It seems sadly, that this is a necessary behavior in men if they want to get anywhere with women. I know there are pick up artists that say they have success with women by “being themselves” but I have found that does not work personally.
Let me begin by defining asshole, before we get to far. Aloof game, is a version of asshole. Saying “I don’t care” is a version of asshole. Ignoring her, the neg, are all asshole things. Being aggressive, placing yourself first, doing what you want, leading (not asking what she wants to do, but doing something with her) are all asshole behavior of one degree or another. Most importantly, not being moved by her emotional roller coaster is asshole.
There are many more versions of asshole, but the sad reality is asshole not only works, some elements of it are necessary in relationships, unless you want to end up a Kitchen Bitch. There is no way around it. If you are going to be with a woman, you need to be an asshole.
I am sure there are men reading this in long term relationships that will deny that they have ever been assholes and are perfectly happy in their LTR. To that I say: “Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.”
I suspect these men are the best kind of asshole, if they are not worn down beaten betas, they are the “natural assholes” and of those, there are plenty in the world. I would posit, that if they were capable of any honest self evaluation they would admit that they have at times been unkind, cold, aloof and unrepentant at in their relationship.
Last week a girl I had started to see texted me and it went like this:
Girl: You should have stopped when I asked u to!
Talleyrand: I did stop, when you asked, we did not go all the way. (There is no way I am going to let that B.S. slide that I forced her to do anything)
Girl: I can’t work now. Bad thoughts have taken over . . .
Talleyrand: I would have taken care of that. Try to stop thinking about me.
Girl: Who said they were with u? Te-he 
Talleyrand: You wouldn’t be telling me if they weren’t.
Girl: Not true, you’re just the only one I could tell that to.
Talleyrand: Well, I hope you 2 are happy together.
Girl: Ok, I will give in . .AGAIN . . .they were about u.
No response on my part. She’s in my bed the next day.
The unfortunate thing is that if you are going to have any power, any control over your life with a woman involved, you are going to have to behave like an asshole. Women will push, and test, and wheedle, and whine and manipulate all the time.
They cannot help themselves.
To all the men out there that find this idea distressing, or won’t do it because there is nothing wrong with being nice I have some sad news for you.
Being nice in this cold heartless world is an evolutionary dead end.
Adapt.
