I’d been meaning to respond to something the Crimson Gamester wrote recently, what he calls his “Valentine’s Day Mascara” post. In a nutshell, it is a quick how-to on what is known in Game circles as “harem management”, aka “MLTRs”, or Multiple Longterm Relationships. After giving a brief overview of the current, and admittedly sparse, literature on the topic, as well as his rationale for why Men in general, and him in particular, desires and must pursue Sexual Variety Über Alles, he advises his readers to LIE, er, *evade*, in order to achieve their goal of living like King-or, as he puts it, Pimp-for a day.

Readers here know of my view of Roissy-he is a brilliant and talented writer, with a keen understanding of Human Natue, particularly of the Female sort. Moreover, his understanding of Game and Human sociosexual relations, is indeed something that, despite his otherwise questionable views regarding Women, Race & Class, repays close study. Nearly everyone who is intellectually honest, regardless as to how personally repulsed they may be by his professed views, agrees with what I’ve said here.

And yes, what he says is indeed true-a Man can have multiple Women-very good looking ones at the same time, I might add-by lying, er, evading about the truth. We’ve all seen this happen at one point or another in our lives to the people we know. Or it’s happened to us. Or we’ve done it.

Nor do I have a problem with his basic premise, which is largely correct, that Men, on balance, desire sexual variety, the hotter the Women the better. No argument there, and lt me take it a step further-*it is no crime for a Man to want this*.

What I DO have a huge problem with, that makes me feel some kind of way, is how a Man, in this case Roissy, not only goes about meeting his needs for variegated booty, but that he *advocates for others to follow suit*. In my view, what he’s doing-not seeking multiple sex partners, mind you-but lying, uh *evading* to them, each under the false pretense that he would be seeing them exclusively, is what gets my ire. It does for several reasons.

For one, it goes against everything the Game is all about. While I credit Roissy with my introduction to Game insofar as its current configuration is concerned-one where White guys codified it into a tight, coherent “algorithm” as Mystery would put it-Game has always been known in the Black community. And while even there it’s more original teachings and meanings have been corrupted due to “telephone game disease” down through the decades, those who are either old enough to have seen the Oldheads themselves throw down, or were fortunate enough to learn from them before they passed on to the big Player’s Ball in the sky, understood that true Players *never* have to lie about what they do or with whom. In fact, a for real for real Player tells a Woman upfront where she will fit in his scheme of things, and that it will be HER loss if she cannot see the clear benefits of being in such a sought after Man’s orbit.

I know of what I speak, because I’ve done it-and no, the Women with whom I did it with weren’t middle aged Hippies with greasy hair either, LOL. In fact, I clearly and distinctly-as if it were yesterday (this was back in the latter 90s-early 2000s) recall having two young ladies at once, and they both not only knew each other, but I’d often have on over and when the other would call, I would have the one with me answer the phone. No drama. No catfights. No complaints either-in fact, we all attended a wedding together, one on either side of me at the reception table. And yup, at any time, they were free to leave and/or pursue other options. They chose to remain with me, and did so for about a year-three times longer than the four-month estimate Roissy gives in his missive.

Nor am I alone by any means-ask any Brotha or Sista in the hood, and they’ll tell you of other Men who have done as I have. To be sure, there are plenty of Black Men who go he Roissy evading route, if not the more cruder lying one; but it is not at all unusual to find Black Men who comfortably-and openly-conduct MLTRs all. The. Time.

Of course, in order to do this, you need among other things, really tight Game, as well as keen Target selection, for the simple truth is that all Women ain’t built for MLTRs. And yes, and here’s the trick, you must be willing for the ladies in your stable to exercise their options out on the open market-and that’s another thing Roissy said that I take issue with:

Game, be it on the streets or in the bootcamps-at least the ones I’ve been privy to-stresses a *Woman’s right to choose*. She’s free to be with whomever she pleases. For me, I would have it no other way, for a true Player understands that there’s no such thing as a finite number of Hot Babes-they are everywhere, at all times. Guys who do like Roissy promotes, lying, er, evading, that’s coming from a Scarcity Mentality, and yea, fear too. If you’re a true Alpha Dawg, you have nothing to fear-for one thing, you are so unique that a Woman would think twice before going anywhere else, for the simple reason that you’re very, very hard to replace; and two, she gets turned on knowing other Women want you, and your virility is strong enough to deeply satisfy both her AND several other Women.

See, that’s another trick that Roissy didn’t speak on: in order to pull off a Harem successfully, you gotta BRING IT in the sack-with ALL of em, ALL the time. You gotta make the gals in your cipher hit those Mariah notes, every single time. Because when you do, you separate yourself from the vast majority of pretenders and contenders, who want the extra Poon but don’t really know what to do with it when hey get it. Again, I would know. I’ve done it. Without incident.

Then, there’s the moral side of this issue here, which for Roissy is a non-issue, given his amoral view of Game, where the ends justify the means. But for Men like myself-a Gentleman who lives by a Code-his matter of fact rationalizations here are quite problematic. Why?

Well, a number of reasons. One is because no Man reading this would stand for one minute such treachery on the part of a Woman, in fact Roissy’s pages his site gives witness to this very fact. Moreover, unlike most Men, Women emotionally bond everytime they have sex with a Man, *especially when she climaxes*. If and when things go south-as they often do in such arrangements per the Roissy method-these Women are now in a very real way, damaged goods. They cannot help but to carry those negative experiences with them-right into the arms of an unsuspecting guy, who now has to do the emotional equivalent of HAZMAT cleanup. If a Woman knows, from the giddyup, that she’s part of a harem, the onus is on her and her alone as to what she will do from there. She wasn’t lied-pardon me-evaded to, that she and her Man were exclusive when in truth not only wasn’t that true, but that was never the intention as far as the guy goes in the first place. In any event, what Roissy’s encouraging here, isn’t just bad for Women and morally wrong for himself and the Men who would heed the call, but it harms other Men too, who will invariably be in the on-deck circle after he’s crashed & burned his way through the ladies. Its a lose-lose situation all the way around, except for him. But when you’re an amoralist, such a consideration is at best, a side issue.

There’s a reason why Harems are, have always been, and always will be, rare: because most Men ain’t built like that to pull it off, *even when they lie about it*. The very fact that lying is advocated, proves the point.

One would think that given recent events in the Roissysphere, that he would do a serious rethink of his “mission”-but if the post I’m addressing right now is any indication, perhaps not. He has the right to his views, in fact I’ve defended his right recently; but given that his voice is an important one in the national dialogue now, that thousands, if not tens of thousands of young Men listen to him, and that he’s had very close brushes with elements who want to see him utterly disgraced, one would think that if for simple reasons of self-preservation and pragmatism, he would be a bit more circumspect.

Hmm.

The Obsidian