A self-deceptive evasion of responsibility and blessings.
Readership: All
Theme: The W!tchy War on Masculinity
Length: 1,700 words
Reading Time: 9 minutes
Case Study 1 — Sarah Dawn Moore
Sarah Dawn Moore has risen to be a well-known female persona in the YouTube Femosphere. Although her videos are rather grifty and not truly Red Pill, they do contain a lot of Red Pill advice and information, mostly secular but sometimes Biblical (perhaps by coincidence).
Her tagline is…
TURNING “NICE GUYS” INTO DESIRABLE MEN ❤️
“Traditional women still exist and I’m living proof of that. I teach you what to look for, how to prepare yourself and how to recover from your past so you can look forward to your future with an amazing woman by your side.”
Wowzers! What a grandiloquent promise! Chumps are subscribing every minute!
10 years ago, if a woman said these things, she would be the superstarette of the Manosphere. But since the Red Pill went mainstream, it is significantly less impressive.
Even though most of her content is directed towards thirsty men, she occasionally creates videos aimed at women. Interestingly, these two target demographics are generally exclusive. The videos for men are speaking to men who can’t get a chick (i.e. non-alphas), while the videos for women are geared towards women who can’t bag an alpha. There is no attempt to encourage men or women to adjust their expectations for love and mating, only advice about adjusting their behaviors with the implied promise that “This is what ‘works’!” In essence, Moore is cashing in on the sufferings of lust and poverty mentality.
“How to get a man to eat out of the palm of your hand”
Take a look at this video short from Sarah Dawn Moore, entitled, How to get a man to eat out of the palm of your hand (2023/5/17). Note that the title assumes female primacy. The phrase, “eating out of your hand” appeals to women’s fleshly pride. This is not an accurate description of the behavior she describes, nor is it a healthy motivation.
Here, she says to female audiences [emphasis mine],
“So this is how you get a man to eat out of the palm of your hand.
Are you ready for it?
You got to convince him that you are 100% on his side.
Have his back. Don’t talk down to him.
And just generally be a nice person who has some emotional regulation.
I know. It’s witchcraft.
So then when you do bring him some feedback in a non-threatening way, he probably won’t be mad.
Shoot! He might admit that he knows you’re right.
But only because he knows he’s not gonna get punished and that you’re on the same team.
But use with caution my loves, because this might make your relationship 10 times better with a man.”
In this video short, Moore admonishes women to display what we would describe as mature feminine behavior. This is a message to women that is sorely needed. But the kicker is that in the middle of her talk, she asserts that a woman acting this way is “w!tchcr@ft”. Then she reaffirms female primacy by assuming that women are inherently ‘right’ and that women have the authority to ‘punish’ men. She ends with a warning for women not to make their relationships too strong. (???)
Why does she call this w!tchcr@ft?
- Is it calling good evil (AKA Moral Inversion or Ressentimentalism) or merely a hyperbole?
- Is this the common opinion about this behavior among women?
- Is it a “reverse psychology” appeal to women’s fallen nature to get on board?
- Does she truly believe a woman acting this way is “w!tchcr@ft”?
Case Study 2 — Ame Blending
Now before we dismiss this false identification of good and evil as simply a hyperbole or a moral inversion, consider how even the most obedient and submissive Christian women think the same way.
Those readers who have been around a while might know of Ame Blending, AKA Blending Ame online, who was/is considered to be a unicorn by RP standards. Even she takes the same viewpoint.
For example, in response to a discussion at Spawny’s Space, Sh!t Test Diagnosis and Cure (2018/6/16), she writes,
“This also brings into question being polite, generous, thoughtful, etc. I know when doing so it brings out the best in people and causes them to respond positively to you (in general) which, to some people, can be seen as a form of manipulation. My first husband certainly thought this way and was always looking at ‘why’ I was being kind, assuming I was trying to manipulate and control him. It made my head spin sometimes. I spent a lot of time in prayer asking God to help me so I could be pure in how I presented myself to him. It didn’t change his reactions to me, but it kept my conscience clear before God.”
From Ame’s statement, we can see why good willed / kind / respectful behavior from women is often considered ‘manipulative’. If a woman is in the continual habit of treating her man like sh!tola puree, then it is only natural for him to be suspicious of any proper behavior that is out of the ordinary.* So apparently, this viewpoint is partly because of a false attribution, and partly because of social conditioning.
