App matches. When we arrive to their place, we'll smack lips together, some I even stayed the night but we never had sex. The hj, grinding, even bj happens but the commitment thing is big. Was with one who I was literally in between on but still put out, need to know me better, says I need more devotion, commitment. Granted, these are 1st, 2nd dates in. And when they say no, I stop. I'm always respectful & bring protection (if in any case lmfao).

But HTFuck you want commitment if we don't even know if we're sexually fit together? My last LTR, I didn't even know, liked to be a limp starfish edition & never took the time to get better at things like oral.

Maybe cuz I didn't unmatch them 2nd date in? So as to not show I'm still dating others? I also take the time to get to know them, on average, I'd spend 2-3 weeks until I can escalate better

Also the majority of them were non alcoholics. Might also be because I don't bring them back at my place. Or I don't escalate correctly. In fairness, they're all from dating apps and have this relationship thing plastered in their prompts. But at the same time, I experience this with average/below average women, I'm pretty average too but I might have been judged as a traditionalist just because of how I look and put forth a soft, nonchalant nice-good guy looking approach

Anyone free to share their own similar experiences?