tl;dr - Who are academics, leaders and others who you respect and believe could help craft norms that support strong, successful and healthy men? Below is my pitch for why this is necessary and can be beneficial, as well as why it is important to start speaking to people now.

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It seems to me that over the past few years, norms for men in western society have largely been destroyed. Depending on personal viewpoint this is either good or bad (or a bit of both). However, having norms for men are almost universal--the norms vary from place to place, they aren't always different from norms for women, nor are they always rigid, but do almost always exist.

The only society in which no apparent role or norms for men exist, to my knowledge, is Khasi society in India which is extremely matriarchal. There, the birth of a boy is merely tolerated--only the birth of girls are celebrated. Men move into the women's home after marriage and are, according to men who live there "good for nothing". Women are the only ones who are allowed to make decisions, run businesses or take significant roles. Men are, more or less, confined to the home and worthless.

Men also face a number of issues that could be helped through different norms. For instance, promoting playing men's team sports into adulthood (or hiking or running together) could help boost physical activity and socializing (both of which are potent at fighting depression) and improve overall health. For those who don't like sports, playing video games or D&D together would still help with the social aspects.

Consequently, I think this gives us an opportunity to establish norms for men which help promote our health, strength, success and agency.

My idea for finding helpful norms is to speak to experts: psychologists, historians, CEOs, anthropologists, engineers, sociologists, etc. to determine what norms and traits they believe would help men the most. This is a lot easier to do during social distancing because people are home and have less to keep them busy. As a result, I'm hoping you all can help me form a list of people you think would be worth approaching and would take an even-handed approach to the issue and think for themselves, rather than echoing feminist talking points