What i mean is people who say " I used to be an anti feminist, anti sjw, reactionary (like if we care), egalitarian" and or people who say that "feminism does care about men's rights" even though the evidence points in the other direction and they play dumb. And people who say "i grew out of the mindset that feminism wants to hurt men. Feminism is about equality". And people who assert the definition of feminism on you when you are challenging harmful dogma for the right reasons and pretend that feminism doesn't hurt men at all.