A little more than a week ago my wife, sun, and I were driving home from an out of state vacation. As we usually do during such trips, we talked a lot. Not unusual for us. During the course of conversation, my wife brought up The Misandry Bubble, which she had recently read. She had found it very interesting, and thought that I would as well.
As it happened, both of us had gotten quite sick at the very end of our vacation, so when we got home I had a few days in which I did very little… except read. And I did a lot of reading. I read The Misandry Bubble and most of its links (it’s well sourced). Then I followed through a lot of links from those posts. I found myself reading blogs like Roissy in DC, Hawaiian Libertarian, and PUA For LTR. And then I stopped and thought for a while.
I came to a few key conclusions:
1) At least 90% of what I was raised to believe about women (more specifically, what women want) is wrong.
2) My marriage, which is generally happy, had begun the long slow death spiral towards oblivion. This thought had been rolling around the back of my brain for a while, but my conscious mind refused to admit it – largely because I couldn’t figure out what to do about it.
3) This didn’t have to be. There are ways to solve this problem and save my marriage. I’m a lucky many. I managed to marry one of the few American girls out there still worth marrying – the fact that she pointed me to this article is Exhibit A in my case.
4) My marriage has issues because I didn’t understand #1.
5) It’s not too late to fix all of this.
Like many “geeky” guys, I spent most of my life utterly clueless about women. Thankfully, there exists today a good body of information on the subject, in the form of the internet Game/PUA community. The sites with good Game information tend to attract a lot of negative comments from men and women both who don’t want to believe it. However, I’ve come to the conclusion that this is some of the absolute best true science done in the last few decades. The hypotheses are testable (it either works or it doesn’t). The results are replicable – and more importantly, have been replicated thousands of times over in the form of individual men running individual experiments. The information is heavily peer reviewed, with lots of comments and extra information.
I started putting this information into practice Wednesday. In four short days, the results are already clear and conclusively positive. We still have a long way to go, however. This blog is intended to be a chronicle of that journey. A case study, if you will, to help other men (and their wives) learn from my experience – both the joys of success and the painful missteps along the way. Also, the entries will serve as an “after action report” to help me analyze what I may have done right or wrong. Improvement is a key part of the process here.
The next few posts will bring everyone up to speed on the last few days. After that, posting is likely to be a bit more haphazardly as I have interesting things to post. Enjoy.
