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Why did this work?

meh613 · 2016-05-23T04:35:19+00:00

IM conversation (IM is the same as text right) between myself and her. I was visiting family out of town for the weekend: (07:38:15) Her: Morning (10:35:13)...

meh613

May 23, 2016

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Title	Why did this work?
Author	meh613
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	May 23, 2016 4:35 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4kmae3/why_did_this_work/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/why-did-this-work.105844 https://theredarchive.com/post/105844

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[–][deleted] 2 points2 points2 points 10 years ago | Copy Link

[–]meh613[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm curious to know how she was dressed when she picked you up and how her behavior was seeing you again.

She was dressed in a jumper and trainers. She gave me a hug along with the chocolate bar.

Also, she writes clean and punctuates either by her own accord or from mirroring how you write. That's another great indicator. I take it this is a plate or friend, since you wouldn't be asking if it was a LTR: Seems like you have a good dynamic going on with her. It worked because you have established your role as someone she can look up to and admire, you lead she follows. Both are happy campers.

I've established myself as someone dependable. She knows that when she says, "meet me at the airport at 5", I will be there to meet her, probably without the chocolate bar, but that's her way. I have not established myself as a "challenge", I do not play games with her. I make things easy for her, because I feel she doesn't deserve a hard time.

The above said, I read the rest of the posts in the pillosphere that say things like Women Rewrite History AWALT how my cheating wife, Girls Play Manipulative Games, and so on. I'll be completely honest with r/asktrp, and will probably be downvoted for typing this (EDIT: didn't take long to get one downvote, go on, gentle voter, write your comment), but I haven't bought into trp philosophy completely and it's situations like my post that make me think that one just needs to keep looking, as I have, till they find their unicorn.

[–]Tiway220 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]meh613[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link