what you so you don't have to look elsewhere. Your ability=branch swing Her opportunity= olive branch
/r/askMRP16/09/18 02:08 AM
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Really? You think if he had the ability to do that he would be here asking? But seeing as how you put it out there, that is what option 1 is. Forest for the trees, my son.
/r/askMRP22/07/18 02:33 PM
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Boundary enforcement Action=Action NOT Action=words proclaiming your dislike of said action If you want to preempt an action it has to be ........duh duh duuuuuuuuuh, before that action ever happens. What everyone is alluding to but not outright explaining to you is something like the following (which is unique to most men) She chats with EX (her action) Option 1: You realize her lack of respect for you and demote her to a live in plate. You live your own life without any thought for her caring …
/r/askMRP20/07/18 08:54 PM
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All my growth in anger management has been purely from introspection and learning self awareness. Books like The subtle art of not giving a fuck and When I say no I feel guilty helped open my perspective to be able to see my issues. Specifically the parts about Judgment. This helped me realize that I normally got angry when I knew I could have done more or OMS and failed. After that realization I was able to begin just chilling the fuck out, do my best and not have to worry about defending my im…
/r/askMRP13/07/18 04:59 PM
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Why is it that all the non sexual stuff (and sexual stuff) that is important to you comes with some victim story from her where she magically changes the focus to her being a victim? Regardless of the specifics that everyone else chooses to make a priority in their marriage, the things that are important to you get swept aside as she manipulates you into doing what she wants. You want knowledge of her finances, HER: yeah but look at this sad reason I’m a victim You want some good fuck session, l…
/r/askMRP08/07/18 12:57 PM
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Henry Hill: You're a pistol, you're really funny. You're really funny.
/r/askMRP08/07/18 12:40 PM
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Only you know if what is not being done is truly important to you. But seriously, you want to run your own business and from the tone of your OP you have trouble running your own house. Get your house locked down. Get home from work and knock shit out. Then figure out your business plan. How much do you need to buy tools, vehicles, shop space, advertising, logos etc. I get home from work and do laundry, any dishes, lap around the house for anything to add to my list, start dinner if there wasn’t…
/r/askMRP22/06/18 01:51 AM
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“Hey, Honey. Nice frame you have here, mind if I join you?” I would be willing to bet you wake up everyday screaming of resentment and she can smell it. Your behavior tells her you have checked out so she is trying to drive you away and make you kill the puppy so her ego is saved. What happened to an awesome life? Wake up with a smile and rocking your mission? Time to do a gut check and dump your ego. You can’t control her, but you can set the environment you will be part of. Imagine waking up t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 01:06 PM
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I agree with stone. Reviewing your posts since your deployment started is a rollercoaster of thinking you have this figured out until something happens that makes you have to use your skills. You say you are shocked at how self centered she is when you have expressed the same "go plan". That tells me your go plan was a covert contract bluff. It was all to win her back and now that she doesn't want you your ego is hurt. She has been dealing with you sucking longer than you have dealt with her NOT…
/r/askMRP10/06/18 06:04 PM
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All of your actions are teaching points. You seem to believe that direct instruction is all he will understand and not all the actions you have described in your post. He sees you not directly addressing someone that is doing something you don't agree with. LESSON: Be quiet and don't stand up for yourself. He sees you having fruitless conversations with your wife where you defend your ego instead of practicing active listening skills to determine if what she says is different than what she means…
/r/askMRP03/06/18 04:59 PM
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If you don't know what you like, go to the mall find a store with some hot chicks and ask their advice while you practice your day game. New cuts and styles come out all the time. Expect to get any dress clothes tailored to fit properly. Everyone will notice the difference between someone that takes his appearance seriously and someone that wears off the rack. God invented stretch fabric for a reason. It rocks when you don't rip the fuck out of clothes getting into your truck. The only way to kn…
/r/askMRP18/05/18 08:52 PM
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Sound like your wife has standards. When you got married she thought you were someone that could meet those standards. You come across a being butthurt that she won't lower her standards to make your life easier. Isn't it weird that if you were functional adult and took care of issues upfront, she wouldn't have anything to nag about.
/r/askMRP02/05/18 01:16 PM
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Remember one of the main points to being introspective about your goals and steps is to help focus your mind on the steps to reach that goal not just to remind you to do those steps. They can be as broad or narrow as you need but at some point, narrow becomes an actual design. That is hard to maintain against many detailed goals.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 03:52 PM
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You aren't providing us with both sides of the equation. We need to know about you before we can even get to her. If you're a fat ass that can't make a decision or take a stance on anything, then this is the best you'll ever get.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 11:38 AM
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Confirmed, she was.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 11:35 AM
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Are you sure how you feel is due to her experience/past and not because of your own? Maybe regretting you didn't get to fuck a bunch of women and get them to behave they way you want your wife to and did with other men?
/r/askMRP21/03/18 11:56 PM
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Nah, you spent money and got a solid result. You found out something about yourself. Its like spending spending way more time and money to fix a car yourself rather than paying a pro. Yup, you paid money to learn about something and yourself. I'd say it's a bit priceless.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 02:46 PM
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It's amazing how respecting yourself got you more respect from here. FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 01:08 AM
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Wife's ex set it up before he left for the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 03:16 AM
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START HERE AND COME BACK WHEN YOU POST ANSWERS
/r/askMRP09/03/18 03:03 AM
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and we’re indoctrinated to treat her with respect, thinking, hoping, and praying it would be reciprocated. It never. Ever. Is. And it creates anger and resentment. And then you realize when you treat yourself with respect, it is reciprocated.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 02:55 AM
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And because planes are badass. A powered jointer and planer aren't nearly as rewarding as using a hand plane.
/r/askMRP08/03/18 07:39 PM
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So it looks like you are actually asking two questions. You have a covert question about the stonewalling and then the trip. Q1) you obviously have a different culture do to arranged marriage so that may impact how you answered how you did. For me, MY family (children, wife) comes before my parents. I know for damn sure if my wife acted like her parents thoughts were more important than mine I'd tell her to go marry her parents and divorce her. I don't put my parents before my wife or children e…
/r/askMRP08/03/18 07:19 PM
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There are exercises that strengthen those parts of your shoulder and increase mobility. Plus you need to work on form. Bands or cables to do external rotations etc.... Like all exercises there are certain aspects of form that are universal, how you need to get the scapula out of the way in order to reduce impingment, and some you need to tweak for your body, how much you reduce your elbow angle, grip width etc. In other words research and then practice till you find what works for you. Exactly l…
/r/askMRP06/03/18 01:50 AM
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Lucky. I tore pec off tendon Oct 16 last warm up with 295.. Sounded like a wet wash rag ripping. Yup, if you want to mess up some part of your life, let your ego get in the way and rush things.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 12:01 AM
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???? Why would I NOT put my suit back on? Does Bond wear a suit while he is killing bad guys or hitting on women? Does Mattis where a suit while still making terrorists have nightmares? Enough Said. Suits.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 06:28 AM
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Stats are real, the interactions happened. The difference............is all in the perspective. It was sarcasm. I have a decent life I am improving and am happy. So many guys post about the same interactions where they pick apart their wife's actions or phrases and come asking for help. The worst part is, when the wife is actually trying and the guy is so damn autistic he doesn't see value.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 06:21 AM
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FUCK, at least someone got it. P.S. Laphroaig? I am developing a decent whiskey collection but haven't heard of it. EDIT: Just looked up the 10yr. Everyone raves about it. Although now it seems like it should taste as if Jesus drank freedom and peed it back into a cask to be aged.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 06:13 AM
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Not quite an actual brag. Yeah I'm strong, everything else is improving nicely. Just a couple people that actually enjoy each other. I took a break from homework to inject some sarcasm into everyone's day that takes shit WAY to seriously. She was flirting, she loves flirting with her Chad.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 06:10 AM
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C) Did you see Finally Told Her before it got deleted? guy complaining about his wife helping him get his PhD.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 12:32 AM
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This shit isn't rocket surgery OP. The surest sign you aren't there yet is still letting her judge your actions instead of you. You get to decide if her statements are true not her.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 01:30 PM
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I celebrated v day early this year. I let my wife cook dinner and give me an expensive bottle of Japanese whiskey. Damn she's a lucky girl.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 08:53 PM
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He means wait until morning to lift weights or have your wife do it for you. Seriously tho, quit caring if your wife is pissed because you didn't do what she wanted at the perfect moment like a good boy. If the car seats needed to be in there then next time, after "reasons" requires them to be pulled out, out them back in because they belong there and you OYS. Otherwise paky with your kids and let her do it without coming here to ask.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 04:08 AM
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You are listing wants that control other people. How about "I want to be in a relationship with someone that cares about their body and enjoys sex with me". You have complete control over those wants.
/r/askMRP09/02/18 02:45 AM
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All women are stubborn when you aren't attractive. So BE attractive. Don't tell her you are, logic her you are. SHOW her you are. So take some deployment time to think of what is actually attractive and be that.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 02:55 AM
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There are two alternative. You could say "But girls, I'm a hard worker guy that is trying real hard to prove to all of you that you should respect men. Here's a list of all the good stuff I have done blah blah blah". To which they will all respond with reasons why it doesn't mean shit. OR You could say "You ladies all need to get laid, babe I will fix that for you tonight. Son, let's go do some manly shit and let the hens cluck in here." And walk out the door with your son to chop wood or build …
/r/askMRP21/01/18 07:04 PM
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OP can't handle anything else right now. He can't even celebrate his own birthday without being shamed. It's less life a grenade and more like those little snap pops you give three year old on the 4th of July.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 01:45 AM
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Both you guys are right. He needs to separate himself from her. This is a perfect time. He also isn't ready to laugh it off, smack her ass and tell her he is doing what he wants on the day he was born. It's time to work small things. "You know hun, I thought about it and you're right. The kids will go to bed too late and it is a long drive for everyone. I'll leave them her with you while I celebrate my birthday with my parents." Then be happy and practice fogging and OI. Both of you are saying s…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 12:52 AM
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Damn, did she tell you that your birthday presents should be what she wants? It's your birthday, she doesn't get to decide what you do, only her role in it. Take your kids to see their grand parents. Let them cook for you. She will sees you as they bitch that she can shame into doing what she wants. Don't get all pissed because internet people said you should stand up to your scary wife. Just tell her it sucks she won't be there for YOUR birthday dinner. For your own hamster, does she ensure the…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 12:31 AM
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"Hey doc, I have this massive growth on my neck, can you biopsy it and make sure it's not malignant?" "Sorry 'bout that, AY. But no, your good." Even if it wasn't an issue medically, it IS a quality of life issue. Find a doc that gives a shit and get full blood work done. Total T, free T, E1, E2, LSH, everything.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 01:38 PM
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Your wife is not your business partner that has short vision, from your own perspective. She is a pregnant woman that sees all the crap I already wrote. So quit trying to DEER and logic her to being okay with it. Either be okay with her not getting it and stop caring or give a way to insulate her from your risk and the cruel, big, scary world. If all this happened as an LLC or some other model that keeps risk off the family she probably wouldn't care and you would be leading her to feeling safe.…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 07:34 PM
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That is alot to take in. I dont believe this is an ABALT, it is a case of you not actually leading and OYS. To be clear, you may have gotten more attractive physically but you are still putting a burden on your family that shouldn't be there. Here s what I mean. You have a pregnant wife that has seen a history of you not being capable of emotional maturity that is trying to "grow a business empire" and raise a family. She sees you taking risk and putting the family welfare in jeopardy by the loa…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 07:03 PM
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Women don't typically have good manners...........with drunk husband's. They do typically have good manners for people they respect, like work colleagues they don't like and strangers and Chad. When you are attractive and OYS it's not all surprising when they get on there knees and say "Please......."
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:10 AM
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Way to not pay attention to what was written. I'm sure you also advise him to do more around the house since his GF is obviously stressed out.
