Hello Ladies, I just need someone to be blunt with me regarding this man because I don't get it.

I just had a three month stint end with a resident doctor in the military. I met him on OLD and against my better judgement with him in the military I was hoping that it would be different as he is an MD.

Throughout our time together it was clear that he was undecided about where he wanted to go with his career, at one point talking about looking to buy a condo in our city, at another point talking about doing a fellowship elsewhere, etc. I was encouraging of course but I made it clear I would only move if it was beneficial for me and he was still 1.5 years out from completing his residency so I was hoping to have the time together to see if we were good for each other and figure out the hypothetical move once we got there.

Now all of a sudden the catalyst for us ending things is that he is considering working abroad should they have something for him out there, years away and I had remarked previously that I have no plans to live abroad again (I've already lived abroad for four years).

Can someone decode this for me? He claimed he needed to be with someone flexible but prior to returning to US he was in the Middle East and as I learned in this final conversation, his abroad relationship ended when he returned to the US and the relationship before that ended while he was abroad. It doesn't seem to me as he is looking for flexibility as he essentially just does what he pleases.