So, I'm currently 17 and my last year of high school is starting tomorrow. After that I'm going to go to a good uni nearby and probably do an International Business bachelor. I was never the outgoing type and still my grades in the last couple of years were not the greatest (although not poor either).

I'm pleased I discovered this subreddit at such a young age with the help of a friend of mine. We're both skellies and aim to shove 3200+ kcal into out body everyday. He's already lifting, unlike me. He's been a great motivator and I feel like we're pulling each other up through this.

I aim to change my attitude and start getting good grades and get a bit more meat on my bones as well. Maybe lift in the upcoming weeks.

Thing is, I'm kind of dumbfounded by this whole process. I'm not really driven to really change because people here are mostly 20+ although I do want to change, so it leaves me feeling like "I know what to do, but I'll just do it after some years have passed".

Next to that you have the overwhelming privileges I'm already in (192cm Dutch guy, can go to a good uni, speak multiple languages already and still expanding, no childhood issues, no divorced parents, 2k+ € in bank) so the necessity to change is not really present either.

Do any of you here have any advice as on what to do in this situation exactly? I feel like my mate is light years ahead of me, which is all the better for him of course and props to him, but what should I prioritise doing? Changing mentally or do the physical things first? Or leave it completely until I'm in my twenties? Honestly the little things I'm doing feel good (nofap 1 week in, gaining weight, 'frame', developing an IDGAF attitude) but so scattered as well with the only aim to become a better person to prepare me for the future.

Thanks for reading and the input will be greatly appreciated.

PS: Proofreading through this makes me realise I come across as a boasting dick sometimes but that wasn't my intention. Thanks for understanding.