/r/askMRP15/01/18 06:47 AM
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Understanding where a bitch is coming from still makes her a bitch. OP have some self respect. Fix yourself via the sidebar, use Clitler (aka your GF) as a worthy opponent to build your skills and become awesome. Right now you are that scared little admin fuck on saving Private Ryan. A German (your GF, see now the Clitler referrence makes sense) starts stabbing your friends and your are too scared to pull the trigger. He is wrecking havoc on your life and you know it's wrong, however, you are to…
/r/askMRP15/01/18 06:06 AM
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OP's wife has her own Obama care plan. Dude, it really seems like you WANT to be in this type of situation. On the surface, fine, fuck it if you want this type of arrangement own it. But quit saying you want to grow out of it if you don't. IF you want a different life stop giving us lip service and questions and start putting in the real work.
/r/askMRP14/01/18 04:53 PM
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I listened to the audiobook on my drive. It goes to verify alot of the RP praxeology. Be an attractive high value man with your own personality and life that is separate from your marriage so she has room to WANT to chase you. Everything thing else is helping to understand the theory behind certain personalities.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 09:44 PM
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She isn't a child. He does not need to explain what he will do so she knows the what the punishment is. When he builds his self-respect to where it should be for a normal human being, much less a valuable man, the boundary looks like this. HIM: He is not allowed in our house anymore. HER: Bull shit that doesn't mean anything unless it is agreement. HER: if she violates boundary HIM: hands her divorce papers There is no "I'll do X if you don't listen". When in a real relationship the only punishm…
/r/askMRP08/01/18 01:45 PM
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WTF. Honestly all I could think of is rock lobster or whatever his name was that got super pissed that we didn't coddle him and hold his hair up while he victim puked on us. Refreshing that you realize we won't pull punches and drink wine with you while eating ice cream.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 05:51 AM
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You can not agree. However, do you actually know what he is saying? Picture this if you can, I'm going to show you what u/similarsalvation said. You're riding your Harley, lean as shit. You pull up to Twin Peaks (the restaurant) , walk in and tell the smoking hot waitress you'll be sitting at the bar with your friends. She eyes you, seeing you walk away confident, smiling happy. You walk up to the table, your friends all yell "HEY it's MikeMRP". Everyone there sees you as the center of attention…
/r/askMRP06/01/18 04:34 AM
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She is literally sharing what is on her mind with zero filter. If you can't show her how fun it can be to keep that up, she will stop. Then you will be on her posting how she never talks at you, is that a shit test?
/r/askMRP01/01/18 02:28 AM
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I garuntee that a mother with a special needs child, she has made him a dopamine fix also. It's still his fault. We have a special needs child and my drunkenness early on made my wife feel the burden of taken care of everything related to his health. So my wife got all of her affection from him and resented my absentee captaining. Granted you already stated it, but his lack of OYS created tonight's histrionics.
/r/askMRP01/01/18 02:17 AM
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While you are right, the difference is you would set up the night, babysitting that is able to handle special needs blah blah. OP is still asking the captain what the plan is. BF won't make that better
/r/askMRP01/01/18 02:11 AM
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She will follow his lead if he is worth following. It's not all the stuff you mentioned by itself, it's that all those things should allow him to get her out and properly ease her into a social life, a foundation. His leadership is what is missing as evidenced by the previous comment "Asked her" People that have social issues experience them when they feel they have nothing to add or will be looked at negatively if they share them. His job is to be the buffer for her and then she will enjoy it.
/r/askMRP01/01/18 01:56 AM
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I can garuntee you that no wife that acts as OP's gives two shits what the Bible says SHE should do. Luckily OP shouldn't care either because he can't control her. Thinking she should behave a certain way the Bible says she should is akin to watching porn and resenting when his wife isn't a pornstar.
/r/askMRP28/12/17 09:34 PM
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By your own admission you have put in shit work. Your wife hasn't castrated you for sucking. Try doing a quality job and see how she acts.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 07:29 PM
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How about instead of suggesting MRP you think of it like mentoring. If you teach OYS, it MAY lead to MRP for a very small percentage of them but either way you are setting examples of things you value and more then a few may adopt good solid masculine values even if it isn't solid red pill.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 09:58 PM
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Yup. I had my blood work done a while ago and it was 267. Good news is, with the right doctor, your whole world will change. Time to truly focus on you. Fix yourself physically and you will have a big mental gain also. While you didn't make her take another cock, I'm sure you can see what actions lead to it being a likely event. So forget about her, turn your life around and be awesome.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 08:22 PM
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Damn, you beat me to it
/r/askMRP22/12/17 07:15 PM
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Send her my way
/r/askMRP22/12/17 07:14 PM
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With where you are at, gaming and kino with the kiddos around might actually help. Generally, most beta mindset men have done a phenomenal job with using classical conditioning in their wives. "If I touch, I want sex". That is why many women say you only want sex even if your just touching an arm. The two have been linked in her mind. Now with the kids around, you can touch and play and you know it won't go anywhere, at least in that room. It doesn't have to be overt sexuality, YET. Ease her int…
/r/askMRP22/12/17 12:51 PM
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Nah, if you suck at something, you quit. OP sucked at being a man and quit to be a woman. See how well it's working?
/r/askMRP21/12/17 01:22 PM
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I love when my wife brings up equal pay. My only needed response to her, our different PT requirements. Makes her huff and puff and walk off.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 02:39 PM
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1 bag=1 pee pee touch X=1 sex
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 02:36 PM
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Now it's time for you to become the architect of your item life. You'll experience deja Vu as your wife re-wires her once bitchy code to fit the new attractive man you will become
/r/askMRP20/12/17 01:51 PM
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I agree in part. It is the development of DGAF that I am alluding to. For many they give all the fucks then buy more fucks to give.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 11:24 PM
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This goes right back to you wanting to lead her. And you are. You are leading her to tit-for-tat bullshit. Eventually one of two things will happen; she will have enough and call it quits or you will realize it is on you to break the negative feeback loop. There was a post about using the nice card for a while until stuff turns around. You need to find it and read it. Summary: for the next 6 months play the nice card. She has a shitty tone, you fog or STFU. You still do shit for birthdays, anniv…
/r/askMRP15/12/17 03:17 PM
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Maybe he's just haggling over price.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 01:53 PM
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I understand. You will see many comments here that aren't direct answers. They are intended to make you critically think and be introspective. A response: wanting to lead her is great. Your current mentality is effectively pushing her in the direction you want. And I bet you get frustrated when she pushes back saying "QUIT PUSHING ME, I DONT WANT TO HO WHERE YOU TELL ME". Instead get in front of her and LEAD her. Plan a weekend for the family since it's many months out, give her the option of go…
/r/askMRP15/12/17 01:12 PM
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It's what your response should be because you have a life to live and want to experience it instead of worrying about someone else. Q: Why are you so intent on controlling someone that DOESN'T want to be around you? Q: Why do you not have stuff planned in your life that makes her question pointless?
/r/askMRP15/12/17 12:40 PM
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Like Christian scientists. Person A: "I don't feel well" Person B: "Go see a doctor" Person A: "I don't believe in doing that" Person B: "Then quit complaining" shrugs and leaves. People think it's awkward to NOT solve a problem until it hits some magical morals line then it's ok to just complain and not fix it.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 12:35 PM
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"I was gonna show the kids how awesome life is, they'll be sad you weren't there." So many men try to be a better woman. Maybe try to be a better man instead.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 12:18 PM
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It is difficult at first. You get stuck in "I just want a loving wife and good pussy, I deserve that". If you keep at it you get to a point that you can let go. You become better and you set a standard. There is no anger with it just matter of fact.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 04:36 PM
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For me, it was just learning to let go. Can you control X thing? If yes, control it. If no, let it go or assess how to make it controllable in the future.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 02:27 PM
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I read what steel said as not going around setting boundaries for a stupid shit test about dishes and crap like that. You are correct that new MRPERS need to care less about their wife's reaction but it should be calibrated to the situation not the wife. If they hulk smash everything that looks like a shit test, things will get worse than they need to be. I tend to be more like Israel and that fits with who I am and I own it.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 01:51 PM
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Something sounds really off here. Troll much?
/r/askMRP11/12/17 01:39 AM
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The only thing that should should explain IF HE ASKS, is your vision for the kids. Which is BP and RP anyway. "I am setting an example for my kids to be independent, emotionally healthy, functioning adults that understand the values I have of work ethic, earning over entitlement Blah Blah Blah." They want to hear that you want the Disney fairy tale for your kids. Which is true, you want that for them, however, you know it's not reality. That is the part you leave. Think Machiavellian.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 03:17 PM
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One thing to realize is that it works For ME. I can't do a to the penny budget. So I have a rough order budget and plan for an amount of leeway. Summers are high on electric so the excess gets used. Winter it reverses and builds up kind of thing. It keeps me from stressing over it because my plan works for me. Plus I made sure to set up allotments for Roth, investments and individual accounts. She can only use the main account for things say she can use. But she has her account that she can do w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 04:24 AM
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I like to have a running list of things I can pull from. If it isn't something special head to the pre-planned activities. Science museum, park, hiking whatever it is. I peruse Groupon to find good cheap activities for family and or kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:31 PM
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I have a rotational emergency fund. It doesn't go lower than 5k but I add to it then dump excess into investments. It helps with overflow due to random large medical bills or other semi planned expenses. Realistically it only matters to YOU. Does it fit your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:20 PM
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It's a terrain map when hiking. The see a destination and try to go straight there by following the sidebar. Run into trees and ponds, get mad at the ovcious detours and just set fire to the whole forest. All that shit is there in the forest you just have learn to navigate it and when to use what tools.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 04:47 AM
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I'd make unnecessary medical treatments like chemo a boundary worthy of divorce.
/r/askMRP29/11/17 07:37 PM
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I agree with the basis, however, there are enough people (men and women) that will walk straight into a bear's mouth just because you said they shouldn't. This can easily fuck up men that are young/naive/what ever adjective enough and that they start to question themselves. Imagine the young man pulling the trash bag out of the can when the wife asks him to take the trash out. She then turns to her friends and says exactly what your wife did.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 02:58 PM
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What's funny is that if he would have led her there and pulled her chair out, he could do all of this without coming across to the whole restaurant as the loudmouth. Yeah have preferences, nothing wrong with that at all. Stating your preference in a shitty way still leads to you being shitty.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 12:47 PM
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Solid post. Came at a good a good time for me this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 12:38 PM
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Take thought out of your daily choices. If you plan up front for food on busy days, extra clothes you keep for working out at work, make routine shit truly routine it's amazing how much brain space you have to focus on truly important shit.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 09:49 PM
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As a side note I was thinking, how many have planned for what to do when you come home and your house has been broken into? How many have taken pictures of things or saved receipts per your insurance requirements. Little things like this are what allow a leader to work his plan instead of sitting there getting shit tested to Oblivion because he didn't own his shit. Pre planning, 1-2 hours taking pictures and uploading them along with ins docs to the cloud. Saving the phone number for claims on y…
/r/askMRP27/11/17 09:45 PM
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Like u/red-sfpplus stated, sometimes shit happens and you are off your game. Take a breath, trouble shoot and fix the problem. With many of my team leads during their official evaluation they get overwhelmed and stressed trying to be perfect. It won't happen. Some situation will happen and they start breaking down. The biggest thing I tell them is to relax and work the problem. You can't go back in time, but you can solve it now and in the future by focusing on what caused the issue and resolvin…
/r/askMRP27/11/17 09:24 PM
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I disagree, he isn't her child. They are girlfriends. The real problem is she isn't a lesbian.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 01:37 PM
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One day a man and his family went for a overnight to an amazing place of fun and adventure for all. The kids were getting along, the wife was loving and affectionate, the man was a king and a leader to this family. All of the sudden he got a flat tire. He had no cell phone reception and his spare was not maintained so it was flat to. And he got more and more mad. His wife started questioning him, his kids started arguing and fighting. Every comment pushed him further and further to anger. He sat…
/r/askMRP27/11/17 05:25 AM
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My point being women have a beta version as well, we're society has trained them how to act. They think it's appropriate. You could do everything right and she is beta-ing harder thinking it's what she should do. Yes, leadership is the answer. Theory of it may improve which tools you use. Much like men that beta harder thinking it's the right thing to do. Women do as well and it leads them to fighting being a proper fuck toy. This is what confused me most about all the harpy women. Regardless of…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 05:30 PM
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In your scenario I believe it is a bit of HER scenario 1. She is used to beta you and she hasn't learned to be an Alpha's chick. There are women that don't default to pornstar and need to learn/ be led to that. Most scenario 2 situations wouldn't get a BJ anyway and def not after stating NO. They would increase resistance and shame harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 03:59 AM
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Don't let anyone shame for being a faggot. Loud and proud............on your elliptical. Then go eat the fuck out of that turkey.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 06:51 PM
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The first EX-Marine I've ever seen. Reach down deep and pull that devil dawg back from hell and let it infuse you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 02:43 PM
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10-4. I haven't been overly communicative on here about my lifts. I'm 5'9" 215 about 12%. 465x7 deadlift, 430x5 lowbar squat and 275x8 bench (coming off a complete muscle pec tear a year ago). Don't do many singles, since it stresses my joints a lot more than I care to after years of lifting. I'd prefer to get as big as I can but have to economize since anything not prescription can be expensive. I've looked into peptides and might give that a shot just to increase experience. Currently on .4ml …
/r/askMRP11/11/17 10:26 PM
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I've been looking for ways to preferably get a prescribed higher dose. If not I'm all for non-prescribed. Any recommendations? My doc put me on .6/week which I broke into .3 E3D. This gets me to about 900-1000 depending on test time. The script is enough to do .4 E3D so that is what I actually take.
