Hi, I've started experiencing some insecurity/ jealousy around my gf's guy friend. I'm not sure how long they have been friends , could only be a year (not long before we got together) or could be much longer. Its more concerning for me if it its the shorter time period. The thing is he lives in her home country and that's where they met and they just message over fb. I've not been concerned about it too much because hes just a friend in different country but i do notice she takes photos sometimes and posts them of fb that are specifically for him (some particular art drawing shes seen) She shares an interest in art and hes sent her some of his comics. My jealousy has gone up recently after recent weekend where she had forgotten that we had booked a weekend away (she would had to cancel anyway) but she had pretty much forgotten and instead she went to comic thing at weekend and the only thing she bought was a comic for friend. Mentioning to me that she will give it to him when goes back to her hometown to see family. Shes quite open about the whole thing and its no secret she views him as one her best friends who she shares an interest in comics/art with. Yet my gf rarely makes much effort in relationships, she warned me its one of her faults in past relationships. She doesn't send texts or calls often, which is what it is but when i see her making efforts for this particular friend like going to buy him a comic or take a photo that she knows he will like , its creating jealousy in me. When I first got these feelings i thought of it as my character fault and dismissed them but I've since thought about how she wold feel in reverse scenario and I wonder if the fault is not with me? What do you guys think, and what would you do about it, is this a red flag?