Since Dragnet and others have asked me to cull the Roissy archives for my previous posts there, and since it’s something I’ve been wanting to do for sometime myself, I thought it would be a good time to start. The following is a point for point response by me to a Mr. Feldman, an op/ed writer Roissy featured on his blog Sep 1, 2009, under the post heading “Good News”:
“Roissy, thank you for posting up Mr. Feldman’s op/ed piece. And while I deeply appreciate the comments, I noticed that no one really refuted Mr. Feldman’s claims in point for point fashion. Since Game is indeed gaining ground worldwide, I felt it necessary to do my part to clear the air (and it serves as a good chance for me to keep my Game analytical skills sharp) by responding, point for point, to Mr. Feldman’s comments:
FELDMAN: Ladies, if a guy ever comes up to you and starts doing magic tricks, resist being impressed. It will be a struggle, but if you can overcome your hard wired instincts to get aroused by the “guess which number I’m thinking” game, you will have struck a victory for women’s empowerment.
OBSIDIAN: Mr. Feldman’s tossed several things on the table here, so let’s begin at the Beginning: what, exactly, is “Game”? It is a proven, codified body of knowledge, concepts and behaviors, designed to win the *sexual attraction* of a Woman. This is the basis of ALL Male to Female interaction, and has no “moral compass” in and of itself, nor is it an end unto itself-it is merely a means. It is completely up to the Man in question to determine how he will use this highly effective tool-he can be a Libertine, a devoted husband, a good boyfriend. He can use Game to attract just one Woman, or a truckload. The choice, is totally up to him-and therein lay Game’s greatest strength, for it gives a Man options-sexual options, from which all other aspects of Male-Female relationships flow.
Now, having said that, what Mr. Feldman refers to above are elements of what is perhaps at this point the biggest and/or widest known “school” of Game/Pickup called the Mystery Method, named after its creator, Mystery, who was indeed a magician. Mystery’s system teaches not only how to approach a Woman, but more importantly, how to approach a group of Women, since per the MM, the hotter the Woman, the greater chance she is likely to be among other Women. This is because Women are inherently more socially aware and sensitive than most Men walking around. Moreover, the magic tricks and the like are what are called “Demonstrations of Higher Value”-ways to show your social worth and dominance over not only other Men in the immediate area, but over your intended “Target” and her friends. The reason why this is necessary is because Women are also hardwired to want to partner up w/a Man who has shown that he has more social dominance than everyone else in the area.
F: If after reading that, you suddenly feel attracted to me, don’t worry. I just ran game on you.
O: It has been shown and proven that Women do indeed enjoy such things done over the course of an approach; some refer to these things as “Chick Crack”. And they are quite powerful lures in one’s Pickup Arsenal.
F: What the hell am I talking about? I am talking about “the pickup.” In matters of love we’ve all struck lucky once or twice. If that’s not enough for you, there are self-help books to help you strike lucky every single time. Written by Pick-Up Artists, they reveal the secrets of love. Specifically, there are things you can do to a girl that will instantly make her attracted to you. What kind of things, you might be wondering?
O: The very use of the term “lucky”, as in “getting lucky”, has ALWAYS been applied to MALES in the Courtship process. It not only reflects the evolutionary truth of the inherent difficulty of the Male to get laid, but it also speaks to the millennia-long “mystery” that was figuring out exactly what did and did not work when it came to successfully bedding Women. Game has finally taken the guesswork out of the process. No more “getting lucky”. A Man can indeed get laid and more, if he wants, with the Woman or Women, he wants. That’s what the various products and services pro PUAs provide to those who want them.
F: Magic tricks. Palm reading. Handwriting analysis. If you’re feeling lonely at 3 a.m. on a Friday night, grab a pen and some paper and head for the nearest club. Girls love to hear truisms about their handwriting while they’re dancing.
O: Again, all of the aforemention is considered “Chick Crack” and are also considered “DHVs” as well. See above.
F: Yes, this is ridiculous. The first step in the program is to create an “avatar” for yourself. I don’t even need to stretch my brain to make fun of these tools. Of course it doesn’t work. Of course it’s a scam. It’s a scam because a Pick-Up seminar costs several thousand dollars to attend. And to someone who has no social skills to begin with, being told that palm reading is a great way to introduce yourself to people might shatter an already fragile psyche.
O: Yes, that’s true, if said person is “intructed” in the way you describe. However, and this is someone who’s attended a few seminars personally, I can say that’s not what goes on at such gatherings, nor was that what Neil “Style” Strauss himself said at his very first meeting with Mystery in his NYT bestselling book The Game.
