I was seeing her for 4 months now and I actually stayed exclusive to her. During that time there were already a bunch of red flags and I wanted to dump her anyways but I didn't do it, because I really like her as a person (most of the time).

Until she was behaving ridiculous a few days ago, after I made a comment that we should have go for a coffee with another girl together (which wasn't meant serious). And she started accusing me for all kind of things, mainly like she thinks I'm seeing other girls and wishes I was the only girl for her.

I didn't give in to it and just hung up the call, but she started to message me all kind of hurtful things like she is used to better behavior of her partners and that she is looking for something else personality-wise. I just told that we shouldn't see each other anymore, at least for a while.

But now 2 days later she is messaging me again, telling me all kind of things I don't even want to hear, constantly flipping the script, telling me she just talks to me because she wants me to be good, like I was the one who initiated contact and just blabbers on about how she has a tough time and it'll be fine again bla. I don't even know what to make of it.

Shitty thing is I have a hard time to just ignore her.

Is she just using me as her emotional tampon now? What could be her motives to even get in touch with me again if I'm personality-wise not what she is looking for? Is she trying to make me an orbiter of hers?