I posted this in relationship advice Reddit but I just started my red pill journey so I do not know how to approach this situation and want to get advice before it escalates while I’m on my journey.

I started noticing my wife and brother in law oddly more familiar suddenly at family events. My wife also started defending him more and even chose his side over mine. Regardless of who was right, this hurt. I started noticing her going against me more and even publicly.

He talks crap about the men in our family but goes out of his way it seems for all the women and in this case it seems a bit too far.

I checked her dms. There he was having random conversations and sending random links to different things that she was interested in at the time. I don’t mind the connection if neutral but I feel uncomfortable they talk to each other so frequently. Some days due to work, he talks to her more than me. Is my wife wrong for having engaged in this in the first place?

I thought I should confront her and take a hard stance. However i cannot tell if I’m the one in the wrong and do not want to damage my relationship.