I’ve been basically kept from my son unless I stayed in a relationship with her. I’m not the smartest I’ll be the first to admit this I should’ve gotten on the birth certificate when I could but I didn’t know how that works.

But let’s start at the beginning. I find out my gf of 3 months maybe is pregnant after many verbal fights we took a couple days apart in that time she said she cheated it’s not mine of course I don’t believe her she continues to press on and claim if I show up she’s calling the cops and will falsely claim I abused her and that she took a test and it’s not mine after maybe 2 days I’m blocked and I don’t have an address cause she used the time to move.

10 months after my son is born she comes back and the second I see his face I know he’s mine yes I feel stupid lazy and all around bad about all I missed cause of my ignorance. In all my stupidity I get back with her I didn’t know any other way to see him without having to go thru a court. Mind you no matter all that he still isn’t allowed to stay with me over night if she’s not there I can’t spend any alone time at all basically and every time we have an argument she threatens to take him from me cause obviously I have no rights.

Months in we fight every day still of course, well one day she tells me go away walk home so I did with my son in my hands she clearly isn’t gonna like this so she try’s ripping him from my arms I was scared to drop him so I pushed her she freaks out let’s me walk and she calls the police… long story short of course she claims abuse the cops show tell me we saw nothing on her cause I didn’t hit her. I break up with her. All seems ok other then only seeing my son maybe two days a week for a couple hours never any nights. Mind you I’m taking her to the hospital for her medical issues and sending her money but avoiding being with her. until she finds out about a month later I started talking to my current gf.

At this time is about when I was only allowed a Sunday for a couple hours. When one day she comes to see my son on her lunch sees my broken hand and says she’ll help me sign up for state insurance, so I took a shower cause he won’t be on his own she goes thru my phone saw a pic of my gf and him when she came over to drop off my inhaler I left in her car she then proceeds to throw my phone at me and take my son I haven’t been able to see him other then behind her back with her mom a couple times and now they no longer allow me to. So I’m going on 4 months now without him.

Current day I’m now in the process of being put on the birth certificate and child support with no mention of custody and I’ve made 3 parenting plans one when she first took him they didn’t accept cause I wasn’t on the birth certificate, second when I tryed a dna test I took with him months ago and third when I got results after taking my second dna test with the state of Washington. I don’t know if there’s advice you have or maybe just words to get me thru this but it’s been a difficult time and I need help.

TLDR I’m basically not a father according to the state and the mother of my child keeps him from me for months. Advice, something to make me feel like a father again