I'm a champion of men's rights, but in a relative's divorce I'm torn on what to say...

kloo2yoo · 2009-10-13T03:04:59+00:00

Do not become the type of MRA who actually (or neglectfully) supports a man's "right" to abuse his wife and family. If you do, you've become the demon that feminists / mra-haters call us.

If she's been abused, she has the right to prosecute the man who abused her.

2009-10-12T22:34:35+00:00

She's your relative that you seem to generally like. You state she is a much better parent to the kids than the father. The choice doesn't really seem too complicated to me, but it doesn't really seem like yours to be influencing either.

personsaddress · 2009-10-12T22:34:59+00:00

She's divorcing him, so he's seeing blatantly seeing another woman. This guy has done dickish things like not be good with money, how abusive. Sounds to me like you shouldn't be part of the situation. You say he's an abuser, are you sure, or is that just what she related to you. You want to limit his visitation, which means limiting this persons relationship with his children, and you haven't said a single thing other than, " He acts normal around guys" hmmmm, that means, he acts normal around you.

Damnit man, Divorce isn't something either side can win, and helping her hurt him is a complete assholish thing to do.

kanuk876 · 2009-10-12T22:36:04+00:00

This is an interesting dilemma...

Does being an MRA mean that you side with the man by the sole virtue of him being male, regardless of who is actually in the right, or of what would be best for the children?

If you side with the better parent and better person, who so happens to be a woman, are you betraying your convictions as a MRA? What are these convictions, really? Is it basic human fairness or is it 'us against them" regardless of actual-case scenario?

Title	I'm a champion of men's rights, but in a relative's divorce I'm torn on what to say...
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Date	October 12, 2009 10:16 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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