/r/askMRP11/11/17 09:43 PM
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Don't you know it only counts if it's minorities and women.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 02:04 AM
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When you pull your head out of your ass you'll realize option A is way better than B. When you out in the work. Right now you are scared of the unknown so option B overrides your self-respect. Get that back and the sky is the limit.
/r/askMRP09/11/17 06:59 PM
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Good point. Keeps her talking and sharing. Also OP there are several conversation books about how to lead them effectively. Asking questions like Alphaphux suggested creates an SCREAM........INTERACTION. I have Kindle unlimited and there are tons of free books. You might only get one thing from it but it's a tool you didn't have yesterday.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 01:37 AM
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I try to break down what my wife says jack10 style. See if I can practice empathy without saying anything about myself. "Yeah that would be frustrating as hell, I bet you handled it professionally tho didn't you" Damn, that pretty awesome, it must feel good to be recognized for putting in all that hard work.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 01:29 AM
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How about less reading on STFU and more DOING STFU? For now it's simple, be happy and talkative about awesome shit. STFU about complaints until you complete an EGO check or create your vision. At that time you can verbalize you're disappointment (in an emotionally self managed way) or realize you shouldn't complain about whatever it is. IE regardless of my leadership, I know that my wife cares less about turning off lights and picking up after herself than I do. My complaining about the 10% of t…
/r/askMRP08/11/17 08:39 PM
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You:. Hey babe, I'd love it if we went and did some hiking, kayaking, mountain climbing, marathon fucking (insert what the literal fuck ever here). How's that sound? Her:. That sounds amazazing, I've always wanted to follow you to do cool stuff that you want. You:. Alright. It's gonna be pretty hard on us both, awesome shit I like to do is pretty challenging. I'll look into some good ways to prepare, once I find out let's prepare for awesome badassery together. We can push each other and fuck af…
/r/askMRP07/11/17 02:40 AM
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YOU: Don't do X thing or we are getting divorced HER: ok HER: does x thing YOU: guys she did x thing again, what should I do
/r/askMRP06/11/17 05:54 PM
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That was my thoughts when writing it. I still struggle with not giving specific advice to general issues. And I see negative behavior as very general.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 07:45 PM
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If she is actively searching how to be a better wife then just keep being awesome, reward positive behavior, and ignore negative behavior. To help with perspective. Imagine if during all this time of you searching to better yourself, your wife would wear lingerie and blow you when you stepped up, lead, weren't butthurt etc. You would have fell into a positive loop. Do the same for rewards she wants. Don't be autistic. She is different than you and I doubt her blowing you is her reward, I mean ye…
/r/askMRP05/11/17 06:44 PM
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I found after going through the sidebar, implementing and starting the sidebar overagain you see details in each reading that didn't click before. The key is DO THE WORK. You won't automatically act differently because you read a book, you must actively change your mindset.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 01:20 PM
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I bet. The first time I went to a quality clothier, he spent two hours listening to what I wanted for look, explaining fits and suit types. Awesome experience. I just can't afford that for more everyday wear type suits. Even cheap suits after a thorough tailoring are easily 400.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/17 06:54 PM
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I'm sure others have places also, JC Penny and Express have some stretch fabric suits (that don't have the cheap poly look) that still allow good movement while fitting better for some of us larger guys. I have a non stretch fabric that fits well after tailoring but the stretch allow just a bit better fit after tailoring that 007 would be jealous as fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/17 06:49 PM
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Hell, even if he could say yes without being resentful it would be a start. Abundance, it's not just about pussy.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 05:31 PM
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Good phrasing.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 05:27 PM
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I hope you can see the common theme. Your wife is a reflection if you. In this case her lack of enthusiastic sex is a reflection of you as a man. Let that sink in. I truly believe that there are multiple anger stages in regards to MRP. And much like the greif stages it is not linear. You can progress and regress as you out in work. The above might make you regress, or feel like your situation is different. It is not, make your life awesome as you define it and it will be awesome to include your …
/r/askMRP04/11/17 02:45 PM
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Hell, even if she is actually incompetent. Why keep having her do stuff she is not capable of. Like you said, leadership.
/r/askMRP30/10/17 02:40 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. My wife was freezing so I had her curl into me while I wrapped her up. OP, keep it up and I'm sure you will teach her the lesson you intended. "Don't touch me". Then you'll be bitching that she doesn't do it. Learn to be the teenagers leader and you can keep her acting properly. You should have warmed her up and told her you have some cold parts she can warm up.
/r/askMRP30/10/17 01:28 PM
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Ha, usually it takes other people to kick your frame in. He kicked his own frame in.
/r/askMRP28/10/17 04:13 AM
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Then I'd suggest some good introspection. I expect one of two possibilities. One:. You may not be as non-butthurt as you think. It isn't a lack of butthurt it is still being awesome. If she hasn't done something to cross a serious boundary then you shouldn't leave in a neutral un-angry way you just go be as awesome as you were before x event happened. Two: you aren't actually resetting the next day. There is a difference, like above, in bring neutral and being happy and fun. Truly reset, it's ha…
/r/askMRP28/10/17 04:09 AM
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Keep up the desensitization. Pair it with postive things and it will help change what she associates it with. I personally have found that after YOU have made progress in RP in terms of being better the "my Slut" is better than just "slut" . If she is comfort testing like you say that calling her my slut let's her know there is a place for her and that it is be yours. It gives her a sense of belonging. Any girl can just be a slut, being your slut should be special. Also any of the BDSM stuff can…
/r/askMRP28/10/17 03:27 AM
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If you are wanting to head down the road of D/s then the first thing I suggest is make sure you have control over YOURSELF. It is easy to get each other excited in the beginning. It's new and kinky for her, she's more sexual which feeds into your desire to do more. The reality is that I it's like trying to diet super strict, workout heavy and longer and add in two a days of cardio be all at the same time. You will burnout. The same will happen with D/s if YOU aren't in control of the pace. Of co…
/r/askMRP27/10/17 04:13 PM
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Nah. When you're right, you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 09:02 PM
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You're right. Ok scurvemuch for the win.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 08:58 PM
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Fuck that. Not American so it doesn't count.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 08:54 PM
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Meh, no one or two word subject line capture that accurately. But you read it. Guess it worked. "A Beautiful Death" copyright TFA
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 08:43 PM
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I'd say that sacrifice is the accepting the challenge to fulfill your mission, purpose, vision or values even if the cost is your life. Suicide is refusing to meet those same challenges. One recognizes that to attempt to meet your vision you may sacrifice your life. Armed forces, fire fighters, police etc. Others cannot fathom the difficulty of the challenge ahead of them and think giving up is easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 08:09 PM
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4 plates....... I remember my fist beer. Seeimg someone with actual good form do heavy swauts is impressive. I've also never sweat the same from deadlifting as I do squatting. But heavy deadlifts make you feel like killing a fucking bear. With your teeth.
/r/askMRP22/10/17 04:06 AM
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You shouldn't be intertwined at the hip, you should have things you do that are your own. That's building a part of you that is separate from her. Not completely separating your life's. About the only thing you share is house and kids. She feels like a mom, she acts like a mom. You want her to act like a girlfriend, treat her like one. There is a post from a few days ago regarding this topic. If kids were having trouble would you ignore them and hope the problem goes away. Or would you learn abo…
/r/askMRP21/10/17 03:02 PM
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The only thing I see is you building a life separate from your wife. If that is what you actually want then why are you writing a post that reads like you are complaining about getting what you wanted? You separated finances. No biggie, you may be"owning" all the joint bills and your bills but how are you showing her you are a capable husband by watching her drown in her own financial inmaturity? She wants a meeting and your choice of words presented a separate life. How are you showing her that…
/r/askMRP21/10/17 02:27 PM
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I bet how you feel now is how your wife felt the whole marriage up to now.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 12:39 PM
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True we all have bad days. The problem is the beta bad days most of us were so emotionally driven. That caused her to have to step up, be more masculine, start shit testing more etc.. If it was handled stoically it wouldn't have been an issue, which seems to be your point. Also, on the topic of her input, I don't see why her input was needed. Meal plan your week, have healthy eating out options for your tired nights. Then when you have your bad day, you pick up XYZ food that keeps your diet take…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 09:27 PM
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Well there you go. You tried a couple ways, it didn't work and you went a different route as a result. Learn from it and move on. If you were truly not emotional when you left then don't worry about it. They only thing I'd keep an eye out for is teaching her this is a good way to handle poor behavior. I assume that what you want is for her to be pleasant. Even if she is giving input you don't want she just needs to be pleasant about it. That's where the joking and fun will lead her. Sometimes th…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 08:50 PM
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Shit man, my wife did the same thing tonight. Her: "Did you remember to poke holes in the potatoes, they'll blow up if you don't". Me: "Allaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah". Then I laughed because I thought my joke was funny. Do you even laugh bro?
/r/askMRP10/10/17 02:29 AM
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Then no. AA, have fun. This is the hardest part. I know how easy it is to get pissed or try to show her by leaving........OI. But finding a way to have fun with it will get you so much more. There have been several vet posts the past couple days on this topic. And I think alot of new guys get so caught up in every other aspect that they forget to work on this one. More than likely they read it and it still didn't click. Yeah you understood the words but not what they meant. So here is my perspec…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 02:25 AM
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I wouldnt say it should never happen, can you give a situation where you think it would work. You may be confusing removing leadership with dealing with her shit. In any instance where you would've provided leadership to, let's say help her deal with a co-worker that is being a cunt, you aren't removing leadership as much as you aren't being responsible for her issues. If the leadership in question would impact YOU and YOUR values then removing leadership would actually be like letting your dog …
/r/askMRP09/10/17 11:43 PM
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Most interesting BLOOP in the world..... I don't always want to fuck but when I do.........I wait for her to tell me it's okay.
