Hey guys, I have been reading and trying things and there's something that really bothers me. I came to understand AWALT and onities pretty weel.

The problem is that, even though I have plates and an active life, every now and then I met a women I really enjoy being with: she's hor, intelligent, compatible with me, etc.

When I meet such a woman, I'm still very much aware of the game and it's a real pain in the ass having to play it. What I mean is, while I honestly don't really care about plates, women I really like put me in a difficult position because I realize that I'm leaving my chances of being with her up to "the game". If it fails with a potential plate, so be it. If it fails with someone "really cool", then I feel like crap.

How can I deal with this? Do I basically have to be patient and play it anyway, as with every plate?