This person is an example of what it looks like when someone actually puts in effort when spending time with you.

  • we agreed 3 days in advance and she didn't make some excuse to not show up

  • I suggested we meet 30min earlier because I was done earlier with work and she agreed

  • I showed up at a place that was closed and she explained over a voice message in detail where the other caffee was and even sent me a google maps direction to the place

  • she was late 5 minutes because she was baking bread and let me know up front and profusely apologized (valid reason, and very polite)

  • she contributed to the conversation instead of just nodding and agreeing the whole time

  • she made effort to bring new topics and was paying attention the whole time

  • she never checked the time on her watch, nor touched her phone

  • she paid for both our drinks, "because she was late" (her words)

  • she heard I needed to purches a jacket and suggested we go to a nearby mall, which she would drive me to

  • she then agreed we go look around a little because I wanted to purches some figurine for my collection

  • she didn't make fun of me for buying my nerdy stuff (which I obviously appriciated)

  • she drove me home, which wasn't exactly the direction she was going

And this ladies, was a "coffee" I went to with a platonic colleague. This wasn't even a date. Infact, she knew I was married and she has a boyfriend, and SHE STILL pit that much effort into it.

That is behavior that shows interest ladies. You don't have to sit idle and wait for the guy to do all the work.