Anatomy Of A Divorce

InfallibleBiship · 2012-08-14T14:41:18+00:00

I looked for women who would make me more like women. And it was unfair and cruel to all of them and far too much to ask. I will tell about listening to feminists and reading Ms. Magazine and feeling as if every one of the women had studied me personally for a very long time. I will tell about being an American male in the Seventies and how I became a feminist because I thought it right and because I knew it was my only hope and the only hope for other men like me.

This poor guy was very confused. He was a victim of the 70's wave of divorce unleashed by feminism. Lacking any perspective or counter-theory, his answer was to try to become a feminist himself. It sounds like an example of Stockholm Syndrome.

His misunderstanding is also evident in the previous paragraph:

Because I was raised an American male, I will tell that I did not learn to give or receive affection, that I did not learn to weep when I was hurting, that I did not learn to love women in ways that made them feel secure and desirable and needed.

It is true that a man in a relationship with a woman needs to be able to give and receive affection, and be able to make an emotional investment. But the key "to love women in ways that made them feel secure and desirable and needed" is not in assuming a position of vulnerability and weakness, but of confidence and strength (combined with empathy and caring). The answer to the author's failure is not to submit himself to feminism, but to embrace a more complete version of masculinity.

2012-08-15T02:50:57+00:00

Brevity is a dying art.

Title	Anatomy Of A Divorce
Author	trot-trot
Upvotes	11
Comments	4
Date	August 14, 2012 12:19 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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