Trading work for sexual favors is generally considered a beta trait and rightly so. It sends several not so subtle messages that kill attraction. It reinforces a perception by both parties that sex is a reward for good behavior rather than a normal part of the relationship. It puts sexual control (and hence relationship control) firmly in the hands of the woman. It’s submissive: yes dear, I’ll do what you want.
Like most rules, however, there is an exception. Trading work for sexual behaviors can be neutral if one of the following conditions is met and can even border on alpha if both of the following are met.
- The trade must be playful and teasing. This non-verbally acknowledges that it’s not actually a trade, it’s just a game. The trade then becomes a kind of foreplay.
- The trade must be for something you could’ve been talked into doing anyway, and both parties must realize that. Again, this frame reinforces that it’s not really a trade at all. It’s just playful banter to get ready for the main event.
You have to be careful about playing this game too much, however, because then the woman will start to push for more. She’ll try and push for it to go beyond the game and into the actual trade territory again, which you must not let it become.