/r/askMRP08/10/17 11:39 PM
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I believe you are on to something that could help define some key concepts that many get stuck on. However I'm having trouble seeing it clearly right now. Are you saying that as these newbs attempt to unplug and in their mistaken version of OYS they take on everything instead of living in their own frame to determine the things important to their mission? By worrying over their wives feelings or more appropriately her anger and not telling her no to whatever the item is, they just show they will…
/r/askMRP06/10/17 09:16 PM
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Should've saved a couple to hide in the diaper. "Hun, found your tums, still want them?"
/r/askMRP05/10/17 12:49 PM
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I get were you are coming from with bougie now. It didn't jive with how I read it. I'm hardly pissed about his comments to me. To the point of stating how valuable his comments to the sub are. Hell, if anything I appreciate the chance to practice debating shit.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 02:49 PM
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Ahhh, so my distaste for writing about high art for school and taking that out on WNS, is a real world example of bougie. Huh, learn something new everyday.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 02:34 PM
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Looking around......bougie? Not sure how that came across as bougie, but sure. Shrugs, OK.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 02:27 PM
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I get the advancements made in art. But writing about it, that is what I'm referring to. 8 pages about the composition and styling of Leonardo's Last Supper. I'll gladly be a well paid ditch digger if that is your standard for high class.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 02:01 PM
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Nope, you can have it. Caravaggio, Verrocchio, Ghirlandaio. Take them all.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 01:40 PM
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You do it No, you do it. Ah never mind, let's watch Orange is the New Black
/r/askMRP03/10/17 12:38 AM
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The one that wanted sex.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 12:34 AM
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And to help clarify my idea of rejection, it has happened during two types of actions by her. DURING sex when she has laid there and had next to no participation. And even then, this was in the beginning during my own recalibration. The other time is if her "iniation" is so weak that it may have just been cuddling when I'm still half asleep. At any other point if it seems to me to be an initiation then I pick up the ball and run with. Drop her cues on the way so she can do it better.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 11:29 PM
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That's for you to decide.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 10:48 PM
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I've played both sides of that to see what worked best. And something to keep in mind when you start getting advice is, your situation is your situation. If you are going to turn her down, have something important that you are doing. If you are just watching TV, then fuck your wife. I see no issue recalibrating your wife's effort for your sex, but when you do it poorly you teach her the wrong lesson. Ideally I would say fuck her and work on leading her during sex. As you find out how that is wor…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 10:38 PM
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......just yelling at a noobie: STFU and start lifting is not always enough It is if they actually put in the work The unpleasant truth is that I was afraid to start lifting You got advice to do something then didn't follow that advice, and here you are telling us the advice isn't always the best. All the advice works if it is put into practice. IF YOU DO THE WORK. You started by not doing the work.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 01:34 PM
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Acting butthurt and spoiled would have been if you told her you would help then when the time came you made excuses not to due to her behavior. Words and actions matching up is how it is meant to be.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 12:34 PM
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I do, that's why I led with I agree. Do you realize that the value of giving something as priceless to you as your time could mean a lot to a man-child that may need a WNS 2x4? Or maybe more pertinent something like your time that you can put a price on could be valued as priceless by that sad representation of a man. Realistically I'm just angry at having to write about Italian Renaissance Art. Fuck linear perspective.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 06:21 AM
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I agree. But fuck it. If you were on a forum for improving men and gave a shit about their problems pro bono, what would that say about your values? Edit: Sentence structure. FUCK, school is turning me into a grammar Natzi already.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 02:19 AM
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I built my daughter's cottage bed for Christmas. It isn't the type of furniture I want to make but seeing her lose it when she opened her door and saw it. It's hard not to have a covert contract with the kids. I had to know building it was enough, regardless of her reaction. But shit, her enjoying it really helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/17 11:38 PM
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After a noobie has read the sidebar and at least attempted to out in the work, he can ask for clarification on theories he does not quite understand. Anything else will still not be understood by said noobie. We can all fill pages of clarification but it won't mean shit to the man that hasn't tried and failed. You are a step ahead of most noobies that come here. You are taking ownership of your failure in your life. Most are still talking about why failure in their life is the result of others. …
/r/askMRP01/10/17 05:26 PM
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It doesn't matter if it's snark. And at this moment psychology doesn't matter. He is telling you in his way that your life isn't about her. If it was it would be HER life. Men here will not coddle you. We may explain, however when you victimize yourself you will get hammered. We are the men out in the field setting fence posts all day long in the heat. The young kid comes along (you) and complains about how hard digging is or how they don't understand putting up a fence is important. I try to ex…
/r/askMRP30/09/17 04:08 PM
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It seems like you have a pretty solid understanding already. That's the point of this Reddit. Yes many men ask stupid questions without putting thought into it. But you seem to be coming from a place of fine tuning and calibrating. Keep it up. The only thing I'd suggest is to do a post from your perspective, your words on that change in mindset. Alot of men here are trying to wrap their head around theory using their own experience. They get tunnel vision by having limited or largely similar acc…
/r/askMRP30/09/17 03:53 PM
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You have a point and I completely agree. I was coming from a generality. There are always exceptions but thinking you are the exception if you haven't proven it will build up the ego and lead to failure. Start the work, and if you go faster than own it. Those are the situations where going Rambo is effective. When the man completely owns his progress with intent, not absentmindedness. I think we are saying the same thing tho.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 03:08 PM
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Again stop thinking you need a larger career path. You don't HAVE to have one. Your best career path could be the one you are on now. That is only for you to decide. Everything is for you to decide. It took me a while also to realize I don't need to be an entrepreneur, or Trump or WTF ever. I really just want a simple life with a woman that enjoys my company. My vision doesn't have much else in it and that's ok. The difference is I can realize that it may not be my wife, and I can kick her to th…
/r/askMRP30/09/17 04:04 AM
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Well. There is no QUICK. I repeat. THERE IS NO QUICK. All there is, is learning. Growing and maturing. That is really it. The way to do that is through the sidebar. You read and internalize. You practice, fail and practice again. You lift because the iron doesn't care, you are either strong or not. It won't shit test you. It is pure will against pure will. A fitness model, a powerlifter a bodybuilder. None of that matters for lifting. For everything thing else.about vision. Fuck. Man. I'm not as…
/r/askMRP30/09/17 03:32 AM
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Calm down Peta. (In lois' voice)
/r/askMRP30/09/17 02:32 AM
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There is no swift plan of action. There is no saving the marriage. Here there is ONLY work on improving the MAN. In time, wife may realize she is worthy of the improved man. That's it. That is the outcome you shoot for. Anything else is a covert contract which will fuck up you and how your actions are received. So restart with stuff about you. Your vision for your life. Your vision for career. Your vision for fitness. Your vision for relationships. What are you doing to meet those visions.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 02:31 AM
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Everyone has given you good advice. You are just acting as a man should. You are following YOUR vision. It's that simple. You seem to care about your wife, which is great. In a well functioning marriage that should happen also. The only problem is you think doing anything fun has to take priority over your mission, even for a single night. The reason marriages like u/angles_fan work, for him, is that he includes all that fun in his every day Life. By the sounds of it u/straius does the same. It'…
/r/askMRP30/09/17 02:11 AM
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The only reason I'd be upset about losing my ring is if it cost alot. Mine was a hundred bucks and I haven't worn it in 6 months. Could give a shit if it gets lost or not. I began to take it off for deadlifts, then I just never put it back on. She asked once in effort to get me riled up: "Why aren't you wearing your ring?" Holding my hand up "Hmm I'm not am I". Then with the same and grab her boob and make a honk noise. I get the feeling you brought it up as a covert way of staying hey look at m…
/r/askMRP29/09/17 04:06 PM
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In a marriage like he has the only excitement needed may actually be them doing shit. For some women, going to the Opera provides the feels. Going to Starbucks and making fun of people, tickles under the table. All that kind of stuff is the replacement feels for arguments. Still AWALT, just at a different place on the feels spectrum than a drama queen that needs to to fight for her honor to get feels.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 03:55 PM
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Pretty funny story up front. The second part. Fuck it is so true. I remember when I was still deep in the blue, I'd dream of all the shit I wanted to do......IF ONLY. If only I had the money, but I'm giving it all away to the family for this and that and the other. Wife's new car while I still drive my old truck. If only I had the time to practice woodworking, but instead it's being the house bitch and not even getting laid, or recognized for the effort. Then you start keeping your OWN money and…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 03:48 PM
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She very well may not be able to keep up. However, like other repsonses have noted, are you actually leading? Do you know what that looks like? I get where you are coming from. Most of us do, we are able to move forward day after day. Grinding away, knowing even if it's hard it will all be okay in the grand scheme of things. The kids will be fed, you'll have a house, clothes, cars and if only everyone was pleasant, then you would still have each other. Everything else is superfluous. That isn't …
/r/askMRP29/09/17 02:57 PM
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I don't believe most women need to be scared of thier man being stolen. Just a good looking MAN that she can be proud to be seen with. Granted getting hit on by other women is always a perk.
/r/askMRP28/09/17 02:26 PM
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I agree with your perspective on Dread. It has different meanins at the different levels. Early Dread is becoming a attractive man. Better dress and appearance, busy doing awesome things. Later Dread is actual dread that you can get someone better than her.
/r/askMRP28/09/17 02:18 PM
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You don't push anyone anywhere. You give a boundary that drunken flirting is not acceptable. If SHE chooses that behavior over your value then you let her have her choice. You divorce her and she can do what she wants. If you are unable to make that decision than you do not have a boundary.
/r/askMRP28/09/17 02:09 PM
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HA
/r/askMRP28/09/17 12:03 AM
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I'm torn. It could be that. Dealing with a-hole pushy furniture salesman and she doesn't have it in her. OR......... He does this with many things. She's cleaning dishes and here comes greatusername, "you know, if you stack this dishes in a lateral formation with the vertical force of the the H2O dispensing unit properly calibrated you will achieve a better cleansing ratio" He T/asks her with taking care of the furniture issue. She's working the kids lunch, getting ready for work, planning that …
/r/askMRP27/09/17 11:14 PM
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Fuck. Every single time I fall for it. Finally out comes the details.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 10:01 PM
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Then the choice is yours. If you value her/the marriage lead her to a better way of dealing with stress. This requires all the same WORK to maintain frame as if you didn't care. Stay calm tell her to start over because what ever she's is trying to say isn't working or tell her you'll listen when she converses like an adult. She will fight harder at first but through your frame will realize it WONT happen until she acts how you want. Or she will keep doing it and you find someone less stressful t…
/r/askMRP27/09/17 08:44 PM
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For me, it varies depending on the environment and my level of care for her at the time. The result is the same. "Who do you think your talking to?" "We don't talk to people that way in this house" specifically when the kids are around "WHAAAAAAAAT?". Pick her up and fuck WITH her. I try to do this more often then not, but like everyone, I'm fucking busy and I don't always have the inclination to lead her out of her emotions. Cock head, raise eyebrow and leave, if she asks where I'm going I just…
/r/askMRP27/09/17 08:35 PM
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Help yourself out an actually ask a question.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 08:22 PM
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You have went through a lot that a parent should never have to endure. You were strong enough to make it through that be strong for alittle while longer. Until you have the emotional and mental space to make mindful decisions. While she is asking you about your feelings practice your fogging. "You're right, i was more emotional then". "You're probably right, I could feel more now". And keep hugging here. The burden, at this moment in your marriage, is on you. To let her emote at you while you ar…
/r/askMRP27/09/17 12:51 PM
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Meh, sometimes I have my moments.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 11:36 PM
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My wife did that ONCE. I called her rufio from "Hook". She hated it. Hasn't cut her hair short since.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 11:15 PM
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I agree with everything but the response. This is a chance for him to practice fogging and borken record and some OI. IN PERSON. Her:. What do you think of this harircut, it's so cute. Him: no thanks I like long hair. Her: what don't you like about it, it's cute. Him:. I like long hair. Her:. I don't want long hair, I'm going to cut it. Him: raise eyebrow, go back to the more important shit she interrupted. Ideally, saying it once is enough. However, ideally he wouldn't have to practice those co…
/r/askMRP26/09/17 05:20 PM
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Unfortunately this is the work that most men can't or won't do. They completely understand the theory that a boundary has to be spoken and understood for it to exist, BUT then they have to express said boundary and get scared of the wife's reaction that hasn't happened yet. OP, you were butthurt. Cut the ego that expects her to read your mind and ensure you don't relfect a defensive posture when telling her to give you 15 minutes next time you are with you kids.