It is a shameful discoverie to find that women KNOW how they should behave, but intentionally avoid such behavior with such regularity that men and women have learned to see it as a coy manipulation.*
* We don’t know whether Ame used to be this way in the past and thereby soured her husband against her, or if her husband (whom she has described as very ungodly) was in the habit of viewing all women in this manner.
More Perspectives
A couple viewers picked up on Moore’s duplicity and blessed us with a more accurate viewpoint.
“So many women can’t seem to realize they are supposed to be on the same team. In other words, behave like a responsible adult who respects and wants to work with their partner. And come from a genuine place of love and care, not just to get him to eat out of the palm of your hand. Show your guy some respect and admiration and be less of an overweening burden, and he will move mountains for you. Trust is the biggest denomination of relationship currency.”
Translation: Women, be agentic, genuinely interested, trustworthy, and treat your man with respect — the way you want them to treat you. Being a loving and understanding partner will get the best results from your marriage.
Another commenter, David Sharon shared this gem.
“When my wife and I first got married, when I came home from work and she would start complaining to me about a problem, rather than holler back at her and start a fight, I would get mad with her. Before you know it she is calming me down. She didn’t know I did that on purpose for the first 10 years of our marriage.
Brilliant! By making emotionally charged demands, he is shifting the conflict structure and making her feel secure.
“That’s all I want. To be respected, needed, and appreciated. It’s really not hard at all. You would never have to fix or pay for anything again if you would just be appreciative, faithful, and non-confrontational.”
Yes! This message needs to be broadcast on radio and cable TV and from the pulpit.
David goes on to compare honeycraft and w!tchcr@ft, although he doesn’t label it as such. [Edited for ease of reading.]
“Women can get whatever they want from a man just by being feminine, quiet, soft spoken, listening, and agreeing 99% of the time, staying loyal, and submitting to his leadership happily. Actually BE on his side. Because if a man trusts you completely and then you DON’T have his back when it matters, he will never forget that and your relationship will never recover completely.
If a female does these things, that man will literally want you on his team for life. You would become the one he can’t live without. You can then recommend and suggest things with a smile while you’re making dinner and he will genuinely listen and comply.
Bonus: He’ll buy you whatever you want within his budget.
Bottom Line: Make him feel like he’s the king of the world whom you admire, love, honor, and respect.
That’s it. That’s the cheat code. He’ll do whatever you want. Women since the beginning of time knew this.
Ever since feminism and the 60s, they have decided to do the opposite. Now women have careers, money, cars, and clothes, but no men or committed relationship options, and more divorce.
Why can’t they find a man? Where have all the good men gone? These are the questions we hear. They’re right in front of you just like always. We just know a raw deal with zero upside and all risk when we see it. Because women switched up their behavior to doing, getting, and saying whatever they want while wanting men to remain the same traditional guy. It’s like treating your boss like a subordinate and expecting or believing you are entitled to a raise, time off, and benefits. Nope! It doesn’t work that way.
Pick your struggle ladies. If you want a career, independence, money, a mansion / penthouse, and a business / brand, know that the qualities those take to obtain go to your head and gas you up, and you can no longer be submissively feminine to your man. It goes against your wiring at that point. Women can’t earn and accomplish and build legacy and bring it home to their man for him. Men are built to do that. Women for the most part are not. Or, you can pick God, family, and husband over everything else. The women that choose the latter are the ones men want. Period end of story.”
OK, that comment was a little long, but it was so good I had to include it here.
Conclusions
When women excuse themselves from behaving well towards a man and justify their careless lack of agency by saying this kind of behavior is controlling / manipulative / W!tchcr@ft, they are Gaslighting themselves. All Gaslighting is W!tchcr@ft. In essence, they are casting a spell over themselves by believing these lies.
I have some breaking news for self-Gaslit women. Your relationship with a man, sex, and childbearing / childrearing is your rightful domain of authority. If you’re not developing and practicing your honeycraft skills, you have forfeited your God given genuine authority over a man and your primary purpose on Earth.
Related
- Σ Frame: Musings on Feminine Soft Power (2017/10/24)
- Σ Frame: Reevaluating the Centrality of the Male Ego (2020/4/15)
- Σ Frame: The Feminine Christian Marriage Quadrilemma (2021/7/16)
- Σ Frame: Gentile Authority vs. Genuine Authority (2023/6/10)
