I really wanted to share this for some time now, because I know there are a lot of guys out there feeling bitter because "women pick jerks over nice guys". I think inside view into one such relationship is going to be an eye opener. As a background I was a friend with DT man "John" [30] and I`m still a friend with "Jane" [32] three of us lived as roomates for 4 months.

At first John left an appearance of withdrawn, mysterious, charming individual on me, we had a lot of shared interests, opinions. I had noticed that John never hanged out with more then one friend. Since he came from a poor background I empathized and helped him out land a much better job. There were some red flags which I discarded. Every single person which knew John for longer period of time had bad opinion about him, I remember one friend saying that he didnt had character.

Jane came from troubled family, she had no father and was paranoid of having to get back and live with her psycho mother and it showed. She left a first impression of a "dumb bimbo", however it was just a façade. She was actually quite kind, compassionate, loved animals, volunteered in animal shelter.

John and Jane became a couple. To an outside observer it seemed like Jane was crazy about John and chased him, and John would often boasted about it to his friend. However later on Jane told me, and showed me texts, it was actually the other way around. John would fake personality to get under peoples skin. With Jane John acted as an "emotional wounded boy hiding behind a wall". Eventually he got under her skin, she fell in love with him.

After that John manipulated Jane into moving in with him, leaving her job and even volunteering. He was making her depend on him for food, housing, clothing. Keep in mind that she was scared of having to move in back with her parents. Also he started investing heavily in appearance, expensive car, purebreed dog, fancy clothing, and he was turning her into trophy wife, pushed her to diet and workout to grow a big ass, kept pressuring her into getting boob implants... etc.

At the time I was working in another country so I didn't really knew about those things. I created an opportunity and called John to come working with me on a very lucrative project. Housing prices were high so I invited him to move in with me for a couple of months to cut the costs in half.

John and Jane moved in with me. During that stay I had witnessed John mask gradually falling off. Underneath said mask there was a textbook psychopath. He had eroded Jane confidence into the dirt, manipulated her fear of having to move to her mom, made her believe that other women were crazy about him, guilt tripped her. Since we lived together he couldn`t hide all of these things from me.
Jane once complimented me for having a sexy smile and two minutes latter he had an violent outburst about some stupid thing.

This whole time an outside observer would just see a girl which was madly in love with an jerk and followed him like a puppy with no effort whatsoever from him.

I did managed to get Jane out of this situation, she is doing fine. Sry if I made this story too long, I tried to keep it short.