I've spoken recently about two women I stopped being friends with who I've known since middle school, but one woman is someone I'm particularly the happiest about cutting ties with. She'll be 40 next year. She left her 'abuser' because he 'raped' her in her sleep, and daily. Her ex she is speaking of just reached out to me yesterday because he thought I'd be the only person that cares, hes suicidal and went to the hospital twice this week for suicidal thoughts. He sent me so much evidence that she lied about him raping her. I've always known her as a woman who loves the 'daddy daughter' roleplay and shes obsessed with being raped where she watches rape movies and its like shes glued to them. She was watching a rape movie and he told her the movie was disgusting and she stopped talking to him for two days.
Unfortunately her father did rape her along with her brother and she's never opened up with therapists about it. She instead writes daddy daughter erotica, she says its her dream job, but she incorporates it into her sex life and now into her life in general by falsely accusing men of rape. This isnt the first time shes accused men of raping her and abusing her.
(I'm not kink shaming btw, just explaining why this guy is innocent)
I've actually been assaulted by a man before, and I know just how serious rape accusations are and I also know that false accusations happen often.
If you're a woman and you love rape roleplay, fine, I dont care but dont accuse someone of it. A large part of why she has lied is so she can go sleep with a bunch of men.
My question is: How do you help someone that loves a woman like this? I've told him that he has to protect himself, she doesnt care about him. He has held a gun to his head, sitting next to her and she ignored him.
But he keeps taking her back. He became suicidal after his ex wife didn't let him see his daughter. He finally has a chance to get her again soon, and I'm worried the woman who accused him will ruin it.
I've been friends with this guy for over 25 years and I dont know how to support him as his friend because I suck at giving advice.
I know the easy thing is to tell him to move on, but I really need better advice for him. Maybe some of you have been through this? I've suggested finding someone else maybe, but hes had no luck.
What is your best advice that you've heard if you've been through something crazy like this with a single mom? Thank you for any advice you offer, I really appreciate the help
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