an Example of the destructive force of LTR to a Beta (AWALT example)

quicklogaccount · 2016-09-06T18:20:04+00:00

You have a lot to learn.

1 - She meant EVERY word she said. The moment she saw sad you, she couldn't do it. While she blinked, she totally could you should learn about the works of the hamster. the reality matches her feelings;

2 - The betafying process you went by predated this one talk. It was long and intricate, it's usually called "maturity of the relationship" most of what you've learned about relationships, mainly on romantic comedies, was about a person giving itself no self value so she could lock the other in the end. on movies the woman does it, outside of them the guy does. this isn't a relationship, this is a catastrophe and utter destruction of the sacrificed of the part. In short, mainstream date advice is a recipe for getting yourself in the place you are now.;

3 - 40% of the relationship was over on the day she cheated on you, the other 60% was over when she learned that you knew about it and gave her "a chance" when she did it, she didn't respect you enough. when you accepted it, she learned that you don't respect yourself enough either, or wants her enough for her to be able to do it. The reason she stuck around after it was the emotional candies you provided her with your dependence. You became her little baby boy.;

4 - She gave you valuable advice as she pulled the trigger. Find your independence and be happy. That sounds mean when she watched and enabled your process of self destruction for egoistic reasons, but it's still truth and dumping you was the second best thing she could do for you. The best thing would be trying to take you out of the role, but it's hard as fuck to do because her presence makes the hole deeper. Some women would TOTALLY make a cuck out of you;

5 - When you began the relationship, she began to work towards lowering the attraction she felt towards you and demanded your help on this process, betafying, and called it "maturing" or "the right way". Women don't dig feeling attracted to the man that belongs to them, it shifts the power balance away from them. You helped her.
Women are hypergamous. At ANY moment, when they feel more attracted to some random guy than to their partners, they either cheat or resent their partners. You lowered the attraction, so there were probably dozens of guys causing this effect. If it was just one, she would have checked how strong the new branch was and swinged. As there were many, she wanted to explore her sexuality. If there were none, you wouldn't have heard of any of it.

6 - "WHEN I LOOK BACK (...) I can see all my mistakes Now after being exposed to RP."
No, you can't. Not in a matter of weeks. I'll say this here.
RP advertises that men can only have functional relationships if they don't allow a bond to form between them and their partners, "IDGAF". If you embrace this mindset, you WILL have functional relationships, but none of them will be fulfilling and you'll be better off spinning plates (unless you feel like getting babies).
You might take chances. Once you learn the inner workings of relationships, you'll be far better at preventing catastrophes such as the one you're into, and you might also have a fulfilling relationship (or get screwed. But you won't be screwed by a normal girl again, it'll take a psychotic girl, or borderline).

ecosci · 2016-09-06T23:10:45+00:00

Its me not you means the same thing but she wanted to see if you are weak enough to take her back if alpha doesnt work out your her plan b and she can blame you for it dont take a whore back ever she will not respect you, non- negoitable period.

Title	an Example of the destructive force of LTR to a Beta (AWALT example)
Author	JvSOUL
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	September 6, 2016 5:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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