But yes, choosing a “seduction name” is often the natural course of events once one has dedicated himself to learning and applying pickup. However, such names aren’t always chosen by the person himself-often a name can be given to him, based on certain traits or actions on his part. Style for example, was given that name by Mystery; my own seduction name, “Obsidian”, was given to me by an observer who likened what he thought was my smooth style and laidback ways to the volcanic mineral substance itself. Personally, I think of seduction names in the same way that I think of the pilots in Top Gun, who all have “call signs”: Maverick, Goose, Iceman-its fun and not that deep, really.
F: There is a show on VH1 called The Pick-Up Artist. It is hosted by the greatest PUA in the entire world, “Mystery.” According to pickup lore, every pickup trainee must pick a unique name. I believe it’s so their mothers never find out their children grew up they way they did. They believe it’s for intrigue.
O: Sometimes, anonymity has its advantages. And yes, Women DO love intrigue. Can’t say much about the VH1 show, though. Never seen it. Not much of a tv watcher, I’m afraid.
F: Maybe you want to try it out for yourself. Are you a freshman? Does hooking up with a blacked out sorority girl present a major challenge to you? You need to develop some game. There are a few central tenants you must follow.
O: It must be noted that college freshman aren’t the only ones signing up for Game classes; it cuts accross all walks of life, and it is not unusual to see manjor business leaders, officials in local and federal gov’t, etc to be among the participants in a seminar.
F: 1. Never, ever, be friends with a girl. You want to avoid the “friends zone.” You want to be in the “no-friends zone.” Have no friends.
O: This is because being “LJBF’d” (Let’s Just Be Friends) by a Woman is the de facto end of your chances to get with her sexually. Game is about winning the *sexual attraction* of the female. Once a Woman considers you a “friend” you are out of the running, and it is next to impossible to get out of said Friend Zone. Game teaches ways and methods to effectively put accross the message that you as a Man has a sexual interest in a Woman, and how to “escalate” from there.
F: 2. Dress flamboyantly. This is called “peacocking.” It adds to your intrigue if you are, for example, wearing a top hat. You always want to keep girls guessing whether that lacy black button-down is yours or your boyfriend’s.
O: Yes, “Peacocking” is based on Mystery’s in-field testing and research, rooted in Nature, where the Males display, and the Females choose. For humans, it means that in order for the Male to be successful, he must stand out in some way from all the other Males in order to win the attention of the Female. Peacocking, the wearing of eyecatching clothing, is one way to do that.
F: 3. Play hard to get. If a woman ever approaches you, ignore her completely. This is the only way to win her respect. And whatever you do, don’t ever go all the way. If you want to get laid, getting laid is the worst thing you could do for yourself.
O: I am not familiar with the teaching that “not going all the way” is the surest bet to get laid. That said, I’m not against it either, as I am not personally a fan of “SNLs”, or Same Night Lays. Nevertheless, what yove spoken to above is what is known as Supplication-a Male being overly gracious, politie or paying attention to the Female. This is considered a Demonstration of Lower Value, and a sexual buzzkill for most Women. This is why Game teaches to avoid “supplicating” oneself to a Woman, especially early on in the courtship dance.
F: 4. Be a douchebag. Making fun of things proves you are a man of greater value. Wait a minute …
O: “Asshole Game” is predicated on the notion that high value Males have little need or indeed, awareness of, observing the niceties of everyday life, because they are, well, high value Males. People defer to them, not the other way around. And often, brusque Males tend to get farther with Women than mild mannered, Clark Kent-types.
F: Basically, abandon everything that came naturally to you. If you currently walk on the side of the curb, as gentlemanly standards suggest, stop. Next time, push the girl you like into traffic, to show how little you really care.
O: Again, I am not familiar with the teaching of Game that says to do this, and in any event, I have and continue to be gentlemanly with no dropoff in my Game whatsoever; if anything it exponentially increased once I had a firm grasp of the underlying principles of Game. As noted above, there is a big difference between being a gentleman, and supplicating oneself. Game showed me the difference.
F: PUAs would argue that learning these pickup techniques advances you as a human being, if nothing else. If you have trouble meeting girls, you can at least gain confidence using these techniques to meet new people. Can the advice in these training materials really help you grow? To quote the TV show, “Never let the window to ‘sexualize’ it go out the door.” Take that and put it in your self-help book.
O: This is exactly what Style himself says in his book The Game, and I can personally back him up on this. A big part of a Man’s life lies in the sexual area. A confidant Man is almost invariably one who gets laid. A lot.
The Obsidian”
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