i joined because at first it was interesting to read perspectives from people that view society through such a gendered lens but it just makes me sad now. i can’t comprehend caring so deeply about gender and gendered expectations. life is much happier when you accept who you are rather than constantly measuring yourself up to standards that don’t actually matter. true confidence is accepting your abilities, interests, and body. true confidence is being secure in who you are without outside validation. working out and making a bunch of money could help get you there, but if you’re ultimately doing those things to have an impressive image to others, you’re not actually growing.