/r/askMRP25/09/17 11:32 PM
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Of course I don't care about you, you don't care about yourself. Say that and walk away with a smile. You needed to use her to learn how to lead difficult sailors and nothing more. Get it through your head that your marriage is gone. DONE. Start thinking strategically...where do you want your ship to go, how will it look, what is YOUR vision? Then implement the tactical plan to meet your strategy. I hope to God you aren't one of the officers that let's your enlisted folks drive everything while …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 10:10 PM
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I was with a girl once whose boyfriend had choked her out and kept fucking her while she was passed out. The first night I wrapped my hand around her throat and she shutdown telling me that story. I let it go, didn't push it and then slowly touched her neck, gently. I did that for weeks. Then I'd wrap my hand around gently for weeks. Then more pressure for weeks. I was able to choke her and she loved it. I had to train her to trust me. That I could control myself and that I wasn't her past exper…
/r/askMRP24/09/17 03:23 PM
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You think you wife saying "I don't think you can handle me again" is a shit test? That was her flirting, a challenge for you to be man enough to fuck her hard AGAIN. It also sounds like she wanted to get dominated. Pick her up in the elevator and throw her over you shoulder and take her to the room. You still have some covert contracts and validation seeking behavior that's fucking with your head. Cut that shit out. Go search shit tests and see what an actual crappy wife is then realize yours ju…
/r/askMRP24/09/17 02:24 PM
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I'd say he got tired of shit that wasn't working and learned from it. One of his lessons was too quit the habit of comfort and then he did it because he genuinely wanted to. That's the only way this works fellas. Give a hug or kiss because YOU want to not because you are expecting her to reciprocate.
/r/askMRP23/09/17 03:24 AM
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Or as an assertive man that can judge your own wants and desires you keep the beard because you want it and still iniatiate because you want to. If a beard keeps her from having sex with you then it's on her. You probably need to be more fun (for you) and work on AA for the point of re-directing her emotions. I have a feeling many will say tough shit for her because you are not responsible for her emotions. While that is true, I assume your goal is to have a functional marriage and that means le…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 05:49 AM
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Based on his few details. I believe she doesn't want to cheat, but she definitely wants to fuck however she resents that it is with him. She gets her fix and probably goes inside her own head to get off. If he isn't leaving out major shit, I'd bet if he got to average BF and acted like a well rounded adult man, she'd fuck the shit out of him and it would only get better as he improved. That all seems like the standard MAP and it is. My point being she doesn't come across as an emasculating bitch…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 07:40 PM
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Awesome. Remember to ease into to it, don't jump straight to whips and chains.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 05:12 AM
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What do you believe?
/r/askMRP17/09/17 06:06 PM
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This is very similar to you previous post about having time to do everything. It seems that you don't know what you want out of your time. If it is your career/side business like you discussed in the previous post then you have to be ok with the SO not working out. If it is having a solid relationship then you need to find a way to make the time you have together meaningful, read be present when you are together. In short what is your mission, vision, goal. Figure that out and you can adjust you…
/r/askMRP17/09/17 06:02 PM
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Then next time cut out parts that turn it into a chance for her to hamster, like I was with you during the return. That fact is it doesn't matter and it's not any tactical advantage. It may be a larger strategy to show her you pay attention, but I doubt it will actually help. I'd listen to u/dirtypr and keep an eye on charges just in case. And the next time focus on the issue being her lying. Possibly with some vision about how you see an honest marriage benefiting you both so she can see she ha…
/r/askMRP17/09/17 05:55 PM
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That is where the anger of a righteous man will stop her. That controlled anger telling her "WE do not talk that way is this family" "Son, car". Then either STFU and leave or tell her "I'm disappointed in your behavior" The problem is with your current interactions and her view of you, she may not care if you are disappointed.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 06:59 PM
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I get it. The problem is using that tactic when it means you go against your own vision for your family. If you don't know that, I would make it your fist priority. GTFO works fine when she is the ONLY one affected. Like later that day when she brings it up again and you didn't make plans for being responsible for your kids. In that case by alleans STFU, GTFO do whatever. However, of it means redirecting you from your mission that it shows she can manipulate you to get her way. Which in the mome…
/r/askMRP16/09/17 06:53 PM
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You were the one that caused it. The collateral consequence is her seeing that you can't be trusted to be the MAN in her life. Its like a woman letting herself be raped when there is a gun right next to her because she is too scared to shoot it and take a life. You are too scared of standing up to your wife so you made the only option GTFO.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 06:40 PM
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So you were scared of your wife's rants. You were letting her dictate and change the plan and ultimately drew you into her frame. Do think her attitude changed because you left? Suddenly she was kind and pleasant to the boys, or she was abrupt and mean to the innocent bystanders that are your children. There is only one way out. That is to stop being afraid of her. You have the ability to control your emotions especially in regards to directing them at the appropriate people. Let her scream and …
/r/askMRP16/09/17 06:36 PM
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Then you acted butthurt. You had a plan to take the boys to the game. The plan had nothing to really do with her. If she went to brunch or never came to the game you would have done the same thing. Instead you let her behavior affect you showing your son support during his game and your presence in HIS life. All so you can play a power game on your wife. It would've been better to take the kids, since you said you wouldn't wait on your wife. Be there for your son. If she gets there and starts in…
/r/askMRP16/09/17 06:19 PM
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Time for pleasant company. Energy for energy
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 06:05 PM
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First, it seems unclear on the final result. You have two boys 6 an 20 months. You were going to take your oldest to the game but didn't, or you did and left the game?
/r/askMRP16/09/17 06:02 PM
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His boundaries are about the lying. He seems to have a grasp on how he feels his family finances are run and to what degree he let's his wife control her finances. My point being, while we throw around finances as owning your shit, we also place a heavier emphasis on YOUR vision. If his vision is less anal about finances then that is his decision. OP, did you say the second part about being with her during the return or was that what you were thinking but answered with don't lie to me? While I t…
/r/askMRP16/09/17 05:55 PM
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I think I understand what you are getting at with the post. So I'll give you my thoughts and let me know if it's on target. Man finds MRP after being blue pill for long enough he isn't sure how to act or think. He begins his journey by reading the sidebar and hopefully devouring posts and MRP and ask MRP. Then one day his wife is giving him some shit because he didn't pay daycare on the normal date, because he/she didn't work enough hours so they need to wait for the next check that comes in two…
/r/askMRP15/09/17 03:03 AM
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That is a very subjective question. I get it if you are trying to wrap your head around the theory of your life value, however, the answer will be different for most men. Only as an example since I haven't researched u/donedreadpirate. He may want something that has absolutely zero basis in his normal life. A plate he can fuck, that won't turn around and talk about kids grades, car repair, re-financing the house. Maybe he wants a plate that can help energize him. Maybe he wants a plate that digs…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 09:54 PM
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That's good that you have the time and identified key points so you will able able to, if you haven't already, decide what value your life and those you let into your life should bring.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 05:49 PM
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I'm glad you touched on the aspects of how you react to the difference between communication with a plate and with your wife. It is such a catch 22 for most men that haven't gotten comfortable with the ramifications plating could have in their life. On on hand you will not get more abundance than a hot chick telling you all the nasty shit she would do for you. On the other, that same event can drive a deeper wedge into your marriage when/if your wife is still negative regularly. It could be what…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 05:35 PM
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Damn it, that was supposed to be bewteen us.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 04:42 PM
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How about instead of regretting that you posted it, add an EDIT at the bottom and provide what YOU think the answer or suggestion is. Read your post as if someone else wrote it, provide lessons learned and a path forward. This isn't just for you. It's also you providing your own leaderhsip to new MRPs. If you give your situation, your question and your thoughts or introspection, MRP can guide, instead of spoon feeding you an answer. And just maybe other newbs will see that and learn to think int…
/r/askMRP10/09/17 04:30 PM
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Great post. The only thing I can think to add is...... Have fun. For the sake of all that is awesome. Have FUN. When you are to busy having a blast in your life to worry about pissing off your wife, you might be surprised when she just jumps on board. C'mon fellas it's the only life you get, fuck it into submission. When I woke up this morning, I heard the voices of angles coming from a vision of Mount Rushmore singing the Star spangled banner as a squadron of bald eagles flew in formation over …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 03:24 PM
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Are you mad because you "are supposed to get mad"? Or are you mad because it's not true? Or are you not even sure why your mad? I don't care if my wife tells it straight about anyone as long as it not judgey. All holier than thou about other people's business. If she calls my dad a dick and he's being a dick, I'm not going to argue because others think I should. If she just doesn't agree, I'll tell her to stop and it's not her place to judge. But these are my boundaries for how my family conduct…
/r/askMRP09/09/17 04:28 PM
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/u/chlomite nailed it. Be to busy for sex to be an issue. Be so fucking busy she is in bed before you and passed out. Be so busy you fall asleep smooth the fuck out before she gets in bed. Be to busy......
/r/askMRP09/09/17 01:48 PM
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Don't get to caught up in STFU when you are used to being cocky/funny. STFU is mainly for shit tests in it's various forms. In person, I would still work on being cocky/funny because that is who you are. By not doing it in the scenario you brought up, it is because SHE doesn't like it or you were trying to be funny to get her to laugh, as opposed to YOU thought it was funny. The difference between the two comments, One is about texting (OP). He should shut up unless it logistics and work on bein…
/r/askMRP09/09/17 01:18 PM
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It seems like you are "trying" to be fun but you're doing a shit job of it. If she is used to you being butthurt and insecure then she will probably read this into most texts that aren't blunt logistics. It doesn't matter about her phone unless she says it got lost or stolen . So you called her for a reason, your follow up text should've stated that reason so you can get back to work or being awesome. I used to do this all the time too. I thought I was being funny. My friends would laugh, but wi…
/r/askMRP09/09/17 04:20 AM
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First off, it seems like you are maturing well. It takes time PERIOD. Don't necessarily take her reaction as validation of the proper path. If you do, then you are still using her frame for guidance. If you truly felt like "if I wanted to fuck you last night, I would have" then that is the best place to be. The rest is her noise trying to see if you have change. Alot of words to say, keep it up. For the rest, the answer really is just like trying to get laid period. Whther it's just fucking afte…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 04:07 AM
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Shit, man. We all do it. It is extremely hard for me to pay someone else to do something I am capable of, especially if it means I get to teach my kids how to be responsible. And some of them I truly enjoy. I love fixing and DIY shit at the house. Sweating my ass off covered in saw dust, smell of poly. And a finished "whatthefuckever" the family can use. But, we are MEN. That means knowing your limits or strategically pushing them. If 2 out of 3 things are important, find a way to get number thr…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 09:53 PM
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What is an hour or two worth to you? If that is time you could invest in your side business and the cost of cleaning or paying someone else to fix shit is less than that. Pay THEM because your time is more valuable. Look for ways to be more efficient in your planning. If you are waiting on something use that time to do something else that you need to get done. I always put my laundry in the washer and delay start so it's done when I get home. Throw it in the dryer while I get dinner ready. Have …
/r/askMRP08/09/17 09:28 PM
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C'MON, you read it for the funny comments, just like all the shitty posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 01:10 AM
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Well shit....reception is ruined. Might as well shoot the puppy now. Probably ruined your marriage for years to come. We all have our off days, brother. Take an hour for yourself. Think about it and what you WILL do in that event next time. Then go have a bad ass life and let you wife be part of it. Give it one fuck and no more. On the fourth of July my Aunt, who acts about like yours, poured her water on me. I dumped my whole glass on her. Everyone lost their shit. Asking me how I could do such…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 01:01 AM
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Drive the car...........to a bar and have a few of your own drinks with the beta guys losing there shit and get them to pay for the drinks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 12:45 AM
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Can you provide an example of that answer with more finesse or a resource you've found that could help others?
