My game is shit and it's making me fucking depressed.

nsfwBPetrol · 2016-07-27T00:44:31+00:00

First, lower your expectations for success in the field. You're not going to be able to pull a girl home from the street during your first month learning pick up. Instead, just focus on the process.

In your case, you're stuck on approaching. You need to feed your brain reference experiences that prove talking to people in public is a normal, social thing, and that you are perfectly capable of talking to strangers without setting yourself in fire.

Start by talking to every cashier you interact with. Something easy and totally non-scary. For example, "man, it's hot today."

After that, start asking strangers questions like "what time is it?" Or "do you know if that's the bus stop for toledo ave.?"

Look up the RSD video for hard case newbies. Read the yareally archives. He lays out a ton of ways to practice game for where you are now.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2016-07-27T12:43:09+00:00

Set low goals to start out with. Even getting shot down is a success if you haven't approached much in the past.

Day one goals: 3 spectacular blow-outs. Day two goals: 5 blow outs, one phone number, etc.

The first hundred nos are the hardest. After that you don't give a shit. Sometimes, you are thankful to get blown-out quick so you can go hunt others and not waste time...

I have been blown out probably thousands of times. LOL.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-07-27T15:11:53+00:00

So approach anxiety is pretty much your problem, use a linear progression scheme.

First day/week, look her in the eyes while passing and just smile, don't look away first.
Second day/week, add a casual "Hi" and go on your way.
Third day/week, add a "You look cute, had to talk to you" and try to hold a convo.

And so on.

Edit: One aspect of game I feel is crucial to develop good game fast, is to actually enjoy the conversation, to have fun, and not be constantly thinking about nailing her, analyzing the situation while gaming is good, overdoing it makes your body language and reactions not sync up with what you're saying, no matter how good your shit tests buster is, if you face yells "uncomfortable" then you come off as rapey and a creep.

Title	My game is shit and it's making me fucking depressed.
Author	Thoughtsgonnathink
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	July 26, 2016 11:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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