Long story short: I’m 30 and he’s 29. We’ve been dating almost a year but have never had sex (including oral). Both Christians. Yes, he knows that I struggle with this. We are pretty much perfect for each other and he’s a HVM. I AM attracted to him but I just don’t like kissing him. I am definitely a physical person, but a couple times in my life I have not enjoyed kissing a man (the other times I could do it all day every day). I feel terrible writing this and admitting it. He is really wanting to get married. I am hesitant because of feeling like we have no chemistry (he says he likes kissing me and feels like we do, he also doesn’t seem keen on pleasuring me as much as he is himself), and bc of our faith neither of us is willing to have sex until marriage. I have heard the advice of trying to teach him how to kiss me better etc but I have no idea how to do that or how to really describe it to someone. He does not know about TRP to my knowledge.
What do I do?
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Life is long and sexual attraction is such a key component of marriage. It’s the glue that holds it together. If you don’t feel that spark this early on I’m afraid for your future. You’re still young and I think If you don’t want future regrets you should move on.
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But I’m not burning
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