Hey r/asktrp,

I'm a 20yo guy and have been luring around TRP and other similar sites/forums for a pretty long time.

(ABOUT ME: I was a basketball player in high school, only cared about sports and school but after a while I discovered that the majority of the girls in my school like me. After a partying trip with school, I stopped basketball because I was kinda hyped about all the partying and girls. The entire senior year I spent chasing girls, improving my social life, I was really popular in school and every day in school just felt so good. I hooked up with a lot of girls and I generally had no fear of approach even though most of the girls came to me first.

Since school ended, this entire year I've basically done nothing. I kept in touch with barely any girls or friends from school and I've changed completely. I was in shape since i was a semiprofessional bball player and since then I gained about 40 lbs of fat and just became a mess in general. I failed my freshman year of college now and I barely have any motivation to go out to party or chase hot girls.)

Fast forward to the point, while I was still in school, I met my best friends sister (2 years younger than me) and I kinda liked her then, but she wasn't my type. She's not really that popular, she's a closed person and she isn't all that pretty, at least not like the other girls I've been with.

I talked to her then but stopped because she was really closed and I was all about chasing girls and had no will or desire to get her to open up because it would take a long time and I could get nearly any girl I wanted, much hotter than her. I really didn't know if she liked me, but I didn't care at all because I was really self-confident. We just meet sometimes through mutual friends outside, but now, after 2 years, I got in touch with her and we really talked a lot. We message/snapchat sometimes for the entire day and generally I stopped being this athlete-asshole type and just became weak, I started opening up to her about feelings and I don't know whats going on with me. Now I just like this girl a lot and we've been talking and hanging out for like 3 months and I haven't really tried to make a move on her because I'm not confident enough like I used to be and scared she's gonna reject me and we won't remain friends, and I really want this girl to be my friend even if we can't be together.

It just feels like i've been friendzoned, for the first time in my life. Even though she didn't tell me she doesn't want to be with me, it's still kind of an "unofficial" friendzone haha. I know the "play" for these situations were just to get her to come to you, make her jealous by showing that ur with other women etc. but then I think she's just gonna think I'm an asshole and close back up again. We're going partying this weekend and I'm tired of this friendzone bullshit just talking for days, should I just try to all-in her and tell her what I feel or just forget about this girl? My friends are telling me to man up but it just doesn't feel like she likes me, only wants to do this friend talk stuff...

What are your thoughts? Do I tell her something about this and what/how do I say it?