/r/askMRP01/09/17 01:01 PM
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If you actually cared about her, you'd want to give her the best motherfucking Eli-dust you can. THAT is how you show someone you care. If she loses her shit because you're high value, do you really want her and more importantly how do you think that looks years from now after marriage and kids? She's riding Chad's cock because you decided to appease some chick you're not even banging.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 11:55 AM
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Yup, let that sink in for a bit. That weird taste in your your mouth........that's her cock. And to further beat it in, RP is a sexual strategy...you don't have sex over a camera...... So you can't RP over camera. Lockerroom butt slap,. Now go on and get to work champ.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 11:39 AM
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Long Distance is not a relationship. That's why you get the feeling that only a beta will keep it alive, that is what she wants and gets out of you. The better question, why do you NEED it to survive another year? My money says, because that is when you'll be together so you can really show her the MAN you are. Damn, I wish I could put more sarcasm into text. You don't redpill a relationship, you become a RedPill Man. The best man you can be. With or without her. Now scamper on over to the sibeb…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 11:10 AM
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It seems like you are already doing it. Know your end goal and work towards in a way to remove any defenses that might come up. Hand cuffs, starting by holding her arms above her head. STRONG grip, make her feel the strength and loss of control. If you are HL like me, thinking about sex isn't an issue, so now use that time while you are driving to plan what the progression to your goal looks like. Start bringing those things in more often, push her against the wall and grab her throat when you 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 01:24 AM
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Honestly, I don't think it matters. Up front I know it seams like it should, however, it ends up just being bullshit she says as part of her being her. There are things that should be obvious, injury, gang bangs, fucking a horse. These being things that a loving couple shouldn't necessarily do to each other. If that is your thing, do it with someone you don't give a shit about and in that case do you really care what she says. The more likely things of anal, choking, collars etc could be things …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 10:52 PM
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Very well written. I would also say that really changing my perspective on the/all interactions had the most drastic change to my frame. Much like the perspective art with the old and young woman, once you see both sides you can start deconstructing the situation and applying MRP theory. Once I changed my perspective from she is upset and I need to defend my position to regardless of why she is upset I don't deserve to be treated or spoken to like I'm less than she is, I was able to hear her ton…
/r/askMRP31/08/17 12:44 PM
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Not at all. Firstly I use the term kink and its associated terms to mean something other than PIV, BJ regular sex. I do not use it as a judgmental phrasing. For the distinction between D/s and BDSM, just remove the BDSM for a moment. Imagine your wife coming to you and saying "You have earned my trust and I want you to be responsible for my welfare in every aspect. Correct me if I'm wrong, reward me when I'm good, punish me if I deserve it. I am giving you control and authority over me as my hus…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 08:22 PM
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Much like with learning to game your wife, use AA, AM, you have to learn how to time your interaction so you aren't completely autistic. For those that have read Jacktenofhearts stuff, this should at least make sense. I feel that to have a functional D/s relationship it should be internalized. If your wife is stressing over something that is important, even just to her, then telling her to put her plug in is autistic. Use your leadership skills to settle her and ease her stress. Understand, I am…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 07:54 PM
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What he is referring to is a different perspective on D/s vs BDSM. BDSM being a purely sexual kink, full of everything you know about kink. The D/s relationship, while technically a part of BDSM in the form of naming is for a formal Captain/FO dynamic. One of Mr Fox's rituals is to have a day where his FO/sub/wife while kneel down put her head on his lap and talk about whatever issues need to be resolved. Granted it's in a leather chair in front of his bedroom fireplace so it works. But is just …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 02:15 AM
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I was and still am an extremely blunt person with little finesse. I'm working on finnese but at my core. That is who I am. So I acted without seeing the covert messages we speak of here. Autistic. How ever you phase it, I didn't pay attention to signs warning me to slow down and take care of her specific to BDSM. If one toy is good a hundred are better and what not. My ego raging that she would say she loved crawling for me one moment and hate it the next. She owed me. My bluntness would come ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 11:32 PM
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I've been a member for a while. I really think it blends the MRP self improvement with a marriage centered BDSM relationship well. It has many corresponding values. I wish I had the self improvement MRP has provided when I found husDom. More things would have immediately made sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 10:25 PM
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I like the pollution of head space concept. Little things that start pulling you back towards some ego fueled anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 08:48 PM
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It shouldn't be a negotiation. She obviously should have input, however it is in the form of her hard and soft limits. After that it's time for you to be in control, just like the other areas in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 08:46 PM
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Very true. It falls in line with most of MRP Tennant's. Be the Dom that you want. Use whatever BDSM items you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:59 PM
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Damn, good perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:05 PM
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I have done shibari, she enjoys it more than I do. But I researched ways to use it for my goals and hers. I wouldn't suggest you wait till you are 98% sure it would succeed, I would suggest slowly increasing each item. Plan for safety, plan it like your date, so there aren't pauses that change the dynamic. Start small so you get confident in ramping her up and completing a successful scene. There will be things that don't succeed, how that is addressed is a mirror of how you have grown as a lead…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:02 PM
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I can work on that one too. It will give me chance to work on my writing skills. Upgrade it from try hard college pussy writing to try hard bradensdad pussy writing. Way bigger pussy quota.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:50 PM
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You are what you eat, Dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:36 PM
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The amount of effort it takes is really minimal. People have provided scene ideas like /U/thefamilyalpha provided thoughts on paint night. Only thing left is Amazon order and set up. Even that can be part of it. Tell her to lay out x toys. Set the collar and leash on the dresser. She will be hyperfocused on that all day long. Within reason it has become a part of my everyday life. Sitting on the couch relaxing, she shows me a pic of a tumblr scene. I am extremely HL so sex is literally on my min…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:35 PM
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I'll do a new post so it doesn't get lost in this one.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 08:06 PM
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Learn how far you can push hey mentally. Use fingers, toys, mouth and words to drive her fucking nuts. Then control her orgasms, dominate her to the point you won't let her cum until you say. Then even though she is in a perpetual state of arousal, you can choose when to give her your cock. You can get her to a point where she pretty much had something in her 24 hrs a day. A true D/s relationship would rock her world.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 12:30 PM
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Finally realizing who you are and living as that person makes all the difference in the world.
/r/askMRP27/08/17 03:55 PM
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Ultimately it is for each man to decide his own measure of success. I'm HL and sex isn't my measure of success and not the most important indicator to me deciding whether my wife is of value.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 01:32 PM
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No one gives day to day examples because the men that read and learn (the brain work) out what the have read into.........ACTION (the physical work). There is an entire sub for you to explore and learn, an entire sidebar filled with books to teach you. A locker room full of men willing to answer pointed questions about a misunderstood item to other men that have shown they will put in the work to save themselves. But here you are, telling us how awesome of a bank you are but if we would only hol…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 02:21 AM
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Haha, you think I give a shit about other people's values. Well gosh, I guess u/crimson-eyes doesn't want to date me. How about just sex then, no dating involved?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 01:21 AM
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Fuck you, 5'9” isn't short, it's extra tall for a midget.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 11:41 AM
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I guarantee he is. Pulling on her pant leg for 20 minutes "Mom, Mom,MOM, MOMMY, MOMMA, MOM. WANT TO HAVE SEX" then pouty face. She sighs, and says "Fine, but just a little bit, I still have to make dinner, do the bills and be the man of house"
/r/askMRP21/08/17 01:24 PM
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Do not adjust your MAP to include her wants. YOUR MAP is for you to become a better man. Changing your mission for someone else got you here to start with, don't make the same mistake again. If you want to connect emotionally b/c that is the man that you want to be, then learn how to do that. Make an emotionally stable and open man part of your MAP for YOU. Then you can lead her to an emotionally healthy relationship when you finally know how to do it.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 04:03 PM
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That's one of my garage working songs along with Waylon, Willie, Coe and motherloving Merle "Are the good times really over"
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 03:54 PM
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Learn to tell the difference between society throwing you a rope while drowning so that you can hang yourself and men throwing you a rope to see if you will pull yourself out. One says "Here is a rope, we will help you if you do as your told. We will give you everything you need if you follow and forget about wanting something more than what we offer." The other group says "Here is a rope, we will be an anchor but you have to do the work, show us you want more for your life by fighting to save i…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 03:51 PM
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I agree completely, NOW. I can still see the previous mindset in many people IRL, and here. Men's weak initiation as part of covert contracts and our own version of ASD. "If I just rub her leg and she doesn't want it then I didn't really get rejected" while at the same time getting pissed she doesn't understand the faggoty initiation and put out. Not leading your family/life so when things mess up it's not your fault. None of it is ok. However, it helps us that have been there provide the right …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 01:32 PM
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I see this in my own past. As I started in the military I rose quickly and received many opportunities because of my skills, knowledge and work ethic. After a while I got to a point where I subconsciously stopped reaching for things because I didn't want to fail myself or everyone else that had such high expectations of me. Through the months of MRP and growing myself (maturing) I've realized there is 90% chance I will fail at something, so I put in the work and IF I fail then I'll learn what I …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 12:37 PM
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Were you born a fat, slimy, scumbag puke pieca' shit Private Pyle, or did you have to work on it? Fucking love that movie
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 02:56 AM
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You have already received the answer to your questions. W&S will give you the same answer as everyone else only minus the bro love everyone else is giving you. Give her a reason to want to fuck you everyday. That means Lift, Read and STFU. Work on you, learn how to iniatiate like a man, increase YOUR value of yourself. Right now she's sees the child she has been married to for 11 years and he KEEPS BUGGING HER FOR SEX. She doesn't want it except for the random times when she wants to shut you up…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:31 PM
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I differ from most of the comments here. While I agree that her emotions and feelz are hers, you are attempting to be the captain of your ship, she along with kids is your responsibility to lead. If she is having a meltdown over things that are non emergency related then by all means do not do things that reward that behavior. However, with the long game in mind you should lead her to ways of dealing with it or working the problem. You would do the same with your kids if they had a meltdown. -wh…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 01:56 PM
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I figured. Your posts stands on its own.
/r/askMRP12/08/17 10:42 PM
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This is the most cussing I've seen from you in a while. I'm picturering Sam Elliot in we were soldiers. "What are you the fucking weatherman"
/r/askMRP12/08/17 10:14 PM
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Anyone: Your wife wears the pants in the marriage. You:. Chuckle......No, I don't let her wear clothes in the house. Own it, people have been trained to think a man being man is bad. Fuck them. Live your life how you want without regret and you will answer those questions without regret also.
/r/askMRP12/08/17 04:59 AM
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I agree with u/sepean in regards to her dumping stuff in your car. On the other stuff....... It's your fucking house keep it clean. I will bet you that if you STFU and take care of your house like you own it, she will start also. And for God's sake, quit telling her about it. "Look Mommy I cleaned up everything". Do it because you like a clean house. Address the rest when it actually happens. She puts dishes in the sink instead of the dish washer. Ask/tell depending on your dynamic to put them w…
/r/askMRP05/08/17 11:13 PM
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Like what u/thunderbeyond said. I also add some other stuff in. I try to get them to be with me while I OMS. Most of the stuff you do is a teachable moment to young kids that haven't seen all the things you have seen. Painting over that one nail holes the wife made? Grab one of the kids and show them how being methodical and organized makes things easier. Show him how to paint and patch Mr. Miagi. Cleaning the car? Show them that taking care of the things you put your money into extends to keepi…
/r/askMRP30/07/17 09:55 PM
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It see it as he was exanding his tool box. He didn't come out and say he has or has not done this before so to me it seems like he was wanting to work on his skills of directing her behavior. Could he have told her to stop being a cunt? Sure. But now he has seen a different tactic play out, he has seen how it works in his marriage dynamic and he can choose which one to use based on his experience. He also may have gained some tools he can use in a different environment where telling a couple wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/17 08:44 PM
1

No. You said you tend to read negativity into her statements. I'm saying that is because you are still giving her the power of judgment over you, so you read judgment into what she says. When you are your own judge, you will hear what she says stripped of the previous bias that you would place on her statements and be able to make a better decision of BS/important/noise/. The second answer to your question is that a man has never done all he can. You can always improve yourself. Get to it.
