Narcissism is the most relevant dark triad trait when it comes to creating attraction either romantically or non-romantically. "Positive Narcissism" is what allows one to game everybody around them, it is the embodiment of charisma. "Negative Narcissism" is what repels everyone around the individual exhibiting it. I'm going to write articles more at length on these subjects quite soon, however I'll tease you for now with this post and throw you some bones, bullet points. Great for those of you with the attention span of a cat preoccupied by some yarn.

Negative Narcissism:

  • Weak frame/insecure/tense body language
  • Low confidence - fearful
  • Does not believe in themselves (inferiority complex)
  • Easily offended as they value others opinion so much
  • Averse to criticism (can be confrontational, but will blameshift focus away from themselves, prone to taking a victim position)
  • Diffuses responsibility for mistakes
  • Overly concerned with others perception of them as a matter of projection because they do not perceive themselves very well
  • Despite the previous point paradoxically exhibits baseless pride due to lack of accomplishment
  • Believes they are better than others but doesn't feel like they are, it's not their fault, they are perpetual victims
  • Demonstrates low value
  • Cares about their physical appearance, worries if it is not up to scratch

The negative narcissist is your typical single mother who's fucked up in life and is stuck in a poverty trap.

Positive Narcissism:

  • Strong frame/emotionally secure/strong posture
  • Overconfident - fearless
  • Obsessed with their own brilliance (god complex)
  • Difficult to offend as your opinion means so little to them
  • Loves to confront criticism, will disregard you as inferior
  • Doesn't give a fuck about others opinions as they value themselves so obsessively that external validation is a bonus not a requirement
  • Diffuses responsibility for mistakes
  • Very proud, previous accomplishments only validate and exacerbate said pride
  • Feels entitled to the best of everything and believes they will get it.
  • Demonstrates high value.
  • Cares about their physical appearance, gets slightly turned on seeing a reflection of their six-pack in the mirror.

The positive narcissist is your typical high-flying boardroom C.E.O.

Occasionally there can be some cross-lap, although it's not typical. EG: a negative narcissist can feel entitled to the best things in life. Look at the bullet points and ask yourself which list you most identify with. Be truthful with yourself.