Self-esteem issues and monk mode

Hunts_Alone · 2016-04-19T19:01:18+00:00

You definitely need to get out and start talking to people. Not even just girls, guys too. To have sharp social skills, you have to spend a long time with a grindstone.

Although they aren't strictly Red Pill, I'd suggest you look up some pick-up guys. Not to become them or to take in their values, but just to see how it isn't some out of this world concept to talk to people you don't know.

Also, lift. That feeling you get after you finish a tough workout is like no other. Post-workout is a prime time for you to start a conversation.

Be outcome independent. It's not about whether the person you talked to enjoyed the conversation, it's that you made the effort to talk to someone and that you're learning.

You can't be successful with social relationships if you're first not successful in your personal life.

Are you lifting? Do you have a plan for the future? Are you cutting out negative activities in your life?

Get out there. You're a full-gown man. You have no reason to fear talking to others. Do you think your ancestors were afraid of being social? No. So do them a favor and be just as fearless as they were.

Benny757 · 2016-04-19T16:02:35+00:00

Ok so you are on monk mode and improving your very basic needs on the hierarchy. One of your biggest needs is to learn to be social again.

This one will fit your monk mode, and will give you back some coin, too. Go get a part time job involving customer service/sales. Use your customers bosses and co-workers as your arena, your laboratory. This really, really works. The extra money will keep you flush, and you will develop rock star cool social skills and small talk tips that do transfer over to women and dating.

Next, take these skills out to the bars for random happy hours, etc. Sit at the bar. Sit near other solo men, or women.

Greet them with a smile and wish them cheers. Be warm. So many times you start to shoot the shit, and all of a sudden you are using your new skills learned at that skimpy little part time job to engage people. You are now improving on Monk Mode. Practice!

I wish you well, friend. I've been doing just this for some time now. The extra job and solo ventures to bars to socialize may not sound like much fun, but they work. And of course, the gym to lift. Focus on the heavy lifts, as these will increase your metabolism and release the most testosterone for you. More testosterone, more masculine.

bmer92 · 2016-04-19T19:57:06+00:00

Go to the gym for 1-2 hours a day get swole make gains. When you wake up in the morning talk to yourself like youd talk to a woman practice. Then look at your image and say "I am a god" rinse and repeat. Goodluck

Title	Self-esteem issues and monk mode
Author	TryGettingGud
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	April 19, 2016 3:14 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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