Got her number. Now what?

MrBowlfish · 2016-09-08T21:48:35+00:00

Just get straight to logistics with her. It's gotta seem like you do this all the time and aren't fazed by anything. You are outcome independent because you have abundant options.

blackedoutfast · 2016-09-08T22:54:29+00:00

don't try to have a conversation with her. no jokes, no trying to be cool, no trying to get to know her better, no "text game" save all that stuff for real life one on one interaction.

you really just want to say something like "i had fun with you at <bar> yesterday. i'm going to <activity> tomorrow. meet up at <place> at <time> if you're down"

if she says ok, then just reply with something along the lines of "ok cool see you tomorrow" BUT DON'T SEND ANY MORE MESSAGES.

if she says she can't make it but suggests an alternate day or time, she's probably telling the truth so try to find a time that works for both of you.

if she says she can't make it but doesn't suggest an alternate plan just say "ok no worries i'll see you around" then delete her number because she's not interested.

SkorchZang · 2016-09-09T00:49:37+00:00

Don't have your hopes up too-too much, there're still plenty of ridiculous flakes no matter how alpha you act with them.

Phone her up, tell her it's the dashingly handsome guy from the bar. Explain you're going to do X activity on such and such day in the evening, and would she care to join you. A lot of bitches have you go straight to voicemail because she's too much of a princess to answer a man's call herself. Don't leave her any voicemail, instead call again later one more time. If it's voice mail again, wait a week before your next try calling or texting.

Don't talk for an hour again about this and that, just set up the meet (definite time and date), say you look forward, and hang up/disappear. It's good for her to wonder a little bit and imagine what a busy guy you must be.

Avoid expensive dinner or movies. Go somewhere you enjoy going anyways, even without this bitch. Basically set it up as funtimes R&R for yourself. Drone racing, karaoke, miniature trains, frisbee at park, poetry night, weird ass drunken DJ you like, etc... Even better if people know you there, you'll be "in your element" and kick ass. But even if they don't, anything active sure beats sitting in a dark room watching sappy feminist remake movie #494849040 roll pointlessly on screen.

If want to do dinner, invite her to your place to cook together. This is a particularly sweet option, leads naturally to cuddles and the bedroom, but obviously that's more for the second and third date, when you already "know" each other. Don't let that stop you though, if you feel the vibe is already there, no need for the dating bullshit, just invite her for dinner (and fucking) at your place.

"Aww it's raining, that's so romantic but our park plans are fucked. I got an idea...why don't you just come over instead, we'll cook X together?"

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-09-09T01:25:04+00:00

Straight to logistics. No bullshit. Act like you have other shit to do and dont have any time to fuck around with meaningless banter.

WubbaLubbaDubStep · 2016-09-08T21:30:53+00:00

Just be yourself. She'll either like you or she won't. But do you really want to try to act like something you aren't? Your schtick will be figured out quickly.

I'm a dater. Text her "hey what's up?" and talk to her. The trick is to make plans quickly. Don't text for 2 weeks waiting for the time to be perfect. Set up a spontaneous date for tonight. It might be best to stick to only drinks so the conversation won't stagnate.

Another tip: ask about her. Avoid talking about yourself at all costs. You may think you're interesting, but you can't force her to be interested. So ask her about her. Only talk about yourself if she asks. Keep it short. The less you say, the more mysterious and intriguing you will seem.

And above all, please be respectful of her. Don't get angry if she isn't feeling it. I know I'm not everyone's type just like everyone isn't my type. It's OK. It doesn't mean she's "better" than you, but maybe you remind her of her cousin, maybe she's attracted to you but the chemistry isn't there. Who knows. It's not personal.

Also, take it slow. The #1 complaint I hear from women are guys who try to sleep with them on the first date. If you meet at a bar and go home together, fine. But if you go on a date, actually get to know her.

Good luck.

S8600E56 · 2016-09-08T21:28:06+00:00

Why did you get her number?

Maraunt · 2016-09-09T02:59:13+00:00

Wait a day or 2.
Say sowmthing along the lines of "Hey its you (any inside joke, to remind her who you are.)
Get to logistics
Plan 2-4 days ahead, so she doesn't forget who you are.

Title	Got her number. Now what?
Author	S8600E56
Upvotes	7
Comments	15
Date	September 8, 2016 9:22 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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