/r/askMRP30/07/17 03:13 PM
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That's what it about. Cut the ego, make your plan/map. Re assess when you get input. If you want to lead her, 10second kiss her, kino her tonight and manhandle her. Remind her what sex is supposed to be like. Don't say shit about the faux lingerie.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 11:00 PM
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I see it as she gave the lowest effort possible to get your attention. It was obviously low because you didn't notice it. A woman that wants to fuck her man can make granny panties look sexy if she puts in the effort. Now onto the important stuff. YOU. Are you worth her actually putting in the effort for? Seems like the answer is no because she isn't. So OYS. Are you intiating/gaming/kinoing when you want to fuck? Seems like the answer is no because if she even covertly implied it then your game…
/r/askMRP28/07/17 10:42 PM
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You feel better because you have a path for yourself. You aren't sitting there waiting on an external force to move you where it wants, instead you are taking control of your life and that gives you a sense of purpose. While you've been getting some gains in several areas, don't get complacent and think that you have MADE IT. There will come a time in the next couple.months where you will get some bumps in the road. If you get complacent she will ram that strapon down your throat and you'll regr…
/r/askMRP27/07/17 07:43 PM
2

What u/scurvemuch said. Figure out what you want and do it, yeah it's a bonus if she wanted it also, however, she will get off on you owning your shit not what the actual events are. REMEMBER feelz is what she wants. Also, it shows by your word usage that you are still trying to fake it. It is not "my and my wife's 9th anniversary". It is MY anniversary. It is your marriage, your house, your LIFE. She is there to make it better. Forget that hamming it up beta style nonsense. It won't play out ho…
/r/askMRP26/07/17 02:21 PM
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I used to do this all the time also. Are you sure that you don't feel like you are being judged? Once I realized 'i feel like she is saying something negative" and "I am feeling judged by what she is saying" went hand in hand in my situation, I was able to cut out all the noise and determine what the covert communication was and respond appropriately.
/r/askMRP25/07/17 10:26 PM
2

He seems to be living his entire life like once a week duty sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:14 AM
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It seems to me that you don't have any direction. True direction. In several of your comments you reference action, however, it isn't action with purpose, with intent. You mentioned running and doing pushups for four years and you still have a bit of a belly to get rid of. I'm not going to go into whether that is what you should do or not. What I will go into is that it seems like you have only been running and doing pushups as an action but not an action that will take you to a goal. So lets go…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 11:10 PM
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It seems there are a couple primary issues. You are still in her frame. It took me a while to truly understand frame so I'll give you my perspective and others can chime in as needed to help you get it. Being in her frame is realizing that what she says/feelz gets more importance than what you say/feel. Take a SAHM (without kids or with school age kids) that manipulates her husband into getting a maid when he doesn't want to. If you saw that you'd get it immediately, he has no frame. But you are…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 08:18 PM
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Damn near every comment here has the answer pegged. U/reddjive nailed it several times. I dare you to prove everyone wrong that called you a pussy. Read WISNIFG and actually put it into practice. Ill even give you a tip to get you over the hump. After you read it and think you can't possibly tell her no. Make a list of shit you need to get done, paint the trim, change out the shocks on your car. Whatever it is make a list. Now YOU have a reason not to go. Tell her no. You'll know internally you …
/r/askMRP19/07/17 08:43 PM
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I agree. He is still saying the same crap about why he is such a good provider. Then again maybe with each post he gets enough of his beliefs ripped away that he's left with acceptance. First post seemed like his anger stage. This one seems a lot like bargaining. He MAY hit acceptance if he can kill his fucking ego enough to receive the wisdom of other men that have been where he is at. I have my doubts.
/r/askMRP18/07/17 04:26 PM
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One of the things that helped me internalize Kino and Game was realizing that, even though it is about covertly communicating sexuality, it doesn't have to lead to sex immediately. When that sunk in, I'd touch my wife, man handle her, play with her then go about my day. She got to relax by knowing not every single touch was going to be sex and she began playing along. Just the other day we were cooking. She flashed her tits, twerked on my dick and I gave her a quick fingering. Kids in the living…
/r/askMRP18/07/17 01:58 PM
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OP read this over and over again. If you've done even a part of the sidebar you should realize most of this shit is solved by WISNIFG. /U/alphabet49 nailed it with you being to scared to do the work. I went through a lot of regression after reading, thinking I knew the answer, then failing to put it in practice. When I got my balls back and laughed at these kind of statements my wife made everything began turning around. Does she get to judge that you aren't doing your part? Does she get to judg…
/r/askMRP18/07/17 01:41 PM
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I actually had much the same view when I started. Sex wasn't my main concern, respect was. The reality is it doesn't matter. You want her to step up? You step up. You run your house how you want, she will eventually see the example you set or you will eventually realize she adds no value. Do you add value? More importantly do your actions convey the value you want out of life. EDIT: when you leave these things incomplete, that you say you value, you are showing here that you don't value them. Wh…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 09:07 PM
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So many things wrong here. I'll give you a hint.......it's not her. She gave you road head and you began a butthurt spiral. She owned her part the next day and even sent you a pic and you began a butthurt spiral for day two. I bet if you would've had fun and led the night she would've been a wet puddle of sex kitten. I bet if you would've led the following day you would've had round two. Read the sidebar, and for fucks sake chill out man. She's trying to make you happy and you are making her reg…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 12:55 PM
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I wasn't commenting on her guilt. I was commenting on the quote of the OP regarding the value of going out. It comes across like some nice guy stuff. He suggested going out to make her happy, not because he wanted to. When she didn't give him approval he hamstered that he doesn't like the cost difference anyway. If he wanted to go, he should've went. If his values or goals are met by staying in he should do that. Either way plan it, do it and have fun. He could've given her the same feels in bot…
/r/askMRP12/07/17 07:04 PM
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That's complete bull shit. Some of the best and sexiest moments I've had with my wife was at home, kids gone, I made dinner, sides , wine, candles, music and being awesome and she didn't have to do shit but what she was told.(maybe stole some Bob Ross painting ideas from /u/thefamilyalpha ) It's OPs life if he feels that way about dinner, own it, and then make that shit awesome. But he isn't even doing that, he makes it routine, and boring and complains about spending money on food. While I get …
/r/askMRP12/07/17 04:58 AM
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Watch 300. Leonidas is the king of Spartans. In my view he determined every course of action, and several times he looked to his queen. Some Bloopers think this as seeking approval. I see it as. " I'm doing this, does my queen have any input i need to consider?'. From memory without fail she supports him. She says with her actions that he is her king and she will follow him, even in regards to her son's Agoge which, evolotion would suggest she should lose her shit and protect her offspring from …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 04:30 AM
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My favorite response to alot of things she says in the form of compliments comes straight from Bender on Futurama. Her:. You look good honey Me:. Shut up baby, I know it Works for so much stuff. Smile and know that you are starting to be attractive. No get the fuck out of her frame and not need her compliments. A simple thanks babe and no more thought on the subject is all you should have given. The fact you wrote a post on it shows you are still in her frame.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 02:10 AM
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Damn truth. I'm married to a mix Latina and she is a shit testing queen. Made a great sparring partner and really helped me devlop my frame. But OP has to do the work and not be afraid of her to step up his game. On a positive note, Latinas do seem to handle ramboing a bit better since it's close the the MEN they want anyway.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 01:48 AM
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Apparently there is actually a leader in the house. Your wife lead you to devlop that bad ass hamster you got there. "If she worked as hard as I do". WTF is that. Many here have given you the advice you actually need. LIVE like you don't need your wife. They didn't say do nothing until she magically steps up her game. You don't have to go out and make her jealous. Rock that house because it's yours and she will feel replaceable. And if you want a few more steaks, do what the rest of us do. Cook …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 01:35 AM
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I'd kind of enjoy my wife getting her hands on this now. Give me a chance to practice some AA. Her:. My love language is acts of service Me:. Ok, I'm gonna service that ass Her: my love language is acts of touch Me:. Ok I'm gonna touch that ass Her:. my love language is affirmation Me: Ok, I love how that plug fits in your ass. And on and on. Other than that, fuck this book. Better yourself and her love language will be whatever you want it to be.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 12:18 AM
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If she can suck my brain out properly she might at least have value as a zombie.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 03:40 PM
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He would have , I hope, done it anyways. Whether she goes or not she's uld only account for seeing him as the fun sexy captain that makes her life enjoyable. Anything less and you would have done it anyway but now you get a chance to practice all the sidebar on the humdrumV that is your wife(reference Ironman).
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:02 AM
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According to you he is masculine and your LTR is mostly raised by him. She is predisposed to view men through a filter of they should be something like my dad. You are attempting to learn to be more masculine and until you develop your own views of masculine he can be a mentor of sorts. Don't be HIM, but see his actions through your new MRP filter and Taylor them for your personality. If he divorced her mom he may have had good reason, he may not have lead her to be the wife he wanted, but he ap…
/r/askMRP29/05/17 04:36 PM
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No, this one..... The Value of Maintaining a positive frame especially for new guys https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/577yzl/the_value_of_maintaining_a_positive_frame/
/r/askMRP29/05/17 12:50 AM
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Yup, look at me Mommy, I'm a big boy. So you'll want to fuck me now right. But seriously. Take a deep breath and relax. This shit won't happen overnight. First, you have a plan for lifting, for reading. Follow it for you. Secondly, do you have a plan for the other areas of your life? Your career, your house, your kids so on? If not find one and stick to it. Now, you are gonna be angry. You'll be pissed that what you were doing before want enough. You'll be mad that you are doing better and it is…
/r/askMRP28/05/17 08:03 PM
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Agreed. In regards to your comment, her behavior is more pronounced when she has had a masculine presence in her life previously. Her standards are higher and her tolerance is less. Which may be a good thing for OP. To OP, think back on all the interactions you have seen your FIL in, how does he act that differs from your behaviors. I'm not saying you should be HIM. However, if he is as masculine as you say then modify his behaviors for your personality. Doesn't seek approval, doesn't get upset …
/r/askMRP28/05/17 06:32 PM
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You may be right. However, I bet that when she sees her dad is that little girl again not the masculine role she is now. Why is that.....it's because no one else fills that role in her life. If OP is/was/became that masculine role she would be able to be the little girl for him. It won't be through logic, it will be through maturing, work and the frame of a man who sees his vision for his life.
/r/askMRP28/05/17 04:34 PM
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The response from /u/firetempered is right on. With where you are at in your MAP it sounds like you have a covert contract thinking "I'm starting to step up and she still treats me this way". His suggestion to read/re-read NMMNG, and I'd ad the same for WISNIFG will help you deal with the criticism. I would also suggest reading the top posts and see how MRPers have handled these situations and modify that for your personality. I'm only 4-5 months out from where you are now. If you put in the wor…
/r/askMRP28/05/17 04:27 PM
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No "girlfriend" is worth the effort. However, the man is worth the effort. Id say keep her around for a bit while you grow and improve, use her to spar with. Then next her if she doesn't improve. Hell you can even go Rambo without caring since she is just a girlfriend but you still get to spar with her and learn.
