OK, since this whole thing about Game and relationships/marriage/etc has totally sputtered out of control here, I’m hoping I can clear the air about a few things while giving my own take on the whole ball of wax at the same time.

One: Game is a complex of behaviors, norms, strategies and ideas, all designed to win the SEXUAL ATTRACTION of the Woman of your choice. It is completely neutral on the question of long or short term relationships. Obviously, it can be immediately applied to the latter, especially given today’s “Hookup” culture. However, it can also be applied to longer term commitments as well, and there are quite a few examples in our time of this being played out. Aside from that, I am living proof, that Game and a longer term commitment are NOT incompatible.

Two: When it comes to social dynamics between the Male and Female, the sexual element cannot be missed. This is crucial, and while yes, other factors do come into play, what a lot of people loose sight of, is that without that “spark”-that sexual attraction-things rarely move further. Because Men and Women are wired fundamentally differently, it is important for the Male to win the SEXUAL ATTRACTION of the Female, FIRST. Men are easily aroused and require little in order to “get ready”. Women are considerably different, even in our time today. If a Woman doesn’t show in some way (aka an “IOI” or Indicator Of Interest) that she’s SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to you, you might as well stop right there and move on. In fact, Game teaches a Man to learn to discern these things sooner rather than later, so as to know when to gracefully bow out if she ain’t feeling you, rather than to cling on and on in the dire hope that she’ll change her mind. Not. Gonna. Happen. And in my own personal experience, any such Woman you do “convince” will wind up being a Pyhrric Victory for you in the end. Trust me, it’s not worth it, she’s not worth it, and you deserve better for yourself. More than anything, Game teaches a Man to have some self-respect and dignity about himself. There is nothing dignified about trying to convince a Woman to go out with you.

Three: I personally have ALWAYS favored more longer term relationships to the One Night Stands, even when I’ve had many opportunities to partake of the latter. I’ve never been attracted to such activities, and don’t personally advocate them myself; if a Man were to ask my advice and counsel on which is better, invariably I would respond that the LTR is better, because he gains in ways that the Same Night Lay does not. Having said that though, I respect a Man’s right to live his life as he wishes. Going back to myself, as I grew into the Man you see before you today, I came to learn to respect myself and to actually like and love myself enough not to engage in quick and easy sexual affairs and the like; though difficult, particularly in my younger years (btw, today’s my birthday!), I would learn that it was the wise choice. Many Men are slaves to the quim, they can think of nothing else, and will do virtually anything to acquire it. To be sure, Happiness and Heaven on this Earth lay between a Woman’s Thighs; but it is important for a Man to develop himself so that he is not addicted to the cooch. Far too many Men are in our time, and this fact is not lost on a goodly number of Women, who use this information for their own ends. Game helps a Man to keep these things in perspective, if taught and learnt properly.

Four: More on a Man needing to respect himself. For I will not mount any Female that is below me in terms of station, mindset, comportment, character or all around human traits; moreover, any Woman who wishes to have me must Court ME first, for I am not a Cheap Thrill. I don’t meet Women in bars, clubs and the like, nor do I take my Woman to such venues. Nor am I interested in any Woman offering herself in too quick a fashion. In Seduction, Speed Kills.

Five: I do not agree with the notions of some, that lying or otherwise misrepresenting yourself to a Woman, using Game as the primary weapon. I consider it to be morally wrong, EVEN IF IT WORKS. And yes, it does work. Still, I consider such a state of affairs to be a test of a Man’s True Grit: is lying to a Woman to get the bang, worth it? And even so, what does it ultimately say about you? Where I come from, True Players never have to lie. Indeed, when I was out there, working hard to make my place in the world and single, I made it very clear in no uncertain terms, that I was not able, or interested, to devote any time to a relationship, and that I could only offer casual companionship. Women are very well versed at reading between the lines, which is why Men need to learn the Art of Subtlety. It is vital to the Seduction process. Quite a few Women turned me down, but I was shocked to learn the number of Women who were relieved that I felt that way-they too didn’t want a relationship! What a lot of Men don’t realize, is Women do not always want a LTR all the days of their life. Like most things Feminine, it’s fluid, depending on where they are in Life’s Cycle. They may want it more at certain times, and less at others, but they have to be more careful about such things than we Men do.

Six: This brings me to the next point, one that should in my view be MORE emphasized in Game circles than is already the case: a true Seducer never, ever, takes a Woman against her will, or without her express consent. This is why a proper seduction, which takes TIME, is so important, because in so doing, she is giving her consent for what will eventually happen, which is the sexual event, and, if you’re like me, more. Women don’t spend time talking and courting guys they don’t have any serious designs on, trust me. If they ain’t feeling you, they can’t get rid of you quick enough, LOL! So if you’re taking a Woman through a slow-burning, subtle, and delicious seduction, trust me, its because she wants it. Because by definition, such a process involves stages or steps, each a signpost that Women are very good of tracking of. This is her form of consent, fellas. The Wise among you will take heed.

Seven: Finally-do NOT use Game to “tease” a Woman you have no intention of “following through” on. Virtually all Men hate a “dickteaser”-well, when you toy with a Woman using the Crimson Arts, you’re basically doing the same thing. The temptation is strong, I know, I struggle with it all the time. And it’s so easy to do, because so many Woman long to be seduced so. As you grow in your skills, do not be surprised by how the number of Women giving you blatant IOIs increase. By leaps and bounds. A Man has to be firmly rooted in his Code not to get all caught up. For me, I deliberately try to “tonedown” my Inner Game when out and about, because it is so very easy for me to pull Women. Having the Power of Game means that you also have the Burden of Responsibility, too. Respect yourself.

Respect the Game.

Now adjourn your asses…

The Obsidian