This is a topic that I’ve been meaning to get to for some time now, but, in that I’ve also received a goodly amount of letters from ladies wanting a bit of my worldly wisdom on affairs of the heart, this is a post they can make use of as well.

Among the complaints of detractors of Game, is that it is too narrowly focused on the niteclub scene and on the younger set of folks-early to mid 20s-and it is for this reason that it’s not “really” effective. Well, let me address both:

They’re right. And they’re wrong.

They’re right in that Game was indeed focused on these factors, but they’re wrong to think that it cannot “work” outside of said environment or outside said demographic. In that Game is inherently a social pursuit, it can theoretically “work” anywhere; and in that Game has to do with understanding what makes Woman tick sexual-socially, it can theoretically “work” on just about any Woman, regardless of age.

More to the point, I have studied these matters. The Haters, have not.

Although one of my key maxims is that wherever Male and Female are, there too, is Game, I also realize the simple fact that everyone ain’t cut out to rip it up at the club, or may not be interested in a teeny bopper. So this post will focus on a very crucial element of your Game, which actually goes beyond than mere Target Selection:

But about the varying locales in which you’ll have more success in bagging said Target in the first place, over others.

This is so very important, and it’s nothing wrong with admitting that you do better in some environments than others. In fact, it is a Wise Man indeed, that knows his limitations, and instead plays to his strengths, rather than running around acting a fool. If the club environment isn’t for you, DON’T GO TO CLUBS. Go to environments that give you a higher chance of giving you the results you seek.

Smaller venues are always better than bigger ones. Why? Because it gives you a better chance to stand out, that’s why. Futhermore, it also gives you a higher “hit rate” because chances are that you’ll already know at least one person at said venue previously; they can act as your social proof, and assist you in winning the rest of the crowd over to your side.

This principle can be extended to cities. There’s a reason why New York and Los Angeles suck for both sexes, insofar as dating are concerned. They’re both too big. And unless you have big, over the top personalities, that don’t mind pretty much ad hoc random hookups with little chance of anything permanent, neither city is for you. Now, I’ve dated a number of gals from the Big Apple-but here’s the thing. I either met them outside of NYC to begin with, or failing that, I met them at a smaller gathering where I was already “pre-approved”. Picking up gals on the fly in NYC is notoriously difficult for a whole host of reasons. Personally, I don’t even bother.

Game is a lot like hunting, and I firmly believe that if a guy has never hunted before, he’s likely to have a tougher time of understanding Game itself. Hunters by and large, don’t chase gazelles and does across the landscape. They carefully study their prey, learn its habits and comings and goings; they learn the lay of the land. Then, they post up, put out the bait-and wait. Patience is a big part of hunting, and I think the same is true for Game as well. This is why I strongly disagree with the idea of “speed seduction”, because when you really think about it, the term is an oxymoron. In Seduction, speed kills. If a quick lay is what you’re looking for, I’d suggest a Whore. If you’re looking for something more than that, I’d suggest learning how to run Solid Game.

Anyway, yea, Game is a lot like hunting. I’m something of the latter myself. And that experience has given me a keen understanding of what undergirds Game. Lots of guys take no time to learn their surroundings, the nature of the Women their going after, etc. Don’t make a PhD’s thesis out of it, just merely take some time to know where you’re going and who you’re dealing with. Doing so will immediately up your chances of success.

This goes even for a single city. There are better places and venues and by extension, Women for you in said city, than in other parts. Again, know your speed. Hit up those places or venues that are more likely to give you the success you seek. Makes no sense at all trying to chase down a gazelle.

And now, for the Ladies reading along…

It occurs to me that Women overall, aren’t a terribly introspective lot, at least not in their prime attractiveness years, 20 to 30. After that, I’ve found that they tend to be a bit more sober in these areas, but only because Necessity is the Mother of Invention-they HAVE to be, due to declining age and attractiveness. And because so much of a Woman, particularly one that is deemed hot, or even nicely attractive, is on “autopilot” in those years, it’s gonna be very tough to talk some sense into her during that time. Usually I’ve found, its the not so hot or homely gals who tend to take to this kind of advice during those years. Other than that, it’s the gals who are a bit longer in the tooth.

So I suspect that I’m speaking to one of the aforementioned groups, and hopefully, this will work for you.

Like I said above, the first thing you gotta understand is your location. Where are you, what kind of guys are you looking for, what kind of guys are in your same location, and what are the chances of you landing the guy you actually want? These I’ve found are some very difficult questions for a lot of Women to honestly answer, because they tend to be a lot more pipedream-influenced than are most guys. For example, let’s say you’re in NYC, and your goal is to nab a hotshot on Wall Street-uh, unless you’re a stompdown hottie, good luck with that. And even then it may not be enough. You’re aiming for the top of the stack, guys who by definition have more options than a little bit, and with some 8 million people in the Big Apple, you can best believe you are by no means the only one, even if you are a stompdown hottie. What makes you so special and different that he’s gonna want to get with and settle down with YOU?

So, unless you’re built like that to play in the big leagues, you’re better off going to a smaller venue, in this case, a smaller city or town. They’re be fewer guys overall, but also less competition too. And the guys that are there won’t be NYC bigshots. You’ll have a better chance of landing a guy for the longhaul than if you did your thing in NYC. Unless again, you’re cool with just casual dating, that sort of thing. If that’s the case, by all means, knock yourself out.

OK, that’s it.

Now adjourn your big city pipedreamin’ arses…

The Obsidian