Trying to frame this so it's not a personal question even though it's my current situation. I want to hear about others' experiences. I've been in a relationship for two years with a guy who's legitimately the nicest, sweetest, most earnest guy I've ever met. He absolutely adores me and would do anything to see me happy. Even when I gained almost 40 pounds, he was still obsessed with me (even though I wanted to die). He's so patient despite my having been depressed and emotional a lot. I'm just not as attracted to him as I used to be. Sometimes I think I'm just conditioned to get bored or scared by intimacy and reciprocated feelings, you know—like when a dodgy guy who's not really into you texts you once every 5 days and gets you hooked on intermittent reinforcement. Like, I think I'm too damaged by shit like that to appreciate what I have. Sometimes I miss the excitement of flirting with a stranger or having an orgasm-void hookup (ha). BUT at the same time I know it's easy to romanticize that shit now. And when I was in the throes of that, I was absolutely miserable and felt like straight trash. That's how I was treated. All I wanted was to be loved, and now I am, and I feel like something is missing.

I feel like my relationship is already without spark, and at 25, it feels too early to give that up. But I feel like if I end things I'd be chasing something that doesn't exist AND ruining something special. Is it really possible to be in a longterm, stable, sweet relationship that is also exciting and passionate? Have you ever worked hard to reinvigorate your own relationship with a "boring" guy because you knew it'd be best for you, realistically?

Sorry if this question is cynical af. I'm depressed just typing it