The basic social contract between a society and its citizens is that for each individual to contribute meaningfully to the community, in return society provides the opportunity for each member to have a legacy. It cannot be understated how important the idea of a legacy is, nor that the basic underlying legacy for the vast majority of people is their children.
Few of us will accomplish any artisitic endeavor that will last beyond our own lifespans. Political power is fleeting, and few political leaders are remembered for long. Roman emperors, especially the most notorious of them such as Nero and Caligula, are remembered, but the accomplished politicians of their day that filled the Roman senate are not except by a few historians.
The Pelosis and Ted Kennedy’s will be long forgotten in another hundred years. If you doubt this, I challenge you to name any United State’s senator from 1909, or any English member of Parliament or any member of a prominent political party for any country from over a hundred years ago.
Wealth is also a legacy, but as was learned during the last Great Depression, wealth can be destroyed or taken easily. Religion offers immortality in many of its forms, and certainly there are earthly legacies through religion, both good and bad.
The one legacy that exists in flourishing cultures is that of children. It has, through history given men the motivation to work hard to provide a better world for his children. It has provided a very real antidote to the narcissism of women. It has given both men and women purpose.
The structure that supports this is marriage and specifically monogamous marriage. Polygamy disenfranchises men, and as western culture is about to rediscover, disenfranchised men pose a very real and lasting threat to the stability and productivity of a society.
Polyandry is just as destabilizing because it too disenfranchises the male population. The woman is guaranteed a legacy through a child, the man is not, further the fruit of a man’s labor is used to support some other male’s child.
Although women love this idea, which is why socialism (and by socialism I mean the rampant growth of the government in providing bread and circuses while micromanaging every aspect of our lives, including the home life) and deficit spending have gotten so egregious.
Both of these are the direction that mainstream western culture is headed. While the traditionalists decry the supposed hedonism of the Gamers that are thus far only a small part of the population, the hedonism of the main culture is a far bigger threat. A far greater concern.
Marriage has become a cruel joke. There is no social disincentive for women to divorce and remarry, or merely divorce and pursue her “self-actualization” or find herself, or seek happiness, or be true to herself a (all nice ways of aggrandizing being selfish and hedonistic). Religion could be a bulwark against this, but the easy forgiveness and tolerance that is peddled by most mainstream religions makes Christianity an accomplice in the destruction of marriage.
There are very real disincentives for a man to get divorced. He is likely to lose the majority of his access to his children. He is still likely to be hit with child support and alimony (which in California is for life). Although some of these risks attach to women, the vast majority of the cases it is the man that loses. You do not hear of “dead beat moms” and the jails are not filled with women perpetrators of domestic violence, even though they perform more of it than men, and cause more damage than men more often.
All of this springs from a continual misunderstanding of the nature of women, the nature of a healthy relationship and the mythology placed around these things.
The cure must come from men, just as the traditionalists say. The cure is Game. Marriage will not be a viable institution, and by extention western culture will not thrive, until marriage is something that both parties want, and want to stay within the bounds of.
At that point that Game becomes well known by men, it will create a monumental shift in western culture resulting in more virtue in terms of faithfulness and loyalty in relationships, primarily and directly by women, which by default will create more virtue in men.
It is very well know what men find generally attractive in women: youth, health, and beauty. Despite attempts by our current tyrannical society (and it is tyrannical, it wants to so totally control the way people think while speaking in Orwellian terms of tolerance and inclusiveness) to repress men, this fact remains.
It is not well known what women are attracted to. There may be comments about them marrying up, or gold digging, but these just skim on the surface of reality. Men shy away from what women are attracted to because of the ugly truths found there.
Without a complete understanding of what attracts women, a man cannot guard against the Cads out there that will poach his mate. If he believes her words, and not her nature, he will lose. If he understands what drives his wife, or girlfriend, he can defend against the real threats that the naturals and the seducers pose.
Further, he can incorporate what attracts his wife into his own behavior to maintain her attraction to him. A wife that is attracted to her husband, is a wife that will love him. If she is not attracted to him, she will not love him and will hold him in contempt.
Learning what attracts a woman, does not mean becoming a serial seducer, anymore than the fact that a woman wearing makeup makes her promiscuous. A woman does specific things to make a man attracted to her. She spends time doing it.
As is so often pointed out in popular culture, a relationship takes work, yet so many men think that simply being themselves should be enough or they waste their energies doing the things that society says are romantic and expected of them. If men took all that time and money trying to buy a woman’s affection and instead used it to actually attract her both individuals would be happier.
A woman that is attracted to her partner, is a woman that stays married.