/r/askMRP27/05/17 02:50 PM
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It's the difference between WANT and NEED. You should WANT to bang your wife and flirt and have fun. But you don't NEED to bang your wife. Flirting and having fun is the part of the new man that you are trying to recreate separate from anything your wife says/does. For example. On my cheat meal I want the last piece of pizza, but so do the kids so they get it. Since I don't NEED it I just thank them internally for saving me some extra calories and go about my day. If my wife doesn't put out when…
/r/askMRP09/05/17 01:51 AM
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You can't MAKE her be done with it. But you can just have fun. It took me a long time to realize I'm not required to give her a damn thing. Yeah we all read it. But it wasn't internalized until about 3 months ago. That is about when I truly got out of the anger phase and saw most everything she did, "I could see the code". Now if my wife were to ask me those same questions I'd just laugh and have fun. Shit baby I'm working IT, gonna get back to my job making the world spin. Talk tonight. DONE. T…
/r/askMRP29/04/17 03:01 PM
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For a long time I was the same. You feel as though you should be able to give a logical explanation like you would with us. SHE ISN'T A MAN. This morning I told my wife I don't like my son's clothes and her hamster started going crazy since she bought the clothes. I literally leaned against the door smiling while I brushed my teeth and she dished out shit. Coming home from work she is giggly and happy about getting clothes that meet my expectations and an awesome night continues. I THINK what yo…
/r/askMRP29/04/17 05:38 AM
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The lifeguard analogy is an awesome perspective.
/r/askMRP08/04/17 12:21 PM
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There are some faux fur ones from liberty that work like a champ for any fluids. They look and feel good, you can wash oil out of them.
/r/askMRP16/03/17 01:21 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5z22lz/directions_which_way_do_i_go/ These types of questions and more is exactly why I posted this.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 11:29 PM
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Add a forth option. Rhetorical question. If this is the pilot, I cant wait for episode 2.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 03:34 AM
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Time to see what you have internalized and add value to your own post OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 03:00 AM
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Here's a +1 apple Prof
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 02:53 AM
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First Off, Dude I was just like you when the wife threw her temper tantrums. The Result is all your fault. I get it. You feel you do so much, you have no time for yourself, she's shitty ALOT, you've read a bit, you are trying to implement what you've read. I did exactly the same thing. Everyone here is trying to open your eyes but because you haven't crossed the bridge like they have you can't see the wisdom in their words. If an internet stranger calling you a faggot or pussy makes you defensiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 02:39 AM
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The sidebar work is the mental LIFTING to match the physical LIFTING. I started with MMSLP, opened my eyes a bit. Then I read NMMNG and with the first read through it didn't click. It took some RAMBO, reflect, a little frame, reflect re-read NMMNG and AWWWW fuck, yup right there. My ego kept me from thinking that I had done any of that at first. Now all the other prereqs have clicked a bit more and should make even more sense on a second read through. Keep it up screechhater. Hell we all no we c…
/r/askMRP14/03/17 01:49 AM
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No it doesn't take that long. But it does require that a man has the ability to be introspective about his actions and modify his behavior based on HIS judgement. So how many have lost (read gave away) the ability to self judge.
/r/askMRP13/03/17 08:37 PM
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BP and women are much like children. They are unable to comprehend the advise of people who have been there. It literally makes no sense. That's why Red knighting fails.
/r/askMRP13/03/17 08:29 PM
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I wanted to direct it specifically to new MRPs (FNGs) a place where they should come for newb questions. To iron out the basics.
/r/askMRP13/03/17 02:30 AM
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Well I've got a thick ass head, so 2x4s tend to be best.
/r/askMRP13/03/17 02:00 AM
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When I stopped expecting my wife to be an adult and owned my own shit, she started to realize how nice it is to have a clean home and its less stressful. I started making the bed because that is what I wanted to sleep in, a nice clean bed. I picked up because I want a clean house. I make the kids pick up there crap b/c I want them to have the same values I do until they are on their own and make up their own mind. It had nothing to do with her. Wouldn't you know, she started making the bed and p…
/r/askMRP12/03/17 10:36 PM
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The entire source is even better. And it echos alot of the sidebar. Good find.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/17 04:06 PM
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I believe most newbies go through the same thing. All of the vets have put in the time, sent FRs about them holding frame but all you see is post history of "My marriage sucks" to "MY LIFE is what I want it to be" and you don't see the hard work that they put into it. Much like seeing an in shape guy and you ask him his workout and diet, you follow it but you think after a month, "crap I don't look like him yet" and you change things up. But you missed the fact that while you don't look like tha…
/r/askMRP12/03/17 03:23 PM
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I agree that stopping a positive emotion was the wrong angle. However, one of the main tennets that is preached here is leadership. I think he was trying to lead his wife to have a better handle on her emotions. The problem is we don't all have Jackten's psychotherapy library in our head. We muddle through interactions we've had with men and sidebar. So weakandsensitive and stonepimpleitis share their thoughts on a couple interactions examples that ease a learning moment in and reduce the defens…
/r/askMRP04/03/17 04:43 AM
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How you do one thing is how you do everything. Take the "Fuck like it's the last time" mentality and apply it to the rest of your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 06:22 PM
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Amen. I enjoy the time I get to take my little girl to do something that she may learn to enjoy or love like gymnastics. Not two minutes after class starts, I look around and EVERY parent is finger fucking something on their phone. I shake my head and wave at my girl as she learns to do back flips. The only time I have my phone close at all is to play music while I'm woodworking. Other than that it's in a cubby on silent. I think about all the wasted time in my youth not learning and growing. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 11:31 PM
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Officer and senior enlisted. AKA she feels she runs the world even if she is sitting on the couch watching TV and finger flicking Facebook. All in all it turned out well. From the next day on she has been nice and loving, sex is happening as it was before. Was I an asshole....... . I don't think so. She asked to be let out and I gave her the chance, she through a drunken fit and I didn't want to be around it. I didn't engage her crappy texts, I didn't resent her or be angry the next day. She exp…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 12:48 PM
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Translation not all career fields are like that. In my career field the only way for me to lead my guys is to work harder than the 20 yo millennials so they see what work ethic is. So in this case you are wrong. Generally speaking tho I would agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 12:35 PM
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At what part did I create the crap? I see that I could have done a few things differently. I controlled my own emotions, I removed myself from what I thought was a potentially bad situation. By deal with her crap I meant her emotions and outbursts. I'm sure somebody else could have just said I'm going to bed, and not dealt with yelling and what not. Or many other ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 11:23 PM
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I didn't mention it, in my head when I said having fun it included flirting with my wife which did happen. I didn't actively flirt with any other girls, I got IOIs while walking from our seating area to bar, bathroom etc... I didn't escalate to sex because she was drunk, angry and to a point were attempts from me to escalate were met with more anger and batting me away, not playfully. I left because at the time staying in the situation seemed like a worse decision. Like I said earlier, I'm sure …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 10:37 PM
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She was pretty drunk and at a point were she was getting loud and excessively physical. I'm sure at some point previous I could have been a better captain. I don't see that I was an asshole because I removed my self from a situation that I felt I couldn't influence. Live and learn. If it happens again I'm sure I'll act differently and hopefully have a better result.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 10:23 PM
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The quick version is, we went out that night with her co-workers. I was having fun not partying and flirting with every piece of tail. I got IOIs while getting drinks and food and that started her getting pissy and trying to make me jealous about other guys. While we were leaving she was getting pretty belligerent, knocking my hand away and being shitty. I did my best to play it off, have fun with it and in general what I have learned so far. Not saying I did it perfectly but progressively bette…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 02:53 PM
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Damn I wish, at work. And tore my Pec benching last week. Squats and deadlifts are still progressing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/16 01:09 PM
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Agreed, but I'm not dealing with it until she gets home. I arrived at the hotel 0600 and she was gone. I think she said something last night about her brother coming to get her. I texted her. "I hope your OK, I left the car in x spot with the keys in it" I'm letting here deal with her crap and going about my day. I'm not even mad, which is a change from how I used to handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/16 11:59 AM
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Well, like I said, I'm not "there" yet, but I know here hamster is trying to get me going with those comments about other guys. We are married and she has had two kids. While she is pretty smoking for a 35 YO, she doesn't have anything to add other than a drain on money and some child care. I have been thinking about posting a summary on my take on WISNIFG and how I feel it helps with other noobs but I'm still working on my thoughts on the topic. Mostly her attitude in this instance is from drin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/16 06:46 AM
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I kind of agree, she has a you go gurrrrl attitude because she is an O and I am a Senior E. I had a blast and everyone loved me, it might actually take us getting divorced for her to realize she aint all that, but shit by then I wont want her back. She cant handle her beer without getting angry and for once in a long time I didn't get angry, I just set my boundaries and dealt with it. I'm at home watching Hell on wheels and wondering which other piece of tail would have been happy getting some v…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/16 05:42 AM
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That is a valid point. I am reacting to the years of lack of leadership instead of leading and being assertive in my views of my financial plan. I will still make a plan that I can use if needed. I just finished WISNIFG this weekend and have BPP book on tap. Agree on the anniversary, it was a butthurt resentful comment. Gonna have fun and use it to practice all the things I have learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 02:43 PM
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I agree. I think when I posted it I was in one of my bitchy resentment moods. Went and lifted and felt a bit better after. I think comments like the anniversary one are just my butthurt first response. Then I realize I made it this way and it will take time to train her that I'm not the angry grouch any more. All in all I will plan the Anni for something I want to do. B&B in a little town, rent some 4 wheelers, go see some music. And have fun. Best case we have a blast and remember we don't hate…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/16 09:52 PM
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What is she going to do? Choke slam you on the coffee table? Holy crap, I laughed about that one. Its an awesome visual. Anytime she starts judging you and your behavior visualize that, laugh out loud at the thought of your wife picking you up and choke slamming you WWF style and walk away.
/r/askMRP17/09/16 03:06 PM
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I agree completely. I own every single bit of how it became this way. All the years of being a pussy led here. And I'm working on me. And I did say I let our marriage get to this point.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 10:09 PM
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I kinda get it, but an anniversary is to celebrate something. What am I celebrating a wife that doesn't seem to care on way or the other? Then again like you said, if I want to do it that's all that matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 09:35 PM
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It makes sense, I guess I feel like as long as I've known her she has shown little imagination. To her fulfilling sex is missionary then doggie than her riding. We had a period of BDSM that was great and she shut down again. I probably still have some resentment and fear that if I don't be direct than she will not say a damn thing, which has been proven by her. So much for DGAF. GRRRRRR.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 09:23 PM
1

Damn you, I actually did think of that. Still learning.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 09:17 PM
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No I am not getting that action already, so touche and I'll tone it down. I actually did think the oh honey, comment was AM. But that is why I'm here. Also, for fucks sake if I don't try then I feel like I'm back to beta covert contracts. I tried to have fun, didn't work because it was to direct and I learn from it. I'm not butthurt at her comment, just making sure that I am interpreting it right or wrong.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 09:14 PM
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I agree I still have have ways to go. There are no shortcuts when fixing the shithole I got myself into. Still trying to put it all into practice. IE for now I don't even like talking to her on the phone, even upbeat attempts at conversation are met with one word responses, so I cheerfully say good bye and go do my thing. That leaves texting, which she actually communicates more. I have stopped talking as much as I used to since I'm busy bettering myself. We might have 3-4 texts per day, initiat…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 09:04 PM
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Overview: 38, married 12 years, 3 kids (wife 35) about 5 months into RP, although the first couple were pure anger and resentment phase. I was the typical beta back bitch in my marriage complete with all the victim puking and negotiating desire. I have read NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Way of the Superior Man. Still need to read WISNIFG. Most of all that I found in the first few months of trying to figure out why such a "Nice Guy" like me had a dried up wife and crappy marriage. Since then I've found this…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 06:58 PM
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