Is Game “Deceitful”?-And Why Women Are So Concerned About It
It won’t be long, if you hangout in Game-related circles online, before you begin to hear from a chorus of Women, Black, White and Hispanic, highly educated and worker bee, young chippies and dyed in the wool cougars, airing their grievances that Game-even in its best light-has a manipulative, or even deceitful quality about it-and that this, more than anything disqualifies the endeavor from the grounds of legitimate dating, romance and relationship building.
As you might have guessed, your humble Gamesman, Scholar, Teacher, Commentator & all-around Renaissance Man has given a great deal of thought to this question, and related questions, the following are my thoughts.
First of all, let’s be honest with the Ladies-YES, Game-that complex of norms, attitudes, behaviors and knowledge, designed to win the SEXUAL ATTRACTION of a Woman-CAN indeed be used in a deceitful, manipulative way. Moreover, it HAS been used this way, and *taught* in this way, by Men for sometime now. For my part, I find it reprehensible, disgusting even, because it not only cheapens the Game, but it sullies all of us who wish to use it to good ends; worse, it hurts, deeply, profoundly, Women who didn’t sign on to be used and abused, pumped and dumped, bamboozled and led astray. No one wants to be made a fool of.
From Day One, I have always stressed the utmost importance of a Man being truthful about his intentions and sticking to them. Many Men think that you have to either lie or be less than forthcoming with the truth in order to “score” with a Woman; I emphatically disagree with this view. There are ways in which a Man can convey his intentions clearly to a Woman, while giving her space to decide for herself if she wishes to continue. This is why Seduction, and by this I don’t mean that “Speed Seduction” crap that’s peddled in seedier corners of the Internet, but Robert Greene, for example, talks about in his excellent work, The Art Of Seduction-that slow-burning, delicious process of bringing a Woman along stage by stage into your clutches, heh heh. One of these days, I’m gonna have to discuss the importance of why the best Seductions are the slowest. You youngbucks today always are always wanting to hit it and quit it, ASAP, LOL. Youth…
Anyway, yea, Game can indeed be used in less than honorable ways, and I deplore it. And at every chance to do so, I will vociferously speak out against its abuse and those who abuse Game.
But, wait, there’s more!-because we now have to take things a step further. That so many Women, seemingly take issue with Game, hints at something other than mere concern-highly legitimate though it may be-with its lower sides. No, to this Gentleman, methinks there is something else going on here…
Could it be projection? I mean afterall, it has long been known and commonly understood-accepted as the conventional wisdom even, *and confirmed by Science even*-that Women, taken as a group, are far and away more discreet than are Men…and let’s be honest-isn’t the word “discreet” often just another way of saying “deceitful”? Hmm?
Oh, come on Ladies-tell the truth and shame the Devil, LOL-the whole lotta ya know full well that you do all kinds of manipulative, even deceitful things to guys *all the time* and in ways big and small, and has been thus, *for centuries*-again, see Greene. And, please cite me that grand fount of Feminine Wisdom, that exhorts its sisters to always be true to the fellas, let alone themselves?
I’ll wait. Tick tock tick tock tick tock…
I’ve said many times, and it bears repeating since so many Women apparently do not hear me, that you either have done it yourself, and/or you know other Women, who have, with full forethought, took advantage of a Man whom you knew you had no intention of reciprocating his romantic interests. Women go to bars and clubs for the *express purpose* of getting Men to buy them drinks. Women post up provocative photos of themselves on MySpace, Facebook and Twitter, knowing full well that Men are visually stimulated, so they can get that ego-gratifying boost of desire from hundreds, possibly thousands, of Men, who will NEVER have a chance of getting with them-and that’s just the way a lot of you Women like it. Isn’t that “manipulative”? Women go out on dates for the *express purpose* of getting a night out on the town on another Man’s dime. And Women have accepted all manner of gifts, from relatively inexpensive baubles to cars and even homes, from Men who they had no intention of EVER letting them hit it.
Of course, you Ladies will say, hey, just because you spend money on me doesn’t mean that I’m obligated to have sex with you, or go out with you, etc. And you know what-thats 100% true. I know some of my brothers will not like to hear me say this, but the cold hard brutal facts of life says, that if a Man puts himself out there to be taken for a Sucker, it will not be long before he comes across someone who is all too eager to take him up on the offer. Five will get you ten that “taker”, will be Female.
Oh, the Ladies say, *I’m not like that!*. My brothers, how many times have YOU heard that? Hmm? But you know what, because this point can and often is used as a kind of “debate killer”, I’m willing to take you all at your word, in good faith-you all would *never, and have never* done anything approaching what I’m talking about, right? OK, cool! But you all know Women like this, and no, I’m not talking about the Hoochie Mama. I’m talking about that highly educated, gainfully employed lady out there, of which there are millions. They’ve done it. They actively do it, as we speak.
So, to all the Ladies out there, who as they read this indignantly assert that they’ve never done any such things-
Why haven’t YOU spoken out against such things, as you see me here speaking out against those who abuse Game? You do, you say? Really?
Again: you can see my stand, in black in white, literally.
Where’s yours?
In fact, let’s take it a step further-there are Women who hav done what I’m talking about, who, years later, knowing full well what they’ve done, hasn’t even occurred to them to try to find that guy and recompense him for his expenses. Even if he declines, the point is, its the principle of the thing. Let’s ask how many Women have done that, right now:
*crickets chirping in response*
And you all have the nerve-and it does take some serious chutzpah-to question guys like ME about the ethics of Game?!? Talk about Whiskey, Tango, Foxtrot.
Sheesh.
In the words of the great philosopher Marc Rudov, here’s the no-nonsense bottomline: Women have deep concerns about Game, no matter the intentions or character of the Men wielding it, because it gives him OPTIONS. Moreover, Women are deeply concerned that they can be took for B A D, *like so many Men they see everyday*, and, like those poor saps, there ain’t much they can do about it. Women, even those who don’t do such things, know full well just how adept Women can be at being discreet, claiming plausible deniability, and inference-and now know that Men have access to information that allows them to counteract ALL OF THAT.
And it’s a legitimate concern. Too bad they had to woken up to this fact by experiencing it themselves. Maybe if Women had a bit more empathy, to say nothing of honesty and willingness to openly call their own out on the carpet, we wouldn’t be having this conversation, right now.
But all’s fair in Love & War-
Right?
Now adjourn your beautiful arses, Ladies… 
The Obsidian
