A woman is often very conflicted, and some of the things she seeks can do more harm than good. On one hand she wants to lock you down and own you. She wants complete security. But that isn't what she needs. If you try to please her or let her do things her way, you'll be spinning your wheels while she sabotages everything trying to chase feeling happy in the moment, while avoiding any bad feelings.

To keep her head right, you must do things that seem wrong while avoiding some things that instinctively feel right.

Here are things she wants that you shouldn't give:

  • Your Love - She loves male attention, and turning men into love-struck little boys is a boost to her vanity. But she wants the man who can hold a strong frame in the face of all her charms.

  • Your Respect - She wants you to be a chivalrous gentleman, but don't treat her special. She admires a man who puts himself above her and evokes intense feelings through alternate application of pain and soothing relief.

  • Your Commitment - She wants the challenge of winning you over, she doesn't value the prize that's easily gained. Instead of being a devoted White Knight, be the gatekeeper of your commitment. Your devotion is her reward for good behavior.

  • Your Time and Attention - She wants you to make her #1 in your life. Instead, stay on your mission and maintain a great life of your own.

  • Your Resources - Some women are parasitic and will gladly use you for lodging, food, entertainment, etc. Beware of letting someone into your life who doesn't bring anything extra to the table.

  • Chase - She wants to feel coveted as the prize, but disrespects any man who chases her. Instead, be the prize and give her room to chase you.

  • Availability - She wants you to be at her beck and call. Instead, be less available because your life is full of more important stuff. Your scarcity of time for her actually makes her want you more.

  • Power and Control - She wants to have complete control in the relationship. But on a primal level, she wants you to lead her, not roll over and be a submissive puppy-dog.

  • Freedom - She wants freedom, but she's a pack animal. She does better when she feels connected and bound to a mate and a tribe. Given freedom and the opportunity to indulge every whim, she'll become a train-wreck. Despite her protests, she wants you to set boundaries and rein her in.

  • Comfort - Instead of easing tension, spike it up. And instead of making her life easy, challenge her. Avoid complacency. Insist your mission and happiness comes before her.

  • Security - Don't eliminate her insecurity. You want her to feel tension and some pangs of envy and jealousy. Women are vulnerable to competition anxiety. Seeing that some other girl wants you makes you much more attractive to her. To her those are clear indications of your value and the jealousy she feels is interpreted as a strong sign of love.

  • Friendship - She wants you to be her best friend. But whenever you lose your masculine frame and act as her BETA friend, she'll feel supported but lose attraction.