I'll be honest, I was aware of red pill philosophy for years and never really thought it sounded interesting enough to really look at. But I'm absolutely godsmacked by how helpful a lot of what I am reading here seems it could be.

My marriage is on the rocks to say the least. I'm writing this from the guest bedroom, with my 4 month old on sleeping in his nursery.

I always thought I existed somewhere on the spectrum between alpha and beta, closer to alpha. I have a dominant personality, financially successful, bunch of meaningful hobbies, and have slept with over 100 women.

But I have been living my entire 3 year relationship in my wife's frame. Its insane to me now that I have read about the concept here, how absolutely true it is. Not sure how it happened, it wasn't like that really in any previous relationship.

Not sure if we will divorce or not, its been a rocky fucking road. We just fight all of the god damn time about the most ridiculous shit. Awful fights literally about nothing. High conflict, quick escalation. Constantly. I have read up on the tips for divorce and will keep those in mind moving forward. The only real gap I have is doctor's visits, which I will rectify. But I don't think either of us want that, which is why we are still at it 3 years in.

Anyway, I'm glad to be here. I'm committed to working on my frame and shit tests and shutting the fuck up. I honestly cannot believe how much I fucking talk about my goals, insecurities, and feelings. Its pathetic.