Why do i withdraw further and bask in solitude, the more i socialize and learn about people?

PersonalDevKit · 2022-01-09T04:03:54+00:00

Because most people don't look at themselves much.

Must people live the "normal" life, go to work, come home watch TV, talk sports with their mates on the weekend rinse and repeat. Why would you want that person in your life.

I would guess reading your comment you have a solid group of friends that you are happy with. You have reached a point where you realise going out and meeting new people isn't as exciting any more. You have goals to focus on and you seem sick of sorting through the sea of boring people to find another 1 or 2 to add to your solid group.

It is the social norm to want to go out and get drunk, but it doesn't mean it's wrong to not want to. More people get enjoyment from distracting themselves and living in a world of ignorance is bliss. If you don't live that way of life I have found it hard to spend long around those types of people.

Hope that gives you something to add to your thoughts.

Edit: word

P3verall · 2022-01-09T03:45:23+00:00

Dude, you sound like you’re enjoying your disdain for people, they can probably tell. I really recommend getting a into therapy so you can eventually identify why you dislike people in general. Maybe someone or some people hurt you, maybe you need a hug, or to cry. The fact is, none of us can tell you, you need to examine yourself-not your life, priorities, and goals- but your character. A professional can help you.

I got this way a while back, it’s much better to be amongst those with “the lack of class” than to think yourself separate and superior.

Hope that’s thought-provoking enough for you. Get well soon.

sehns · 2022-01-09T05:26:56+00:00

How old are you now?

I sympathize, most people I usually meet eventually find a way to disappoint you but thats not why you should socialize.

One of the things i've learned from meeting lots of people now in my late 30s is it teaches me more about myself I wasn't aware of. The only way you can really get that feedback is by exposing yourself to lots of earnest conversations and interactions with people from a variety of different backgrounds. For this purpose, I particularly enjoy being around people who aren't afraid to say what they think.

By socializing, you become a better person for yourself - and that's a pretty good selfish reason to do it.

Title	Why do i withdraw further and bask in solitude, the more i socialize and learn about people?
Author	zenofamotherfucka
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	January 9, 2022 2:56 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/becomeaman
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