(Disclaimer: I realize 90 Day Fiance is a reality show and may be up to 100% scripted. This is simply an analysis of the behaviors presented on the show, for educational reasons).

Following my last two posts about Jasmine and Gino, we observed some concerning, disrespectful behavior from Gino. In the latest Before the 90 days episode, Jasmine snatched Gino's hat (lol) and appeared drunk as she cursed him out. A lot of people, including myself, were triggered by Gino acting like a "kicked puppy" all the time, like he is this "wholesome," "loyal," Mickey Mouse lonely guy, when this passive-aggression was lurking underneath. Even before these events happened he gave me the "ick."

But, we need to strategize here to maximize female benefit and safety. Again, I am not condoning nursing a bottle of white wine alone, yelling at a man, and/or trying to strike him after his disrespect. Jasmine's feelings of outrage, betrayal, anger, and hurt are understandable, but for our protection legally/in terms of dignity, it is best not to react in such a way.

While it was queenly of Jasmine to say she will be "stronger" for this experience, sadly things turned for the worse.

You would think this couple would be completely over after this betrayal, right? I mean sending someone's nudes without a permission, especially to an ex-sugar baby to make her jealous, is beyond depraved and non-salvagable IMO. Even Jasmine questions herself and says she realized she loved who she imagined Gino to be, not actually Gino himself.

Sadly for Jasmine and the viewers cheering on her queen moments, she took Gino back. 🤦🏼‍♀️ It seemed anticlimactic, as Jasmine was tearing up in the interview saying she knows Gino really loves her. Meanwhile Gino seemed... flat? Monotone? Barely hugging her back when he almost lost her? I have seen men shut down to an (appropriate) emotional reaction like that, and offer a lukewarm comfort, but deep down he is thinking "this bird is crazy."

Of course, the season isn't over yet, but hopefully she eventually gets away from Gino. One thing we can take home as a lesson is you can be beautiful, intelligent, multilingual, etc but low self-esteem can take you to dark places. I wonder who or what happened in her life and told her she wasn't good enough for someone respectful, and who or what told her she needed to act controlling to "get" a man to act right. It's very dysfunctional. Maybe Jasmine has a high self-esteem but has experienced a lot of trauma thinking she has to "put up" with men acting like this. To me it looked like she had a "fight" turned to "fawn" reaction, because she wants so badly to be loved fully by a man. I hope it gets better for her.

What else can we learn from this scenario? Has something similar to this happened to you? Which other red flags did you see?

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