31 years old, living in my parents place, not because I'm too poor but just because I can't get a hold on my life. If I live too far from my kid, he will be left alone unprotected from his psycho mother. Not that I'm able to do much for him given that his mother can decide and do whatever it pleases her. All I do is try to be with him during the weekends, the time she has chosen to grant me. And during that time, God forbid she is in a bad mood, cause she will say and do whatever she wants, insult me in front of him, tell him I don't love him and don't want to see him because I have chosen to be with sluts, while denying me to keep him with me. She tells him that I don't care about him, while she is at midnight exposing him in the cold while screaming this stuff to me. Now she even has a 2 months old baby, that she says she doesn't care about, and that is now exposed to her swinging moods.
I know she wants revenge from not having a father. She will do anything at her disposal to deprive my kid from having one. And she is managing to get it done, because I can't stand this kind of life. All I have is 2 motorcycles, a bed, and food every day. I don't bother anybody, I wish I could be treated the same as I do to others, it just seems impossible. I've been thinking that I might as well sell the bikes, and leave a bank account for my kid, and just go live as a bum somewhere else. It won't make any difference in my life, except maybe she won't be exposing my kid to this kind of stuff cause I won't be around anymore, and I might end up living my life without being bullied and mistreated constantly.
I have tried everything, I've been asking for YEARS for some shrink to do an INTERVIEW to her and try to talk some sense into her, with no avail. The government doesn't care, even when there is a minor involved. I've made countless police reports, I have seen countless of lawyers. Nothing happens, nobody cares, while I continue to work my ass off every day, and pay my taxes, and all this money is spent on who knows what, and she enjoys the parasite life without even giving back some love to her child. It all seems so pointless to me at this point. I'm just on auto-pilot now, and just about to quit everything.
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That's a pretty sad story. I can't give much advice because there are too many things that I don't know about your situation. You've only said certain things, leaving other things to guess about.
I assume you are required to pay court-ordered child support to her. I assume based on what you wrote, that you do not have any court-ordered visitation rights, but she chooses to grant you visitation rights on the weekends. I assume that you and your son's mother broke up and there are bad feelings between you two. Who/what caused the break-up? What was the relationship like when your son was born/before he was born? How old is your son? Why did she get custody? Does your son stay with you on the weekends or do you just get to "see" him at her place or somewhere else? Does she work? So many questions.
I know one thing. Selling your things and living as a bum is not a wise move. Just take it from me. One day your son is going to be a grown man. At that time, he will no longer be under his mother's guardianship and you will be able to be more involved in his life. Because she will not be able to control your access to him when he becomes an adult. He will control your access to him based on how he feels about you. And so long as you and him have a good relationship, he will want you in his life. The worst thing that you could do is to disappear, either temporarily or permanently (suicide), because you'll deprive him of having his father in his life.
His mother sounds like a volatile person. Take a "no drama" approach to her. If she yells and you stay calm, you win. If she yells and you yell, you lose or you both lose.
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