When the Moon passes thru the Zodiac Sign of Libra, all things amorous is in the air, particularly when Valentine’s Day is a little more than a week away* and the Moon herself is making her way to aspecting Venus, the planet of love, sex and Game itself. It is for this reason that I wasn’t surprised in the least when I was alerted by one of my readers about the “war” going on between RooshV-a venerable Gamesman and notable authority on the Crimson Arts; and Anoukange, a local Washington DC blogger in her own right. By now, I’m fairly sure you’ve heard about it, and so I won’t bother posting up the links. Besides, my point goes to something else that, insofar as I know, hasn’t been discussed to any degree in Game-related circles, and which has been long overdue.

From what I gather, Roosh and Anoukange met at a club or lounge, he spit his Game, it was effective and they’re off to the races. Things got pretty heated pretty quickly, and, as such things often do, they fizzled out just as quickly. Along the way, Anoukange “caught feelings” as we say in the hood, and apparently, Roosh didn’t see eye to eye on the matter; this led the lady to “feel some kind of way”.

Hence, yet another confirmation of the wisdom of the ages: Hell hath no fury, like a Woman scorned.

At some point it seems, Anoukange discovered that the Man she’d been keeping company with was RooshV the Game blogger, which, given the series and nature of the events that transpired between them, only added to her discontent. Again, the details, from both sides of the fence, are readily available via a quick Google search. I leave it to my readers to come to their own conclusions.

But I will say this: dating and mating in the Internet Age can be a MFer if you’re not careful. It is not that hard to ferret out information on someone, as the recent “Lady Raine/Roissy Wars” clearly shows-and if feelings are hurt, time invested, messages are misconstrued, it can lead to headaches at the least, and very serious consequences at the worst. Public voices like RooshV, have even more reason to be circumspect with what they do, because whether they like it or not, and I include myself in this cohort, we indeed standard bearers and leaders in this community. What we say has impact; people read us and often respect us; and many will follow our lead.

It appears clear to me that Ms. Anoukange was both deeply hurt, but more to the point, she appears that she is clearly pained in a way that may require counsel beyond that of a good friend and a glass of zinfandel. Reading her email to Roosh that he posted on his website, with the term “sand nigger” in the subject title (its my understanding that Roosh is of, I think, Persian background?), and the long stream of comments that followed, speak both to anger but also to deep emotional problems that need to be addressed. I am hopeful that she does this, for her own sake and happiness in the future.

As for Roosh, I am hopeful that he has learned something most profound from this experience-that not only is Game powerful, but so too is the Internet. And like it or not, because he’s one of the Big Dawgs, he now has to exercise a degree of circumspection that he may not have had to consider in the days when he was just another face in the crowd. As one who has always been a close watcher of both the seen and Unseen, I do not think it is a coincidence that Roissy would be in the crosshairs, and now Roosh, although for slightly different reasons. Game has indeed gone mainstream, and those of us who have any say so simply must do a better job of policing ourselves. One of the most fundamental rules of Game is the importance of Target selection, and for my money, it’s not just because of what is noted in most Game books. In my personal experience and observation of others-like Roosh-it can make you or break you, literally.

So, as I signoff for the evening, I’ll impart a few quick pearls of wisdom in these matters:

1. Never deal with a Woman who you cannot see as the mother of your child. In fact, this is why I am NOT a fan of the “Same Night Lay” and so forth, because there’s really no way you can get to know someone well enough to determine if she’s got problems in the span of an hour or two. Yes, this will mean that your “notch rate” will take a hit, but you’re much less likely to experience what Roosh did as well. The last time I ran up on such a situation myself, was about a decade ago. And thank God, I learned from the experience.

2. ALWAYS be a Gentleman-we don’t kiss and tell, we don’t speak badly of the ladies in our lives, and we always acquit ourselves well when among them. Far from such notions being viewed as “Beta” or weak, it is indeed a true strength, and I’ve written about this elsewhere (Nice Guys Can Finish First, If They Have Game). When you treat a Woman with basic dignity and respect, it is highly unlikely that she’ll go after you, and if she does, everyone can easily see, that she is an A1 Headcase.

3. When you step outside your door, hit the club, bar, lounge, etc, with the intention of using your Game skills, you are not only representing the Game itself, but by extension, you are representing ALL OF US. What you do or say, can and will be taken to represent Game as a whole-Denise Romano & Co are living proof of this. And while some may dismiss her and others’ efforts to “curb” Game at the least, I see the big picture-either we make an effort to police ourselves, or eventually, someone who doesn’t share our concerns, can and most likely will.

Respect the Game, and as The Stapleton Singers said, Respect Yourself.

Catch ya on the Blackhand side…

The Obsidian